Re: mistrust, paranoid

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How old is your dd?Is she nearing puberty? (She could be more self-conscious if she is in puberty and noticing the changes in her body). I can't help but agree with your daughter on some level how odd it must seem to talk to a strange man (not a relative or family friend) about your problems, etc. I think her reaction is normal. She might feel differently with a female therapist--is this your dd first time in therapy?

Did you have a discussion with your dd why she was going to therapy and what would happen? How long has your daughter been in therapy with this therapist? I think if she continues to feel uncomfortable I would try to ask to sit in on a session with your dd and see what you think.

[Guest guest]

This issue has been present issue since early childhood. She

has a female psychiatrist that as I said never ever

asks any questions about her anxiety. The doctor

takes an interest in her hobbies.

My daughter knows most kids don't see a psychiatrist and

that is her only reason for mistrusting her. She is not

seeing the big picture at all. She had been out of school

for 6 months due to severe anxiety, yet our daughter

denies the doctor did any good (she did the panic is gone).

Pam

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> How old is your dd?Is she nearing puberty? (She could be more

> self-conscious if she is in puberty and noticing the changes in her body). I

> can't help but agree with your daughter on some level how odd it must seem

> to talk to a strange man (not a relative or family friend) about your

> problems, etc. I think her reaction is normal. She might feel differently

> with a female therapist--is this your dd first time in therapy?

>

> Did you have a discussion with your dd why she was going to therapy and what

> would happen? How long has your daughter been in therapy with this

> therapist? I think if she continues to feel uncomfortable I would try to ask

> to sit in on a session with your dd and see what you think.

>

[Guest guest]

It might not be paranoia. It might be just a wish that one is "normal." We had a similar kind of problem when our ds got to the end of middle school. He just became more aware of others at that time and aware that he was different and being treated differently. So his desire to be like everyone else increased then.

You might try telling her that while many kids don't go to therapists, some of them do. And tell the therapist. The therapist might have ideas and insight into dealing with the problem as well.

Roxanna

"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) mistrust, paranoid

Do any of your As kids or teens have paranoid or mistrusting

thoughts.

The triggers are a visit to a therapist or psychiatrists. She says

these doctors make her feel wierd. She doesn't trust there

intentions. The psychiatrist has never once said anything

unkind to her. They only talk about my daughter's special

interests in pets too. She shes it as out of the ordinary.

Doesn't want there help and blames me and them, saying we

are the wierdo's.

I am trying to figure out if this is an AS trait or

a family temperament trait. We have a brother in law

that may have AS it is hard to tell, he has bipolar and our daughter

does have AS and anxiety. Both blame others for their social problems

both are very smart in reasoning skills, it can't

be them they reason it has to be others causing their

problems.

thanks for any insight,

Pam

[Guest guest]

YES!

Mine's turning 11 in a couple months, not yet a teen, but the behavior is there.

It's, like, he's perceiving the situation in a completely different way. I don't

know if I'd call it paranoia as much as it's projecting self-esteem problems.

It's very possible I was guilty of the same at that age (I'm also AS). I know I

work very hard not to take things personally. My son has claimed his teacher has

said some wild things. Thankfully, since she IS an ally, I'm able to call her

and ask her quite plainly if she said whatever it was. Then we figure out

together how in the world he could've misinterpreted what WAS said. After we do

that, I have another talk with him to help him see what actually happened and

reiterate that his teacher cares about him and wouldn't ever say anything to

purposely hurt him.

It wasn't always like this, mind you. My son's third grade teacher was a piece

of work who did say very inappropriate things to her students. I think my son

carries that experience with him, that the teacher's words damaged his

confidence enough to where he's trying to force validation of that hurt in other

people's words. Has your son had any bad experiences like that which could be

influencing how he's perceiving situations now?

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> Do any of your As kids or teens have paranoid or mistrusting

> thoughts.

[Guest guest]

Yes my boyfriend son 14 he does. Perceives thing different then what actual happensSent via BlackBerry from T-MobileFrom: "We Function" <we.function.blog@...>Sender: Date: Mon, 27 Dec 2010 16:36:08 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Re: mistrust, paranoid YES!Mine's turning 11 in a couple months, not yet a teen, but the behavior is there. It's, like, he's perceiving the situation in a completely different way. I don't know if I'd call it paranoia as much as it's projecting self-esteem problems. It's very possible I was guilty of the same at that age (I'm also AS). I know I work very hard not to take things personally. My son has claimed his teacher has said some wild things. Thankfully, since she IS an ally, I'm able to call her and ask her quite plainly if she said whatever it was. Then we figure out together how in the world he could've misinterpreted what WAS said. After we do that, I have another talk with him to help him see what actually happened and reiterate that his teacher cares about him and wouldn't ever say anything to purposely hurt him.It wasn't always like this, mind you. My son's third grade teacher was a piece of work who did say very inappropriate things to her students. I think my son carries that experience with him, that the teacher's words damaged his confidence enough to where he's trying to force validation of that hurt in other people's words. Has your son had any bad experiences like that which could be influencing how he's perceiving situations now?>> Do any of your As kids or teens have paranoid or mistrusting> thoughts.

[Guest guest]

She does want to be typical. She is struggling with coping with

her learning issues and social issues. It is hard for her.

She prefers to hide in her room and read about animals. When

she goes places, school or therapist it reminds her that she

is different and she really doesn't want it to be like this.

She regresses often to wanting me to hold her like a baby poor

thing. She is struggling with life.

This week though we are going to enjoy going to some musuems

and relaxing.

Thanks for all the input. It helps me cope. I appreciate the

feedback.

Pam

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> It might not be paranoia. It might be just a wish that one is " normal. " We

had a similar kind of problem when our ds got to the end of middle school. He

just became more aware of others at that time and aware that he was different

and being treated differently. So his desire to be like everyone else increased

then.

>

> You might try telling her that while many kids don't go to therapists, some of

them do. And tell the therapist. The therapist might have ideas and insight

into dealing with the problem as well.

>

>

>

> Roxanna

> " I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government

from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of

them. " - Jefferson

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> ( ) mistrust, paranoid

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> Do any of your As kids or teens have paranoid or mistrusting

> thoughts.

>

> The triggers are a visit to a therapist or psychiatrists. She says

> these doctors make her feel wierd. She doesn't trust there

> intentions. The psychiatrist has never once said anything

> unkind to her. They only talk about my daughter's special

> interests in pets too. She shes it as out of the ordinary.

> Doesn't want there help and blames me and them, saying we

> are the wierdo's.

>

> I am trying to figure out if this is an AS trait or

> a family temperament trait. We have a brother in law

> that may have AS it is hard to tell, he has bipolar and our daughter

> does have AS and anxiety. Both blame others for their social problems

> both are very smart in reasoning skills, it can't

> be them they reason it has to be others causing their

> problems.

>

> thanks for any insight,

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, but with my experience as a mom of 5, I think it is the norm for kids to perceive things differently then what actual happens. I do feel that my AS daughterreads people wrong and thinks they are mean to her when they are actually trying to help her! Elinor From: "denise092769@..." <denise092769@...> Sent: Mon, December 27, 2010 2:00:33 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: mistrust, paranoid

Yes my boyfriend son 14 he does. Perceives thing different then what actual happensSent via BlackBerry from T-MobileFrom: "We Function" <we.function.blog@...>

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YES!

Mine's turning 11 in a couple months, not yet a teen, but the behavior is there. It's, like, he's perceiving the situation in a completely different way. I don't know if I'd call it paranoia as much as it's projecting self-esteem problems. It's very possible I was guilty of the same at that age (I'm also AS). I know I work very hard not to take things personally. My son has claimed his teacher has said some wild things. Thankfully, since she IS an ally, I'm able to call her and ask her quite plainly if she said whatever it was. Then we figure out together how in the world he could've misinterpreted what WAS said. After we do that, I have another talk with him to help him see what actually happened and reiterate that his teacher cares about him and wouldn't ever say anything to purposely hurt him.

It wasn't always like this, mind you. My son's third grade teacher was a piece of work who did say very inappropriate things to her students. I think my son carries that experience with him, that the teacher's words damaged his confidence enough to where he's trying to force validation of that hurt in other people's words. Has your son had any bad experiences like that which could be influencing how he's perceiving situations now?

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> Do any of your As kids or teens have paranoid or mistrusting

> thoughts.