Re: (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

[Guest guest]

Oh boy! I feel for you. I go through this stuff too.

My daughter is 12.

I have had some improvement with having her on medication for

anxiety and I work with a behaviorist weekly.

We have a set routine and set reward time. She has to earn

her electronic and TV assess.

I tried to get my daughter up this morning and she hit me.

In our behavior plan she has to do a chore for that before

she can have any rewards (computer for example) after school.

My daughter is in a special needs school. I don't press her

into school. I want her to go in calmly to earn the

privelge of going to the pet store later in the week.

It is so much work. I have not trialed " rispedal " to calm

her. She is on 75 mg of zoloft. It helped lessen irritability and

it reduced panic but she is still very ridgid.

Pam

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> Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have

to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names.  Now he has taken to swearing

at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school.  He

doesn't care who hears him.

>  

> Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't

want he just throws them on the floor.  We are in the process of moving so I am

in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. 

Even though I had cleaned it that morning.  I'm not talking about a wrapper or

two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this

is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names),

clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

>  

> Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

>  

> Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his

crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it.  No amount of chatising makes him

stop! 

>  

>

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[Guest guest]

Well the only thing in here we have encountered so far is the name calling and

treating the floor like a trash can. I can't get it through his head that trash

doesn't belong on the floor along with anything else in his way. And he seems

to have taken a break from the name calling, but went through a faze where

everyone was an " idiot " if they did something he didn't like. Now I hear the

occasional " stupid girl " at his sister, but it is far less excessive. I really

don't know what to do about it when it does happen. It seems if I scold him he

does it all more.

>

> Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have

to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names.  Now he has taken to swearing

at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school.  He

doesn't care who hears him.

>  

> Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't

want he just throws them on the floor.  We are in the process of moving so I am

in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. 

Even though I had cleaned it that morning.  I'm not talking about a wrapper or

two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this

is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names),

clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

>  

> Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

>  

> Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his

crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it.  No amount of chatising makes him

stop! 

>  

>

>

[Guest guest]

what works best for my son is offering him a positive reward for going a certain

period of time without the offensive bahavior. i have many examples of how this

has worked for as long as a marking period at school. yelling only served to me

upset. geo

- ( ) Re: (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Well the only thing in here we have encountered so far is the name calling and

treating the floor like a trash can. I can't get it through his head that trash

doesn't belong on the floor along with anything else in his way. And he seems

to have taken a break from the name calling, but went through a faze where

everyone was an " idiot " if they did something he didn't like. Now I hear the

occasional " stupid girl " at his sister, but it is far less excessive. I really

don't know what to do about it when it does happen. It seems if I scold him he

does it all more.

>

> Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have

to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names.  Now he has taken to

swearing at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for

school.  He doesn't care who hears him.

>  

> Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't

want he just throws them on the floor.  We are in the process of moving so I am

in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit

it.  Even though I had cleaned it that morning.  I'm not talking about a

wrapper or two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote

controls (this is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me

names), clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

>  

> Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

>  

> Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his

crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it.  No amount of chatising makes him

stop! 

>  

>

>

[Guest guest]

I would take away all his stuff and make him work for it. It will be ugly at first as he struggles to take back control of how things work. But if you keep at it and hold firm, you will make your point. Tearing things up is odd - is he doing it just to tick you off? Or does he have a purpose in destroying everything he sees? I wondered if he is an ADHD type kid who can't control his hyperactivity or if he's just tearing things up to cause you grief? He does sound like he needs to learn self-control. I wondered as well if he has a bit of OCD going on with the swearing, tearing things apart and then you mentioned he is stuck on moves? You might need to see a neurologist/dev. doc to get a good eval and find out what's going on. If there is nothing medical, then find a behaviorist who can help design a behavior plan to help you untangle things. It is not an overnight thing. Hang in there!

My ds has a fixation on too but thankfully not the moves. lol. But he talks about him constantly and is really stuck on the whole subject. It gets old fast, that is for sure.

Roxanna

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke

( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names. Now he has taken to swearing at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school. He doesn't care who hears him.

Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't want he just throws them on the floor. We are in the process of moving so I am in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. Even though I had cleaned it that morning. I'm not talking about a wrapper or two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names), clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it. No amount of chatising makes him stop!

[Guest guest]

For my ds.. I'd GLADLY take a MJ fixation over TuPac Shakor... ANYDAY!! lol

From: Roxanna <MadIdeas@...>Subject: Re: ( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing Date: Friday, March 12, 2010, 8:47 AM

I would take away all his stuff and make him work for it. It will be ugly at first as he struggles to take back control of how things work. But if you keep at it and hold firm, you will make your point. Tearing things up is odd - is he doing it just to tick you off? Or does he have a purpose in destroying everything he sees? I wondered if he is an ADHD type kid who can't control his hyperactivity or if he's just tearing things up to cause you grief? He does sound like he needs to learn self-control. I wondered as well if he has a bit of OCD going on with the swearing, tearing things apart and then you mentioned he is stuck on moves? You might need to see a neurologist/dev. doc to get a good eval and find out what's going on. If there is nothing medical, then find a behaviorist who can help design a behavior plan to help you

untangle things. It is not an overnight thing. Hang in there! My ds has a fixation on too but thankfully not the moves. lol. But he talks about him constantly and is really stuck on the whole subject. It gets old fast, that is for sure.

Roxanna"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke

( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names. Now he has taken to swearing at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school. He doesn't care who hears him.

Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't want he just throws them on the floor. We are in the process of moving so I am in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. Even though I had cleaned it that morning. I'm not talking about a wrapper or two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names), clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it. No amount of chatising makes him stop!

[Guest guest]

Thanks Roxanna

The moves seems to gone to the way side - he seem to have a period of time when he is talking about something incessantly then his attention is diverted to something else. But I also think that he does do some of these behaviours to tick me off.

He was originally diagnosed with ADHD then Aspergers 2 years later. The meds are for the ADHD so I guess that means he still has it but the Aspergers is the diagnosis in the forefront and thats when he gets help at school.

We are in the process of moving across the city so a lot of time and energy is spent looking for a place and packing. So the stress levels are pretty high for me and I guess he feeds from that. Hence why he chucks things on the floor when I am packing because he doesn't have the self-control or there is no empathy with how much work there will be for me. As long as he gets access to everything he wants - he says that is helping me to achieve what I want i.e. packing and moving. There is no acknoweldgement that the move will actually benefit both of us. SIGH!

Anyway - just plod along and hopefully when the dust settles - I can start up with the support from the local council. Have already make the connections with them, they (support people) have put us on the waiting list and are waiting for us to move.

From: Roxanna <MadIdeasaol (DOT) com>Subject: Re: ( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing Date: Friday, March 12, 2010, 8:47 AM

I would take away all his stuff and make him work for it. It will be ugly at first as he struggles to take back control of how things work. But if you keep at it and hold firm, you will make your point. Tearing things up is odd - is he doing it just to tick you off? Or does he have a purpose in destroying everything he sees? I wondered if he is an ADHD type kid who can't control his hyperactivity or if he's just tearing things up to cause you grief? He does sound like he needs to learn self-control. I wondered as well if he has a bit of OCD going on with the swearing, tearing things apart and then you mentioned he is stuck on moves? You might need to see a neurologist/ dev. doc to get a good eval and find out what's going on. If there is nothing medical, then find a behaviorist who can help design a behavior plan to help you

untangle things. It is not an overnight thing. Hang in there! My ds has a fixation on too but thankfully not the moves. lol. But he talks about him constantly and is really stuck on the whole subject. It gets old fast, that is for sure.

Roxanna"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke

( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names. Now he has taken to swearing at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school. He doesn't care who hears him.

Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't want he just throws them on the floor. We are in the process of moving so I am in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. Even though I had cleaned it that morning. I'm not talking about a wrapper or two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names), clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it. No amount of chatising makes him stop!

[Guest guest]

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Ugh! Hang in there. I hope your move goes smoothly. Let us know how you are doing when you get settled.

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names. Now he has taken to swearing at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school. He doesn't care who hears him.

Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't want he just throws them on the floor. We are in the process of moving so I am in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. Even though I had cleaned it that morning. I'm not talking about a wrapper or two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names), clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it. No amount of chatising makes him stop!

[Guest guest]

Anti -seizure meds may help.Doctors are beginning to look at this type behavior, verbal or physical, as seizures.

From: Roxanna <MadIdeasaol (DOT) com>

Subject: Re: ( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Date: Friday, March 12, 2010, 8:47 AM

I would take away all his stuff and make him work for it. It will be ugly at first as he struggles to take back control of how things work. But if you keep at it and hold firm, you will make your point. Tearing things up is odd - is he doing it just to tick you off? Or does he have a purpose in destroying everything he sees? I wondered if he is an ADHD type kid who can't control his hyperactivity or if he's just tearing things up to cause you grief? He does sound like he needs to learn self-control. I wondered as well if he has a bit of OCD going on with the swearing, tearing things apart and then you mentioned he is stuck on moves? You might need to see a neurologist/ dev. doc to get a good eval and find out what's going on. If there is nothing medical, then find a behaviorist who can help design a behavior plan to help you

untangle things. It is not an overnight thing. Hang in there!

My ds has a fixation on too but thankfully not the moves. lol. But he talks about him constantly and is really stuck on the whole subject. It gets old fast, that is for sure.

Roxanna

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke

( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names. Now he has taken to swearing at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school. He doesn't care who hears him.

Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't want he just throws them on the floor. We are in the process of moving so I am in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. Even though I had cleaned it that morning. I'm not talking about a wrapper or two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names), clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it. No amount of chatising makes him stop!

[Guest guest]

Prior to the last month my son would have violent outbursts swearing throwing things and pulling my hair ect... I have been working closely on a behavior plan with him for about a year now and he takes Abilify and Tenex for hyper arousal...he is also ADHD. My life has changed SO much in the last month...he has been getting his rewards daily and no more mommie attacks. I read the book the "Explosive Child" and it helped to someone from the group recommended. I think the major change in him came with the TEnex for the hyperarousal...we have gone through a divorce and an absent father so things have been very stressful here but in a different way from yours... Just thought I'd drop you a note and my wish for things to get better...talk to the doctor.

Marcia

( ) (Aspergers Support) Swearing & Throwing

Hi I have a 9yo who constantly swears - it is so depressing that when I have to say no to him - he calls me all sorts of names. Now he has taken to swearing at the top of his voice as I am trying to get him into the car for school. He doesn't care who hears him.

Also he has the 'habit' of whatever he is looking at or wrappers he doesn't want he just throws them on the floor. We are in the process of moving so I am in another room packing, came out and the lounge looked like a bomb has hit it. Even though I had cleaned it that morning. I'm not talking about a wrapper or two - the whole contents of the pantry, fridge, etc, toys, remote controls (this is one of my pet hates - cause if he misplaces them - he calls me names), clothes - you name it EVERYTHING.

Does anyone else's child has similiar behaviours?

Also since died - and the media saturated the news with his crotch grabbing moves - my sons does it. No amount of chatising makes him stop!