Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi Sandy: I think it might be very hard, I have no experience with teen or this substances, but I woulden't tell his sister. I have an 7 y.o. son diagnosed OCD, and our experience is he is not able to keep a secret o something in home. He will tell anyone and I think this information should be kept confidencial. AGF > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son (almost 19). He did > some laundry last week and when I went to put my clothes in the dryer > I found a little white bad of white powder, which had been washed and > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash light. We confronted > him last night. He denied knowing anything about it and even took a > home drug test to prove he was clean. The only drug he tested > positive for was weed. I know other drugs leave the system after a > few days so we could of just caught it at a down time so to speak. > > His younger sister, Bre is the one with ocd. She doesn't know yet and > I am concerned because she looks up to him and I don't know if we > should tell her or wait. We pay for his college and he lives at home > and also has a room downstairs at grandmas. We want him home every > night now, but this morning he acted hurt that I didn't believe him. > I told him the white bag is evidence and I have to check it out > because I love him. What are some options to do in a case like this? > I don't want to alienate him, but I can't condone it either. > Especially if it is crystal meth, which he admits a friend uses. > Though he tells us he doesn't see him anymore because of that!! > Random drug testing? See a counselor? This is so hard. > Thanks for your advice, I know someone has been through this!! > > Sandy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi Sandy: I think it might be very hard, I have no experience with teen or this substances, but I woulden't tell his sister. I have an 7 y.o. son diagnosed OCD, and our experience is he is not able to keep a secret o something in home. He will tell anyone and I think this information should be kept confidencial. AGF > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son (almost 19). He did > some laundry last week and when I went to put my clothes in the dryer > I found a little white bad of white powder, which had been washed and > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash light. We confronted > him last night. He denied knowing anything about it and even took a > home drug test to prove he was clean. The only drug he tested > positive for was weed. I know other drugs leave the system after a > few days so we could of just caught it at a down time so to speak. > > His younger sister, Bre is the one with ocd. She doesn't know yet and > I am concerned because she looks up to him and I don't know if we > should tell her or wait. We pay for his college and he lives at home > and also has a room downstairs at grandmas. We want him home every > night now, but this morning he acted hurt that I didn't believe him. > I told him the white bag is evidence and I have to check it out > because I love him. What are some options to do in a case like this? > I don't want to alienate him, but I can't condone it either. > Especially if it is crystal meth, which he admits a friend uses. > Though he tells us he doesn't see him anymore because of that!! > Random drug testing? See a counselor? This is so hard. > Thanks for your advice, I know someone has been through this!! > > Sandy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Wow, Sandy. What a tough situation! How are you dealing with your son smoking pot? Is that something you accept or are you laying down the law? F. --- Sandy <sndy_steele@...> wrote: > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son > (almost 19). He did > some laundry last week and when I went to put my > clothes in the dryer > I found a little white bad of white powder, which > had been washed and > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash > light. We confronted > him last night. He denied knowing anything about it > and even took a > home drug test to prove he was clean. The only drug > he tested > positive for was weed. I know other drugs leave the > system after a > few days so we could of just caught it at a down > time so to speak. > > His younger sister, Bre is the one with ocd. She > doesn't know yet and > I am concerned because she looks up to him and I > don't know if we > should tell her or wait. We pay for his college and > he lives at home > and also has a room downstairs at grandmas. We want > him home every > night now, but this morning he acted hurt that I > didn't believe him. > I told him the white bag is evidence and I have to > check it out > because I love him. What are some options to do in a > case like this? > I don't want to alienate him, but I can't condone it > either. > Especially if it is crystal meth, which he admits a > friend uses. > Though he tells us he doesn't see him anymore > because of that!! > Random drug testing? See a counselor? This is so > hard. > Thanks for your advice, I know someone has been > through this!! > > Sandy > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Wow, Sandy. What a tough situation! How are you dealing with your son smoking pot? Is that something you accept or are you laying down the law? F. --- Sandy <sndy_steele@...> wrote: > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son > (almost 19). He did > some laundry last week and when I went to put my > clothes in the dryer > I found a little white bad of white powder, which > had been washed and > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash > light. We confronted > him last night. He denied knowing anything about it > and even took a > home drug test to prove he was clean. The only drug > he tested > positive for was weed. I know other drugs leave the > system after a > few days so we could of just caught it at a down > time so to speak. > > His younger sister, Bre is the one with ocd. She > doesn't know yet and > I am concerned because she looks up to him and I > don't know if we > should tell her or wait. We pay for his college and > he lives at home > and also has a room downstairs at grandmas. We want > him home every > night now, but this morning he acted hurt that I > didn't believe him. > I told him the white bag is evidence and I have to > check it out > because I love him. What are some options to do in a > case like this? > I don't want to alienate him, but I can't condone it > either. > Especially if it is crystal meth, which he admits a > friend uses. > Though he tells us he doesn't see him anymore > because of that!! > Random drug testing? See a counselor? This is so > hard. > Thanks for your advice, I know someone has been > through this!! > > Sandy > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi Sandy, (((hugs))) and tough call! I would not tell Bre *now*. That's just my opinion. This is between son & parents and has just presented itself. At some later date you may feel Bre should know. Or do you think son will say something in front of her or she'll figure out something is going on anyway? I never immediately told my younger sons anything going on with oldest; though I think they know about all right now. As to drugs other than weed, I think they stay in the system (to trace) quite a few weeks. I remember temporary agency worker told me that she would go over the drugs with potential employees and tell them how long each remained in their system; and ask was there any reason they wouldn't pass a drug test. She said she's still surprised people submit to the test and then fail it. Since he " passed " the drug test for what you found, I'd take his word on it. But tell him that as parents you will feel better if he passes the next test in 2 months (in the meantime, research on how long drugs stay in the body re drug testing). SIGH, just VERY quick thoughts (on work break). > > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son (almost 19). He did > some laundry last week and when I went to put my clothes in the dryer > I found a little white bad of white powder, which had been washed and > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash light. We Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi Sandy, (((hugs))) and tough call! I would not tell Bre *now*. That's just my opinion. This is between son & parents and has just presented itself. At some later date you may feel Bre should know. Or do you think son will say something in front of her or she'll figure out something is going on anyway? I never immediately told my younger sons anything going on with oldest; though I think they know about all right now. As to drugs other than weed, I think they stay in the system (to trace) quite a few weeks. I remember temporary agency worker told me that she would go over the drugs with potential employees and tell them how long each remained in their system; and ask was there any reason they wouldn't pass a drug test. She said she's still surprised people submit to the test and then fail it. Since he " passed " the drug test for what you found, I'd take his word on it. But tell him that as parents you will feel better if he passes the next test in 2 months (in the meantime, research on how long drugs stay in the body re drug testing). SIGH, just VERY quick thoughts (on work break). > > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son (almost 19). He did > some laundry last week and when I went to put my clothes in the dryer > I found a little white bad of white powder, which had been washed and > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash light. We Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Hi Sandy, I think there is no reason for Bre to know. She has enough on her plate to worry about without adding more. You poor thing ... On the positive side, I would think if the " bag " really was his, he wouldn't have been stupid enough to leave it in his pants and if he were, he would have been looking for it probably before you would have found it. I know my parents used to think my behaviors at that age warranted concern and checked me often for needle marks while I slept. I was not taking drugs, but they certainly are all around at that age of your life. You are wise to take this seriously. I hope all works out well. in TJN agf_ocd <agf_ocd@...> wrote: Hi Sandy: I think it might be very hard, I have no experience with teen or this substances, but I woulden't tell his sister. I have an 7 y.o. son diagnosed OCD, and our experience is he is not able to keep a secret o something in home. He will tell anyone and I think this information should be kept confidencial. AGF > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son (almost 19). He did > some laundry last week and when I went to put my clothes in the dryer > I found a little white bad of white powder, which had been washed and > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash light. We confronted > him last night. He denied knowing anything about it and even took a > home drug test to prove he was clean. The only drug he tested > positive for was weed. I know other drugs leave the system after a > few days so we could of just caught it at a down time so to speak. > > His younger sister, Bre is the one with ocd. She doesn't know yet and > I am concerned because she looks up to him and I don't know if we > should tell her or wait. We pay for his college and he lives at home > and also has a room downstairs at grandmas. We want him home every > night now, but this morning he acted hurt that I didn't believe him. > I told him the white bag is evidence and I have to check it out > because I love him. What are some options to do in a case like this? > I don't want to alienate him, but I can't condone it either. > Especially if it is crystal meth, which he admits a friend uses. > Though he tells us he doesn't see him anymore because of that!! > Random drug testing? See a counselor? This is so hard. > Thanks for your advice, I know someone has been through this!! > > Sandy > --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Thanks for everyone's response. We are not going to tell Bre. She has enough on her plate right now. She sees her p-doc tomorrow. I just pray all works out. Sandy -- In , " " <@...> wrote: > > Hi Sandy, (((hugs))) and tough call! > > I would not tell Bre *now*. That's just my opinion. This is > between son & parents and has just presented itself. At some later > date you may feel Bre should know. Or do you think son will say > something in front of her or she'll figure out something is going on > anyway? I never immediately told my younger sons anything going on > with oldest; though I think they know about all right now. > > As to drugs other than weed, I think they stay in the system (to > trace) quite a few weeks. I remember temporary agency worker told > me that she would go over the drugs with potential employees and > tell them how long each remained in their system; and ask was there > any reason they wouldn't pass a drug test. She said she's still > surprised people submit to the test and then fail it. > > Since he " passed " the drug test for what you found, I'd take his > word on it. But tell him that as parents you will feel better if he > passes the next test in 2 months (in the meantime, research on how > long drugs stay in the body re drug testing). > > SIGH, just VERY quick thoughts (on work break). > > > > > > > > > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son (almost 19). He did > > some laundry last week and when I went to put my clothes in the > dryer > > I found a little white bad of white powder, which had been washed > and > > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash light. We > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 Good luck Sandy.. Annel from Mexico > > > > > > Hi all, I had an incident come up with my son (almost 19). He did > > > some laundry last week and when I went to put my clothes in the > > dryer > > > I found a little white bad of white powder, which had been washed > > and > > > dried. I could see little crystals with a flash light. We > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2007 Report Share Posted May 2, 2007 In a message dated 5/1/2007 11:36:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, sndy_steele@... writes: Thanks for everyone's response. We are not going to tell Bre. She has enough on her plate right now. She sees her p-doc tomorrow. I just pray all works out. Sandy - I read your post, but didn't have a chance to respond. I would like to say I think you've made a good choice in not telling her. My husband often brings up one specific question when I stress about stuff like this (should I mention something to a person or not....) and every time I answer the question, it solves my problem - one way or another.... " What purpose will it serve by telling them this? " I love that question. So simple, yet so helpful. LT ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2010 Report Share Posted January 25, 2010 Hi ,I have been in the same situation. I am a single mother with a child with several health and mental issues.The first thing you should do is to call the crisis center for him to be admitted in the hospital for medication. Do not worry about the bill at this moment. Things will work out.Inform the hospital that you can not afford the bill and you want to apply for "free care". and also ask them to help you to get masshealth and help you to apply for disability for you son. They will start the paper work and hopefully when he be out of the hospital he will have mass health and if you qualify disability.I know it is hard to do it but you have to get him treated fast...he will hate you for having him in the hospital but at the end he will understand you did it for love.Good luck and let me know how things went... ( ) help for sonHi friends,we had to take my son to the hospital for treatment last nite.His mind was telling him to kill himself,we manged to get him back on track and home,he is 17yrs Aspie,anyone know of any lowincome threapy in the area Iam a single parent in southfield area we home school.Iam open to all suggestion Bring them all please, thanks for reading.Angel Blessings Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2010 Report Share Posted January 25, 2010 are you in Southfield Michigan? I am in Grand Rapids and take my daughter to Bethany Christian service, we are low income. I do not know if they are in your area, not sure if Network 180 is also, but they are the ones who referred us to Bethany. Our pediatrition told us about Network 180. I wonder if calling the Oakland county health dept. might help. Have a great day. Dawn From: Raven <macmomma27@...>Subject: ( ) help for son Date: Monday, January 25, 2010, 10:55 AM Hi friends,we had to take my son to the hospital for treatment last nite.His mind was telling him to kill himself,we manged to get him back on track and home,he is 17yrs Aspie,anyone know of any lowincome threapy in the area Iam a single parent in southfield area we home school.Iam open to all suggestion Bring them all please, thanks for reading.Angel Blessings Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2010 Report Share Posted January 29, 2010 A Big thankyou for your support everyone we are going through Easter Seals,I will keep all the other resocures. thank you!! From: Raven <macmomma27@...>Subject: ( ) help for son Date: Monday, January 25, 2010, 10:55 AM Hi friends,we had to take my son to the hospital for treatment last nite.His mind was telling him to kill himself,we manged to get him back on track and home,he is 17yrs Aspie,anyone know of any lowincome threapy in the area Iam a single parent in southfield area we home school.Iam open to all suggestion Bring them all please, thanks for reading.Angel Blessings Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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