Re: Son putting his hands down his pants

[Guest guest]

Dear :

It sounds like you are doing all of the things you need to do. I would say that talking about his body parts is not gross. It is no more gross than having your husband buying you tampons when he goes to the supermarket for milk and two pounds of ground beef. Your son's touching and irratation is probably of the same order of a thirteen year old girl's irratation with wearing a braw.

T.

( ) Son putting his hands down his pants

My son is 5 and last few weeks we've noticed him putting his hands on or in his pants more and more. Obviously this isn't going to help him with his social skills too much, so I wanted to find out if anyone else has dealt with this issue. Sometimes he puts his hand down the front of his pants. He tells me that his thingy is sticking to his balls (sorry for the graphic description) and he needs to unstick it. He says this mainly happens in the afternoon. I'm guessing he gets sweaty. I've ordered some boxer shorts at my husband's suggestion to see if they will be cooler and so help with the problem.Other times he puts his hands more generally down his pants, and tells me he's scratching. He does have mild eczema on the tops of his legs which is aggravated in the winter. And then sometimes he puts his hand on his crotch on the outside of his pants. Not sure what the reason for that is.He's been potty trained for over 2 years, so we're well past the "oh look, no diaper" phase. Anyway, if you're not completely grossed out at this point and have some thoughts, let me know. I'm thinking maybe I should get him tested for sensory stuff - maybe he's super-aware of being sweaty, much more than a normal boy.

[Guest guest]

Ugh, we went thru this phase too when my son was @ age 5 or 6. We worked on it

by telling him that touching his groin area is only done in private such as in

the bathroom or in his bedroom. We also had him start using anti-itch soap

(oatmeal based) in his groin area when he took his bath. And he would put powder

on to help absorb any sweatiness before he dressed each day. Wearing loose

fitting undies helped as well.

Caroline

>

> My son is 5 and last few weeks we've noticed him putting his hands on or in

his pants more and more. Obviously this isn't going to help him with his social

skills too much, so I wanted to find out if anyone else has dealt with this

issue.

>

> Sometimes he puts his hand down the front of his pants. He tells me that his

thingy is sticking to his balls (sorry for the graphic description) and he needs

to unstick it. He says this mainly happens in the afternoon. I'm guessing he

gets sweaty. I've ordered some boxer shorts at my husband's suggestion to see if

they will be cooler and so help with the problem.

>

> Other times he puts his hands more generally down his pants, and tells me he's

scratching. He does have mild eczema on the tops of his legs which is aggravated

in the winter.

>

> And then sometimes he puts his hand on his crotch on the outside of his pants.

Not sure what the reason for that is.

>

> He's been potty trained for over 2 years, so we're well past the " oh look, no

diaper " phase.

>

> Anyway, if you're not completely grossed out at this point and have some

thoughts, let me know. I'm thinking maybe I should get him tested for sensory

stuff - maybe he's super-aware of being sweaty, much more than a normal boy.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

OH MY GOSH.... im going through this same exact thing , my son is almost 5 and he does it constantly , i didnt know if it is just a boy thing or not ? He doesnt seem to be like itching tho, its more just ...i dont even know lol he will be just talking to me and start doing it , i dont even think he realizes he does it half the time! Crazy how we are going through the same issue at the same time! I am gonna try the bath thing that caroline suggested and the baby powder!! hope this helps him!! MeaghanFrom: Catcelia <c2cats@...> Sent: Mon, January 31, 2011 11:07:28 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Son putting his hands down his pants

Ugh, we went thru this phase too when my son was @ age 5 or 6. We worked on it by telling him that touching his groin area is only done in private such as in the bathroom or in his bedroom. We also had him start using anti-itch soap (oatmeal based) in his groin area when he took his bath. And he would put powder on to help absorb any sweatiness before he dressed each day. Wearing loose fitting undies helped as well.

Caroline

>

> My son is 5 and last few weeks we've noticed him putting his hands on or in his pants more and more. Obviously this isn't going to help him with his social skills too much, so I wanted to find out if anyone else has dealt with this issue.

>

> Sometimes he puts his hand down the front of his pants. He tells me that his thingy is sticking to his balls (sorry for the graphic description) and he needs to unstick it. He says this mainly happens in the afternoon. I'm guessing he gets sweaty. I've ordered some boxer shorts at my husband's suggestion to see if they will be cooler and so help with the problem.

>

> Other times he puts his hands more generally down his pants, and tells me he's scratching. He does have mild eczema on the tops of his legs which is aggravated in the winter.

>

> And then sometimes he puts his hand on his crotch on the outside of his pants. Not sure what the reason for that is.

>

> He's been potty trained for over 2 years, so we're well past the "oh look, no diaper" phase.

>

> Anyway, if you're not completely grossed out at this point and have some thoughts, let me know. I'm thinking maybe I should get him tested for sensory stuff - maybe he's super-aware of being sweaty, much more than a normal boy.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

My son sort of has the same problem. He doesn't really put his hands in his

pants but over his pants in that area. He is constantly grabbing himself or

adjusting that area. We have talked about it and when I remind him to stop, he

just says oh like he didn't even realize he was doing it and he will stop. I

just ask " do you need to go potty? " he usually says no, and I say, " Well you

don't need to be touching down there then. " I just say it nice and matter of

factly and he stops. Now my son is 7 and homeschooled so we haven't had major

issues with it yet, but I am hoping if I keep reminding him, he will become more

aware of what he is doing and what is appropriate.

[Guest guest]

Your post actually made me laugh out loud...thanks! I needed that. Your son reminds me of mine.

My son was like this too (actually still does it). He never wore underwear once he was potty trained, finally at 3 1/2. We tried to get him to wear them and even bought the ones with the characters he liked. When we tried to make him wear them he would pick at his crotch all the time and his butt. We would get onto him and tell him to stop. He said the underwear made him have a "wedgie". He would squirm when sitting down and pull at his pants all the time. Finally I let him stop wearing them and it was SO much better. He hasn't worn them since until just in the last six months. Now he'll wear only boxer briefs.

My Mom took him to the dr for me one time when he was about 7, when my husband was deployed. She insisted that he had to wear underwear if she was going to take him. I said ok....but I wouldn't advice it. Well when I came home from work she said she was never going to make him wear them again. Apparently he wouldn't stop pulling at his crotch and butt the whole time while riding the bus to the dr and back. (we lived in Germany at the time). He kept saying he had a wedgie. She said she was SO embarrassed. I told her not to make him wear them. LOL! Well I thought it was pretty funny since she always seemed to think you could make a child do anything. LOL! Anyway....

I've also buy Gold Bond powder for him now which helps him. He still is real sensitive in that area. Always pulling at his pants or putting his hands down his pants to adjust his boxers that he wears now. For him it has always been a sensory issue. He also didn't like denim. We stopped buying him jeans when he was about 6 or 7 and he wore only those Nike sweatpants with the cotton liner for years. It's only been in the last year that he started slowly wearing jeans and cargo pants again.

Maybe your son is experiencing the same thing. You might try not making him wear underwear at all. That's if he's willing. Or ask him if his clothes are uncomfortable. Just sharing my experience in case it might help.

Good luck! ne

From: W <jennywatson@...>Subject: ( ) Son putting his hands down his pants Date: Sunday, January 30, 2011, 11:29 PM

My son is 5 and last few weeks we've noticed him putting his hands on or in his pants more and more. Obviously this isn't going to help him with his social skills too much, so I wanted to find out if anyone else has dealt with this issue. Sometimes he puts his hand down the front of his pants. He tells me that his thingy is sticking to his balls (sorry for the graphic description) and he needs to unstick it. He says this mainly happens in the afternoon. I'm guessing he gets sweaty. I've ordered some boxer shorts at my husband's suggestion to see if they will be cooler and so help with the problem.Other times he puts his hands more generally down his pants, and tells me he's scratching. He does have mild eczema on the tops of his legs which is aggravated in the winter. And then sometimes he puts his hand on his crotch on the outside of his pants. Not sure what the reason for that is.He's been potty trained for over 2

years, so we're well past the "oh look, no diaper" phase. Anyway, if you're not completely grossed out at this point and have some thoughts, let me know. I'm thinking maybe I should get him tested for sensory stuff - maybe he's super-aware of being sweaty, much more than a normal boy.