Halloween plans fell through...

October 31, 2009

Well...so much for D's Halloween's plans. His friend's (we'll call " F " )dad lives

in my parents cul-de-sac but F lives with his mom full-time and only

occasionally visits. F was supposed to be with his dad this weekend so Dylan

made plans with him. I even convinced D to call F to confirm things on

Wednesday, to make sure everyone was on the same page. Today, D called F around

2pm to see if F wanted to get together earlier than 5pm (their originally agreed

upon time) but F said his dad went out of town so he's at his mom's and already

has plans there. We know for sure F's dad was out of town so I know that's the

truth, but since F already had plans w/ Dylan, he could've invited him to come

to his moms house. That's where they hung out last Saturday! But he didn't. I

suspect it's b/c he had friends over and didn't know what they might think about

Dylan, but I guess I can't say that for certain. I was crushed. I think I took

the news harder than Dylan. My dad said Dylan was upset about it. So my dad,

the amazing, wonderful person that he is, planned an evening of scaring trick or

treaters and a marathon game of Risk instead.

But guess what? Dylan still wanted to go trick or treating. And my invitation

for him to go with us (his 8-yr-old sister and 2 of her friends) was a hard

sell, so he got dressed up and went out on his own (he's 13.) He took my dad's

cell phone and went around for about an hour and a half. I haven't talked to him

yet, but I'm sure it was fun or he would've been home sooner. So while I'm sad

for him that F would cancel plans and not include him in the new ones, I'm so

proud that Dylan does not give up. He perseveres. It's amazing to me how much

confidence, determination, and positive attitude come out of him sometimes. I'm

hoping that as he gets older, things like this will get better for him.

Even with this, he's had a better year. There is one girl he hangs out with at

school (she asked him to the Homecoming Dance, but he told her " no " ) but she was

grounded and couldn't do anything tonight. He sits with her and her friends

every day at lunchtime. Just that alone is great b/c he didn't have someone like

that last year.

I just hate that it's so hard for him with most other kids his age. He really

is a sweet kid with a positive way of looking at things, and a great sense of

humor. I just wish tonight didn't turn out the way it did. Really sucks. It

felt like how you feel after your newborn sleeps through the night for the first

time and then wakes up the next night. You want desperately to think this is a

turning point of some sort and you won't ever go back to how it used to be, but

it does and it's such a let-down. But when I really think about it, it's not

like this doesn't happen to NT kids too, but damn, it hurts.

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