Re: Home Schooling and Correction

[Guest guest]

Becky,

I have found that making them do chores is the best, for us anyway. That way they don't miss out on activites and they are getting things done, chores for YOU! If they are disrespectful or naughty, then extra chores makes sense to me. It works great for us!

Benita

From: Becky <doodlebugboodles@...> Sent: Sun, January 24, 2010 1:16:43 PMSubject: ( ) Home Schooling and Correction

Hey,It's been awhile since I have posted and my circumstances have changed so I will reintroduce myself. Skip to the * for the direct info on the kid questions. I'm a single mom with one son, 12, aspie high functioning. I've worked with children for a long time and there was something apparently different early on although he was misdiagnosed with ADHD for a number of years. He's never been medicated. His father and I separated before he was 2 and has been very sporadically involved. His father is somewhat doubtful ("he's just like me" although his father is bipolar, not on the scale) although occasionally helpful. He is long term active duty National Guard so he is gone extended periods of time. The kid has a very superficial relationship with him.Until last month we were living by ourselves on the college campus I attend however we (my family) and I decided the kid and I should move in to have more support with him. This is a move of

just a few miles, but an entirely different atmosphere. Now he lives in a house full of adults (instead of an apartment building of adults, lol) and is the only kid. Unfortunately one of my sister's health (she is disabled) has declined rapidly and she will have to go to the Mayo clinic in a few weeks so things have been unsettled. My own health has taken a rather bad down turn and I'm waiting for a diagnosis.* The kid has taken everything fairly well. My sister's health is nothing new so it is rather normal. We haven't been able to settle into a good schedule yet, but that is the goal for this week. In general he is a rather happy go lucky child, rather clueless to his own social gaffs. He is generally overly happy to help and reminds me a good deal of a great dane puppy tripping over his own feet to play. Just lately his attitude has been "whatever" about most things. I've not found a way to effectively discipline him. In this house he isn't as

free as he was, he can't be as loud or energetic and the weather hasn't cooperated lately. If I take away his electronics it seems like I'm taking his only outlet that he has. Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to correct his attitude (he gets in trouble but it all comes back to the attitude)?Thanks,Becky

[Guest guest]

It depends on the misbehavior. If it's really bad, then they might have to clean the whole bathroom top to bottom. Or clean out the freezer or fridge or oven!!!! So, it depends on a big misbehavior or just a small one. Plus it depends on the age. They have to be age appropriate.

Benita

From: doodle bug <doodlebugboodles@...> Sent: Sun, January 24, 2010 4:29:02 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Home Schooling and Correction

Really? What kind of extra chores do you have them do?Thanks,Becky

From: Benita Oliver <softenyourheart> Sent: Sun, January 24, 2010 1:39:07 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Home Schooling and Correction

Becky,

I have found that making them do chores is the best, for us anyway. That way they don't miss out on activites and they are getting things done, chores for YOU! If they are disrespectful or naughty, then extra chores makes sense to me. It works great for us!

Benita

From: Becky <doodlebugboodles> Sent: Sun, January 24, 2010 1:16:43 PMSubject: ( ) Home Schooling and Correction

Hey,It's been awhile since I have posted and my circumstances have changed so I will reintroduce myself. Skip to the * for the direct info on the kid questions. I'm a single mom with one son, 12, aspie high functioning. I've worked with children for a long time and there was something apparently different early on although he was misdiagnosed with ADHD for a number of years. He's never been medicated. His father and I separated before he was 2 and has been very sporadically involved. His father is somewhat doubtful ("he's just like me" although his father is bipolar, not on the scale) although occasionally helpful. He is long term active duty National Guard so he is gone extended periods of time. The kid has a very superficial relationship with him.Until last month we were living by ourselves on the college campus I attend however we (my family) and I decided the kid and I should move in to have more support with him. This is a move of

just a few miles, but an entirely different atmosphere. Now he lives in a house full of adults (instead of an apartment building of adults, lol) and is the only kid. Unfortunately one of my sister's health (she is disabled) has declined rapidly and she will have to go to the Mayo clinic in a few weeks so things have been unsettled. My own health has taken a rather bad down turn and I'm waiting for a diagnosis.* The kid has taken everything fairly well. My sister's health is nothing new so it is rather normal. We haven't been able to settle into a good schedule yet, but that is the goal for this week. In general he is a rather happy go lucky child, rather clueless to his own social gaffs. He is generally overly happy to help and reminds me a good deal of a great dane puppy tripping over his own feet to play. Just lately his attitude has been "whatever" about most things. I've not found a way to effectively discipline him. In this house he isn't as

free as he was, he can't be as loud or energetic and the weather hasn't cooperated lately. If I take away his electronics it seems like I'm taking his only outlet that he has. Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to correct his attitude (he gets in trouble but it all comes back to the attitude)?Thanks,Becky