Re: Aspergers Teen

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Aspergers Teen

Hi,Does anyone have a son with Aspergers around 17 to 18 years old?My wife and I are looking for people with the same as a supportand information help.Thanks, & Joan

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my son is 17 with AS./......doing really well. please

feel to contact me at queensheilab@...

sheila

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> My son is 14, feel free to contact me.

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> Aspergers Teen

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> Hi,

> Does anyone have a son with Aspergers around 17 to

> 18 years old?

> My wife and I are looking for people with the same

> as a support

> and information help.

>

> Thanks,

> & Joan

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>

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my son is 17 with AS./......doing really well. please

feel to contact me at queensheilab@...

sheila

--- Bernstein <m_bernstein@...>

wrote:

> My son is 14, feel free to contact me.

> m_bernstein@... ~

>

> Aspergers Teen

>

>

> Hi,

> Does anyone have a son with Aspergers around 17 to

> 18 years old?

> My wife and I are looking for people with the same

> as a support

> and information help.

>

> Thanks,

> & Joan

>

>

>

>

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My son was moody and depressed in his teens. What really changed his life was

moving him to a high school for AS kids where he finally was with people from

his tribe. They seemed to communicate almost telepathically. Can you find any

groups or social clubs he could join? My son does Aikido and has some buddies

there. There isn't much talking. You wear a uniform. And the rules are clear. I

also tried to get him out of the house on the weekends to try something new.

[Guest guest]

Welcome, you've come to the right place. This board is full of supportive,

loving, non-judgmental people. It's my saving grace!

My son is 13 with Sensory processing disorder (aspergers) and is being treated

for Bipolar. We're just starting the teen years, but so far middle school is

kicking our butts!

Do you have health insurance? If so I'd start w/ his primary care doctor and ask

for a referral to a psych. for an evaul. If you do not have insurance there may

be many things you could qualify for. I'm sure there are many other with tons of

advice on that. We started by googling mental health help in our county and

state searching for direction. You can even try the dept of health and human

services for links to help. You may even get a recommendation from your

city/counties Child protective services. Believe it or not we received 10 free

counseling sessions from our cities organization that runs an " orphanage " type

facility. Children in foster care see counselors and depending on your income

your child may qualify for that too.

I feel for you about the your son wanting friends so badly he'll hang out with

anyone, even those that really aren't the best influence. My 13 yr old doesn't

really have any friends but would befriend anyone that would give him the time

of day. I've yet to find a soultion to this, sorry

I know you feel alone, I think in a way we all do. Unless you're living the day

to day chaos like we all are people just can't fully understand. I hope after

meeting everyone here you won't feel so helpless. After reading all the

posts/stories you'll see we all go through the same type craziness. We can all

lean on each other, vent, cry and laugh together.

Hang in there!

>

> Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is

17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still

trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen.

> Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have

blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he

was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends

and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot

of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the

bad kids, he has no self esteem at all.

> I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to

help him and feel like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is

going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so

ever.

>

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We have him in guitar lessons but thats pretty much a one on one. We tried a church group but that did work out so well either, we live in a small town so no special high schools plus he is so high functioning that he would feel out of place. http://www.etsy.com/shop/pigdreams

From: <tamaoki_s@...> Sent: Wed, October 27, 2010 4:42:16 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Aspergers Teen

My son was moody and depressed in his teens. What really changed his life was moving him to a high school for AS kids where he finally was with people from his tribe. They seemed to communicate almost telepathically. Can you find any groups or social clubs he could join? My son does Aikido and has some buddies there. There isn't much talking. You wear a uniform. And the rules are clear. I also tried to get him out of the house on the weekends to try something new.

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OOOH yes! That was me all over growing up and now I see it in our boys, and it breaks my heart because they both have hearts of gold and some bad influences will take advantage of that and I don't want either of them to be hurt.

In a message dated 10/28/2010 9:27:30 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, kristenwallen@... writes:

I feel for you about the your son wanting friends so badly he'll hang out with anyone, even those that really aren't the best influence. My 13 yr old doesn't really have any friends but would befriend anyone that would give him the time of day. I've yet to find a soultion to this, sorry

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Try to locate a teen or adult AS group in your area. Many Speech therapists (ST) who work with this group of people have social skill groups. If you can find one with older teens, that would really help. Another place to look for materials and ideas is http://www.socialthinking.com

This woman writes some good material to the teen aged population and she has wonderful insight and ideas. Find your local autism group and ask them for ideas as well. They may know which therapists to see or know of groups that would fit your needs locally.

Roxanna

"I

predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Aspergers Teen

Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is 17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen.

Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the bad kids, he has no self esteem at all.

I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to help him and feel like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so ever.

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Thank you so much , we have done the just about everything to find help for him, when he was 5 after repeatedly crying and calling his pediatrician since he was 2 the dr. finally gave us a name of a child psychiatrist he didnt know what was going on with either. So to deal with the violent meltdowns he had the dr. gave him haldol (anti physcotic) and verious other meds that never really helped, he was first diagnosed with ADHD then OCD then Aspergers and thats when out of the blue the psychiatrist called me and said he believed that my DS has aspergers at this point he was 10. We attended aspergers support groups and found out that what all the parents were saying was exactly what he was doing his whole life so we put him in therapy with the dr. that was running the support group and she felt he didnt have it, oh he had tendancies but he didnt have it, she was used to dealing with kids that were full blown autistic

my son is very high functioning but its obvious there is something going on. Then I was totally confused I thought we finally knew what direction we were going but yet now we didnt, so I sent him to CDRC here in Oregon and they once again diagnosed him with something different Turrets which he does not have at all. So we pretty much gave up and have been trying to deal with this by treating him like a normal kid with all the normal expectations, its not working out so well. The last two years he has been majorly depressed and I thought it was him just being a lazy teen so now he is back in therapy with a behavioral therapist and she agrees he does have aspergers. Ahhhhh! In my heart I know that is what is going on so now how do we deal with aspergers, depression and helping him get through school without failing and pick good friends. My son is like yours he has very few friends and none of them are any good someone talks to him and he says

they are his friend he is getting a little better but only after he ends up in some major trouble.

Well this is so far my story. http://www.etsy.com/shop/pigdreams

From: <kristenwallen@...> Sent: Wed, October 27, 2010 5:01:25 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Aspergers Teen

Welcome, you've come to the right place. This board is full of supportive, loving, non-judgmental people. It's my saving grace!My son is 13 with Sensory processing disorder (aspergers) and is being treated for Bipolar. We're just starting the teen years, but so far middle school is kicking our butts!Do you have health insurance? If so I'd start w/ his primary care doctor and ask for a referral to a psych. for an evaul. If you do not have insurance there may be many things you could qualify for. I'm sure there are many other with tons of advice on that. We started by googling mental health help in our county and state searching for direction. You can even try the dept of health and human services for links to help. You may even get a recommendation from your city/counties Child protective services. Believe it or not we received 10 free counseling sessions from our cities organization that runs an "orphanage" type facility. Children in

foster care see counselors and depending on your income your child may qualify for that too. I feel for you about the your son wanting friends so badly he'll hang out with anyone, even those that really aren't the best influence. My 13 yr old doesn't really have any friends but would befriend anyone that would give him the time of day. I've yet to find a soultion to this, sorry :(I know you feel alone, I think in a way we all do. Unless you're living the day to day chaos like we all are people just can't fully understand. I hope after meeting everyone here you won't feel so helpless. After reading all the posts/stories you'll see we all go through the same type craziness. We can all lean on each other, vent, cry and laugh together. Hang in there!>> Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is 17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen. > Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the bad kids, he has no self esteem at all. > I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to help him and feel like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if

anyone else is going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so ever.>

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Thanks I will check it out. I know the best aspergers advocate for our area moved and recently passed away and my son has seen her. Maybe someone took her place. Thank you! http://www.etsy.com/shop/pigdreams

From: Roxanna <MadIdeas@...> Sent: Thu, October 28, 2010 7:17:55 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Aspergers Teen

Try to locate a teen or adult AS group in your area. Many Speech therapists (ST) who work with this group of people have social skill groups. If you can find one with older teens, that would really help. Another place to look for materials and ideas is http://www.socialthinking.comThis woman writes some good material to the teen aged population and she has wonderful insight and ideas. Find your local autism group and ask them for ideas as well. They may know which therapists to see or know of groups that would fit your needs locally.

Roxanna"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Aspergers Teen

Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is 17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen. Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the bad kids, he has no self esteem at all. I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to help him and feel like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so ever.

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Hi and welcome to the group, I can feel your frustration through your post and I

can relate. If you have a university in your area or not far from it, depending

on what type of university it is, they can also be a resourse. We have one about

an hour from us and we got a free in-depth psycho-educational evaluation by

participating in an autism research. They also have workshops, support groups,

social skills groups etc. Worth checking out. Also, try yellowpagesforkids.com

from wrightslaw.org, they are an excellant resourse to find services in your

state. I found out a lot from these sites.

Good luck, and we are here for you! <<hugs>> :-)

ne

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> Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is

17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still

trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen.

> Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have

blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he

was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends

and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot

of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the

bad kids, he has no self esteem at all.

> I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to

help him and feel like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is

going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so

ever.

>

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We did that our closest university is University of Oregon he went to CDRC (child development research center) and came up with turetts, he does not have turetts. It wasnt very much help for us. Thank you for the suggestion. http://www.etsy.com/shop/pigdreams

From: s_hansen34 <s_hansen34@...> Sent: Thu, October 28, 2010 7:24:51 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Aspergers Teen

Hi and welcome to the group, I can feel your frustration through your post and I can relate. If you have a university in your area or not far from it, depending on what type of university it is, they can also be a resourse. We have one about an hour from us and we got a free in-depth psycho-educational evaluation by participating in an autism research. They also have workshops, support groups, social skills groups etc. Worth checking out. Also, try yellowpagesforkids.com from wrightslaw.org, they are an excellant resourse to find services in your state. I found out a lot from these sites. Good luck, and we are here for you! <<hugs>> :-)ne>> Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is 17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen. > Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the bad kids, he has no self esteem at all. > I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to help him and feel like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what

so ever.>

[Guest guest]

Hi!We had very similar problems with our 20 yr Aspie/ADHD son.We've known since 6th grade he was autistic but MDs, counselors told us it was attempts for independence, normal teenage angst etc. He finally had 6 hrs of testing 4/10 had we had answers for all his oddities.If you do not have counselor would suggest you promptly get one. Perhaps medical intervention will help. Your county medical health office, university, or County Association of Md's may have good referral.Behavioral mod seems to be most effective therapy. But at his age and resistance suggest you get final diagnosis etc so know what meds etc to use.Our son was same with social issues but we have learned if we plant a seed or

suggestion what direction he should take, he may think about it and agree. We give him kudos for taking the step. Our son is narcissistic and has to benefit to him.Best of luck,Mark From: saldovia60 <saldovia60@...> Sent: Wed, October 27, 2010 11:35:51 AMSubject: ( ) Aspergers Teen Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is 17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen. Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the bad kids, he has no self esteem at all. I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to help

him and feee mostl like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so ever.

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I feel your pain, our son is very suggestive mostly from other kids because he is desperate for friends. Some times we can make suggestions and he will do it but most of the time not. We have him in behavioral therapy right now just started that so we will see how that turns out. I worry about testing with him because every time he has been tested they label him with something else that he has NEVER had signs of. Last time it was Turetts, never ever had signs of it but the dr. that tested him had it so I guess he figured he must need to have it too.

Finding help has been very hard especially in a small town, so I have my fingers crossed that he will turn out ok. http://www.etsy.com/shop/pigdreams

From: Mark Calvert <tustinmark1956@...> Sent: Sun, October 31, 2010 1:13:59 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Aspergers Teen

Hi!

We had very similar problems with our 20 yr Aspie/ADHD son.We've known since 6th grade he was autistic but MDs, counselors told us it was attempts for independence, normal teenage angst etc. He finally had 6 hrs of testing 4/10 had we had answers for all his oddities.

If you do not have counselor would suggest you promptly get one. Perhaps medical intervention will help. Your county medical health office, university, or County Association of Md's may have good referral.

Behavioral mod seems to be most effective therapy. But at his age and resistance suggest you get final diagnosis etc so know what meds etc to use.

Our son was same with social issues but we have learned if we plant a seed or suggestion what direction he should take, he may think about it and agree. We give him kudos for taking the step. Our son is narcissistic and has to benefit to him.

Best of luck,

Mark

From: saldovia60 <saldovia60@...> Sent: Wed, October 27, 2010 11:35:51 AMSubject: ( ) Aspergers Teen

Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is 17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen. Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the bad kids, he has no self esteem at all. I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to help him and feee mostl like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so ever.

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With regard to the choosing of bad friends I suggest getting him involved in group of good kids like, boy scouts, a church youth group, etc.... The other thing is that this problem applies to normal kids as well. I know several people who once their kids were in the wrong crowd the best thing was to cut them off by either moving, changing schools, etc.... A lot of times a fresh start is needed so that they can choose again. Hopefully they choose better the second time. It worked for my wife anyway. She got into a bad crowd in middle school. Her parent had her switch schools and with the bad influence gone she turned things around. Of course with an ASPIE this is way further complicated because change is so much harder. Once your in a group at school its hard to break out and switch not only

because the group will try to keep you but other groups won't want you. Middle school is a nightmare even for the NT kids. Its just plain hard. And its made harder because, at least when I was in middle school, the school itself expects little out of the students. So they have all this time to make sure they are all socially miserable.Another thing that is true is that bad kids are not only bad but they are extra hard on each other. So yeah its like a positive feed back loop that has a very negative effect. The only way out for your kid might be to start fresh. Perhaps he can join some kind of club or other social group. Make some friends and then switch into one of their schools so he has some good friend to start out with.Of course none of this advice may be helpful if your situation prevents you from being able to take these kind of measures. From: Mark Calvert <tustinmark1956@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Aspergers Teen Date: Sunday, October 31, 2010, 4:13 PM

Hi!We had very similar problems with our 20 yr Aspie/ADHD son.We've known since 6th grade he was autistic but MDs, counselors told us it was attempts for independence, normal teenage angst etc. He finally had 6 hrs of testing 4/10 had we had answers for all his oddities.If you do not have counselor would suggest you promptly get one. Perhaps medical intervention will help. Your county medical health office, university, or County Association of Md's may have good referral.Behavioral mod seems to be most effective therapy. But at his age and resistance suggest you get final diagnosis etc so know what meds etc to use.Our son was same with social issues but we have learned if we plant a seed or

suggestion what direction he should take, he may think about it and agree. We give him kudos for taking the step. Our son is narcissistic and has to benefit to him.Best of luck,Mark From: saldovia60 <saldovia60@...> Sent: Wed, October 27, 2010 11:35:51 AMSubject: ( ) Aspergers Teen Hello all, I am new to this forum and am hoping to get some support. My son is 17 we had a horrible time getting any help or diagnosis in fact we are still trying to seek out the proper help for him now that he is a teen. Our issues right now are depression along with the aspergers, he doesnt have blow ups like he did when he was young he has intraverted alot more than when he was little. He has very bad judge of charcter and is very desperate for friends and he will do anything to have them. That causes alot of trouble because alot of these kids are not the best influence on him. He seems to gravitate to the bad kids, he has no self esteem at all. I am scared and worried for his future, I have tried everything I know of to help

him and feee mostl like it has all been in vein. I have no idea if anyone else is going threw this either, I feel completely alone and have no support what so ever.

[Guest guest]

A lot of AS kids also have some of the Tourrettes tics. My son was first

diagnosed with Tourrettes and then AS. His doctor told him that most of the tics

he had would disappear when he hit puberty and that's exactly what happened.

[Guest guest]

The only thing he did when he was little was clear his throat all the time, but that went away way before puberty. http://www.etsy.com/shop/pigdreams

From: <tamaoki_s@...> Sent: Mon, November 1, 2010 10:37:58 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Aspergers Teen

A lot of AS kids also have some of the Tourrettes tics. My son was first diagnosed with Tourrettes and then AS. His doctor told him that most of the tics he had would disappear when he hit puberty and that's exactly what happened.

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My son cleared his throat and would hum to himself when stressed. He also had

some stimming behaviors (rolling on the floor). He had absolutely no control

over the noises he made. The doctor he had at age 8 felt that this was a sign of

Tourrettes and predicted it would go away as he approached puberty - around 12

years of age. The doctor also suspected Aspergers, which was later confirmed by

a specialist. I wonder how many other kids with AS also have a Tourette's

diagnosis?

[Guest guest]

My daughter was dx'd with ocd & tourettes for 7 years. She was put on pharmas, spent a lot of time in counseling and suffered way too much. When I finally figured out the truth, the tics were easily resolved with olive leaf extract. Tics are a thing of the distant past for us now.

Darla

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My son cleared his throat and would hum to himself when stressed. He also had some stimming behaviors (rolling on the floor). He had absolutely no control over the noises he made. The doctor he had at age 8 felt that this was a sign of Tourrettes and predicted it would go away as he approached puberty - around 12 years of age. The doctor also suspected Aspergers, which was later confirmed by a specialist. I wonder how many other kids with AS also have a Tourette's diagnosis?