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Hi all,

My oldest son(8) has Aspergers and my 3yo daughter is being evaluated next week.

I have a family history of autism on my side, so I can't help but question some

of my own thoughts and behaviors.

One that is really troubling to me is that when I watch a movie(if I can

actually sit through one) it is like watching it for the first time, even if

I've seen it 3x before. Half way through the movie I'll see some tree or car or

other non-signifigant detail and realize that I've seen it before. I won't

remember the plot, actors, etc. This frustrates my husband to no end, but kinda

scares me.

Just wondering if anyone here had any thoughts on this.

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I read somewhere (have read several books since our recent diagnosis and can't remember which talked about it) that because eye contact is poor the child is not looking at the person's face enough to have a good remembrance of it. Instead they focus on other details, like clothing or surroundings which often change when seeing the person again.

Our son has improved his eye contact and seems to have good recall of people. He is only 4.5yr so he doesn't always remember their names if it was just one meeting, but usually if twice or more he remembers. And some people make a great impression, like his pediatrician, and he says their name often long after meeting with them.

On movies, our son is an avid movie watcher. He can watch the same movie over, and over, and over, and over again. I have to limit the time allowed and make sure he changes up the movies. But for him, it's not that he doesn't remember them. He just can't seem to get enough of some of them. He anticipates parts of them that are a little anxiety based (action that may be somewhat scary) and parts that are very funny just before they come on screen.

He also repeats parts of movies or books often in his play throughout the day. He used to do this in conversation and I worked with him on it by asking,"who said that?" or "what is that from a movie or a book?" letting him know he is talking about a character and he has stopped doing that. Now during free playing time he still acts out scenes verbally or with toys.

My husband (who we believe is undiagnosed AS) can watch, and does watch, movies over and over again. He remembers them but still likes to watch them again.

I am (NT) not like that. When I see a movie (hard to find time with 2 little ones at home) I rarely want to watch it again, ever. There are a few movies that I can watch again, but there has to be some time passed between viewings. I have never read a book more than once for my own enjoyment either.

~ Pruden

From: Pamela <susanonderko>Subject: ( ) Re: Movies Date: Thursday, June 3, 2010, 7:50 AM

Some people don't have a memory for faces our neuropyschologist said. My daughter does not have a memory for faces orplaces. She does remember things. She won't remember howto get home from some place but she remembers the church had a red door. She has visual spatial issues. And I guesswith social anxiety and Asperger's some kids don'tremember faces especially if there is more than one in the picture.I have no patience for most movies anymore like I use to when I was younger. A lot of the time when I watch a movie mymind is somewhere else. If you have any anxiety (I do)the mind tends to remember vividly negative eventsand objects and not remeber a lot of other things. Anxietycrowds out other thoughts and memories. Min my lately is hyperfocused on school accomodations and teaching my daughter social skills. take care,Pam >> Hi all,> My oldest son(8) has Aspergers and my 3yo daughter is being evaluated next week. I have a family history of autism on my side, so I can't help but question some of my own thoughts and behaviors.> > One that is really troubling to me is that when I watch a movie(if I can actually sit through one) it is like watching it for the first time, even if I've seen it 3x before. Half way through the movie I'll see some tree or car or other non-signifigant detail and realize that I've seen it before. I won't remember the plot, actors, etc. This frustrates my husband to no end, but kinda scares me.> > Just wondering if anyone here had any thoughts on this.> >

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Hmmm....

That's intersting. That would explain why my oldest son can tell you the numbers

of the jerseys on his flag football team, but no one's name after 4 seasons of

playing with the same boys.

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> > Hi all,

> > My oldest son(8) has Aspergers and my 3yo daughter is being evaluated next

week. I have a family history of autism on my side, so I can't help but question

some of my own thoughts and behaviors.

> >

> > One that is really troubling to me is that when I watch a movie(if I can

actually sit through one) it is like watching it for the first time, even if

I've seen it 3x before. Half way through the movie I'll see some tree or car or

other non-signifigant detail and realize that I've seen it before. I won't

remember the plot, actors, etc. This frustrates my husband to no end, but kinda

scares me.

> >

> > Just wondering if anyone here had any thoughts on this.

> >

> >

> >

>

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Try the old picture book. Take a picture of these people and put them in an album with their names on them. This will also give you quite time reading with your child as well as education . You will trigger his brain to focus too. Good luck! Hope to hear how it works.Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: Suzanne Markwood <suzmarkwood@...>Date: Thu, 3 Jun 2010 08:16:24 -0700 (PDT)< >Subject: Re: ( ) Re: Movies I definitely see the "face memory" issue with my son. And due to his Asperger's he will blurt out, "Who are you again?" to people he has met before. In one case, it was my uncle who n has met many times over the years, in fact we have stayed at my aunt and uncle's house overnight a few times when visiting. I always feel embarrassed when he does this. But we had a conversation one day that helped me realize that he really does see things differently. He was talking about the twins in his class, they are boy/girl twins and he said they look exactly alike, he can't tell them apart except one has longer hair (the girl.) I thought, wow they really don't look alike to me, just like brother and sister. I always thought his not remembering people was just an issue of not paying attention, but now I think he may have this problem of not being able to identify people by seeing their face. And I notice if we run into someone from school in a different setting, say the grocery store, he will never recognize them, even if they say "Hi n." I am trying to work with him on figuring out who someone is without asking, but I haven't had much luck yet. If anyone has any suggestions, that would be great.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Suzannesuzmarkwood From: Pamela <susanonderko >Subject: ( ) Re: Movies Date: Thursday, June 3, 2010, 7:50 AM Some people don't have a memory for faces our neuropyschologist said. My daughter does not have a memory for faces orplaces. She does remember things. She won't remember howto get home from some place but she remembers the church had a red door. She has visual spatial issues. And I guesswith social anxiety and Asperger's some kids don'tremember faces especially if there is more than one in the picture.I have no patience for most movies anymore like I use to when I was younger. A lot of the time when I watch a movie mymind is somewhere else. If you have any anxiety (I do)the mind tends to remember vividly negative eventsand objects and not remeber a lot of other things. Anxietycrowds out other thoughts and memories. Min my lately is hyperfocused on school accomodations and teaching my daughter social skills. take care,Pam >> Hi all,> My oldest son(8) has Aspergers and my 3yo daughter is being evaluated next week. I have a family history of autism on my side, so I can't help but question some of my own thoughts and behaviors.> > One that is really troubling to me is that when I watch a movie(if I can actually sit through one) it is like watching it for the first time, even if I've seen it 3x before. Half way through the movie I'll see some tree or car or other non-signifigant detail and realize that I've seen it before. I won't remember the plot, actors, etc. This frustrates my husband to no end, but kinda scares me.> > Just wondering if anyone here had any thoughts on this.>> >

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I was obsessed with movies as a kid. Then again, as I understand it, that kind of obsession is more common in girls with AS.

On 6/3/10 6:51 PM, " K " <kristalstamper@...> wrote:

okay my son would rather READ than watch a movie. I'm the exact same way. Or he would rather be DOING something!

however when he was younger, if it was something he really loved, he would watch that video over and over (but not regular tv or movies). We went thru a Brave Toaster phase cause he loves vacuums and Kirby was in all 3 movies.

Purrs & Kisses,

Kristal of Digi Kitty

The Kitty who loves Digi!

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From: dominique denardo <denardodominique@...>

Subject: ( ) Movies

Date: Thursday, June 3, 2010, 11:09 AM

My 5 year old son is being evaluated for Aspergers and my comment is that he HATES watching movies. He will not do it.

Is that common for Aspies? I can't figure it out.

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My husband who does not have Aspergers--is obsessed with movies. So are our two friends next door! They also do not have any diagnosis.

So I hear you--I think it's a visual thing too--that's what my friend next door said.She says I love learning anything thru a video or movie.

They even have curriculum on video now--I saw one that was awesome-teaching older students to use descriptive writing--so I say power to those videos if they help.

Purrs & Kisses,

Kristal of Digi Kitty

The Kitty who loves Digi!

Designer for the VDBC "More" Team - you can see my designs HERE!!!

From: dominique denardo <denardodominique>Subject: ( ) Movies Date: Thursday, June 3, 2010, 11:09 AM My 5 year old son is being evaluated for Aspergers and my comment is that he HATES watching movies. He will not do it.Is that common for Aspies? I can't figure it out.

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Are they really obsessed with it in the way I’m thinking? I think this is a semantic discussion. For me, when I was obsessed, it became my whole life. I saw it in everything around me. I can’t even explain it.

On 6/4/10 9:43 AM, " K " <kristalstamper@...> wrote:

My husband who does not have Aspergers--is obsessed with movies. So are our two friends next door! They also do not have any diagnosis.

So I hear you--I think it's a visual thing too--that's what my friend next door said.She says I love learning anything thru a video or movie.

They even have curriculum on video now--I saw one that was awesome-teaching older students to use descriptive writing--so I say power to those videos if they help.

Purrs & Kisses,

Kristal of Digi Kitty

The Kitty who loves Digi!

Designer for the VDBC " More " Team - you can see my designs HERE <http://www.visualdesignsbychris.com/store/manufacturers.php?manufacturerid=15> !!!

From: dominique denardo <denardodominique>

Subject: ( ) Movies

Date: Thursday, June 3, 2010, 11:09 AM

My 5 year old son is being evaluated for Aspergers and my comment is that he HATES watching movies. He will not do it.

Is that common for Aspies? I can't figure it out.

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No I guess they aren't obsessed with excep their son--he 'becomes' whatever character they watched. They just watch several movies a day--to me that is WOW. I can't imagine watching 3 or 4 movies a night.

Purrs & Kisses,

Kristal of Digi Kitty

The Kitty who loves Digi!

Designer for the VDBC "More" Team - you can see my designs HERE!!!

From: dominique denardo <denardodominique>Subject: ( ) Movies Date: Thursday, June 3, 2010, 11:09 AM My 5 year old son is being evaluated for Aspergers and my comment is that he HATES watching movies. He will not do it.Is that common for Aspies? I can't figure it out.

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Sounds more like a problems with attention (ADD or ADHD?) If you don't focus, you won't remember. Also, short term memory might be a problem (due to the ADHD or just because that's not your best area). What caught my interest was you saying "if I can actually sit through one." My younger ds with HFA is that way and he's always been ADHD as well. He can't stand sitting still for too long unless it is something he is intensely interested in.

If it is a problem, you might see a doctor for attention difficulties because there are some meds out there that might help. We had never considered it a huge problem in comparison to the other problems our ds had. But recently, we did try some ADHD meds and it was very amazing. I walked into a room and my ds was sitting there, not moving and watching a tv show. He'd never done that. I made sure he was breathing (ha) and realized that we might have done him a disservice by not addressing his attention needs all those years. But at any rate, it does help him focus a lot.

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

( ) Movies

Hi all,

My oldest son(8) has Aspergers and my 3yo daughter is being evaluated next week. I have a family history of autism on my side, so I can't help but question some of my own thoughts and behaviors.

One that is really troubling to me is that when I watch a movie(if I can actually sit through one) it is like watching it for the first time, even if I've seen it 3x before. Half way through the movie I'll see some tree or car or other non-signifigant detail and realize that I've seen it before. I won't remember the plot, actors, etc. This frustrates my husband to no end, but kinda scares me.

Just wondering if anyone here had any thoughts on this.