Guest guest Posted February 19, 2011 Report Share Posted February 19, 2011 I have been having a horrible time with the same thing - every response is rude or in 'the voice' thus appears rude even when it isn't meant (so my partner keeps telling me!). I am frustrated by consistent apologies - in terms of she knows to say sorry and if I say how come she says for making you upset. I consistently respond thanks etc and explain that I would like her to think about why i am upset - i.e., rudeness and / or defience... How can I teach this??!!... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 I get so sick of hearing " sorry " because I know 95% of the time my ds doesn't really mean it and is only saying it because it is a learned response. He will blatantly break a rule or say something he knows others find offensive and then turn around and say sorry. Since he doesn't seem to be capable of remorse apologizing is an empty gesture. It makes me sad, because I am sure that he WANTS to be sincere when he says sorry, but it's not possible for him. > > I have been having a horrible time with the same thing - every response > is rude or in 'the voice' thus appears rude even when it isn't meant (so > my partner keeps telling me!). > > I am frustrated by consistent apologies - in terms of she knows to say > sorry and if I say how come she says for making you upset. I consistently > respond thanks etc and explain that I would like her to think about > why i am upset - i.e., rudeness and / or defience... > > How can I teach this??!!... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 I agree....correct repeatedly. My son is 9 and I do feel he gets it some now. He will even point out when others are rude. I will often say, " would you like to reword that " . This gives him the chance to self correct. Another thing I had him do was ask if he can change the.subject...I wonder what others must think when they here that, lolB. We still have a long way to go, but it is possible. Don't give up.....I often feel worn out from repeating these things constantly when other children needed this when they were 2 & 3!!! > > > > > > > I have been having a horrible time with the same thing - every response > > is rude or in 'the voice' thus appears rude even when it isn't meant (so > > my partner keeps telling me!). > > > > I am frustrated by consistent apologies - in terms of she knows to say > > sorry and if I say how come she says for making you upset. I consistently > > respond thanks etc and explain that I would like her to think about > > why i am upset - i.e., rudeness and / or defience... > > > > How can I teach this??!!... > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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