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Hello , given your dd's early history you may be stuggling with her being a drug baby,,attachment issues and like us, apergers on top of that. One of the hardest things to do is decifer which is which, because one can mimic the other.

Our dd is now 11, we brought her home at 18 months,,we have come a million miles, esp her, it is amazing.

I would love to chat with you one on one,,,,my private email is lbanks8928@...

Lynne BanksSD Rep. www.americanadoptioncongress.org

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Thank you ne!

In a message dated 3/31/2011 10:19:13 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, s_hansen34@... writes:

Hello ,

Welcome to the group. Your daughter sounds a lot like many of our sons and daughters. She will not doubt need a lot of help and patients. But with the right supports she can grow and become more independant. One major thing with Aspergers kids is they mature on their own time line which is much slower than NT (neurotypical) kids.

You have come to the right place for support. Glad to have you with us!

ne

On Mar 26, 2011, at 5:28 PM, fitgrl222@... wrote:

Hello everyone!

I joined this list in hopes to find out more about aspergers. I have an 8 year old daughter (soon to be 9 next month). She hasn't been diagnosed with anything, but the last time we took her to the pediatrician we talked to him about our concerns and he said she had a lot of the signs of aspergers. Here's her story.

My sister gave birth to her and died when she () was just 3 years old. My sister did a lot of drugs while pregnant and when was born she at first wouldn't cry and then after 2 days in the hospital she wouldn't stop crying. My sister took her home, but couldn't handle her so we took her. She was back and forth from my sister to myself and my husband. My sister died of a drug overdose when turned 3 and we legally adopted her a couple months later.

When we brought her home to live with us for good, she could only say 1 word at a time. She didn't know anything. We immediately got her speech therapy and that helped her a lot.

She was scared to death of anything loud (sweeper, lawn mower, even me taking foil off the roll) She would cry and cry. When my sister had her she spent most of her time in her baby bed without being socialized so we think that really hindered her success of being about to communicate well. She always took a long time to answer and when she did she would just repeat the question you asked her. She also had sensory issues. She gagged on most food and took a long time to swallow it. One day without us realizing it, she had the same food from dinner in her mouth hours later.

Today, at the age of 8 she has came a long way. She's in regular school and has made A's and B's up until this year. We can see her grades starting to slip, but she seems so smart when it comes to school stuff.

She still holds food in her mouth at times and gags at times. She also seems to take a long time to eat her food. If its something she likes then she can eat it normally (donuts, ice cream, cookies) She doesn't repeat what we say anymore, but she takes a long time to answer and sometimes she answers with something you didn't even ask her. She colors us pictures all the time and puts them in envelopes. Her coloring isn't good. I would compare it to a 4 year old. She seems to only enjoy art stuff (drawing, coloring, cutting out paper and making things) she doesn't like dolls or anything else.

She likes all baby TV shows. she doesn't like any of the stuff the girls her age like.

The thing I question is why doesn't the school, the teachers, the kids notice that she's different? My husband feels like since her grades are OK they don't care about the other stuff. Also, she's just in 2nd grade and maybe it's not as noticeable?

I feel so alone at times because I feel like I'm on this emotional roller coaster. It's like I try to make her be normal by telling her "you need to do big girl things" or that's "babyish". I'm one of those "fix it" people and I struggle with myself all the time thinking how I can fix her and make her be a normal 8 year old. I try to talk to her like I would anyone else and it just doesn't happen.

I feel lost and I wanted to join a group where someone can relate to me and possibly help me to help myself and her with dealing with this.

Also, from what I've told you all, does all this sound familiar to autism or asbergers? Or am I just way off base?

Thanks so much if you read all of this.

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