Re: Did I handle this well?

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I think you did the right thing, I think the school over-reacted. But he does have to understand he can't touch girls at school that way, and this will help make sure he remembers that. I would talk to the principal or whoever issued the suspension to explain he didn't know what he was doing, he didn't mean to make the girl feel uncomfortable. Maybe his suspension could be lessened.

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From: Idelice A. Haack <haackia@...>Subject: ( ) Did I handle this well? Date: Thursday, May 20, 2010, 9:12 AM

Hi

I need advise. Yesterday, my 12 yr old son got in trouble at school. Supposely he touched a girl on the leg and said "you have smooth legs". The kids and teacher all said that he did it. He says that it was a narrow isle to sit down and that he accidentally touched her on her tigh. He was besides himself since he got 3 days of ISS. School will end next week. He was crying and all crazy when my husband picked him up. "Why this things happen to him? People laugh at him all the time because he is so clumsy". I was at work and he call me because my son needed to talk to me about it. I don't like to issue punishment until I am face to face with him and we talk about the issue.

So, I told him no friends over for playing and will talk about it when I got home. So, he did. He was not happy, but when his friend came over, he told him he cannot play.

When I got home, we talked and I asked questions to see his reaction. To see if he was lying or not. So, I decided he told me the his truth. He was so sad this morning going to school and did not want to talk. I told him to just be quiet and take his punishment.

Is it a bad that I did't make a big deal about it and punish him longer? I really don't think that he will say something like that to a girl. He is so shy about girl stuff.

What do you think?

Ide

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I think that talking to him about it and making sure he understood that saying that was inappropriate would be fine.

As far as the school......does he have an official dx and an IEP? I do NOT think it was okay for ISS over this. What he did was tell the truth...........and b/c of his ASD, he is blunt and, yep, inappropriate. If I were you, I'd go in and talk to the SPED teacher adn get some backing to have the ISS removed.

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From: Idelice A. Haack <haackia (DOT) com>Subject: ( ) Did I handle this well? Date: Thursday, May 20, 2010, 9:12 AM

Hi

I need advise. Yesterday, my 12 yr old son got in trouble at school. Supposely he touched a girl on the leg and said "you have smooth legs". The kids and teacher all said that he did it. He says that it was a narrow isle to sit down and that he accidentally touched her on her tigh. He was besides himself since he got 3 days of ISS. School will end next week. He was crying and all crazy when my husband picked him up. "Why this things happen to him? People laugh at him all the time because he is so clumsy". I was at work and he call me because my son needed to talk to me about it. I don't like to issue punishment until I am face to face with him and we talk about the issue.

So, I told him no friends over for playing and will talk about it when I got home. So, he did. He was not happy, but when his friend came over, he told him he cannot play.

When I got home, we talked and I asked questions to see his reaction. To see if he was lying or not. So, I decided he told me the his truth. He was so sad this morning going to school and did not want to talk. I told him to just be quiet and take his punishment.

Is it a bad that I did't make a big deal about it and punish him longer? I really don't think that he will say something like that to a girl. He is so shy about girl stuff.

What do you think?

Ide

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Her legs probably were smooth when they brushed up against him. That was probably a shock to him at the minute, and he blurted out his surprise. He certainly didn't sexually harass her..give me a break.

He should have been warned and counseled slightly--like we dont' make remarks over someone's legs in public, we keep our thoughts to ourselves, etc.

He has Aspergers--he is going to be blunt, as it is in his makeup.

Just continue to talk to him about social comments, he will eventually learn to cope better with social comments and issues.

I taught public school for 9 years, and this is so not a big deal--especialy not to warrant In School Suspension, over a comment. I've heard comments middle schoolers make, and this was child-like compared to the sexual comments I heard from average kids.

When you contact the school, don't be defensive, just ask , due to his condition--could he have this removed. I don't think they can suspend him over a behavior that is in his IEP-part of his disability (they call it)

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From: Idelice A. Haack <haackia (DOT) com>Subject: ( ) Did I handle this well? Date: Thursday, May 20, 2010, 9:12 AM

Hi

I need advise. Yesterday, my 12 yr old son got in trouble at school. Supposely he touched a girl on the leg and said "you have smooth legs". The kids and teacher all said that he did it. He says that it was a narrow isle to sit down and that he accidentally touched her on her tigh. He was besides himself since he got 3 days of ISS. School will end next week. He was crying and all crazy when my husband picked him up. "Why this things happen to him? People laugh at him all the time because he is so clumsy". I was at work and he call me because my son needed to talk to me about it. I don't like to issue punishment until I am face to face with him and we talk about the issue.

So, I told him no friends over for playing and will talk about it when I got home. So, he did. He was not happy, but when his friend came over, he told him he cannot play.

When I got home, we talked and I asked questions to see his reaction. To see if he was lying or not. So, I decided he told me the his truth. He was so sad this morning going to school and did not want to talk. I told him to just be quiet and take his punishment.

Is it a bad that I did't make a big deal about it and punish him longer? I really don't think that he will say something like that to a girl. He is so shy about girl stuff.

What do you think?

Ide