Guest guest Posted May 22, 2010 Report Share Posted May 22, 2010 breath mama. just breath. Drink some water and try to think calmly. If it were me I would never speak to that lady again and that would be the end of it. I am not very forgiving and I cut people out of my life very fast. I feel that it is a privlegde to be my friend and I want people around me that want me around too. On the child's rude comment. My daughter does the same thing and she is super rude to company sometimes. She tells them to go home that she doesn't like them and more horrible things that are super embarrassing. I always apologize and make her say sorry and try to say something more kind but the truth is she is entitled to her feelings I just wish she know how to keep them a secret and share with me later.From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) am I a meanie?"Asperger" < >Date: Saturday, May 22, 2010, 8:46 PM LOL. Oh I'm just so frustrated this evening. I have a neighbor whose son has sensory processing difficulties. They are mild compared to what has. The thing is, I feel like this neighbor takes advantage of me. She doesn't show up at the bus stop knowing that I'll be there most of the time. If he comes to my house she doesn't pick him up on time. Sometimes I suggest an extension if the kids are playing really well but plenty of times I really want her to come get him and she's out for ages and when I finally get her on the phone she says, "Oh I thought you'd probably call soon." Ummm, yeah. So her kid needs some social coaching and I'm having to do some of it and I just don't have the patience to deal with anything else in my life. I'm just so angry with this woman right now. I dropped my daughter off for a while at HER house (for once) today and popped in to find out if she needed me to come get my daughter at a particular time. While I was there the dog wanted to come in. She always lets him in right away so I let him in and was talking to him. I was trying to get him to lie down and she yelled at me to not make him lie down. Then about 30 seconds later her kid comes in the room and says very very rudely, "I SHE going to be here the WHOLE time?!" Okay, now I get that he has some social skill issues so I'd be fine with that but his mom didn't say a THING. He does this regularly at my house as well as his own. It seems so weird to me since my kids always want me around. Anyway, if my son had said that I'd have talked to him about how to talk to people and ask him to use different words. Maybe I'd have laughed and said something myself to the kid but I was still reeling from the crap about the DOG which I often look after when they're on trips when they ask me on super short NOTICE and then never follow through on bringing my kids something from where they are in return for caring for the dog. It's me, really. It's my fault because I let them walk all over me. Their kid isn't my responsiblity and neither is their stupid dog. I'm going to be saying "no" a lot more from now on because I just can't keep this up. Perimenopausal symptoms are making me crazy, I'm allergic to their stupid dog and I have problems with my own kids. has asperger syndrome and we went through all that crap with the bus driver and he's failing math and my daughter has sensory issues and OCD for which my NEIGHBOR has so much GREAT freaking advice that she never takes herself. OMG. Sorry everyone, I'm really ranting. Just so SICK of people walking on me. NO MORE!!! Miriam Mim Mimmom mimbanash (DOT) com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2010 Report Share Posted May 23, 2010 Thanks. I do totally get that this kid might not be able to help it, but I work so hard with my kid on it and he has made progress and her child does not have asperger syndrome. His mom uses his anxiety and sensory issues as an excuse rather than an explanation and something that requires her intervention. She seems to think it's completely okay for him to say that. But I wouldn't even MIND that so much because he's a kid and he DOES have some issues that require help. He's often very sweet. It's her complete disregard for me as a person. Cutting her out completely would be great but my kids do like her kid. If I'm going to continue allowing my daughter to play with this boy outside of school I'll probably have to talk to her and I'm certainly not going to be willing to pick her kid up at the bus so much any more. It's convenient to have someone who will get MY kid off the bus, but she's not the one to do it. I'm going to ask someone else from now on or maybe I'll just pick my daughter up instead of having her take the bus. GAA. I'm so cranky. > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...> > Subject: ( ) am I a meanie? > " Asperger " < > > Date: Saturday, May 22, 2010, 8:46 PM > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > LOL. Oh I'm just so frustrated this evening. I have a neighbor whose son has sensory processing difficulties. They are mild compared to what has. The thing is, I feel like this neighbor takes advantage of me. She doesn't show up at the bus stop knowing that I'll be there most of the time. If he comes to my house she doesn't pick him up on time. Sometimes I suggest an extension if the kids are playing really well but plenty of times I really want her to come get him and she's out for ages and when I finally get her on the phone she says, " Oh I thought you'd probably call soon. "  Ummm, yeah. >  > So her kid needs some social coaching and I'm having to do some of it and I just don't have the patience to deal with anything else in my life. I'm just so angry with this woman right now. I dropped my daughter off for a while at HER house (for once) today and popped in to find out if she needed me to come get my daughter at a particular time. While I was there the dog wanted to come in. She always lets him in right away so I let him in and was talking to him. I was trying to get him to lie down and she yelled at me to not make him lie down. Then about 30 seconds later her kid comes in the room and says very very rudely, " I SHE going to be here the WHOLE time?! "  Okay, now I get that he has some social skill issues so I'd be fine with that but his mom didn't say a THING. He does this regularly at my house as well as his own. It seems so weird to me since my kids always want me around. > Anyway, if my son had said that I'd have talked to him about how to talk to people and ask him to use different words. Maybe I'd have laughed and said something myself to the kid but I was still reeling from the crap about the DOG which I often look after when they're on trips when they ask me on super short NOTICE and then never follow through on bringing my kids something from where they are in return for caring for the dog. It's me, really. It's my fault because I let them walk all over me. Their kid isn't my responsiblity and neither is their stupid dog. I'm going to be saying " no " a lot more from now on because I just can't keep this up. Perimenopausal symptoms are making me crazy, I'm allergic to their stupid dog and I have problems with my own kids. has asperger syndrome and we went through all that crap with the bus driver and he's failing math and my daughter has sensory issues and OCD for which my > NEIGHBOR has so much GREAT freaking advice that she never takes herself. OMG. >  > Sorry everyone, I'm really ranting. Just so SICK of people walking on me. NO MORE!!! > > > Miriam > Mim > Mimmom > mimbanash (DOT) com >  >  > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2010 Report Share Posted May 23, 2010 It's hard to think sometimes in the heat of the moment when we are exhausted--as alot of times we are--we have so much going on in our head. Also, if you are like me, there are just times you are phsycially exhausted. Especially with your menopause--I'll be praying for you and I know this will get better. You are such a kind person, your children are blessed to have you as a mother. Purrs & Kisses, Kristal of Digi Kitty The Kitty who loves Digi! Designer for the VDBC "More" Team - you can see my designs HERE!!! From: mimasdprofile <callis4773@...>Subject: Re: ( ) am I a meanie? Date: Sunday, May 23, 2010, 6:11 AM Thanks, Kristal, everyone here is helping me feel strong enough to stand up to her. You are right, I should have said something at the time. I'm sure she'd have been instantly remorseful. I'm terrible at not being able to THINK in those situations and it's all worse with these menopausal changes happening.> > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...>> Subject: ( ) am I a meanie?> "Asperger" < >> Date: Saturday, May 22, 2010, 10:46 PM> > >  > > > > > > > > > LOL. Oh I'm just so frustrated this evening. I have a neighbor whose son has sensory processing difficulties. They are mild compared to what has. The thing is, I feel like this neighbor takes advantage of me. She doesn't show up at the bus stop knowing that I'll be there most of the time. If he comes to my house she doesn't pick him up on time. Sometimes I suggest an extension if the kids are playing really well but plenty of times I really want her to come get him and she's out for ages and when I finally get her on the phone she says, "Oh I thought you'd probably call soon." Ummm, yeah.>  > So her kid needs some social coaching and I'm having to do some of it and I just don't have the patience to deal with anything else in my life. I'm just so angry with this woman right now. I dropped my daughter off for a while at HER house (for once) today and popped in to find out if she needed me to come get my daughter at a particular time. While I was there the dog wanted to come in. She always lets him in right away so I let him in and was talking to him. I was trying to get him to lie down and she yelled at me to not make him lie down. Then about 30 seconds later her kid comes in the room and says very very rudely, "I SHE going to be here the WHOLE time?!" Okay, now I get that he has some social skill issues so I'd be fine with that but his mom didn't say a THING. He does this regularly at my house as well as his own. It seems so weird to me since my kids always want me around. Anyway, if my son had said that I'd have talked to> him about how to talk to people and ask him to use different words. Maybe I'd have laughed and said something myself to the kid but I was still reeling from the crap about the DOG which I often look after when they're on trips when they ask me on super short NOTICE and then never follow through on bringing my kids something from where they are in return for caring for the dog. It's me, really. It's my fault because I let them walk all over me. Their kid isn't my responsiblity and neither is their stupid dog. I'm going to be saying "no" a lot more from now on because I just can't keep this up. Perimenopausal symptoms are making me crazy, I'm allergic to their stupid dog and I have problems with my own kids. has asperger syndrome and we went through all that crap with the bus driver and he's failing math and my daughter has sensory issues and OCD for which my NEIGHBOR has so much GREAT freaking advice that she never takes herself. > OMG.>  > Sorry everyone, I'm really ranting. Just so SICK of people walking on me. NO MORE!!!> > > Miriam > Mim > Mimmom> mimbanash (DOT) com>  >  > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2010 Report Share Posted May 23, 2010 Good for you. Relationships are a two way street, and it is perfectly ok to say know. Your family and kids come first. > > LOL. Oh I'm just so frustrated this evening. I have a neighbor whose son has sensory processing difficulties. They are mild compared to what has. The thing is, I feel like this neighbor takes advantage of me. She doesn't show up at the bus stop knowing that I'll be there most of the time. If he comes to my house she doesn't pick him up on time. Sometimes I suggest an extension if the kids are playing really well but plenty of times I really want her to come get him and she's out for ages and when I finally get her on the phone she says, " Oh I thought you'd probably call soon. " Ummm, yeah. > > So her kid needs some social coaching and I'm having to do some of it and I just don't have the patience to deal with anything else in my life. I'm just so angry with this woman right now. I dropped my daughter off for a while at HER house (for once) today and popped in to find out if she needed me to come get my daughter at a particular time. While I was there the dog wanted to come in. She always lets him in right away so I let him in and was talking to him. I was trying to get him to lie down and she yelled at me to not make him lie down. Then about 30 seconds later her kid comes in the room and says very very rudely, " I SHE going to be here the WHOLE time?! " Okay, now I get that he has some social skill issues so I'd be fine with that but his mom didn't say a THING. He does this regularly at my house as well as his own. It seems so weird to me since my kids always want me around. Anyway, if my son had said that I'd have talked to > him about how to talk to people and ask him to use different words. Maybe I'd have laughed and said something myself to the kid but I was still reeling from the crap about the DOG which I often look after when they're on trips when they ask me on super short NOTICE and then never follow through on bringing my kids something from where they are in return for caring for the dog. It's me, really. It's my fault because I let them walk all over me. Their kid isn't my responsiblity and neither is their stupid dog. I'm going to be saying " no " a lot more from now on because I just can't keep this up. Perimenopausal symptoms are making me crazy, I'm allergic to their stupid dog and I have problems with my own kids. has asperger syndrome and we went through all that crap with the bus driver and he's failing math and my daughter has sensory issues and OCD for which my NEIGHBOR has so much GREAT freaking advice that she never takes herself. > OMG. > > Sorry everyone, I'm really ranting. Just so SICK of people walking on me. NO MORE!!! > > > Miriam > Mim > Mimmom > mimbanash@... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2010 Report Share Posted May 23, 2010 Thanks. It really helps to be able to come here for support. I've had 4 calls from someone at this woman's number. One was a message from the mom that just asked me to call. One was a message from the kid that he wanted to play and then there were two more calls without messages. Those might be from the kid as well. I was out for 3 of those calls and then didn't answer the phone for the most recent ones because I JUST don't feel up to it. I really am just taking time for me and my family. They can go pound sand. > > > > LOL. Oh I'm just so frustrated this evening. I have a neighbor whose son has sensory processing difficulties. They are mild compared to what has. The thing is, I feel like this neighbor takes advantage of me. She doesn't show up at the bus stop knowing that I'll be there most of the time. If he comes to my house she doesn't pick him up on time. Sometimes I suggest an extension if the kids are playing really well but plenty of times I really want her to come get him and she's out for ages and when I finally get her on the phone she says, " Oh I thought you'd probably call soon. " Ummm, yeah. > > > > So her kid needs some social coaching and I'm having to do some of it and I just don't have the patience to deal with anything else in my life. I'm just so angry with this woman right now. I dropped my daughter off for a while at HER house (for once) today and popped in to find out if she needed me to come get my daughter at a particular time. While I was there the dog wanted to come in. She always lets him in right away so I let him in and was talking to him. I was trying to get him to lie down and she yelled at me to not make him lie down. Then about 30 seconds later her kid comes in the room and says very very rudely, " I SHE going to be here the WHOLE time?! " Okay, now I get that he has some social skill issues so I'd be fine with that but his mom didn't say a THING. He does this regularly at my house as well as his own. It seems so weird to me since my kids always want me around. Anyway, if my son had said that I'd have talked to > > him about how to talk to people and ask him to use different words. Maybe I'd have laughed and said something myself to the kid but I was still reeling from the crap about the DOG which I often look after when they're on trips when they ask me on super short NOTICE and then never follow through on bringing my kids something from where they are in return for caring for the dog. It's me, really. It's my fault because I let them walk all over me. Their kid isn't my responsiblity and neither is their stupid dog. I'm going to be saying " no " a lot more from now on because I just can't keep this up. Perimenopausal symptoms are making me crazy, I'm allergic to their stupid dog and I have problems with my own kids. has asperger syndrome and we went through all that crap with the bus driver and he's failing math and my daughter has sensory issues and OCD for which my NEIGHBOR has so much GREAT freaking advice that she never takes herself. > > OMG. > > > > Sorry everyone, I'm really ranting. Just so SICK of people walking on me. NO MORE!!! > > > > > > Miriam > > Mim > > Mimmom > > mimbanash@ > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2010 Report Share Posted May 23, 2010 Thanks so much for your kind words. I do my best. Sometimes I yell at my kids and I'm not patient with them. Hormones really interferes with my ability to be patient, but I think mostly I do a good job with them. If I screw up it's certainly not from not caring! LOL. > > > > > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@> > > Subject: ( ) am I a meanie? > > " Asperger " < > > > Date: Saturday, May 22, 2010, 10:46 PM > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > LOL. Oh I'm just so frustrated this evening. I have a neighbor whose son has sensory processing difficulties. They are mild compared to what has. The thing is, I feel like this neighbor takes advantage of me. She doesn't show up at the bus stop knowing that I'll be there most of the time. If he comes to my house she doesn't pick him up on time. Sometimes I suggest an extension if the kids are playing really well but plenty of times I really want her to come get him and she's out for ages and when I finally get her on the phone she says, " Oh I thought you'd probably call soon. "  Ummm, yeah. > >  > > So her kid needs some social coaching and I'm having to do some of it and I just don't have the patience to deal with anything else in my life. I'm just so angry with this woman right now. I dropped my daughter off for a while at HER house (for once) today and popped in to find out if she needed me to come get my daughter at a particular time. While I was there the dog wanted to come in. She always lets him in right away so I let him in and was talking to him. I was trying to get him to lie down and she yelled at me to not make him lie down. Then about 30 seconds later her kid comes in the room and says very very rudely, " I SHE going to be here the WHOLE time?! "  Okay, now I get that he has some social skill issues so I'd be fine with that but his mom didn't say a THING. He does this regularly at my house as well as his own. It seems so weird to me since my kids always want me around. Anyway, if my son had said > that I'd have talked to > > him about how to talk to people and ask him to use different words. Maybe I'd have laughed and said something myself to the kid but I was still reeling from the crap about the DOG which I often look after when they're on trips when they ask me on super short NOTICE and then never follow through on bringing my kids something from where they are in return for caring for the dog. It's me, really. It's my fault because I let them walk all over me. Their kid isn't my responsiblity and neither is their stupid dog. I'm going to be saying " no " a lot more from now on because I just can't keep this up. Perimenopausal symptoms are making me crazy, I'm allergic to their stupid dog and I have problems with my own kids. has asperger syndrome and we went through all that crap with the bus driver and he's failing math and my daughter has sensory issues and OCD for which my NEIGHBOR has so much GREAT freaking advice that she never takes > herself. > > OMG. > >  > > Sorry everyone, I'm really ranting. Just so SICK of people walking on me. NO MORE!!! > > > > > > Miriam > > Mim > > Mimmom > > mimbanash (DOT) com > >  > >  > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2010 Report Share Posted May 25, 2010 Samsies! I do just sit there when things like this happen. Most of the time I am to gobsmacked to say anything and it's not till later I think of what I could have done or said. But it does sound she is using you, which is not great, you have enough to deal with. Kel I will keep climbing the mountain. Sent from Kel's iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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