Re: Is this a good idea or a bad one?

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I think it's OK if he is very focused on money and this is the main way he can earn money from you. In our case, I have a reward system for my son using "n bucks." I just made up some fake dollar bills and he can cash them in for staying up late on the weekend, and things like that. So that is another idea for you.You know what works best for your son though, let us know how it goes.

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From: pabernius <pabernius@...>Subject: ( ) Is this a good idea or a bad one? Date: Tuesday, April 27, 2010, 9:45 AM

Hi All:My son (age 7, AS, AD, ADHD, OCD, SPD, OMG) has a lot of trouble with his morning routine. Before his Vyvanse kicks in, he has a hard time staying on task with getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc. He'll start to go to the next task, get distracted, and I'll find him staring out the window at the birds or something else totally off-task.He does well with task lists at school, so I am going to start a morning task list on a clipboard for him. We would sit down the night before and list all the things he needs to do tomorrow morning, i.e. get dressed, brush teeth, pack lunch, assemble karate gear, etc.So here's my question - would it be okay for me to give him $1 as a reward for completing his whole task list by the time we leave for school? Normally I don't like to use money as a reward, but he is learning about money in school and he's great at saving for things he wants. We have gotten past the "Hey

mom will you buy me that?" and moved on to "Do I have enough money saved for that?" And he does think hard before blowing his savings on things. He will even decide not to buy something if he feels it is too expensive.Please let me know your opinions about my task list/reward idea. I'm open to all suggestions.Thanks!Patti

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( ) Is this a good idea or a bad one?

Hi All:

My son (age 7, AS, AD, ADHD, OCD, SPD, OMG) has a lot of trouble with

his morning routine. Before his Vyvanse kicks in, he has a hard time staying on

task with getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc. He'll start to go to the next

task, get distracted, and I'll find him staring out the window at the birds or

something else totally off-task.

He does well with task lists at school, so I am going to start a morning task

list on a clipboard for him. We would sit down the night before and list all

the things he needs to do tomorrow morning, i.e. get dressed, brush teeth, pack

lunch, assemble karate gear, etc.

So here's my question - would it be okay for me to give him $1 as a reward for

completing his whole task list by the time we leave for school?

Normally I don't like to use money as a reward, but he is learning about money

in school and he's great at saving for things he wants. We have gotten past the

" Hey mom will you buy me that? " and moved on to " Do I have enough money saved

for that? " And he does think hard before blowing his savings on things. He

will even decide not to buy something if he feels it is too expensive.

Please let me know your opinions about my task list/reward idea. I'm open to

all suggestions.

Thanks!

Patti

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When my son was little, I made dinosaur dollars. Do whatever works to motivate

your son. The carrot works better than the stick for our kids. Going to a movie

if all the chores are done still works.

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I think that rewards do work well for kids with AS, but you might want to

rethink the $1. I started giving my son $3.00 per tooth that he lost because at

the time it was the only way he earned any money. But $3 per tooth when they

start loosing so many can really add up. The money might be fine, but maybe you

could try a quarter per morning or something. That way, if you have to do the

same thing with chores or bedtime routine, you can give more money without going

broke

When my son was in 1st grade and having problems in school, I told him that if

he didn't get his " card turned " in school, each day I would do what he wanted

with him for 30 minutes. Whatever he wanted. We ended up hunting for bugs (his

obsession), watching what he wanted on TV, building with his blocks, going for a

walk, or searching for flowers. He loved being in control of what we would do,

and there wasn't any money involved. If you have the time, it can be great

ah in NM

>

> Hi All:

>

> My son (age 7, AS, AD, ADHD, OCD, SPD, OMG) has a lot of trouble with

his morning routine. Before his Vyvanse kicks in, he has a hard time staying on

task with getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc. He'll start to go to the next

task, get distracted, and I'll find him staring out the window at the birds or

something else totally off-task.

>

> He does well with task lists at school, so I am going to start a morning task

list on a clipboard for him. We would sit down the night before and list all

the things he needs to do tomorrow morning, i.e. get dressed, brush teeth, pack

lunch, assemble karate gear, etc.

>

> So here's my question - would it be okay for me to give him $1 as a reward for

completing his whole task list by the time we leave for school?

>

> Normally I don't like to use money as a reward, but he is learning about money

in school and he's great at saving for things he wants. We have gotten past the

" Hey mom will you buy me that? " and moved on to " Do I have enough money saved

for that? " And he does think hard before blowing his savings on things. He

will even decide not to buy something if he feels it is too expensive.

>

> Please let me know your opinions about my task list/reward idea. I'm open to

all suggestions.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Patti

>

[Guest guest]

We just started a task/chore-reward system with my 6-yr-old, and he earns $0.20

for each of his chores (a little more for " bigger " tasks, like " getting a 'green

day' at school. " He LOVES it! He's trying to earn enough money to purchase

(another) Lego Star Wars ship, and we add up the money he's earned at the end of

each day. It's really working for him (offering to wash dishes, playing more

with his little brother, cleaning the floor). I love it, too!

I wish I knew how to attach a document so that you could see our chart. I

purchased a small laminating machine at Wal-Mart (I make so many charts and

visual aids for him to use at home and school, that it was cheaper than

continuing to go to Office Depot), and we use a dry-erase pen to make the

checkmarks. Then we erase the marks and start over the next day. We have a

section at the bottom for daily and weekly totals. If anyone knows how to

attach a document, please let me know so that i can share it.

>

> Hi All:

>

> My son (age 7, AS, AD, ADHD, OCD, SPD, OMG) has a lot of trouble with

his morning routine. Before his Vyvanse kicks in, he has a hard time staying on

task with getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc. He'll start to go to the next

task, get distracted, and I'll find him staring out the window at the birds or

something else totally off-task.

>

> He does well with task lists at school, so I am going to start a morning task

list on a clipboard for him. We would sit down the night before and list all

the things he needs to do tomorrow morning, i.e. get dressed, brush teeth, pack

lunch, assemble karate gear, etc.

>

> So here's my question - would it be okay for me to give him $1 as a reward for

completing his whole task list by the time we leave for school?

>

> Normally I don't like to use money as a reward, but he is learning about money

in school and he's great at saving for things he wants. We have gotten past the

" Hey mom will you buy me that? " and moved on to " Do I have enough money saved

for that? " And he does think hard before blowing his savings on things. He

will even decide not to buy something if he feels it is too expensive.

>

> Please let me know your opinions about my task list/reward idea. I'm open to

all suggestions.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Patti

>

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Hi Gladys:Thanks for the information. Your comment about your son saving for another Lego Star Wars ship just cracked me up. Guess what is also saving for? Lol! You gussed it - another Lego Star Wars ship. All the boys in 's class are really into them all of a sudden. Go figure!PattiFrom: Gladys <glad1@...>To:

Sent: Wed, April 28, 2010 11:09:05 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Is this a good idea or a bad one?

We just started a task/chore-reward system with my 6-yr-old, and he earns $0.20 for each of his chores (a little more for "bigger" tasks, like "getting a 'green day' at school." He LOVES it! He's trying to earn enough money to purchase (another) Lego Star Wars ship, and we add up the money he's earned at the end of each day. It's really working for him (offering to wash dishes, playing more with his little brother, cleaning the floor). I love it, too!

I wish I knew how to attach a document so that you could see our chart. I purchased a small laminating machine at Wal-Mart (I make so many charts and visual aids for him to use at home and school, that it was cheaper than continuing to go to Office Depot), and we use a dry-erase pen to make the checkmarks. Then we erase the marks and start over the next day. We have a section at the bottom for daily and weekly totals. If anyone knows how to attach a document, please let me know so that i can share it.

>

> Hi All:

>

> My son (age 7, AS, AD, ADHD, OCD, SPD, OMG) has a lot of trouble with his morning routine. Before his Vyvanse kicks in, he has a hard time staying on task with getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc. He'll start to go to the next task, get distracted, and I'll find him staring out the window at the birds or something else totally off-task.

>

> He does well with task lists at school, so I am going to start a morning task list on a clipboard for him. We would sit down the night before and list all the things he needs to do tomorrow morning, i.e. get dressed, brush teeth, pack lunch, assemble karate gear, etc.

>

> So here's my question - would it be okay for me to give him $1 as a reward for completing his whole task list by the time we leave for school?

>

> Normally I don't like to use money as a reward, but he is learning about money in school and he's great at saving for things he wants. We have gotten past the "Hey mom will you buy me that?" and moved on to "Do I have enough money saved for that?" And he does think hard before blowing his savings on things. He will even decide not to buy something if he feels it is too expensive.

>

> Please let me know your opinions about my task list/reward idea. I'm open to all suggestions.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Patti

>

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We are trying a similar system but it hasn't shown many results yet. It may be because she still has money left from her birthday in March and feels she doesn't need to earn any more right now. We're giving it time, though From: glad1@...Date: Thu, 29 Apr 2010 04:09:05 +0000Subject: ( ) Re: Is this a good idea or a bad one?

We just started a task/chore-reward system with my 6-yr-old, and he earns $0.20 for each of his chores (a little more for "bigger" tasks, like "getting a 'green day' at school." He LOVES it! He's trying to earn enough money to purchase (another) Lego Star Wars ship, and we add up the money he's earned at the end of each day. It's really working for him (offering to wash dishes, playing more with his little brother, cleaning the floor). I love it, too!

I wish I knew how to attach a document so that you could see our chart. I purchased a small laminating machine at Wal-Mart (I make so many charts and visual aids for him to use at home and school, that it was cheaper than continuing to go to Office Depot), and we use a dry-erase pen to make the checkmarks. Then we erase the marks and start over the next day. We have a section at the bottom for daily and weekly totals. If anyone knows how to attach a document, please let me know so that i can share it.

>

> Hi All:

>

> My son (age 7, AS, AD, ADHD, OCD, SPD, OMG) has a lot of trouble with his morning routine. Before his Vyvanse kicks in, he has a hard time staying on task with getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc. He'll start to go to the next task, get distracted, and I'll find him staring out the window at the birds or something else totally off-task.

>

> He does well with task lists at school, so I am going to start a morning task list on a clipboard for him. We would sit down the night before and list all the things he needs to do tomorrow morning, i.e. get dressed, brush teeth, pack lunch, assemble karate gear, etc.

>

> So here's my question - would it be okay for me to give him $1 as a reward for completing his whole task list by the time we leave for school?

>

> Normally I don't like to use money as a reward, but he is learning about money in school and he's great at saving for things he wants. We have gotten past the "Hey mom will you buy me that?" and moved on to "Do I have enough money saved for that?" And he does think hard before blowing his savings on things. He will even decide not to buy something if he feels it is too expensive.

>

> Please let me know your opinions about my task list/reward idea. I'm open to all suggestions.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Patti

>

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I think that is a great point to make. Money is not a bad reward. A

reward is rewarding to that person. So for one, it might be money.

For another, it might be time spent doing a project or an art class or

a trip to the video store...it depends on the child. Also, you can

change rewards as you go, fade them as the child learns the routine and

make new ones for new things he needs to learn.

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

( ) Re: Is this a good idea or a bad one?

 

We just started a task/chore-reward system with my

6-yr-old, and he earns $0.20 for each of his chores (a little more for

" bigger " tasks, like " getting a 'green day' at school. " He LOVES it!

He's trying to earn enough money to purchase (another) Lego Star Wars

ship, and we add up the money he's earned at the end of each day. It's

really working for him (offering to wash dishes, playing more with his

little brother, cleaning the floor). I love it, too!

I wish I knew how to attach a document so that you could see our chart.

I purchased a small laminating machine at Wal-Mart (I make so many

charts and visual aids for him to use at home and school, that it was

cheaper than continuing to go to Office Depot), and we use a dry-erase

pen to make the checkmarks. Then we erase the marks and start over the

next day. We have a section at the bottom for daily and weekly totals.

If anyone knows how to attach a document, please let me know so that i

can share it.

>

> Hi All:

>

> My son (age 7, AS, AD, ADHD, OCD, SPD, OMG) has a lot of

trouble with his morning routine. Before his Vyvanse kicks in, he has

a hard time staying on task with getting dressed, brushing teeth, etc.

He'll start to go to the next task, get distracted, and I'll find him

staring out the window at the birds or something else totally off-task.

>

> He does well with task lists at school, so I am going to start a

morning task list on a clipboard for him. We would sit down the night

before and list all the things he needs to do tomorrow morning, i.e.

get dressed, brush teeth, pack lunch, assemble karate gear, etc.

>

> So here's my question - would it be okay for me to give him $1 as a

reward for completing his whole task list by the time we leave for

school?

>

> Normally I don't like to use money as a reward, but he is learning

about money in school and he's great at saving for things he wants. We

have gotten past the " Hey mom will you buy me that? " and moved on to

" Do I have enough money saved for that? " And he does think hard before

blowing his savings on things. He will even decide not to buy

something if he feels it is too expensive.

>

> Please let me know your opinions about my task list/reward idea. I'm

open to all suggestions.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Patti

>

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