One step forward,...two steps back! Not a good day...

[Guest guest]

Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had a

meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said they

were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he

didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they

hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states

that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was not

working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a new

school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode as

ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa and

new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you haven't

exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get rid of

him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in her 15

years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to do

something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost impossible

to believe.

Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our son

because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could now

get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

[Guest guest]

I find that hard to believe also. I remember lots of kids getting in trouble in school. Perhaps they should have just sent him to the principles office to calm down. That's what they did when I was a kid. It just sickens me when these people who have been doing their jobs for years all the sudden play stupid.

He probably needs some time to learn the new routine. First they need to be educated a bit on Asperger's Syndrome. I think a tight schedule and getting used to it will solve most of the problem. The problem is that they just think he's being obstinate for the sake of being obstinate. They don't understand just how much stress he is under compared to the other kids.

Hopefully this phase will pass soon.

From: s_hansen34 <s_hansen34@...>Subject: ( ) One step forward,...two steps back! Not a good day... Date: Thursday, October 28, 2010, 10:52 PM

Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had a meltdown, refused to do his work and "trashed" the classroom. They said they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a trashcan. I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously. Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you haven't

exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to do something and tell her "you can't make me either". I find that almost impossible to believe. Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this. Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

[Guest guest]

My son is in his last year (5th grade) at an elementary school that he's

attended since 1st grade. This year we have a new principal, who transferred

from being an assistant principal at the middle school. When we tried talking

to her at the beginning of the year about our son, she said there was nothing to

worry about and that he wasn't the first kid with autism she had encountered in

her career. Well, 9 weeks later, in an hour long discussion between her and my

husband after we had been called to pick up our son for the 3rd time this year,

she admitted to him being only the 2nd autistic kid she knew! Well, excuse me,

I guess she realized she wasn't an expert in those 9 weeks. He he. I am so

sick of this school's attitudes. They either act like they know everything and

you couldn't possibly tell them anything they don't already know to calling you

in constantly and asking what to do. I never know what I'm going to get on any

day! Geez. I'm about ready to homeschool. At least I already know what autism

is and no one will have to educate me.

>

> Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had

a meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said they

were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he

didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

> I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they

hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states

that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was

not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a

new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode

as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa

and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you

haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get

rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in

her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to

do something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost

impossible to believe.

> Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our

son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could

now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

>

[Guest guest]

Somehow you need to get the special services department

involved. I too had horrible experiences with the school

principal in our school. I think in the past kids like our

were treated as offenders with bad parents.

We had to pay a specialist to come to the school and

advocate for our daughter. Some schools are better

than others.

I know what a struggle it is. Try to find a therapist that

will get involved. Our lawyer advised of this, and it seemed

to work better than us trying to explain things.

Pam

>

> Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had

a meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said they

were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he

didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

> I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they

hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states

that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was

not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a

new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode

as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa

and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you

haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get

rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in

her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to

do something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost

impossible to believe.

> Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our

son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could

now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

>

[Guest guest]

The worse part is that he is in a BSP classroom with a Spec Ed teacher and an

aid and only 4 other boys. The meltdown started when he was told to take a

benchmark test. He asked if he could take it in the school psych office and was

told no. He asked to take it in the next room and was told no. So he said I'm

not taking it. Teacher told the aid to take the other boys into the other room,

in the " comfortable " chairs. So my son tosses the stress ball to indicate he

needs a chill pass. She ignores him and takes a hand full of candy to the aid

and says here, give this to the other students. Now my son points to the 5 point

scale to indicate he's at 5 and needs a chill pass. She continues to ignore him.

That is when he started shoving the desks. OH, now he has her attention! Then

she calls the asst. principle. My son tells her too that he's not taking the

test and she can't make him and he didn't care anymore. He told her didn't care

if he died. That is when she decides to suspend him and calls me.

To me it seems this teacher was intentionally antagonizing him so he WOULD have

a meltdown and get suspended. What is a parent suppose to do? If I confront her

and piss her off, she'll just treat him worse. I just don't know

anymore..........

>

>

> From: s_hansen34 <s_hansen34@...>

> Subject: ( ) One step forward,...two steps back! Not a good

day...

>

> Date: Thursday, October 28, 2010, 10:52 PM

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had

a meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said they

were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he

didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

> I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they

hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states

that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was

not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a

new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode

as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa

and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you

haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get

rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in

her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to

do something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost

impossible to believe.

> Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our

son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could

now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

>

[Guest guest]

We have just started with an ABA therapist who is willing to work with the

school. When I picked up my son I asked if she could come and observe him in the

school so she could see how he is in that environment. The asst. principle told

me she would have to check and call me back. When she didn't call me back by

late Friday I called her, and she told me that the therapist could come for only

one hour and that that was school policy. I know I should have asked her to show

me that in writing, but I was too tired to argue with her at the time and let it

go. Monday he is still suspended and I'll be making some phone calls. I just

want to fricken scream...........

> >

> > Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he

had a meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said

they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out,

he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

> > I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they

hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states

that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> > Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was

not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a

new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode

as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa

and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you

haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get

rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in

her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to

do something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost

impossible to believe.

> > Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our

son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> > children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> > Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could

now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I know what you mean about wanting to home school. Sometimes I just want to pull

my son out of school altoghether. But It's not right that they get away with

this. I'm so tired of explaining things to them and educating them. It is they

who should be education my son. When I asked if my son't ABA therapist could

come to the school to observe my son, I was told she could only come for one

hour!! They don't know what they are doing, yet they won't allow someone who

does come in to help them. Doesn't make sense!!!

> >

> > Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he

had a meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said

they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out,

he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

> > I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they

hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states

that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> > Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was

not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a

new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode

as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa

and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you

haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get

rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in

her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to

do something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost

impossible to believe.

> > Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our

son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> > children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> > Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could

now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Put in writing that you would like a Functional Behavioral Assessment (FBA. Send

this to the special services department not

the school administrators. Make sure the letter is registered so

it clearly gets there. Ask your MD to write that a FBA has

been ordered to observe behaviors. Our peditrician sent us to a psychiatrist

....it is sometimes not easy to make progress.

The psychiatrists I have taken my daughter too are very

helpful and willing to call the school etc.

It is such a lot of work to make progress if the school

is difficult or not informed.

Start with the one hour and if she observes behaviors

great and if not have her suggest a plan.

Perhaps she will give a survey to the teacher or

interview her.

It is so much work I agree.

Pam

> > >

> > > Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he

had a meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said

they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out,

he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

> > > I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were

they hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that

states that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> > > Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it

is/was not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is

in a new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning

mode as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new

FBa and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you

haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get

rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in

her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to

do something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost

impossible to believe.

> > > Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with

our son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> > > children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> > > Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I

could now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell.

:-(

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Pam, I think you're right. I'll go for the hour and see what our

therapists thinks. If she thinks she needs more time, then I'm sure she'd be

willing to talk to the school and hopefully negotiate more time.

The hardest part about it taking so painfully long to make progress is that I

see my son lagging more and more behind. I even get panicky thinking about it.

He is in 8th grade and SO not going to be ready for highschool if we don't make

some aggressive progress.

Thanks for the support. Some days I just feel like I can't do this another day!

But God willing, I'm going to pervail.

ne

> > > >

> > > > Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say

he had a meltdown, refused to do his work and " trashed " the classroom. They said

they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out,

he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a

trashcan.

> > > > I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were

they hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that

states that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> > > > Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it

is/was not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is

in a new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning

mode as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new

FBa and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you

haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get

rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in

her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to

do something and tell her " you can't make me either " . I find that almost

impossible to believe.

> > > > Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with

our son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> > > > children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> > > > Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I

could now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell.

:-(

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Does your son have an IEP? This sounds like he was doing everything he could to

indicate his feelings of being overwhelmed and needing some way out in order to

NOT melt down -- all of the things he SHOULD be doing to ask for help. That

teacher's a) ignoring his requests and treating the other kids favorably to

effectively punish him for his indicating what he needed is VERY inappropriate.

If you have agreed with the school that your child can take tests in the psych

office, he can use the stress ball when he's stressed, he can use the meter to

show how out of control his feelings are, then the teacher's ignoring these

signs from him seem even worse.

With a teacher who reacts like that, no wonder you boy has a hard time holding

himself together. I've found with my daughter (now 14) that she's far more

stressed when she's around an adult whom she recognizes doesn't support her

needs. So that's probably adding another layer to your son's difficulty.

I hope you'll take this further with the school, because it sounds like this

" special ed teacher " isn't going to help (and may do harm) when your son is

desperately asking for help and she not only ignores him, but actually then

antagonizes him further.

I'm sorry you're both going through this.

Diane

>

> The worse part is that he is in a BSP classroom with a Spec Ed teacher and an

aid and only 4 other boys. The meltdown started when he was told to take a

benchmark test. He asked if he could take it in the school psych office and was

told no. He asked to take it in the next room and was told no. So he said I'm

not taking it. Teacher told the aid to take the other boys into the other room,

in the " comfortable " chairs. So my son tosses the stress ball to indicate he

needs a chill pass. She ignores him and takes a hand full of candy to the aid

and says here, give this to the other students. Now my son points to the 5 point

scale to indicate he's at 5 and needs a chill pass. She continues to ignore him.

That is when he started shoving the desks. OH, now he has her attention! Then

she calls the asst. principle. My son tells her too that he's not taking the

test and she can't make him and he didn't care anymore. He told her didn't care

if he died. That is when she decides to suspend him and calls me.

> To me it seems this teacher was intentionally antagonizing him so he WOULD

have a meltdown and get suspended. What is a parent suppose to do? If I confront

her and piss her off, she'll just treat him worse. I just don't know

anymore..........

>

[Guest guest]

At a conference I went to the instructor who's nephew had Asperger's actually held their kid back a few times. He had great grades. When he finally graduated high school they forbid him to go to college right away. They supposedly did this because of his social immaturity. Apparently the rule of thumb is that an Asperger's child has the social skills equivalent to another kid 2/3 their age. So a 6 year old has the skills of a 4 year old. An 18 year old might have the skills of a 12 year old. If this is true is more like a development delay than it is a complete lack of ability. This could also explain why many with Asperger's appear to out grow it. Perhaps they just mature in certain aspects a lot slower. The only point I'm try to make is to be open to the idea that

holding him back a year might be a good thing for him. Of course another problem is that in other ways sometimes the ASPIE is more advanced. Sometimes sexually or just in terms of shear body size. So just weigh everything out. From: s_hansen34 <s_hansen34@...>Subject: ( ) Re: One step forward,...two steps back! Not a good day... Date: Sunday, October 31, 2010, 2:45 PM

Thank you Pam, I think you're right. I'll go for the hour and see what our therapists thinks. If she thinks she needs more time, then I'm sure she'd be willing to talk to the school and hopefully negotiate more time.

The hardest part about it taking so painfully long to make progress is that I see my son lagging more and more behind. I even get panicky thinking about it. He is in 8th grade and SO not going to be ready for highschool if we don't make some aggressive progress.

Thanks for the support. Some days I just feel like I can't do this another day! But God willing, I'm going to pervail.

ne

> > > >

> > > > Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had a meltdown, refused to do his work and "trashed" the classroom. They said they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a trashcan.

> > > > I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> > > > Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to do something and tell her "you can't make me either". I find that almost impossible to believe.

> > > > Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> > > > children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> > > > Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I am open to the idea in keeping him back. I actually would prefer it for his sake. He has the social/emotional maturity of 10 or 11 at best. Middle school has been such a nightmare I can only imagine what highschool would be like. On one hand luckily he is also small for his age. He could pass for a 6th grader. On the other hand, this is also why he is picked on so much and when he reacts he is the one who gets caught because he doesn't know how to be suttle or like NT kids. ne

From: s_hansen34 <s_hansen34@...>Subject: ( ) Re: One step forward,...two steps back! Not a good day... Date: Sunday, October 31, 2010, 2:45 PM

Thank you Pam, I think you're right. I'll go for the hour and see what our therapists thinks. If she thinks she needs more time, then I'm sure she'd be willing to talk to the school and hopefully negotiate more time. The hardest part about it taking so painfully long to make progress is that I see my son lagging more and more behind. I even get panicky thinking about it. He is in 8th grade and SO not going to be ready for highschool if we don't make some aggressive progress.Thanks for the support. Some days I just feel like I can't do this another day! But God willing, I'm going to pervail. ne> > > >> > > > Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had a meltdown, refused to do his work and "trashed" the classroom. They said they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a trashcan.

> > > > I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously. > > > > Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to do something and tell her "you can't make me either". I find

that almost impossible to believe. > > > > Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD > > > > children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this. > > > > Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(> > > >> > >> >>

[Guest guest]

Hope you definitely got that school policy in writing because it won't exist and is being made up.

Roxanna

"I

predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Re: One step forward,...two steps back! Not a good day...

I know what you mean about wanting to home school. Sometimes I just want to pull my son out of school altoghether. But It's not right that they get away with this. I'm so tired of explaining things to them and educating them. It is they who should be education my son. When I asked if my son't ABA therapist could come to the school to observe my son, I was told she could only come for one hour!! They don't know what they are doing, yet they won't allow someone who does come in to help them. Doesn't make sense!!!

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> > Today my son's new school that he has been at for 7 days, called to say he had a meltdown, refused to do his work and "trashed" the classroom. They said they were going to suspend him and I needed to come get him. Come to find out, he didn't trash the classroom, he shoved a few desks around and knocked over a trashcan.

> > I was told they want to hold a manifestation hearing. I asked what were they hoping to gain by that. He has plenty of documentation in his file that states that, plus all they have to do is research Aspergers. I mean seriously.

> > Then I said his FBA and BSP were from his old school and obviously it is/was not working which is why WE requested the change of placement. Now he is in a new school, new classroom, new everything and is still in the transitioning mode as ASD kids don't transition well. I say, what we should be doing is a new FBa and new BSP. So why would you want to hold a manifestation hearing when you haven't exhausted all other avenues. Other than that they have an agenda to get rid of him. Her answer was basically that she didn't know what to do. That in her 15 years in dealing with children, that she has never had a child refuse to do something and tell her "you can't make me either". I find that almost impossible to believe.

> > Then she said she would consider our recommenations on how to deal with our son because she had no experience in dealing with ASD

> > children. Now this is the assistant principle telling me this.

> > Anyway, sorry so long...but just yesterday I was thinking that maybe I could now get a chance to BREATH! So much for that....the other shoe just fell. :-(

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