Re: Re: Social Stories and Rewards for Potty Training?

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This reminds me of when I wrote the giant note "do not pee on the toilet seat!" and taped it to the back of the toilet, kind of as a joke, to get my son to aim better. I came in a week or two later and someone had urinated on my note.

( ) Re: Social Stories and Rewards for Potty Training?

Update: my son took the social story I wrote for him about using the potty and "drowned" it in the bathroom sink to the point where it was soaked beyond repair. Do you think he was trying to tell me something?> > >> > > Hi guys,> > > > > > I am gearing up to start (re-start, really) trying to potty train my 3 1/4 year old son when he is on Christmas break starting Monday. I have been told by several people that a social story about potty training would be a good tool. While I have written other social stories for him in the past, I am not quite sure how to write on this topic. Does anyone have a good one they could share?> > > > > > I am also wondering about the reward system of potty training, where the child gets a little something for sitting on the potty, more for peeing, and then a bigger prize for pooping (my friend did it with M & Ms - 1, 3, or 5, depending on what her son did). We tried a sticker reward chart during a previous potty training attempt, and it was not a useful motivator. I am thinking about trying with some of those chewy fruit snacks this time around. My son really loves them, and we do not usually keep them in the house. My concern is what if they do turn out to be a good motivator, and then he expects to get a reward every time he uses the potty from now until eternity? In general, we find that we have to be careful about doing anything special just once, because our son will assume that is the way it will always be going forward. Has anyone used this potty training method with success, and if so how did you wean off the rewards? Or would it be better not to have a set reward promised in advance, but to surprise him with the treat if he uses the potty? Or no reward at all except lots of applause?> > > > > > Thanks for all of your help - I have a feeling we will need it!> > > > > > Bridget> > >> >>

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Roxanna

"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

lol, That is what I'd call a "communication problem." lol

Re: ( ) Re: Social Stories and Rewards for Potty Training?

This reminds me of when I wrote the giant note "do not pee on the toilet seat!" and taped it to the back of the toilet, kind of as a joke, to get my son to aim better. I came in a week or two later and someone had urinated on my note.

( ) Re: Social Stories and Rewards for Potty Training?

Update: my son took the social story I wrote for him about using the potty and "drowned" it in the bathroom sink to the point where it was soaked beyond repair. Do you think he was trying to tell me something?

> > >

> > > Hi guys,

> > >

> > > I am gearing up to start (re-start, really) trying to potty train my 3 1/4 year old son when he is on Christmas break starting Monday. I have been told by several people that a social story about potty training would be a good tool. While I have written other social stories for him in the past, I am not quite sure how to write on this topic. Does anyone have a good one they could share?

> > >

> > > I am also wondering about the reward system of potty training, where the child gets a little something for sitting on the potty, more for peeing, and then a bigger prize for pooping (my friend did it with M & Ms - 1, 3, or 5, depending on what her son did). We tried a sticker reward chart during a previous potty training attempt, and it was not a useful motivator. I am thinking about trying with some of those chewy fruit snacks this time around. My son really loves them, and we do not usually keep them in the house. My concern is what if they do turn out to be a good motivator, and then he expects to get a reward every time he uses the potty from now until eternity? In general, we find that we have to be careful about doing anything special just once, because our son will assume that is the way it will always be going forward. Has anyone used this potty training method with success, and if so how did you wean off the rewards? Or would it be better not to have a set reward promised in advance, but to surprise him with the treat if he uses the potty? Or no reward at all except lots of applause?

> > >

> > > Thanks for all of your help - I have a feeling we will need it!

> > >

> > > Bridget

> > >

> >

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lol. Maybe, maybe he was just experimenting. I know my older ds would have found social stories insulting. My younger ds, he did ok with them. You just have to do what is going to work best. If he does not want to learn how to use the potty, then he might not enjoy social stories about going to the potty. You will have to think if social stories are helpful at other times and if it's just about the potty. Or if he finds social stories annoying. With my older ds, we just said, "Better luck next time" and "I know when you become a big boy, you'll put your pee pee in the potty." That was enough of a "social story" for him to get the point. I just left the idea hanging - just the idea that someday he would be successful. But that is how he was and what worked with him best. We walked him through it still and just kept up that hopeful reminder that he would get it eventually. And he did. (He's 21 yo now!) I had to do a lot more pushing with my other ds. He didn't care if he was a big boy or not. lol. So we did social stories and schedules and rewards with him because he needed that to learn and be able to do it. Good luck!

Roxanna

"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Re: Social Stories and Rewards for Potty Training?

Update: my son took the social story I wrote for him about using the potty and "drowned" it in the bathroom sink to the point where it was soaked beyond repair. Do you think he was trying to tell me something?

> > >

> > > Hi guys,

> > >

> > > I am gearing up to start (re-start, really) trying to potty train my 3 1/4 year old son when he is on Christmas break starting Monday. I have been told by several people that a social story about potty training would be a good tool. While I have written other social stories for him in the past, I am not quite sure how to write on this topic. Does anyone have a good one they could share?

> > >

> > > I am also wondering about the reward system of potty training, where the child gets a little something for sitting on the potty, more for peeing, and then a bigger prize for pooping (my friend did it with M & Ms - 1, 3, or 5, depending on what her son did). We tried a sticker reward chart during a previous potty training attempt, and it was not a useful motivator. I am thinking about trying with some of those chewy fruit snacks this time around. My son really loves them, and we do not usually keep them in the house. My concern is what if they do turn out to be a good motivator, and then he expects to get a reward every time he uses the potty from now until eternity? In general, we find that we have to be careful about doing anything special just once, because our son will assume that is the way it will always be going forward. Has anyone used this potty training method with success, and if so how did you wean off the rewards? Or would it be better not to have a set reward promised in advance, but to surprise him with the treat if he uses the potty? Or no reward at all except lots of applause?

> > >

> > > Thanks for all of your help - I have a feeling we will need it!

> > >

> > > Bridget

> > >

> >

>

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Well, live life half naked for a while, then you can introduce clothes to the mix, perhaps. It only works while you don't have to go out anywhere. I have to say, many of my kids spent most of their time naked at home because they were not into clothes as a general rule. Just do that happy dance when he is successful!! It's going to work out eventually. It is just a lot more work than it is with "NT" kids, at times.

Roxanna

"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) Re: Social Stories and Rewards for Potty Training?

Thanks for the encouragement! What we have discovered after 3 days is that our son can actually make it to the potty without accidents as long as he is naked from the waist down. However, when he wears pants or underwear, he wets himself. I think that when he has anything on the bottom half, he just forgets that he is not wearing a diaper. Being naked is different enough that he realizes he is not diapered. He actually went to the potty a couple of times on his own today when he was naked, so that is encouraging. Tomorrow will be our first time leaving the house diaper-free since starting this adventure.

I will say that social stories are generally pretty effective for us; I think it was just the potty one that he didn't care for. I have also noticed that while we have been staying home the last 3 days, my son has been unusually pleasant and cooperative. It makes me think that our normal schedule may be too busy for him, even though he often asks to go places.

Bridget

> > > >

> > > > Hi guys,

> > > >

> > > > I am gearing up to start (re-start, really) trying to potty train my 3 1/4 year old son when he is on Christmas break starting Monday. I have been told by several people that a social story about potty training would be a good tool. While I have written other social stories for him in the past, I am not quite sure how to write on this topic. Does anyone have a good one they could share?

> > > >

> > > > I am also wondering about the reward system of potty training, where the child gets a little something for sitting on the potty, more for peeing, and then a bigger prize for pooping (my friend did it with M & Ms - 1, 3, or 5, depending on what her son did). We tried a sticker reward chart during a previous potty training attempt, and it was not a useful motivator. I am thinking about trying with some of those chewy fruit snacks this time around. My son really loves them, and we do not usually keep them in the house. My concern is what if they do turn out to be a good motivator, and then he expects to get a reward every time he uses the potty from now until eternity? In general, we find that we have to be careful about doing anything special just once, because our son will assume that is the way it will always be going forward. Has anyone used this potty training method with success, and if so how did you wean off the rewards? Or would it be better not to have a set reward promised in advance, but to surprise him with the treat if he uses the potty? Or no reward at all except lots of applause?

> > > >

> > > > Thanks for all of your help - I have a feeling we will need it!

> > > >

> > > > Bridget

> > > >

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