Re: An talkative post on incessant talking

[Guest guest]

I know exactly what you are trying to say. My daughter is 19 now and has not stopped talking since she learned how to talk. She doesn't care if anyone is listening or not she just talks. My husband gets so upset when he is trying to talk and she won't let him. I don't have a clue as to how to stop or slow it down. I wish I Did. ( ) An talkative post on incessant talking

My daughter is turning 14 and she is still incessantly talking. She never stops. It is so rare that we have a space of time that she just stops talking and relaxes and breathes and lets everything around her just soak into her. When we try to say anything, she nods vigorously and says, "Okay, okay, okay.." WHILE we are trying to speak! It's maddening, because we can't say anything to HER without her cutting us off! We've told her so many times that she is interrupting(since she was little) and to wait until we are done. We've explained that it is rude to keep interrupting. She completely understands and is very intelligent and high functioning, but can't resist her impulse to talk. She bugs other people because talking is so irresistable to her, that even when she wants to be polite and have others not get upset with her, she just has to jump in and add her two cents. Eventually people get tired of her. Of course, at first, they are awed by her seeming "confidence" and ability to speak so well and loud.. but over time, they realize "something is up.." and back away. Of course my daughter feels bad and knows why, but STILL won't stop. I worry, because my mom was/is the same way and always knew what she was doing wasn't good, but was never able to stop. Just finally went into depression, saying she was sorry all the time, drugging herself with meds and locking herself in her room all day, spending life in bed, because she has learned that she bugs people so much with her talking.I don't know that there is an answer. I just want to say that if anyone else has a child who never shuts up.... you aren't alone.I have to keep my earplugs on hand all the time because I have times where I get so upset for want of saying something without being interrupted that I feel violent.. which scares me. It's like something in me is saying, "I swear.. if I get interrupted ONE MORE TIME!!!" Not to mention that I grew up with my mother doing this to me and I nearly went mad having to deal with that.. so my daughter brings back a lot of ugly old "mommy issues" that were never healed and still active at the wounded stage. Sooo hard not to get angry.What I've tried so far:Sending her to a Buddhist Monastery where they teach her humility and quiet/stillness/meditation.YogaTwo classes at public school to work on following rules about being quiet.(we have homeschooled otherwise for the past many years)She behaves herself pretty well in public, but I can see that when she "holds it all in" she actually gets sick. Headaches, sweating, nausea, etc.. Anyway... This is a ton of "talk" for someone complaining about incessant talking. Ironic.

[Guest guest]

This issue drives me crazy too...

Are there any tips?? I feel like I consistently say (a million times a day!!) hang on

its not your turn to talk at the moment.

When she is self talking, she has no idea.

Its just like the song that never ends it just goes on and on....

[Guest guest]

Would a psychiatrist help with this? It sounds like a compulsion type of thing.

Just a thought.

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> My daughter is turning 14 and she is still incessantly talking. She never

stops. It is so rare that we have a space of time that she just stops talking

and relaxes and breathes and lets everything around her just soak into her.

>

> When we try to say anything, she nods vigorously and says, " Okay, okay,

okay.. " WHILE we are trying to speak! It's maddening, because we can't say

anything to HER without her cutting us off! We've told her so many times that

she is interrupting(since she was little) and to wait until we are done. We've

explained that it is rude to keep interrupting. She completely understands and

is very intelligent and high functioning, but can't resist her impulse to talk.

>

> She bugs other people because talking is so irresistable to her, that even

when she wants to be polite and have others not get upset with her, she just has

to jump in and add her two cents. Eventually people get tired of her.

>

> Of course, at first, they are awed by her seeming " confidence " and ability to

speak so well and loud.. but over time, they realize " something is up.. " and

back away. Of course my daughter feels bad and knows why, but STILL won't stop.

>

> I worry, because my mom was/is the same way and always knew what she was doing

wasn't good, but was never able to stop. Just finally went into depression,

saying she was sorry all the time, drugging herself with meds and locking

herself in her room all day, spending life in bed, because she has learned that

she bugs people so much with her talking.

>

> I don't know that there is an answer. I just want to say that if anyone else

has a child who never shuts up.... you aren't alone.

>

> I have to keep my earplugs on hand all the time because I have times where I

get so upset for want of saying something without being interrupted that I feel

violent.. which scares me. It's like something in me is saying, " I swear.. if I

get interrupted ONE MORE TIME!!! " Not to mention that I grew up with my mother

doing this to me and I nearly went mad having to deal with that.. so my daughter

brings back a lot of ugly old " mommy issues " that were never healed and still

active at the wounded stage.

>

> Sooo hard not to get angry.

>

> What I've tried so far:

>

> Sending her to a Buddhist Monastery where they teach her humility and

quiet/stillness/meditation.

>

> Yoga

>

> Two classes at public school to work on following rules about being quiet.(we

have homeschooled otherwise for the past many years)

>

>

>

> She behaves herself pretty well in public, but I can see that when she " holds

it all in " she actually gets sick. Headaches, sweating, nausea, etc..

>

> Anyway... This is a ton of " talk " for someone complaining about incessant

talking. Ironic.

>

[Guest guest]

Teaching social skills and "theory of mind" skills would probably help if it's coming from an area of ignorance to social rules or understanding what others know and what they want to hear. If it's more about being obsessive, it might still help to find help in those areas but might also require other steps (medication, therapy). Social skills should be teaching her how to have conversations, how to tell if someone is bored, etc. I don't think just teaching rules like "be quiet" is going to help overall because when she does talk and has to talk, she will make the same mistakes.

Roxanna

“Our lives begin to end the day we

become silent about things that matter.†- Luther King, Jr.

( ) An talkative post on incessant talking

My daughter is turning 14 and she is still incessantly talking. She never stops. It is so rare that we have a space of time that she just stops talking and relaxes and breathes and lets everything around her just soak into her.

When we try to say anything, she nods vigorously and says, "Okay, okay, okay.." WHILE we are trying to speak! It's maddening, because we can't say anything to HER without her cutting us off! We've told her so many times that she is interrupting(since she was little) and to wait until we are done. We've explained that it is rude to keep interrupting. She completely understands and is very intelligent and high functioning, but can't resist her impulse to talk.

She bugs other people because talking is so irresistable to her, that even when she wants to be polite and have others not get upset with her, she just has to jump in and add her two cents. Eventually people get tired of her.

Of course, at first, they are awed by her seeming "confidence" and ability to speak so well and loud.. but over time, they realize "something is up.." and back away. Of course my daughter feels bad and knows why, but STILL won't stop.

I worry, because my mom was/is the same way and always knew what she was doing wasn't good, but was never able to stop. Just finally went into depression, saying she was sorry all the time, drugging herself with meds and locking herself in her room all day, spending life in bed, because she has learned that she bugs people so much with her talking.

I don't know that there is an answer. I just want to say that if anyone else has a child who never shuts up.... you aren't alone.

I have to keep my earplugs on hand all the time because I have times where I get so upset for want of saying something without being interrupted that I feel violent.. which scares me. It's like something in me is saying, "I swear.. if I get interrupted ONE MORE TIME!!!" Not to mention that I grew up with my mother doing this to me and I nearly went mad having to deal with that.. so my daughter brings back a lot of ugly old "mommy issues" that were never healed and still active at the wounded stage.

Sooo hard not to get angry.

What I've tried so far:

Sending her to a Buddhist Monastery where they teach her humility and quiet/stillness/meditation.

Yoga

Two classes at public school to work on following rules about being quiet.(we have homeschooled otherwise for the past many years)

She behaves herself pretty well in public, but I can see that when she "holds it all in" she actually gets sick. Headaches, sweating, nausea, etc..

Anyway... This is a ton of "talk" for someone complaining about incessant talking. Ironic.