Re: He's Just Being a Boy!

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Hi,

I'm not sure if you mean that there's stress with the one with AS or with the ones who don't have it.

I think as my son with AS gets older, he tries and is getting more responsible.....(to his ability)........and that causes stress, I guess. But,,,,,,

I see that the ones in my house that are stressed more are the girls. My oldest daughter has a lot of anxiety and she, over the years, was very protective of my son with AS. She is his largest supporter and the biggest screamer at him....he he.I definitely think it's her anxiety and his AS that seem to collide. Did that make sense?

Your question really threw me for a loop.............there's stress here....but I think it's b/c of life, ya know? Yeah,,,,as a kid gets older,,,,,,,,they have to accept what's going on with everyone...............

I think and hope it'll make them all stronger over time. More caring, too.

I DO see those families around that don't really have issues. I can't fathom that in our house. Not that I wouldn't like it,,,,,,,,but it's just always been our life. Yours too, I'm sure. Heck....all of "ours". So,,,,,,we only know what we know.

I hear other "non-issue" families talk sometimes about how "homework is getting to be too much" or that their kid is "getting too big for their britches" and "isn't listneing", etc.

Those with no issues simply CAN'T get what we live or go through. Just as we CAN'T get how easy it would be to parent a typical family. Ugh.

Hope I anwered in an understandable way.......he he.

Robin

From: Lori <have_faith_2008>Subject: ( ) "He's Just Being a Boy!" Date: Wednesday, December 9, 2009, 11:38 PM

OK, this is my topic about how easy it is to assign many AS behaviors to "he's just being a boy his age." Has anyone had this issue? I feel like there are so many thing I have ignore in the last couple years, just chalking it uop to my son being a boy! Or also, just acting his age... I have an older daughter, but it's so hard to remember how she was at that age and with him being a boy... My son is only 6, but we just recently were told to have him evaluated for AS. Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else had this experience and found so many things being easy to 'blame' or attribute to him just being a boy...?!

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I think that alot of stress falls on the kids who dont have it.. my youngest knows that there is just something different about his brother but he doesnt really 'get' what the whole story is. Of course the Aspie's entire life is stress so he is constantly realing and we are the takers and the keepers of his stress and stressors.

I know that I would be a very different person today had I not had my oldest with Aspergers.. I see the world in a whole different light. The little things that make my siblings nuts about their kids are a vacation compared to what I endure on a weekly basis in my house and I wouldnt have it any other way. I have learned to understand the meaning of life and the meaning of living through my oldest. There are of course times when I just wish that it wasnt all so hard and that crying would make it stop or better or even easier but it I cant change it and I cant make it go away. I have learned to accept it and did so from the moment of his diagnosis, I dug in and started reading and researching everything I could. He is just the sweetest person you ever want to meet.. so incrediablly loving and honest.. too honest sometimes. I think that knowing and understanding his problems has helped me to overcome some of my own fears and setbacks.

Oh, I do love the "I understand".. ahhahah you have NO clue what my life is like! I hear "I understand" a million times a month and I want to kick them everytime they say it. The 'normal' households are so different than mine.. but the difference is also in the connection that I have with my son compared to the connection that I see my friends having with their own kids the same age.

( ) "He's Just Being a Boy!" Date: Wednesday, December 9, 2009, 11:38 PM

OK, this is my topic about how easy it is to assign many AS behaviors to "he's just being a boy his age." Has anyone had this issue? I feel like there are so many thing I have ignore in the last couple years, just chalking it uop to my son being a boy! Or also, just acting his age... I have an older daughter, but it's so hard to remember how she was at that age and with him being a boy... My son is only 6, but we just recently were told to have him evaluated for AS. Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else had this experience and found so many things being easy to 'blame' or attribute to him just being a boy...?!