toilet flushing

[Guest guest]

I don’t know your situation, but my two daughters went

thru a “fail to flush” period too but both for different reasons. The

oldest (nt) was just being lazy so we told her if we had to flush her poo

again, she would have to come flush our poo. This was a very effective approach

with her, as the threat alone started her flushing. my youngest who is aspie

with sensitivity issues wouldn’t flush because the sound was too loud. I

agreed to flush for her until she was older and better able to handle the noise,

which she can do now.

Regards, melody

[Guest guest]

My son also dislikes the sound and used to refuse to flush. Now he is usually

fine at home but wont flush in public and refuses to go in automatic toilets.

My husband accompanies him to the bathroom and flushes after my son clears the

stall. He is only six now, but hopefully he learns to cope as he gets older.

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> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush

the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear

about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

Hi,

My son has an issue with flushing the toilet. I put up a sign behind the toilet, infront of the toilet, and on the wall by the light switch that says "FLUSH AND WASH". This has helped him remember to flush the toilet and wash his hands afterwards.

From: Melody Kalomiris <mkalomiris@...>Subject: ( ) toilet flushing Date: Monday, January 25, 2010, 2:28 AM

I don’t know your situation, but my two daughters went thru a “fail to flush†period too but both for different reasons. The oldest (nt) was just being lazy so we told her if we had to flush her poo again, she would have to come flush our poo. This was a very effective approach with her, as the threat alone started her flushing. my youngest who is aspie with sensitivity issues wouldn’t flush because the sound was too loud. I agreed to flush for her until she was older and better able to handle the noise, which she can do now.

Regards, melody

[Guest guest]

Our son, now 10.5 yrs, has had trouble remembering to flush for years.

Additionally, he still misses his target much of the time. What's worked for

us: I put a large sign with bold black letters and a yellow background that

said, " FLUSH! " above each toilet in the house. That did improve the flushing

percentage.

The other problem's been harder. It's like his mind's just always on other

things and focusing on where to put his pee just isn't a priority. It's helped

some by consistently having HIM clean up all the messes I find. ?? Head's just

in the clouds. Tried all other types of positive and negative reinforces as

well. If anyone has any other grand ideas, I'm game.

Debbie

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> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush

the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear

about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

He he.

If I had a fricken dime for every time I've either walked into the bathroom and gagged because of an 8 hour turd sitting in there, or heard, "Who didn't flush the toilet?", or had a child running like a crazy-person screaming that they can't go to the bathroom (either one), because it's "full and stinky",,,,,,,,,I'd be a wealthy gal. Man, it's nasty, isn't it? I don't know who it is. Correction. I know that it's a few of them........at different times.

It's disgusting.

I grew up with the rule to NOT flush if it was just pee........gag. But they haven't!!!!!!!

When you get the answer as to how to make them flush,,,please let me know.

Oh - and when someone comes over,,,,,,guess what the whole family knows to do? They immediately run to the bathrooms to make sure they're flushed. Nice.

Robin

From: mimasdprofile <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) toilet flushing Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 2:57 PM

never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET."

[Guest guest]

I have just accepted that going to the bathroom in my house means: flush, pee,

flush.

Vickie

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> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush

the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear

about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

Amen...he he.

Robin

From: baneline1 <baneline1@...>Subject: Re: ( ) toilet flushing Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 9:35 AM

I have just accepted that going to the bathroom in my house means: flush, pee, flush.Vickie> > > From: mimasdprofile <callis4773@ ...>> Subject: ( ) toilet flushing> > Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 2:57 PM> > > Â > > > >

never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET.">

[Guest guest]

Hahaha, my son does that too flushes and then wees, then flushes again when he is done.

The only thing he has an issue with in the toilet are hand dryers, so we are in the same cubicle he does his business and I keep my heads over his ears.

From: baneline1 <baneline1@...>Subject: Re: ( ) toilet flushing Date: Tuesday, 26 January, 2010, 15:35

I have just accepted that going to the bathroom in my house means: flush, pee, flush.Vickie> > > From: mimasdprofile <callis4773@ ...>> Subject: ( ) toilet flushing> > Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 2:57 PM> > > Â > > > >

never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET.">

[Guest guest]

If it's yellow, let it mellow, if it's brown, flush it down

Not in my house, here's it let it sit till Mom gags and runs in, holds her nose, and flushes to denials of "wasn't me!"

Ugh.

Barbara in NJ

"We learned more from a three minute record than we ever learned in school." Bruce Springsteen, No Surrender.

[Guest guest]

DON'T WORRY I HAVE A SON THAT IS GOING TO BE 7 IN MAY AND WE HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM WITH HIM BUT WE ALSO HAVE THE PROBLEM THAT HE HAS TO TAKE ALL OF HIS CLOTHES OFF TO GO TO THE BATHROOM WE HAVE FINALLY GOT HIM TO PEE WITH HIS PANTS ON BUT OTHERWISE HE STRIPS SO WE TRY TO GET IT ALL DONE AT HOME. I THINK IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE SUDDEN NOISE THAT THEY DON'T LIKE. MY SON DIDN'T LIKE IT WHEN HE WAS YOUNGER EITHER. WE FOUND THAT IF YOU LET HIM GO IN THE BIG STALL THEN ITS NOT SO BAD AND THEY DON'T GET SCARED. TRY IT AND SEE IT MIGHT WORK.KATIE FROM GAFrom: jm.smoldt <jm.smoldt@...>Subject: ( ) Re: toilet flushingTo:

Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 11:11 PM

My son also dislikes the sound and used to refuse to flush. Now he is usually fine at home but wont flush in public and refuses to go in automatic toilets. My husband accompanies him to the bathroom and flushes after my son clears the stall. He is only six now, but hopefully he learns to cope as he gets older.

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> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET."

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[Guest guest]

I agree. we have two girls. the oldest (15) doesnt flush the toilet because shes

lazy.

our younger (8) the aspie, doesnt flush becasue she just forgets.

theres no hope for the older one.

but our little one get called back to the bathroom and asked " please flush the

toilet when you are done " .

sooner or later she will make it part of her routines that " must be done " .

the older one will just get an apartment someday with a toilet that is

overflowing onto the floor.

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> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush

the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear

about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

Man,,,,,,,,I'm laughing...........and peeing..........(no need to flush).....yuck.

Robin

From: CyberMommyLJA@... <CyberMommyLJA@...>Subject: Re: ( ) toilet flushing Date: Tuesday, January 26, 2010, 4:53 PM

If it's yellow, let it mellow, if it's brown, flush it down Not in my house, here's it let it sit till Mom gags and runs in, holds her nose, and flushes to denials of "wasn't me!"Ugh.Barbara in NJ"We learned more from a three minute record than we ever learned in school." Bruce Springsteen, No Surrender.

[Guest guest]

No and this is worse than not flushing - sitting down on a wet seat!

Argh! I have 3 boys in my house - enough said! And I yell a lot " WHO

DID THIS?!?!? " not expecting a real answer. But I often remind them to

take better aim, please. PLEASE! Another thing that has helped with

my middle ds is he has gotten in the habit of lifting the lid. That

has really helped a lot. So if you can get that habit started, it

helps with the messy seats. But in this case, the best offense is a

good defense. lol. So look first, save yourself. lol.

Roxanna

" The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do

nothing. " E. Burke

( ) Re: toilet flushing

Our son, now 10.5 yrs, has had trouble remembering to flush for years.

Additionally, he still misses his target much of the time. What's

worked for us: I put a large sign with bold black letters and a yellow

background that said, " FLUSH! " above each toilet in the house. That

did improve the flushing percentage.

The other problem's been harder. It's like his mind's just always on

other things and focusing on where to put his pee just isn't a

priority. It's helped some by consistently having HIM clean up all the

messes I find. ?? Head's just in the clouds. Tried all other types

of positive and negative reinforces as well. If anyone has any other

grand ideas, I'm game.

Debbie

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> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say

just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you.

Instead I have to hear about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH

THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

So true, Roxanna. My dear son always dribbles on the seat. So I should reprase

my statement, going to the bathroom in my house means wipe seat, flush, pee,

flush.

Vickie

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> > never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

> anxiety/asperger/add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say

> just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you.

> Instead I have to hear about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH

> THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

Wow , we had this same problem! My middle ds would not use a

bathroom without taking everything off first. I mean EVERYTHING.

There I would be at Walmart bathroom, putting his sock and shoes back

on each time. Somehow, the whole " go to the bathroom " process included

" take off all my clothes first. " I don't recall when that stopped

either. It slowly did. I just kept up the pep talk each time, " Look,

you could do that while wearing your underwear....just pull them down

to here.... " and most times he would balk. But eventually we got

there. He also would put both feet on the seat and hunch down to go.

So it was rather an odd set up altogether! lol. I often pictured him

as a 50 yo man, hunching up on the seat, naked. lol. But you know, he

eventually caught on. He does ok now and is able to go without being

naked first. So hang in there!

Roxanna

" The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do

nothing. " E. Burke

( ) Re: toilet flushing

Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 11:11 PM

 

My son also dislikes the sound and used to refuse to flush. Now he is

usually fine at home but wont flush in public and refuses to go in

automatic toilets. My husband accompanies him to the bathroom and

flushes after my son clears the stall. He is only six now, but

hopefully he learns to cope as he gets older.

>

> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say

just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you.

Instead I have to hear about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH

THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

I SURE AM WAITING FOR THAT DAY I HOPE IT IS COMING SOON. HIS TEACHER CALLED LAST NIGHT SHE SAYS ...SEND EXTRA CLOTHES CAUSE SOME TIMES WHEN HE GO TO THE BATHROOM HE COMES OUT AND ALL HIS CLOTHES ARE DIRTY SHE DOESN'T KNOW WHY AND HE WILL NOT TELL HER BUT WHEN I TRY SHE THINK I AM INSANE ..WHAT KID DOES THAT? WELL I SENT THE CLOTHES SO HERES HOPING!! SHE TRYS ! SHE IS GOOD WITH HIM BUT THERE ARE SOMETHING SHE JUST DOES NOT GET YET!KATIE FROM GA

From: jm.smoldt <jm.smoldt (DOT) com>

Subject: ( ) Re: toilet flushing

Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 11:11 PM

My son also dislikes the sound and used to refuse to flush. Now he is

usually fine at home but wont flush in public and refuses to go in

automatic toilets. My husband accompanies him to the bathroom and

flushes after my son clears the stall. He is only six now, but

hopefully he learns to cope as he gets older.

>

> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say

just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you.

Instead I have to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH

THE TOILET."

>

[Guest guest]

Have you tried potty training targets? Helps a lot with the aim.

The other problem's been harder. It's like his mind's just always on other things and focusing on where to put his pee just isn't a priority. It's helped some by consistently having HIM clean up all the messes I find. ?? Head's just in the clouds. Tried all other types of positive and negative reinforces as well. If anyone has any other grand ideas, I'm game.Debbie

[Guest guest]

I agree on this one. My son no asperger's , but he occasionally gets in hurry and doesn't lift the seat all the way and then I get the wet seat. Not a happy Mommy.

Anyway in our house this is the saying GO....WIPE.....FLUSH......WASH

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No and this is worse than not flushing - sitting down on a wet seat! Argh! I have 3 boys in my house - enough said! And I yell a lot "WHO DID THIS?!?!?" not expecting a real answer. But I often remind them to take better aim, please. PLEASE! Another thing that has helped with my middle ds is he has gotten in the habit of lifting the lid. That has really helped a lot. So if you can get that habit started, it helps with the messy seats. But in this case, the best offense is a good defense. lol. So look first, save yourself. lol.Roxanna

[Guest guest]

Dare I admit this without you all thinking I am REALLY weird, as I have said before I only realised that I done anything different to others after my son had issues, when I am at home I always completely undress from the waist down to go to the toilet, socks as well, don't have a reason for doing it just always have. No idea if I got my complete kit off as a child although I do remember my mother shouting at me for things related to the bathroom when I was around 4 or 5. OMG am I really strange??!From: jm.smoldt <jm.smoldt (DOT) com>Subject: ( ) Re: toilet flushing Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 11:11 PM My son also dislikes the sound and used to refuse to flush. Now he is usually fine at home but wont flush in public and refuses to go in automatic toilets. My husband accompanies him to the bathroom and flushes after my son clears the stall. He is only six now, but hopefully he learns to cope as he gets older.>> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have

to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET.">

[Guest guest]

Oh Lorraine, to each his own. I just think it must takes so much extra time

LOL!. Do you do that in public restrooms also?

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> > never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

> anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say

> just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you.

> Instead I have to hear about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH

> THE TOILET. "

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My four y/o son does the same, will pee standng with clothes but for bm---he goes completely buck naked including socks.From: jm.smoldt <jm.smoldt (DOT) com>Subject: ( ) Re: toilet flushing Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 11:11 PM My son also dislikes the sound and used to refuse to flush. Now he is usually fine at home but wont flush in public and refuses to go in automatic toilets. My husband accompanies him to the bathroom and flushes after my son clears the stall. He is only six now, but hopefully he learns to cope as he gets older.>> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have

to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET.">

[Guest guest]

They just put hand dryers in at church! Ugh! That was one place whose

bathrooms he would use, and now not so much. There is still one bathroom left

that doesn't have them and I am really hoping they don't install them in there

as well. I think they are trying to save on paper towels or something.

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> > never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush

the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear

about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]

We

couldn’t’ get Zak out of pullups until he was 5.  He wouldn’t go to the

bathroom, except in pull ups.  It wasn’t until 2 of his friends came over and

peed in the garden that the pull ups came off.  It was always such a fight with

the bathroom and even though hubbie and I knew there was something different

about Zak we didn’t know what until he was about 10 years old.

I am constantly telling him about flushing the toilet.  I now listen and I hear

the peeing, hear the washing of hands, but no flushing.  I have to remind him

still!  It’s just not important to him when he’s playing a computer game for

the 4th hour!

Namaste

Dawn

From:

[mailto: ] On Behalf Of baneline1

Sent: Thursday, January 28, 2010 2:18 PM

Subject: ( ) Re: toilet flushing

Oh Lorraine, to each his own. I just think it

must takes so much extra time LOL!. Do you do that in public restrooms also?

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> > never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing

> anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say

> just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you.

> Instead I have to hear about it all the time. " SOMEONE FORGOT TO

FLUSH

> THE TOILET. "

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[Guest guest]



Oh Lorraine that gave me a chuckle! You never know what you are doing, that you assume everyone else is doing or you haven't even thought about, until you start taking a poll of other peoples behaviors. I once had a psychiatrist tell me a patient had obsessive compulsive disorder because he had to wash his hands when he emptied the trash in the house or he felt dirty. Ha, ha.... of course I do that, and probably a bunch of other people do too. It would be fun to read a book of the percentage of people that do each quirky thing. It would make for a great entertaining read!

( ) Re: toilet flushing Date: Sunday, January 24, 2010, 11:11 PM My son also dislikes the sound and used to refuse to flush. Now he is usually fine at home but wont flush in public and refuses to go in automatic toilets. My husband accompanies him to the bathroom and flushes after my son clears the stall. He is only six now, but hopefully he learns to cope as he gets older.>> never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. Instead I have to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH THE TOILET.">

[Guest guest]

No just in the comfort of my own home, I asked my husband last night if he done the same thing, he was on the floor laughing, apparently he's alway wondered what on earth I've been doing in there! lol

From: baneline1 <baneline1@...>Subject: ( ) Re: toilet flushing Date: Thursday, 28 January, 2010, 21:17

Oh Lorraine, to each his own. I just think it must takes so much extra time LOL!. Do you do that in public restrooms also?> >> > never flushes. His dad is very stressed by this. Clashing > anxiety/asperger/ add whatever traits. It's driving me insane. I say > just flush the damn toilet if someone forgot. It won't KILL you. > Instead I have to hear about it all the time. "SOMEONE FORGOT TO FLUSH > THE TOILET."> >>