Guest guest Posted July 1, 2009 Report Share Posted July 1, 2009 Hi, this will be a quick off topic question. If a child (N.T. girl)age 10 or 11 comes over to play with my child. (this child has no rules on when to return home) so I drive her when it's dark out because she's about a 15 minute walk and she lives off a high way. today, I couldn't drive her home so I said she has to leave while it's still light out. I would worry about her going home in the dark by herself. my question is, if something were to happen to her (which I hope & pray nothing ever happens) would I be responsible because she left our home? Her mother never calls for her nor does she check on her. one time she stayed over till 10pm. Of course I drove her home and made sure she got inside safe. When there are times I'm not able to drive her home. I'm wondering who would be responsible for her safety? What would you do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2009 Report Share Posted July 1, 2009 I don't think you would be responsible...the mother sounds so irresponsible...she is not worried...I worry more about the child...omg... I guess what I would say is make sure she leaves before it gets dark if you can't dirve her.....at least if she is at your house ...she is safe...OmG ...there are parents here like that...they let their child ride his bike over here and then we have to drive him back because it is too dark ...and they never call about him. They never drive him here or pick him up. One weekend he was here from Friday at 4pm till Sunday at 5:30 pm and never once did they call. I don't know...strange hey...I truly beleive the mother would be responsible but for the safety of the child....send her home early if you can't take her home...for the child's sake. Bless you for taking care of her. Iknow what this is like...unreal. Never thought I would see parents do this but they do! Unreal!!!! jan Janice Rushen "I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope" From: beachbodytan2002 <beachbodytan2002@...>Subject: ( ) Off topic question - Date: Wednesday, July 1, 2009, 9:44 PM Hi,this will be a quick off topic question. If a child (N.T. girl)age 10 or 11 comes over to play with my child. (this child has no rules on when to return home) so I drive her when it's dark out because she's about a 15 minute walk and she lives off a high way. today, I couldn't drive her home so I said she has to leave while it's still light out. I would worry about her going home in the dark by herself. my question is, if something were to happen to her (which I hope & pray nothing ever happens) would I be responsible because she left our home?Her mother never calls for her nor does she check on her. one time she stayed over till 10pm. Of course I drove her home and made sure she got inside safe. When there are times I'm not able to drive her home. I'm wondering who would be responsible for her safety? What would you do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2009 Report Share Posted July 1, 2009 Hi Jan, we live near a few camp sites and private places that also provide camping. So, we have lots of people here on vacation with campers, RV's and other vehicles. so you can see my concern for this child's safety. I can't believe her parents don't check up on her. both my kids have cell phones and they have to call me every 1/2 hr. One other parent does the same with her boys. I guess most parents don't watch the news. that's amazing how long that child stayed at your home and the parents didn't call once... You know, her mother doesn't even care that I drove her child home or if she walked home in the dark. and worse, when I drove her home that night at 10pm, no one was up to greet her at the door. All the lights were out in her home. They all went to bed befoe she got home.. thanks for responding - it's so sad to read that this happens over by you too. From: rushen janice <jrushen@...> Sent: Wednesday, July 1, 2009 10:23:21 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Off topic question - I don't think you would be responsible. ..the mother sounds so irresponsible. ..she is not worried...I worry more about the child...omg. .. I guess what I would say is make sure she leaves before it gets dark if you can't dirve her.....at least if she is at your house ...she is safe...OmG ...there are parents here like that...they let their child ride his bike over here and then we have to drive him back because it is too dark ...and they never call about him. They never drive him here or pick him up. One weekend he was here from Friday at 4pm till Sunday at 5:30 pm and never once did they call. I don't know...strange hey...I truly beleive the mother would be responsible but for the safety of the child....send her home early if you can't take her home...for the child's sake. Bless you for taking care of her. Iknow what this is like...unreal. Never thought I would see parents do this but they do! Unreal!!!! jan Janice Rushen "I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope" From: beachbodytan2002 <beachbodytan2002>Subject: ( ) Off topic question - Date: Wednesday, July 1, 2009, 9:44 PM Hi,this will be a quick off topic question. If a child (N.T. girl)age 10 or 11 comes over to play with my child. (this child has no rules on when to return home) so I drive her when it's dark out because she's about a 15 minute walk and she lives off a high way. today, I couldn't drive her home so I said she has to leave while it's still light out. I would worry about her going home in the dark by herself. my question is, if something were to happen to her (which I hope & pray nothing ever happens) would I be responsible because she left our home?Her mother never calls for her nor does she check on her. one time she stayed over till 10pm. Of course I drove her home and made sure she got inside safe. When there are times I'm not able to drive her home. I'm wondering who would be responsible for her safety? What would you do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2009 Report Share Posted July 2, 2009 > > I'm wondering who would be responsible for her safety? > What would you do? I don't think her caregivers or yourself would get in legal trouble if something happened to her. But of course, you don't want that to be your rule of thumb. Personally, what I do with parents like this varies. I might call up the mother, express my concerns and see what she says. If she is busy, has other kids, etc., she may just not be thinking about it. Other things I have done are directly tell the child they must call their parent to come pick them up as it is not safe to walk home. I may do what you have done and send them home while it is still light. If it is inconvenient to have to keep driving her home, I would explicitly ask the other parent to come pick her up every other time. If the parent makes up excuses and won't do it, I limit the number of times the child can come over so it doesn't inconvenience me. Basically, I don't let the other parents problems become my problems. I ask them to share responsibilities, and if they won't do that, I limit that child's time at my house so the inconvenience is not excessive. Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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