Guest guest Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Congrats to your son and Marissa! That is wonderful. Suzanne (in Mi)Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: "carolyn" <crlyn_whittaker@...>Sender: Date: Thu, 03 Mar 2011 07:45:30 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Got Engaged Hi EveryoneMy son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend.We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that side of her out.I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are both aware of all the facts.Does anyone else have trouble with their child being loving ?Carolyn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 That is fantastic news, which gives me hope for my son, he does exactly the same thing when I try to get a hug from him....goes rigid and refuses to hug back, he will cuddle up to me while watching the tv or something subtle but he wont let me just give him a hug....HayleyFrom: "carolyn" <crlyn_whittaker@...> Sender: Date: Thu, 03 Mar 2011 07:45:30 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Got Engaged Hi Everyone My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend. We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that side of her out. I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are both aware of all the facts. Does anyone else have trouble with their child being loving ? Carolyn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Carolyn, That is wonderful news! Congradulations to your son and Marissa. I wish them all the best. They are very lucky to have you so proactive in learning about Aspergers. Any children they descide to have in the future will be so much better off for it. I wish my extended family would take such an interest in understanding AS. All most of my family wants to do is pass judgement on something of which they know nothing about. It is very isolating at times. Good on you for what you're doing! On the question of my child being loving...I have the same problem. I have to ask my son if I can have a hug and sometimes he will say yes and sometimes no. When he does hug it is often with one arm kinda from the side and very brief. Every great now and then he gets in a " mood " and will give me a real hug and then those tend to be crushing and he won't let go until I say OK. It's like he over does it and squeezes too hard. Oh well, I take what I can get. ne > From: carolyn <crlyn_whittaker@...> > Subject: ( ) Got Engaged > > Date: Thursday, March 3, 2011, 2:45 AM > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Â > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone > > > > My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend. > > We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me > that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers > is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you > go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can > see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son > has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that > side of her out. > > I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, > and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding > to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are > both aware of all the facts. > > Does anyone else have trouble with their child being > loving ? > > > > Carolyn x > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 You know, my little girl is exactly the opposite, too loving, with too much force and sometimes too often. She loves to touch people on the face and hair. This is an individual child's reaction to touch, it has to do with sensory and whether they are hyposensitive or hypersensitive. My little girl is hyposensitive and craves touch. Problem is that I am hypersensitive and would do anything not to be touched But I am overcoming my problems in order to support my daughter. Good job for being so proactive for your future daughter in law. Carolyn From: susanne hansen <s_hansen34@...> Sent: Thu, March 3, 2011 10:15:22 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged Carolyn,That is wonderful news! Congradulations to your son and Marissa. I wish them all the best. They are very lucky to have you so proactive in learning about Aspergers. Any children they descide to have in the future will be so much better off for it. I wish my extended family would take such an interest in understanding AS. All most of my family wants to do is pass judgement on something of which they know nothing about. It is very isolating at times. Good on you for what you're doing! On the question of my child being loving...I have the same problem. I have to ask my son if I can have a hug and sometimes he will say yes and sometimes no. When he does hug it is often with one arm kinda from the side and very brief. Every great now and then he gets in a "mood" and will give me a real hug and then those tend to be crushing and he won't let go until I say OK. It's like he over does it and squeezes too hard. Oh well, I take what I can get. :)ne> From: carolyn <crlyn_whittaker@...>> Subject: ( ) Got Engaged> > Date: Thursday, March 3, 2011, 2:45 AM> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone> > > > My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend.> > We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me> that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers> is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you> go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can> see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son> has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that> side of her out.> > I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic,> and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding> to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are> both aware of all the facts.> > Does anyone else have trouble with their child being> loving ?> > > > Carolyn x> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Yep, we have the too loving issue. She will hug checkout clerks at stores Congrats to your son On 3/3/11, Carolyn Weisbard <ccweisbard@...> wrote: > You know, my little girl is exactly the opposite, too loving, with too much > force and sometimes too often. She loves to touch people on the face and > hair. > This is an individual child's reaction to touch, it has to do with sensory > and > whether they are hyposensitive or hypersensitive. My little girl is > hyposensitive and craves touch. Problem is that I am hypersensitive and > would > do anything not to be touched But I am overcoming my problems in order > to > support my daughter. Good job for being so proactive for your future > daughter > in law. > Carolyn > > > > > ________________________________ > From: susanne hansen <s_hansen34@...> > > Sent: Thu, March 3, 2011 10:15:22 AM > Subject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged > > > Carolyn, > That is wonderful news! Congradulations to your son and Marissa. I wish them > all > the best. They are very lucky to have you so proactive in learning about > Aspergers. Any children they descide to have in the future will be so much > better off for it. I wish my extended family would take such an interest in > understanding AS. All most of my family wants to do is pass judgement on > something of which they know nothing about. It is very isolating at times. > > Good on you for what you're doing! > On the question of my child being loving...I have the same problem. I have > to > ask my son if I can have a hug and sometimes he will say yes and sometimes > no. > When he does hug it is often with one arm kinda from the side and very > brief. > Every great now and then he gets in a " mood " and will give me a real hug and > then those tend to be crushing and he won't let go until I say OK. It's like > he > over does it and squeezes too hard. Oh well, I take what I can get. > > ne > > > >> From: carolyn <crlyn_whittaker@...> >> Subject: ( ) Got Engaged >> >> Date: Thursday, March 3, 2011, 2:45 AM >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> Hi Everyone >> >> >> >> My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend. >> >> We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me >> that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers >> is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you >> go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can >> see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son >> has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that >> side of her out. >> >> I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, >> and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding >> to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are >> both aware of all the facts. >> >> Does anyone else have trouble with their child being >> loving ? >> >> >> >> Carolyn x >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > > > > > > -- Sent from my mobile device -mom to a boy and his 5 sisters http://thatmomof6.blogspot.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Hi CarolynThank you, Marissa is a lovely girl, and none of us are perfect, and her having Aspergers, makes her what she is, she deals with it very well esp here at our house, they do play fight and they do get carried away sometimes, and I worry one of them will get hurt, as our is a big lad and frightened he doesn't know his own strength, but Marissa is a boxer so she can handle herself, but I do step in on the odd occasion, and tell them to stop.I hope you will sort out your problem, as their is nothing nicer than hugs and kisses from a child, but I must agree I don't like being touched and hugged and kissed from Adults, I never have, I think it has something to do with when I was a child, i was always made to kiss my elders when they arrived or leaving the house, and I just don't like it, I would rather hide than do it lol. CarolynFrom: Carolyn Weisbard <ccweisbard@...> Sent: Thu, 3 March, 2011 16:36:40Subject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged You know, my little girl is exactly the opposite, too loving, with too much force and sometimes too often. She loves to touch people on the face and hair. This is an individual child's reaction to touch, it has to do with sensory and whether they are hyposensitive or hypersensitive. My little girl is hyposensitive and craves touch. Problem is that I am hypersensitive and would do anything not to be touched But I am overcoming my problems in order to support my daughter. Good job for being so proactive for your future daughter in law. Carolyn From: susanne hansen <s_hansen34@...> Sent: Thu, March 3, 2011 10:15:22 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged Carolyn,That is wonderful news! Congradulations to your son and Marissa. I wish them all the best. They are very lucky to have you so proactive in learning about Aspergers. Any children they descide to have in the future will be so much better off for it. I wish my extended family would take such an interest in understanding AS. All most of my family wants to do is pass judgement on something of which they know nothing about. It is very isolating at times. Good on you for what you're doing! On the question of my child being loving...I have the same problem. I have to ask my son if I can have a hug and sometimes he will say yes and sometimes no. When he does hug it is often with one arm kinda from the side and very brief. Every great now and then he gets in a "mood" and will give me a real hug and then those tend to be crushing and he won't let go until I say OK. It's like he over does it and squeezes too hard. Oh well, I take what I can get. :)ne> From: carolyn <crlyn_whittaker@...>> Subject: ( ) Got Engaged> > Date: Thursday, March 3, 2011, 2:45 AM> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone> > > > My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend.> > We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me> that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers> is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you> go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can> see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son> has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that> side of her out.> > I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic,> and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding> to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are> both aware of all the facts.> > Does anyone else have trouble with their child being> loving ?> > > > Carolyn x> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2011 Report Share Posted March 3, 2011 Thank you Suzanne. CarolynFrom: "suzmarkwood@..." <suzmarkwood@...> Sent: Thu, 3 March, 2011 12:43:54Subject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged Congrats to your son and Marissa! That is wonderful. Suzanne (in Mi)Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: "carolyn" <crlyn_whittaker@...> Sender: Date: Thu, 03 Mar 2011 07:45:30 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Got Engaged Hi Everyone My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend. We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that side of her out. I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are both aware of all the facts. Does anyone else have trouble with their child being loving ? Carolyn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 Thank you I suppose this was cute and funny when your child was younger, but as they get older it isn't as funny, people get all anxious if some strangers child comes up to them and just starts to hug them.They don't know the situation, and I bet you feel your having to always explain about your child and why they have just suddenly grabbed this person in a bear hug, when you would rather just do your shopping and go home.Marissa is a very well mannered shy kind of Girl, but she is slowly coming out of her shell here, at her house she is full of confidence, which you would expect as it is her own home.I think her mum was worried at how she was behaving at our house, but I have assured her she is a pleasure to have here.CarolynFrom: Durocher <funwith4@...> Sent: Thu, 3 March, 2011 16:51:20Subject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged Yep, we have the too loving issue. She will hug checkout clerks at stores Congrats to your son On 3/3/11, Carolyn Weisbard <ccweisbard@...> wrote: > You know, my little girl is exactly the opposite, too loving, with too much > force and sometimes too often. She loves to touch people on the face and > hair. > This is an individual child's reaction to touch, it has to do with sensory > and > whether they are hyposensitive or hypersensitive. My little girl is > hyposensitive and craves touch. Problem is that I am hypersensitive and > would > do anything not to be touched But I am overcoming my problems in order > to > support my daughter. Good job for being so proactive for your future > daughter > in law. > Carolyn > > > > > ________________________________ > From: susanne hansen <s_hansen34@...> > > Sent: Thu, March 3, 2011 10:15:22 AM > Subject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged > > > Carolyn, > That is wonderful news! Congradulations to your son and Marissa. I wish them > all > the best. They are very lucky to have you so proactive in learning about > Aspergers. Any children they descide to have in the future will be so much > better off for it. I wish my extended family would take such an interest in > understanding AS. All most of my family wants to do is pass judgement on > something of which they know nothing about. It is very isolating at times. > > Good on you for what you're doing! > On the question of my child being loving...I have the same problem. I have > to > ask my son if I can have a hug and sometimes he will say yes and sometimes > no. > When he does hug it is often with one arm kinda from the side and very > brief. > Every great now and then he gets in a "mood" and will give me a real hug and > then those tend to be crushing and he won't let go until I say OK. It's like > he > over does it and squeezes too hard. Oh well, I take what I can get. > > ne > > > >> From: carolyn <crlyn_whittaker@...> >> Subject: ( ) Got Engaged >> >> Date: Thursday, March 3, 2011, 2:45 AM >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> Hi Everyone >> >> >> >> My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend. >> >> We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me >> that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers >> is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you >> go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can >> see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son >> has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that >> side of her out. >> >> I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, >> and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding >> to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are >> both aware of all the facts. >> >> Does anyone else have trouble with their child being >> loving ? >> >> >> >> Carolyn x >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > > > > > > -- Sent from my mobile device -mom to a boy and his 5 sisters http://thatmomof6.blogspot.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 Hi HayleyYes there is certainly some hope there for you. and thank you for your nice words CarolynFrom: Hayley Wild <apatchicat@...> Sent: Thu, 3 March, 2011 13:57:41Subject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged That is fantastic news, which gives me hope for my son, he does exactly the same thing when I try to get a hug from him....goes rigid and refuses to hug back, he will cuddle up to me while watching the tv or something subtle but he wont let me just give him a hug....HayleyFrom: "carolyn" <crlyn_whittaker@...> Sender: Date: Thu, 03 Mar 2011 07:45:30 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Got Engaged Hi Everyone My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend. We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that side of her out. I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are both aware of all the facts. Does anyone else have trouble with their child being loving ? Carolyn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2011 Report Share Posted March 11, 2011 My son is the same. He does not like to be hugged. Sometimes I can get him to cuddle up next to me at night when watching a movie. Where I really struggle is when people talk to him or try to be light hearted and joke with him he gives them this look like he is trying to catch them on fire with his eyes. He really is sweet but people get the wrong impression of him. It is really embarrassing. We have a hard time with meds because he had a phobia of taking pills. The only thing we can do is use the daytrana patch. He only wears it for school and refuses to wear it any other time. It has been a real power struggle with him. Any one have any other ideas on what to try. I'm feel like I am ready to lose it most days.Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----From: " carolyn whittaker " <crlyn_whittaker@...>< >Subject: ( ) Got EngagedDate: Sat, Mar 5, 2011 7:05 am Hi HayleyYes there is certainly some hope there for you. and thank you for your nice words CarolynFrom: Hayley Wild <apatchicat@...> Sent: Thu, 3 March, 2011 13:57:41Subject: Re: ( ) Got Engaged That is fantastic news, which gives me hope for my son, he does exactly the same thing when I try to get a hug from him....goes rigid and refuses to hug back, he will cuddle up to me while watching the tv or something subtle but he wont let me just give him a hug....HayleyFrom: "carolyn" <crlyn_whittaker@...> Sender: Date: Thu, 03 Mar 2011 07:45:30 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Got Engaged Hi Everyone My son and Marissa, got engaged at the weekend. We are all pleased for them both. I know her Mum told me that one of Marissa's side affects of having Aspergers is, that she won't hug you, she kind of tenses up if you go to hug her, but with my Son she is so loving and you can see it in her eyes, and they are always cuddling, so my Son has certainly had a good affect on her, and brought that side of her out. I know when I asked on her about Aspergers being Genetic, and told it is, I think once they are married and deciding to have a baby we will seek advice, just so that they are both aware of all the facts. Does anyone else have trouble with their child being loving ? Carolyn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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