Re: Suggestions for adding a baby?

[Guest guest]

Hi. I have 4 boys, one is Aspie. My Aspie son is also good with babies. They

love him and naturally gravitate to him. My best suggestion is to give him his

own space to retreat to. Somewhere he can decompress. Also, and just as

important, let him know ASAP as much information as you can about the adoption.

Don't let anything come as a surprise. Good Luck to you!

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> My Aspie is 6.5 and we'll be adopting an 8 month old baby in a few

weeks...yeah! Curious if anyone has suggestions you could recommend for helping

him adjust to a new little one. He LOVES babies and is quite good with them.

Even still, I know it'll be a big adjustment and would love to hear anything

you've found helpful. Thanks!

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> www.cuddlebugkids.com

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[Guest guest]

, My aspie will be 6 soon and our new baby was born late April. He too loves babies. I used a baby doll to model some things like how to touch a baby or what not to do (also showed how diapers work). Made it a point to say something every day or every couple days about the baby or what babies do/change about life. We addressed crying and I even played him sounds of babies crying. As I would cook or get food at a grocery store, I would ask "what foods can a baby have?" There was only one right answer: "only mamas give baby food". I did not want him thinking it was ok to give the baby a cheerio or something at 4 months old and him choking. We practiced with the doll, him asking to hold baby or asking to give the baby his bottle. Have you said anything earlier than this that

there 'might' be a new baby coming? Or is this a total surprise? I know the more warnings the aspies get, the better they deal! lol. We've had one accident where my aspie picked up the baby thinking he could be a 'big helper' and he dropped him. Thankfully, not far and on the carpet. That left them both shaken and my aspie has never tried or asked to hold the baby again since. Otherwise, it's been very smooth easy transition with the aspie actually improving in some of his social skills!! It's been a wonderful blessing in many ways. I really hope your new baby is healthy and happy and your aspie transitions as smoothly! Congratulations!! How exciting and wonderful! From:

pennaboy2001 <kenmaria1@...>Subject: ( ) Suggestions for adding a baby? Date: Friday, November 6, 2009, 9:28 PM

My Aspie is 6.5 and we'll be adopting an 8 month old baby in a few weeks...yeah! Curious if anyone has suggestions you could recommend for helping him adjust to a new little one. He LOVES babies and is quite good with them. Even still, I know it'll be a big adjustment and would love to hear anything you've found helpful. Thanks!

www.cuddlebugkids. com

[Guest guest]

Congrats!!!!!!

I guess I'd just say that you should enjoy and know that it'll be fine..

My son has always loved kids and babies. It's never been an issue.

It probably won't be with your son, either.

It's just a matter of new sibling.

Keep him involved and let him know that you need his help.....as the big guy!!!How exciting and wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Robin

From: pennaboy2001 <kenmaria1@...>Subject: ( ) Suggestions for adding a baby? Date: Friday, November 6, 2009, 8:28 PM

My Aspie is 6.5 and we'll be adopting an 8 month old baby in a few weeks...yeah! Curious if anyone has suggestions you could recommend for helping him adjust to a new little one. He LOVES babies and is quite good with them. Even still, I know it'll be a big adjustment and would love to hear anything you've found helpful. Thanks!www.cuddlebugkids. com

[Guest guest]

I'm watching your replies with interest, my Aspie son is also 6 1/2yrs old and I'm about 3 months pregnant, he also loves babies, but it will be a big change for him, he is still babied, and is very much an only child, he still likes being wrapped up in a towel after a bath and carried downstairs, we play all the games he wants to play etc.

So any hints on easing th transition are very welcome.

Lor B

From: pennaboy2001 <kenmaria1@...>Subject: ( ) Suggestions for adding a baby? Date: Saturday, 7 November, 2009, 2:28

My Aspie is 6.5 and we'll be adopting an 8 month old baby in a few weeks...yeah! Curious if anyone has suggestions you could recommend for helping him adjust to a new little one. He LOVES babies and is quite good with them. Even still, I know it'll be a big adjustment and would love to hear anything you've found helpful. Thanks!www.cuddlebugkids. com

[Guest guest]

The best thing I did was buy a wrap/sling/pack for the baby. There are times when you cannot put the baby down and you cannot let your aspie go. That sling will save you. I am a single mother 1/2 the year and with a 3 month old and an aspie, I was not about to frazzle my nerves further with either a screaming newborn or a screaming aspie! LOL. It worked out. we do bath towel wraps too. baby is tied to me, I have my arms around DS. If you have family nearby or can afford a teen/sitter to come in once or twice a week in the evenings that might be just what you need to spend some quality quiet time just before bed. This is what I did. I went grocery shopping alone. then came home and read/played with dh while sitter had baby. Hope this helps a bit. I've been living all this so recently I do

hope some of my experiences can help out others in similar situations. -Connie

From: pennaboy2001 <kenmaria1netzero (DOT) net>Subject: ( ) Suggestions for adding a baby? Date: Saturday, 7 November, 2009, 2:28

My Aspie is 6.5 and we'll be adopting an 8 month old baby in a few weeks...yeah! Curious if anyone has suggestions you could recommend for helping him adjust to a new little one. He LOVES babies and is quite good with them. Even still, I know it'll be a big adjustment and would love to hear anything you've found helpful. Thanks!www.cuddlebugkids. com

[Guest guest]

Thanks, will look into getting a sling, the baby always look content in them.

From: pennaboy2001 <kenmaria1netzero (DOT) net>Subject: ( ) Suggestions for adding a baby? Date: Saturday, 7 November, 2009, 2:28

My Aspie is 6.5 and we'll be adopting an 8 month old baby in a few weeks...yeah! Curious if anyone has suggestions you could recommend for helping him adjust to a new little one. He LOVES babies and is quite good with them. Even still, I know it'll be a big adjustment and would love to hear anything you've found helpful. Thanks!www.cuddlebugkids. com