Re: [SPAM] hard to get along with

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, I feel you!

Just last night, while taking my dd to trick or treat at my family members homes, she sat in the car and carried on a full conversation with me. She is 11,,conversation was her thoughts on what she should do next year because she is too old to trick or treat. What a big step this was for her and what a delightful conversation we had..........made me think back to a month ago where she did something that took me over the edge, flabbergasted me, scared me, angered me, left me speechless..........I couldn't connect with her at all, couldn't react anymore to her, didn't want to deal with her, like her,nothing,,I was blank,,scared the crap out of me as to how I was feeling,,,I even thought,,what if I don't feel for her again????? We do have therapist and support,,I just don't utilize it as much as I should and take on way too much myself and I finally saw that the way I was handling things was hurting her and I. I gave her and I space, handed her over to my dh for her daily needs, and took a mental break, spoke to my support and therapist,, and then eased back into life with my dd.

Now I am back to enjoying her, looking forward to those conversations on her "awake days", advocating for her, protecting her, educating myself on her needs/issues and most of loving her unconditionally.

I see you have a 19 yr old,,,my oldest turned 18 today,,,a couple of weeks ago I sat with my dh and explained the emotional highs and lows I go through into 2 minutes when I am dealing with an aspie 11 yr old, and dramatic emotional 18 yr old, both girls. He just stared at me,,,like,,,isn't that what being a mom is all about???? I want a gold star dear husband!! Just every once in awhile give me a gold star too! LOL. Next time I will put my hand up and stop the girls and call him to the room so he can be me for a moment. LOL

Lynne Bankswww.americanadoptioncongress.orgSouth Dakota State Representative

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[sPAM] ( ) hard to get along with

I have an 11 yod with aspergers and ocd. We have always homeschooled. It has been a very rough 2 1/2 years or so. We only get the basics done and hardly ever get to history or science. She is so hard to get along with and argues about everthing. I am realizing more and more how she just doesn't understand other peoples feelings. But it is so hard to deal with. Today while trying to do another day of school, she is not cooperating again and I am crying and asking her does she really not understand how frustrated and upset I am. She says no, now what do we do next? It just doesn't effect her much at all. I feel so guilty for not getting to do the fun things in school like I did with her 19 year old sister. I miss that so much having that time with her. I don't even plan anything like that anymore b/c she never wants to do it. She wants to get school finished and then go play on her own. She does like to play games at times. I am so frustrated and upset, everyday I hope is better and it is always the same thing different day.