Guest guest Posted October 12, 2010 Report Share Posted October 12, 2010 Do you have an IEP? Call your state's Disability office and tell them this. Tracey In a message dated 10/12/2010 7:51:22 P.M. Central Daylight Time (Me, bethndave@... writes: Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a "day treatment" and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2010 Report Share Posted October 12, 2010 Please put in writing some of the issues that you just wrote about and tell the school you are formally requesting a functional behavior assessment as your son is loosing out on classroom instructional time. Provide details to what your son's incidents and send a copy to the principal and special education director. My 2 cents. On Tue, Oct 12, 2010 at 8:53 PM, <happybrats3@...> wrote: Do you have an IEP? Call your state's Disability office and tell them this. Tracey In a message dated 10/12/2010 7:51:22 P.M. Central Daylight Time (Me, bethndave@... writes: Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a " day treatment " and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2010 Report Share Posted October 12, 2010  He's had an IEP from age 5 and we have an advocate for him. NOBODY knows what to do!! Beth Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals Do you have an IEP? Call your state's Disability office and tell them this. Tracey In a message dated 10/12/2010 7:51:22 P.M. Central Daylight Time (Me, bethndave@... writes: Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a "day treatment" and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2010 Report Share Posted October 12, 2010 They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. Beth Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals Please put in writing some of the issues that you just wrote about and tell the school you are formally requesting a functional behavior assessment as your son is loosing out on classroom instructional time. Provide details to what your son's incidents and send a copy to the principal and special education director. My 2 cents. On Tue, Oct 12, 2010 at 8:53 PM, <happybrats3@...> wrote: Do you have an IEP? Call your state's Disability office and tell them this. Tracey In a message dated 10/12/2010 7:51:22 P.M. Central Daylight Time (Me, bethndave@... writes: Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a "day treatment" and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2010 Report Share Posted October 13, 2010 Have they consulted with the autism " experts " for your district? I think you need to get ready to ask for an IEE as soon as their work comes in.On Tue, Oct 12, 2010 at 11:06 PM, Beth & Dave Schmidt <bethndave@...> wrote: They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. Beth Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals Please put in writing some of the issues that you just wrote about and tell the school you are formally requesting a functional behavior assessment as your son is loosing out on classroom instructional time. Provide details to what your son's incidents and send a copy to the principal and special education director. My 2 cents. On Tue, Oct 12, 2010 at 8:53 PM, <happybrats3@...> wrote: Do you have an IEP? Call your state's Disability office and tell them this. Tracey In a message dated 10/12/2010 7:51:22 P.M. Central Daylight Time (Me, bethndave@... writes: Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a " day treatment " and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2010 Report Share Posted October 13, 2010 Beth, Here is a ((HUG))! Sorry you are having so much trouble. Sounds like there might be other issues going on at the school that you are not aware of. They cannot kick your son out b/c they are refusing him a chance at a good education. By law (IDEA) they have to provide services to your son so, he can learn in the least restrictive environment. I would ask what type of training/education that the teachers have that are working with yourson. This makes me angry b/c the first attitude a school takes it toget rid of the "little troublemaker." You have to stand up for your sonand be his advocate. I got so angry at my daughters school...I threatened to go tothe media, the State Board of Education and on to Washington. Their attitude changedcompletely when I did this. No school district wants a black mark on its record.Good Luck,Elinor mom to Maeci From: Beth & Dave Schmidt <bethndave@...> Sent: Tue, October 12, 2010 9:38:54 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals  He's had an IEP from age 5 and we have an advocate for him. NOBODY knows what to do!! Beth Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals Do you have an IEP? Call your state's Disability office and tell them this. Tracey In a message dated 10/12/2010 7:51:22 P.M. Central Daylight Time (Me, bethndave@... writes: Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a "day treatment" and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2010 Report Share Posted October 13, 2010 Hi Beth, what does your son do, where does he go, for his sensory break? Is he on grade level with his work? Just wondering if he is having a hard time learning, doing work, so is avoiding it, frustrated, etc. > > They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. > > Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2010 Report Share Posted October 13, 2010 We are lucky at our small school to have 2 sensory rooms and a small gym where they have "boost up" equipment set up (small tramps, small balance beam, mats, etc.). He goes to any or all of those for his breaks. However, it has gotten to the point where they don't want him in the sensory rooms too much because he's being so obstanant about not going back to class that he will start to throw things in there and they might get broken. I guess they can also take him outside sometimes. He is very bright and works at grade level. We think he's capable of doing above grade level work IF we could get him to do work at all! He only goes half days and so he's only getting reading and math as regular classes. He may get some time for spelling, but I don't think it's much. We are trying to do all his social studies and science here at home so that he doesn't get behind in those subjects. Beth Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals Hi Beth, what does your son do, where does he go, for his sensory break? Is he on grade level with his work? Just wondering if he is having a hard time learning, doing work, so is avoiding it, frustrated, etc.>> They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. > > Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2010 Report Share Posted October 13, 2010 Beth, I just went and am still going through the same thing. I got tired of the school calling me and saying that my son was refusing to do his work and they don't know what to do and if we could pick him up. Both my husband and I work, so we would tell them no. Finally we requested a small group setting and got it. Maybe your son needs to be less mainstreamed. He might be getting over stimulated or maybe he is refusing to do the work because he is affraid he won't be able to. That was part of the issue with my son. When he didn't understand what the teacher expected him to do he would just refuse to do anything rather than ask for help. Has you son hasda psycho-educational evaluation done? ne Do you have an IEP? Call your state's Disability office and tell them this. Tracey In a message dated 10/12/2010 7:51:22 P.M. Central Daylight Time (Me, bethndave@... writes: Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a "day treatment" and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2010 Report Share Posted October 14, 2010 My name is Marshall and I just found this web site today My sons report card yesterday is what prompted me. I am open to any suggestions. He is in the ninth grade and is failing every subject except for gym. Any help would be deeply appreciated. Thank you > > > > They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. > > > > Beth > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 You need to request a functional behavior assessment be done asap by a reputable behavioral therapist. You can google "FBA" and learn more about the process. Roxanna "I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson ( ) Schoolwork refusals Hello! I'm having a HORRIBLE day! I just can't fight with the school one more time over my AS child!! Do you know what I mean? Anyway, my son is 9 and in 4th grade. Last year he suddenly became very violent. He just had these rages that we didn't know what to do with. It was just a mess and the school basically kicked him out and to a "day treatment" and, yeah, it was just a mess. Anyway, he came back to his regular school this year. He did really well for a few weeks. Now he's refusing to do ANY work! After an incident when they denied him a sensory break and he had a meltdown and ended up hitting his aide we told them they have to give him his breaks. Well, now that's all he wants to do!! He gets on break and then refuses to go back to the classroom. Friday they tried to make him and he had another meltdown and ended up in hold for 20 mintues! Now today we had this big meeting and they're saying that if this persists then they will kick him out again and he will just be home with me. NOOOOO!! I'm sorry, but I just can't do that (for many reasons). I love my son (and my daughter) more than anything, but that just won't work. What can we do to get him back on track at school and staying in class and doing his work!?!? Any suggestions would be sooooo appreciated! Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2010 Report Share Posted October 26, 2010 hi Marshall! I would request (in writing) a full educational evaluation from the school. It can be a long difficult process sometimes to figure out what the problem is. So many issues could be causing this. I would start by figuring out if he has a LD with the evaluation. If not, then focus on the AS (anxiety, depression, organization) and get him help in those areas as necessary. Roxanna "I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals My name is Marshall and I just found this web site today My sons report card yesterday is what prompted me. I am open to any suggestions. He is in the ninth grade and is failing every subject except for gym. Any help would be deeply appreciated. Thank you > > > > They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. > > > > Beth > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2010 Report Share Posted October 26, 2010 reading through this for suggestions too, started last yr and hoped a change and more experienced teachers would help. now shes had her full eval, fba, she has an iep and bip. a teacher with 30 yrs experience, board certified masters degree and lots of experience in special ed classrooms even but my dd still wont do her work and the most i can get done at home with her is about 2 pages, cant do homework plus all the schoolwork, refuses to do it in the resource room either. so then they made the mistake of sending her to the office to do her test. didnt seem like a mistake until the new school psychologist sat with her 1 on 1 to do the test (iow lots of attn) and even worse gave her a sticker for every question she did. of course that made it worse. so now 5th grade and her highest grade is a c this report card. we also are at a lose as is resource teacher, school psychologist, teachers, vice principal and our advocate. advocate said last year that by letting her go to the office they created a bad habit (she liked going) but i didnt find out how frequentit was until it was too late, she said it would be HARD to break (and i agreed) but noone knows what to do after the fact On Tue, Oct 26, 2010 at 9:02 AM, Roxanna <MadIdeas@...> wrote: hi Marshall! I would request (in writing) a full educational evaluation from the school. It can be a long difficult process sometimes to figure out what the problem is. So many issues could be causing this. I would start by figuring out if he has a LD with the evaluation. If not, then focus on the AS (anxiety, depression, organization) and get him help in those areas as necessary. Roxanna " I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them. " - Jefferson Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals My name is Marshall and I just found this web site today My sons report card yesterday is what prompted me. I am open to any suggestions. He is in the ninth grade and is failing every subject except for gym. Any help would be deeply appreciated. Thank you > >> > They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. > > > > Beth> -- -mommy to Emma, Becca, , , , and Leah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2010 Report Share Posted October 26, 2010 Get a professional behavior expert to come in and help devise a real behavior plan. Roxanna "I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson Re: ( ) Schoolwork refusals My name is Marshall and I just found this web site today My sons report card yesterday is what prompted me. I am open to any suggestions. He is in the ninth grade and is failing every subject except for gym. Any help would be deeply appreciated. Thank you > > > > They are basically doing a behavior assessment now, but it's taking a long time. Until they come back with some kind of findings the school has no idea what to do. The principal is WAY involved. However, I feel that he's in over his head. And he's in touch with the spec ed director. > > > > Beth > -- -mommy to Emma, Becca, , , , and Leah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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