Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

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I was emailing my son's teacher when your post came through. I never hesitate to send emails whenever I feel like there's something I need to discuss or share. I assume that the teacher will answer when she has time or tell me that it is a topic she prefers to discuss in person.Who scolded you for emailing your son's teacher?PattiFrom: <doyourecycle@...> Sent: Fri, April 30, 2010 2:36:02 PMSubject: ( ) How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

[Guest guest]

Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the

messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal

unless the principal asks you to do this. We had

a lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapist

contact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When

there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked

that our daughter be placed in a special ed

math class. Keep the messages very short, very professional

it is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotional

even though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or called

if she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knew

and that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).

Pam

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> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing

my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to

talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of

communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she

doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems)

My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since

the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

>

[Guest guest]

How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?

On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko@...> wrote:

 

Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapist

contact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professional

it is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).

Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

>

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I have just about given up on our school system. I do have one teacher who I email often and he has a "b" in her class. The rest of his classes, he is failing. He is in the 8th grade and just diagnosed. He had been in private school and I taught there so I could keep up with him. We moved and the kids started public school. The bullying for my ds has been awful. I am ready to take him out and homeschool. My daughter is doing great, but he get's made fun of whereever he goes. It breaks my heart. It is good to have a name to what's going on, but I hate it for him. Sorry, I am rambling...Deana in bham, ALSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: <doyourecycle@...>Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:19:57 -0400< >Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher? How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko > wrote:  Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapistcontact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professionalit is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???>

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I was scoled by the associate principal.  I really wish the teacher would have talked with me and we could have addressed the issue directly as now I'm ticked at her.

 

 

On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 3:46 PM, PattiAnnB <pabernius@...> wrote: I was emailing my son's teacher when your post came through.  I never hesitate to send emails whenever I feel like there's something I need to discuss or share.  I assume that the teacher will answer when she has time or tell me that it is a topic she prefers to discuss in person.

Who scolded you for emailing your son's teacher?Patti

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Sent: Fri, April 30, 2010 2:36:02 PMSubject: ( ) How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

 

What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

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I email Dylan's teachers whenever it's needed. The frequency really depends on what's going on. He's 13 and in 8th grade so it's a little different than having just one teacher, but my NT daughter is 8 and I do the same with her teacher. It's no different than asking for a parent/teacher conference or putting in a phone call. I'm always appreciative, friendly, and non-accusatory and use "quotes" around what my son has told me whenever I can. I know my son's perception of what he was told, what he saw, what he heard, etc... might not be completely accurate, so I keep that in mind. I'm surprised (and saddened) that emailing a teacher when you need to is a problem! I've never really had that issue, although I'll say some teachers are better about getting back to me and keeping the email line of communication open.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: <doyourecycle@...> Sent: Fri, April 30, 2010 6:19:57 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?

On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko> wrote:

Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapistcontact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professionalit is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???>

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My son is only in Kindergarten.  But his teacher is awesome and she is responsive to communication with me.  She doesn't do well with e-mail, so I send notes or text her.  She knows I have good boundaries and don't do it unless it's absolutely necessary.  Sometimes I send notes a couple of times a week and sometimes not at all.  

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What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

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[Guest guest]

My son is in kindergarten as well and I actually wish his teacher emailed me less! Sometimes it seems like she is telling me what she she expects me to do and I get really tired of it. But overall, it has been a favorable thing and we communicate multiple times a week.

What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

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[Guest guest]

I absolutely dread when middle school comes as I know I will have to be ready to pull our boy out to homeschool. I feel for you as I know middle and high school are hard for nt's let alone our group of boys and girls.

 

 As I've been ruminating about my problem with the teacher complaining about my emails, It leads me back to think what's really going on: She doesn't really want to have to get involved. She wants to just do the minimum. When a problem has happened, I've asked specific questions so I can zero in on what happened. This teacher gives sweeping generalizations which help no one. I think she's just pissed as I'm making her try to earn her paycheck. I shake my head in how many teachers are in the wrong profession. Not just on this one example, but so many more....

On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 7:27 PM, <deabakcp@...> wrote:

 

I have just about given up on our school system. I do have one teacher who I email often and he has a " b " in her class. The rest of his classes, he is failing. He is in the 8th grade and just diagnosed. He had been in private school and I taught there so I could keep up with him. We moved and the kids started public school. The bullying for my ds has been awful. I am ready to take him out and homeschool. My daughter is doing great, but he get's made fun of whereever he goes. It breaks my heart. It is good to have a name to what's going on, but I hate it for him.

Sorry, I am rambling...Deana in bham, AL Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

From: <doyourecycle@...>

Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:19:57 -0400

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Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

 

How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?

On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko@...> wrote:

 

Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapist

contact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professional

it is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).

Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

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[Guest guest]

In our district we are encouraged to email and the individual teachers have all

been grateful for my input. I seem to email one teacher or another just about

every day and even in slow times it's probably not less than once a week.

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> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing

my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to

talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of

communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she

doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems)

My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since

the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

>

[Guest guest]

I email my teacher as often as necessary, sometimes it is twice a week, and

sometimes twice a month, it just depends on how things are going. I also

implemented a tracker report with my daughters teacher, and if she has a very

good day or a very bad day she emails me letting me know. This helps us both

with reinforcing positive learning behaviors and adjusting bad learning

behaviors...a win/win for everyone.

Before the school year even began I let the principal and teacher both know that

I wanted to keep " on top of things " and they both appreciated my willingness to

communicate and be involved with her education and with her needs. I am very

thankful that they have both been wonderfully supportive.

Amie

[Guest guest]

Good point. I also sent an email at the very beginning of school that included a letter about Dylan. Part of the letter included how I wanted to communicate during the school year and how helpful emails were in the past. I think creating the expectation up front probably helped.Sent via BlackBerry by AT&TFrom: "Amie" <amiedawn1@...>Date: Sat, 01 May 2010 03:56:35 -0000< >Subject: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher? I email my teacher as often as necessary, sometimes it is twice a week, and sometimes twice a month, it just depends on how things are going. I also implemented a tracker report with my daughters teacher, and if she has a very good day or a very bad day she emails me letting me know. This helps us both with reinforcing positive learning behaviors and adjusting bad learning behaviors...a win/win for everyone.Before the school year even began I let the principal and teacher both know that I wanted to keep " on top of things " and they both appreciated my willingness to communicate and be involved with her education and with her needs. I am very thankful that they have both been wonderfully supportive. Amie

[Guest guest]

Does your child have an IEP in place? Is he covered under Special Education? If so, build email communication into the IEP. Then there's no debating!Sent via BlackBerry by AT&TFrom: <doyourecycle@...>Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 23:09:43 -0400< >Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher? I absolutely dread when middle school comes as I know I will have to be ready to pull our boy out to homeschool. I feel for you as I know middle and high school are hard for nt's let alone our group of boys and girls.  As I've been ruminating about my problem with the teacher complaining about my emails, It leads me back to think what's really going on: She doesn't really want to have to get involved. She wants to just do the minimum. When a problem has happened, I've asked specific questions so I can zero in on what happened. This teacher gives sweeping generalizations which help no one. I think she's just pissed as I'm making her try to earn her paycheck. I shake my head in how many teachers are in the wrong profession. Not just on this one example, but so many more....On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 7:27 PM, <deabakcp > wrote:  I have just about given up on our school system. I do have one teacher who I email often and he has a " b " in her class. The rest of his classes, he is failing. He is in the 8th grade and just diagnosed. He had been in private school and I taught there so I could keep up with him. We moved and the kids started public school. The bullying for my ds has been awful. I am ready to take him out and homeschool. My daughter is doing great, but he get's made fun of whereever he goes. It breaks my heart. It is good to have a name to what's going on, but I hate it for him. Sorry, I am rambling...Deana in bham, AL Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: <doyourecyclegmail> Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:19:57 -0400< >Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?  How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko > wrote:  Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapistcontact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professionalit is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???>

[Guest guest]

You aren't rambling. This stuff is hard to take. It's hard enough to watch name calling with any situation but when it happens to a child that is not intrinsically equipped to deal with it effectively, it's heartbreaking. I just keep reminding my son how wonderful he is and how he won't know many of these tormenters in the future. I also believe you get back what you put out in this world and those mean kids who call my son "retarded" will one day get theirs. One day, they will be bullied and will know how it feels or they will have a child or family member diagnosed on the spectrum and they'll think back to how they treated my son and will feel like crap. That's what I hope for, at least.Sent via BlackBerry by AT&TFrom: deabakcp@...Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 23:27:54 +0000< >Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

I have just about given up on our school system. I do have one teacher who I email often and he has a "b" in her class. The rest of his classes, he is failing. He is in the 8th grade and just diagnosed. He had been in private school and I taught there so I could keep up with him. We moved and the kids started public school. The bullying for my ds has been awful. I am ready to take him out and homeschool. My daughter is doing great, but he get's made fun of whereever he goes. It breaks my heart. It is good to have a name to what's going on, but I hate it for him. Sorry, I am rambling...Deana in bham, ALSent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: <doyourecyclegmail>Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:19:57 -0400< >Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher? How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko > wrote:  Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapistcontact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professionalit is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???>

[Guest guest]

Unless you are emailing multiple times a day, your emails don't relate to your

child, or you are just emailing to complain, I would argue that the problem is

the teacher/staff. If they feel the teacher is being bothered too much, maybe

they need to hire a 1:1. Keep the emails professional and about things that are

relevant. These are high needs kids and regular communication is necessary. I

like the idea of putting it into the IEP. Also tell them that you would like

them to put into writing any issues they have with the emails.

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> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing

my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to

talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of

communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she

doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems)

My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since

the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

>

[Guest guest]

WOW LAURA!!!! my words to the 'T'. I e-mail my sons consultant teacher every time I saw a concern which was every other day and she also just answered what she wanted to and not my question. Would you believe it took this teacher 8 months to figure out my son needs a separate binder for each subject so he can keep it organized. I told this to another parent that has a child with HFA and she said it would have took her 8 minutes. My son has a perfect IEP plan, it was the teacher that was the problem...She doesn't have any patients with kids period! I wonder if she knows how to read an IEP because it states in my sons IEP for him to have everything color coded and separate binders.

she has no ideas, no strategy's, nothing! Anything my son didn't understand she would send it home with him to do at home. I sent it back with a note which pissed her off. If I kept my son home from school this whole year - it would have made no difference because he didn't learn anything from her at all. all she would write to me is - my son needs to learn accommodations for himself. duhhhhh if he can do that he wouldn't need you! what a wasted year for him. she still gets her pay check and my son lost out.

I learned when a teacher sends a classroom assignment home with my son to do for homework - it's because she/he doesn't know how to teach it to him and passes it on to me. the problem is - * if I help him or get a tutor/college student to help him with it - the CSE chair person doesn't see the problem and only sees how well he's doing in school - credit that to his teacher - and why does he need her? because he is doing so well. (year with a tutor at home) which CSE is unaware of. but this year I sent an e-mail explaining that he didn't complete this in school and it was sent home that I had to hire a tutor to teach this to him. Why didn't he learn this in school? this way - everyone can see that my son didn't understand this and didn't learn it in school that he NEEDS ONE ON ONE HELP and smaller steps. when given instructions it needs to be broken down into many small steps

for him. for this September, not only will I be e-mailing as often as needed. I will print out that e-mail and go to the school in person asking why this question wasn't answered. I WILL GET ANSWERS!. because they still get their pay check and my son loses out! I rather him learn this now and not when he completes college and can't get a job because he didn't learn these skills.

If they laid this teacher off the school will benefit! sorry this was so long but if I can give you my advice. Keep doing what you are doing - your child is worth it. I would also ask for a team meeting at least once a month with all the teachers. until you feel comfortable that your child is learning. also include your child needs skills that your child can build on that will help your child through 12 grade. Best luck - I wish in our school more parents would do just what you did. then they will see it's the teacher.

I just got to say one more thing. our last year teacher was awesome! she tried many things with my son and he had a great year. what a difference a teacher makes.

Rose

From: "smacalli@..." <smacalli@...> Sent: Fri, April 30, 2010 11:49:25 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

Does your child have an IEP in place? Is he covered under Special Education? If so, build email communication into the IEP. Then there's no debating! Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

From: <doyourecycle@ gmail.com>

Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 23:09:43 -0400

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Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

I absolutely dread when middle school comes as I know I will have to be ready to pull our boy out to homeschool. I feel for you as I know middle and high school are hard for nt's let alone our group of boys and girls.

As I've been ruminating about my problem with the teacher complaining about my emails, It leads me back to think what's really going on: She doesn't really want to have to get involved. She wants to just do the minimum. When a problem has happened, I've asked specific questions so I can zero in on what happened. This teacher gives sweeping generalizations which help no one. I think she's just pissed as I'm making her try to earn her paycheck. I shake my head in how many teachers are in the wrong profession. Not just on this one example, but so many more....

On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 7:27 PM, <deabakcp (DOT) com> wrote:

I have just about given up on our school system. I do have one teacher who I email often and he has a "b" in her class. The rest of his classes, he is failing. He is in the 8th grade and just diagnosed. He had been in private school and I taught there so I could keep up with him. We moved and the kids started public school. The bullying for my ds has been awful. I am ready to take him out and homeschool. My daughter is doing great, but he get's made fun of whereever he goes. It breaks my heart. It is good to have a name to what's going on, but I hate it for him. Sorry, I am rambling...Deana in bham, AL Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

From: <doyourecycle@ gmail.com>

Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:19:57 -0400

< >

Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?

On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko> wrote:

Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapistcontact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professionalit is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???>

[Guest guest]

I get that too, I don't even do the stuff they send home, I have had

homework issues with her for yrs, long before she had schoolwork

issues and they knew that, just getting all of regular homework done

is not a regular occurance and is quite a challenge so why they think

I have the time to deal with what they can't is beyond me. They get

her 6 hrs a day, she has and early bedtime plus I have to feed her so

by the time you account for all that I have maybe 4 hrs where I ahave

more than enough to fight with her about so certainly don't need to

add in fighting over additional work. I am trying to make the house a

positive and affirming place and reconnect with her after a tough year

so I just can't be fighting the entire hrs she is home and awake (what

we were doing when I was trying to get all the work done)

On 5/1/10, Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

>    WOW LAURA!!!! my words to the 'T'.   I e-mail my sons consultant teacher

> every time I saw a concern which was every other day and she also just

> answered what she wanted to and not my question.  Would you believe it took

> this teacher 8 months to figure out my son needs a separate binder for each

> subject so he can keep it organized.  I told this to another parent that has

> a child with HFA and she said it would have took her 8 minutes.  My son has

> a perfect IEP plan, it was the teacher that was the problem...She doesn't

> have any patients with kids period!  I wonder if she knows how to read an

> IEP because it states in my sons IEP for him to have everything color coded

> and separate binders.

> she has no ideas, no strategy's, nothing!  Anything my son didn't understand

> she would send it home with him to do at home.  I sent it back with a note

> which pissed her off.   If I kept my son home from school this whole year -

> it would have made no difference because he didn't learn anything from her

> at all.  all she would write to me is - my son needs to learn accommodations

> for himself.  duhhhhh if he can do that he wouldn't need you!  what a wasted

> year for him.  she still gets her pay check and my son lost out.

> I learned when a teacher sends a classroom assignment home with my son to do

> for homework - it's because she/he doesn't know how to teach it to him and

> passes it on to me.  the problem is - * if I help him or get a tutor/college

> student to help him with it - the CSE chair person doesn't see the problem

> and only sees how well he's doing in school - credit that to his teacher -

> and why does he need her? because he is doing so well. (year with a tutor at

> home) which CSE is unaware of.  but this year I sent an e-mail explaining

> that he didn't complete this in school and it was sent home that I had to

> hire a tutor to teach this to him.  Why didn't he learn this in school?

> this way - everyone can see that my son didn't understand this and didn't

> learn it in school that he NEEDS ONE ON ONE HELP and smaller steps.  when

> given instructions it needs to be broken down into many small steps for

> him.  for this September, not only will I be

> e-mailing as often as needed.  I will print out that e-mail and go to the

> school in person asking why this question wasn't answered.  I WILL GET

> ANSWERS!.  because they still get their pay check and my son loses out!  I

> rather him learn this now and not when he completes college and can't get a

> job because he didn't learn these skills.

> If they laid this teacher off the school will benefit!  sorry this was so

> long but if I can give you my advice.  Keep doing what you are doing - your

> child is worth it.  I would also ask for a team meeting at least once a

> month with all the teachers.  until you feel comfortable that your child is

> learning.  also include your child needs skills that your child can build on

> that will help your child through 12 grade.  Best luck - I wish in our

> school more parents would do just what you did.  then they will see it's the

> teacher.

> I just got to say one more thing.  our last year teacher was awesome!  she

> tried many things with my son and he had a great year.  what a difference a

> teacher makes.

> Rose

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: " smacalli@... " <smacalli@...>

>

> Sent: Fri, April 30, 2010 11:49:25 PM

> Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your

> child's teacher?

>

>

> Does your child have an IEP in place? Is he covered under Special Education?

> If so, build email communication into the IEP. Then there's no debating!

> Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

> ________________________________

>

> From: <doyourecycle@ gmail.com>

> Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 23:09:43 -0400

> < >

> Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your

> child's teacher?

>

> I absolutely dread when middle school comes as I know I will have to be

> ready to pull our boy out to homeschool. I feel for you as I know middle and

> high school are hard for nt's let alone our group of boys and girls.

>

>  As I've been ruminating about my problem with the teacher complaining about

> my emails, It leads me back to think what's really going on: She

> doesn't really want to have to get involved. She wants to just do the

> minimum. When a problem has happened, I've asked specific questions so I can

> zero in on what happened. This teacher gives sweeping generalizations which

> help no one. I think she's just pissed as I'm making her try to earn her

> paycheck. I shake my head in how many teachers are in the wrong profession.

> Not just on this one example, but so many more....

>

>

> On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 7:27 PM, <deabakcp (DOT) com> wrote:

>

>

>>I have just about given up on our school system. I do have one teacher who

>> I email often and he has a " b " in her class. The rest of his classes, he

>> is failing. He is in the 8th grade and just diagnosed. He had been in

>> private school and I taught there so I could keep up with him. We moved

>> and the kids started public school. The bullying for my ds has been awful.

>> I am ready to take him out and homeschool. My daughter is doing great, but

>> he get's made fun of whereever he goes. It breaks my heart. It is good to

>> have a name to what's going on, but I hate it for him.

>>

>>Sorry, I am rambling...

>>

>>Deana in bham, AL

>>Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

>>

> ________________________________

>

>>From: <doyourecycle@ gmail.com>

>>Date: Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:19:57 -0400

>>< >

>>Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email

>> your child's teacher?

>>

>>

>>How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait,

>> details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or

>> dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?

>>

>>

>>On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko> wrote:

>>

>>

>>>Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And

>>> keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the

>>> principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We had

>>>a lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapist

>>>contact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement.

>>> When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't

>>> complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special ed

>>>math class. Keep the messages very short, very professional

>>>it is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotional

>>>even though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or called

>>>if she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knew

>>>and that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).

>>>

>>>Pam

>>>

>>>

>>>>

>>>> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for

>>>> emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period.

>>>> I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked

>>>> this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with

>>>> small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to

>>>> talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the

>>>> principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do

>>>> you all handle this type of thing???

>>>>

>>>

>>>

>>

>

>

>

>

>

--

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-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

and

Girl Scout cookies are coming!

[Guest guest]

I am hoping middle school will actually be an improvement, yes my 8th

grader is a highly gifted very well behaved nt so I am sure that scews

how things happen but from day 1 I have loved the teachers, staff and

the school overall (it is a new middle school so my dds 1st day was

its first day) whereas I heard so many great things about the

principal at the elementary school and a lot of the staff was brought

in or hand picked, all the best teachers, etc etc that I went from not

only realising my expectations were too high but man I shouldn't have

had any at all b/c I haven't been happy with it at all and then

compare to the middle school where I have spent the previous 6 yrs

thinking those are the hardest yrs for kids and I might have to hs my

dd, etc etc and just been so happy with the middle school, but ask me

again in 2 yrs when my hfa is there

On 4/30/10, <doyourecycle@...> wrote:

> I absolutely dread when middle school comes as I know I will have to be

> ready to pull our boy out to homeschool. I feel for you as I know middle and

> high school are hard for nt's let alone our group of boys and girls.

>

> As I've been ruminating about my problem with the teacher complaining about

> my emails, It leads me back to think what's really going on: She

> doesn't really want to have to get involved. She wants to just do the

> minimum. When a problem has happened, I've asked specific questions so I can

> zero in on what happened. This teacher gives sweeping generalizations which

> help no one. I think she's just pissed as I'm making her try to earn her

> paycheck. I shake my head in how many teachers are in the wrong profession.

> Not just on this one example, but so many more....

>

> On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 7:27 PM, <deabakcp@...> wrote:

>

>>

>>

>> I have just about given up on our school system. I do have one teacher who

>> I email often and he has a " b " in her class. The rest of his classes, he

>> is

>> failing. He is in the 8th grade and just diagnosed. He had been in private

>> school and I taught there so I could keep up with him. We moved and the

>> kids

>> started public school. The bullying for my ds has been awful. I am ready

>> to

>> take him out and homeschool. My daughter is doing great, but he get's made

>> fun of whereever he goes. It breaks my heart. It is good to have a name to

>> what's going on, but I hate it for him.

>>

>> Sorry, I am rambling...

>>

>> Deana in bham, AL

>>

>> Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

>> ------------------------------

>> *From: * <doyourecycle@...>

>> *Date: *Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:19:57 -0400

>> **< >

>> *Subject: *Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email

>> your child's teacher?

>>

>>

>>

>> How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait,

>> details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or

>> dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?

>>

>> On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko@...> wrote:

>>

>>>

>>>

>>> Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And

>>> keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the

>>> principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We had

>>> a lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapist

>>> contact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement.

>>> When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't

>>> complain

>>> he asked that our daughter be placed in a special ed

>>> math class. Keep the messages very short, very professional

>>> it is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotional

>>> even though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or called

>>> if she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knew

>>> and that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).

>>>

>>> Pam

>>>

>>>

>>> >

>>> > What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for

>>> emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period.

>>> I

>>> don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked

>>> this

>>> mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small

>>> children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk

>>> about

>>> a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal

>>> with

>>> the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle

>>> this

>>> type of thing???

>>> >

>>>

>>>

>>

>>

>

--

Sent from my mobile device

-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

and

Girl Scout cookies are coming!

[Guest guest]

Hey ya,

I have emailed or called teachers on a regular basis through out my teens years.

ATM we have an agreement between coordinator and self to communicate every day a

bout his day. Sometimes it might be just a score out of 10 or it might have more

detail. Thus allows me to deal with issues as they arise. I told him there was

no point telling me on friday there was an issue Monday, consequences lose their

meaning this way.

I do feel however it needs to be agreed upon.

I also worked in special Ed last year. I had an agreement with an ASD parent

that I text her everyday or rang with issues.

Good luck with this, I think it just needs an agreement.

Kel

Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

I email weekly when things are going well and whenever I need to when they're going badly.

In Elementary School, communication was wonderful = both ways. And I think that because it's a "trail", most teachers would definitely respond appropriately.

Once my son started this year (8th) back in school, his SPED teachers are great, but when I've sent a "thanks for what you do/let me know how he's doing" email to his "reg" teachers, they never responded.When I asked the Jr. High SPED teacher why she thought this was, she said that Jr High teachers are in a tough spot....trying to pull away from being a teacher that's really close and hands-on like in Elementary School and prepare kids for HS, where you show up and don't really get "personal" with the kids/parents.

I get that,,,,,but I was kind of ticked by that. Oh well.

Recently, I emailed the other teachers again and actually got a response from one that seems very standoffish in his IEP's. It was really nice and shocked me!!!

Sorry about the book!!!!!!!!

Bottom line, I personally wouldn't email the principal about problems. If the teacher won't reply or is "above" replying, then I'd definitely tell the teacher that you're insulted and need to communicate with her...................if no response, THEN I'd go to the principal.

Communication btwn parents and teachers in essential, as you obviously know and feel. Just gotta make the darned teacher see that. ha ha.

Ahhhhh, Laughter................

Robin

From: <doyourecycle@...>Subject: ( ) How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher? Date: Friday, April 30, 2010, 2:36 PM

What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

[Guest guest]

– I came up with a daily sheet we use. Email me if you’d like me to send it to you!! .obrien@... =) From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Sent: Friday, April 30, 2010 8:50 PM Subject: Re: ( ) Re: How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher? How do you keep it weekly when issues and problems come up? If you wait, details are lost and the essence of what really happened is lost or dilluted. Anyone else care to chime in?On Fri, Apr 30, 2010 at 5:54 PM, Pamela <susanonderko@...> wrote: Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapistcontact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professionalit is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???>

[Guest guest]

Wow,,,,,,,,,I guess hearing that the Assoc Princ said this, I'd definitely email the Princ to see if this is true: That you're not supposed to email teachers. I'd email just so you have a "trail" of the conversation.

If this Princ agrees with the Assoc Princ,,,,,I'd go to the District Administrator!! What kind of crap is this, when you SHOULDN'T email the teacher? Bull!!!!

Ahhhhh, Laughter................

Robin I was emailing my son's teacher when your post came through. I never hesitate to send emails whenever I feel like there's something I need to discuss or share. I assume that the teacher will answer when she has time or tell me that it is a topic she prefers to discuss in person.Who scolded you for emailing your son's teacher?Patti

From: <doyourecycle@ gmail.com> Sent: Fri, April 30, 2010 2:36:02 PMSubject: ( ) How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???

[Guest guest]

Deana,

I'm so sorry that your son is going through this.

You are a wonderful mom, though, and I personally feel that it's incredibly necessary for you to have pulling him out in your mind, if it gets worse.

We pulled our son out after 5th grade for 2 years. It was necessary for his mental well-being. Plain and simple. You do what you gotta do, right?

Hugs to you.

Ahhhhh, Laughter................

Robin

Who scolded you? I would try to keep communication to once a week. And keep the messages very short and to the point. Don't send anything to the principal unless the principal asks you to do this. We hada lot of problems with the school and I had to have our therapistcontact the school. But he would call but only about change in placement. When there were so many problems with the math teacher, he didn't complain he asked that our daughter be placed in a special edmath class. Keep the messages very short, very professionalit is likely others may read the messages so don't be emotionaleven though you may feel very upset. I always sent email or calledif she didn't finish her homework to make sure they knew I knewand that I didn't want her held in for recess (it was in the IEP).Pam >> What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???>

[Guest guest]

It would be great if the school would allow frequent communication.

But if they won't or won't read it (as our district did) you have to

try and work around this. The problem may be with the child's

placement. If he is not getting enough support then the placement

needs to change to a special needs classroom, or facilated

lunchroom or recess, modified PE, or reduced homework accomodations.

Our school district wanted us to use the services they had

or change to a private special needs school they were

not wiling to modifiy the program for our daughter. t

Pam

> > >

> > > What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for

> > emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I

> > don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this

> > mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small

> > children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about

> > a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with

> > the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this

> > type of thing???

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Email the teacher absolutely! It is part of the job, and more efficient than phone calls (I'm a teacher too!) I communicate with my daughters teachers, social worker, speech Therapist and the principal, whenever I want, with a clear question or statement of what I want or need. You are doing the right thing.Jillian

From: <doyourecycle@...> Sent: Fri, April 30, 2010 3:36:02 PMSubject: ( ) How often do u communicate or email your child's teacher?

What are the parameters you use for when you email? I was scolded for emailing my son's teachers. I only do it when there is a problem period. I don't want to talk to them more than is necessary. How have you walked this mine field of communication? (I realize getting a teacher with small children means she doesn't have time or want to make the time to talk about a student's problems) My friend said I should just email the principal with the problems then since the teacher is too busy. How do you all handle this type of thing???