Re: Re: Son Suspended from School

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Oh that is so sad for your son. They use to do things like that to my son too. I guess this is part of where his ANGER comes from. It all becomes confusing and fustrating. Our children copy other kids ....kids who can get away with things but our kids always get caught. I am not condoning my son's actions....just trying to understand where all this is coming from. I think having a girlfriend, the teen scene is hard for him to handle. He is angry at his x-best friend and they are no longer talking and I know that must bother him too. Plus he says his ex-b.f. knew his password on face book and posted stuff that he didn't say. But, can I truly believe my son...I told my son it is hard for me to believe him because he has lied to us about his computer. He threw it in anger and it broke...he said he dropped it. My son lies but the truth always comes

out. And, he tells us stuff and then when we don't believe him he gets totally fustrated. I have told him the story about the boy who cried wolf too many times but it doesn't sink in.

Who is the author of that book. I think I may want to get a copy for myself. Thanks for your support.

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Catcelia <c2cats@...> Sent: Tue, February 8, 2011 8:26:54 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School

I've been in your shoes. It can be scary and depressing. We got the book "A 5 is Against the Law. Social Boundaries Straight Up!" The book along with a lot of counseling on acceptable social behavior has helped my son improve his behavior.My son was suspended from school last year for grabbing a girl by her arm to get her attention. He can no longer have any contact with the girl or her friends. The girl's friends encouraged my son by telling him what he could do to get the one girl to be his girlfriend. The girl already had a boyfriend so the girl's friends were just teasing my son. Of course the girls did not get into trouble. **SIGH**I live near where that one Aspie boy randomly killed a school mate in the school bathroom. The Aspie boy had been making threats for a long time but no one took them seriously. So after the murder all the schools in this area take any type of threat by an Aspie very seriously.

Caroline>> Well, I guess I spoke to soon...I counted my eggs before they hatched. My son was suspended today from school. Originally it was going to be 10 days but they said...as long as he did his work at home, didn't give us a hard time and went to therapy ...they would change it to 5 days.> > Why was he suspended....well, it seems that this kid said hello to his girlfriend and she made a comment that he won't leave her alone. So, my son takes things into his own hands and on facebook he told this kid he would "kill him" , that he was a fxxking gay and he was going to beat him up...and so forth. He said his was going to get his father's AK .....and we don't own guns and never would. > > The

boy reported my son to the principal. Then they got the postings on facebook. My son sounded horrible. This is not who I raised. > > The school said the police maybe calling. They said it was terroristic threats and he may have to go in front of a judge. OMG. And, my son is now in his bed with the covers over his head. When I try to talk he yells at me. He says we keep repeating the same thing over and over. But he jsut doesn't get it. > > WE did tell his he lost his computer and will never be allowed to use it unsupervised. No more facebook. We told him that he had to delete his account and he said NO. > > I don't know how to deal with all this. I did call his therapsit who he hasn't seen in a while and made 2 appts. for him..now he has no choice. > > The school said it is not part of his AS...although I think it is in a way...he doesn't have the social skills or self controls. This is his first

real girlfriend...and she is cute and goodlooking. Plus, I truly know my son would not beat anyone up...it was all talk. He doesn't get how serious this is...and it is. We may end up going in front of a juveniel judge. > > The principal did say that if he didn't behave at school, all I had to do was call him and he would set up for him to go to the Academy for 3 of the days. > > I am sick over this and at a losss....help.> > jan>

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I got that book for my son also last year when he had that incident with the teacher in the hallway. It has helped him and now he is really paranoid about anything that is "against the law".

The other day we were driving down the road on our way to church and he used a babywipe in the car to wipe his hands. Out of no where he decides to roll the window down and throw it out! He's never done this before and he knows not to litter. I got really upset and told him we don't litter. He said it's not littering because it's biodegradable. OMG! I said, maybe but that takes a while and it is still littering. I told him we could get a $200 fine and that the car behind us could take down our plate number and call it in. He got so worried that he wanted me to turn around so he could pick the babywipe back up. I told him we could go back after church. I'm sure he will never throw anything out the window again.

Our kids are so literal that maybe if your son sees it in black and white he will take it serious. ne

From: rushen janice <jrushen@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School Date: Wednesday, February 9, 2011, 11:53 AM

Oh that is so sad for your son. They use to do things like that to my son too. I guess this is part of where his ANGER comes from. It all becomes confusing and fustrating. Our children copy other kids ....kids who can get away with things but our kids always get caught. I am not condoning my son's actions....just trying to understand where all this is coming from. I think having a girlfriend, the teen scene is hard for him to handle. He is angry at his x-best friend and they are no longer talking and I know that must bother him too. Plus he says his ex-b.f. knew his password on face book and posted stuff that he didn't say. But, can I truly believe my son...I told my son it is hard for me to believe him because he has lied to us about his computer. He threw it in anger and it broke...he said he dropped it. My son lies but the truth always comes

out. And, he tells us stuff and then when we don't believe him he gets totally fustrated. I have told him the story about the boy who cried wolf too many times but it doesn't sink in.

Who is the author of that book. I think I may want to get a copy for myself. Thanks for your support.

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Catcelia <c2cats@...> Sent: Tue, February 8, 2011 8:26:54 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School

I've been in your shoes. It can be scary and depressing. We got the book "A 5 is Against the Law. Social Boundaries Straight Up!" The book along with a lot of counseling on acceptable social behavior has helped my son improve his behavior.My son was suspended from school last year for grabbing a girl by her arm to get her attention. He can no longer have any contact with the girl or her friends. The girl's friends encouraged my son by telling him what he could do to get the one girl to be his girlfriend. The girl already had a boyfriend so the girl's friends were just teasing my son. Of course the girls did not get into trouble. **SIGH**I live near where that one Aspie boy randomly killed a school mate in the school bathroom. The Aspie boy had been making threats for a long time but no one took them seriously. So after the murder all the schools in this area take any type of threat by an Aspie very seriously.

Caroline>> Well, I guess I spoke to soon...I counted my eggs before they hatched. My son was suspended today from school. Originally it was going to be 10 days but they said...as long as he did his work at home, didn't give us a hard time and went to therapy ...they would change it to 5 days.> > Why was he suspended....well, it seems that this kid said hello to his girlfriend and she made a comment that he won't leave her alone. So, my son takes things into his own hands and on facebook he told this kid he would "kill him" , that he was a fxxking gay and he was going to beat him up...and so forth. He said his was going to get his father's AK .....and we don't own guns

and never would. > > The boy reported my son to the principal. Then they got the postings on facebook. My son sounded horrible. This is not who I raised. > > The school said the police maybe calling. They said it was terroristic threats and he may have to go in front of a judge. OMG. And, my son is now in his bed with the covers over his head. When I try to talk he yells at me. He says we keep repeating the same thing over and over. But he jsut doesn't get it. > > WE did tell his he lost his computer and will never be allowed to use it unsupervised. No more facebook. We told him that he had to delete his account and he said NO. > > I don't know how to deal with all this. I did call his therapsit who he hasn't seen in a while and made 2 appts. for him..now he has no choice. > > The school said it is not part of his AS...although I think it is in a way...he doesn't have the social

skills or self controls. This is his first real girlfriend...and she is cute and goodlooking. Plus, I truly know my son would not beat anyone up...it was all talk. He doesn't get how serious this is...and it is. We may end up going in front of a juveniel judge. > > The principal did say that if he didn't behave at school, all I had to do was call him and he would set up for him to go to the Academy for 3 of the days. > > I am sick over this and at a losss....help.> > jan>

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"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Catcelia <c2cats@...> Sent: Wed, February 9, 2011 7:24:59 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School

The 5 is against the law book is aimed at teens. The author is Kari Dunn Buron. She's also written similar books for slightly younger kids as well.http://www.amazon.com/Against-Law-Social-Boundaries-Straight/dp/1931282358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1297297233 & sr=8-1Here's a link to the book via Amazon.http://www.amazon.com/Against-Law-Social-Boundaries-Straight/dp/1931282358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8 & qid=1297297233 & sr=8-1--- In , rushen janice <jrushen@...> wrote:>> Oh that is so sad for your son. They use to do things like that to my son too. > I

guess this is part of where his ANGER comes from.  It all becomes confusing > and fustrating. Our children copy other kids ....kids who can get away with > things but our kids always get caught. I am not condoning my son's > actions....just trying to understand where all this is coming from. I think > having a girlfriend, the teen scene is hard for him to handle. He is angry at > his x-best friend and they are no longer talking and I know that must bother him > too.  Plus he says his ex-b.f. knew his password on face book and posted stuff > that he didn't say. But, can I truly believe my son...I told my son it is hard > for me to believe him because he has lied to us about his computer. He threw it > in anger and it broke...he said he dropped it. My son lies but the truth >

always comes out. And, he tells us stuff and then when we don't believe him he > gets totally fustrated. I have told him the story about the boy who cried wolf > too many times but it doesn't sink in.> > Who is the author of that book. I think I may want to get a copy for myself. > Thanks for your support.> > Jan>  > "In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity"   Albert Einstein>  > Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome > to obtain that position> > > > > ________________________________> From: Catcelia <c2cats@...>> >

Sent: Tue, February 8, 2011 8:26:54 PM> Subject: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School> > Â > I've been in your shoes. It can be scary and depressing. We got the book "A 5 is > Against the Law. Social Boundaries Straight Up!" The book along with a lot of > counseling on acceptable social behavior has helped my son improve his behavior.> > My son was suspended from school last year for grabbing a girl by her arm to get > her attention. He can no longer have any contact with the girl or her friends. > The girl's friends encouraged my son by telling him what he could do to get the > one girl to be his girlfriend. The girl already had a boyfriend so the girl's > friends were just teasing my son. Of course the girls did not get into trouble. > **SIGH**> > I live near where that one Aspie boy randomly killed a school mate in the school

> bathroom. The Aspie boy had been making threats for a long time but no one took > them seriously. So after the murder all the schools in this area take any type > of threat by an Aspie very seriously. > > > Caroline> > > >> > Well, I guess I spoke to soon...I counted my eggs before they hatched. My son > >was suspended today from school. Originally it was going to be 10 days but they > >said...as long as he did his work at home, didn't give us a hard time and went > >to therapy ...they would change it to 5 days.> > > > Why was he suspended....well, it seems that this kid said hello to his > >girlfriend and she made a

comment that he won't leave her alone. So, my son > >takes things into his own hands and on facebook he told this kid he would "kill > >him" , that he was a fxxking gay and he was going to beat him up...and so forth. > >He said his was going to get his father's AK .....and we don't own guns and > >never would. > >> > > > The boy reported my son to the principal. Then they got the postings on > >facebook. My son sounded horrible. This is not who I raised. > >> > > > The school said the police maybe calling. They said it was terroristic threats > >and he may have to go in front of a judge. OMG. And, my son is now in his bed > >with the covers over his head. When I try to talk he yells at me. He says we > >keep repeating the same thing over and over. But he jsut doesn't get it. > >> > > >

WE did tell his he lost his computer and will never be allowed to use it > >unsupervised. No more facebook. We told him that he had to delete his account > >and he said NO. > >> > > > I don't know how to deal with all this. I did call his therapsit who he hasn't > >seen in a while and made 2 appts. for him..now he has no choice. > >> > > > The school said it is not part of his AS...although I think it is in a way...he > >doesn't have the social skills or self controls. This is his first real > >girlfriend...and she is cute and goodlooking. Plus, I truly know my son would > >not beat anyone up...it was all talk. He doesn't get how serious this is...and > >it is. We may end up going in front of a juveniel judge. > >> > > > The principal did say that if he didn't behave at school, all I had to do

was > >call him and he would set up for him to go to the Academy for 3 of the days. > >> > > > I am sick over this and at a losss....help.> > > > jan> >>

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That is what we are here for Jan. I pray it all works out for you and your son. <<hugs>>ne>> Oh that is so sad for your son. They use to do things like that

to my son too. > I guess this is part of where his ANGER comes from.  It all becomes confusing > and fustrating. Our children copy other kids ....kids who can get away with > things but our kids always get caught. I am not condoning my son's > actions....just trying to understand where all this is coming from. I think > having a girlfriend, the teen scene is hard for him to handle. He is angry at > his x-best friend and they are no longer talking and I know that must bother him > too.  Plus he says his ex-b.f. knew his password on face book and posted stuff > that he didn't say. But, can I truly believe my son...I told my son it is hard > for me to believe him because he has lied to us about his computer. He threw it > in anger and it broke...he said he dropped it. My

son lies but the truth > always comes out. And, he tells us stuff and then when we don't believe him he > gets totally fustrated. I have told him the story about the boy who cried wolf > too many times but it doesn't sink in.> > Who is the author of that book. I think I may want to get a copy for myself. > Thanks for your support.> > Jan>  > "In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity"   Albert Einstein>  > Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome > to obtain that position> > > > > ________________________________> From: Catcelia <c2cats@...>> > Sent: Tue, February 8, 2011 8:26:54 PM> Subject: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School> >  > I've been in your shoes. It can be scary and depressing. We got the book "A 5 is > Against the Law. Social Boundaries Straight Up!" The book along with a lot of > counseling on acceptable social behavior has helped my son improve his behavior.> > My son was suspended from school last year for grabbing a girl by her arm to get > her attention. He can no longer have any contact with the girl or her friends. > The girl's friends encouraged my son by telling him what he could do to get the > one girl to be his girlfriend. The girl already had a boyfriend so the girl's > friends were just teasing my son. Of course the girls did not get into trouble. >

**SIGH**> > I live near where that one Aspie boy randomly killed a school mate in the school > bathroom. The Aspie boy had been making threats for a long time but no one took > them seriously. So after the murder all the schools in this area take any type > of threat by an Aspie very seriously. > > > Caroline> > > >> > Well, I guess I spoke to soon...I counted my eggs before they hatched. My son > >was suspended today from school. Originally it was going to be 10 days but they > >said...as long as he did his work at home, didn't give us a hard time and went > >to therapy ...they would change it to

5 days.> > > > Why was he suspended....well, it seems that this kid said hello to his > >girlfriend and she made a comment that he won't leave her alone. So, my son > >takes things into his own hands and on facebook he told this kid he would "kill > >him" , that he was a fxxking gay and he was going to beat him up...and so forth. > >He said his was going to get his father's AK .....and we don't own guns and > >never would. > >> > > > The boy reported my son to the principal. Then they got the postings on > >facebook. My son sounded horrible. This is not who I raised. > >> > > > The school said the police maybe calling. They said it was terroristic threats > >and he may have to go in front of a judge. OMG. And, my son is now in his bed > >with the covers over his head. When I try to talk he yells

at me. He says we > >keep repeating the same thing over and over. But he jsut doesn't get it. > >> > > > WE did tell his he lost his computer and will never be allowed to use it > >unsupervised. No more facebook. We told him that he had to delete his account > >and he said NO. > >> > > > I don't know how to deal with all this. I did call his therapsit who he hasn't > >seen in a while and made 2 appts. for him..now he has no choice. > >> > > > The school said it is not part of his AS...although I think it is in a way...he > >doesn't have the social skills or self controls. This is his first real > >girlfriend...and she is cute and goodlooking. Plus, I truly know my son would > >not beat anyone up...it was all talk. He doesn't get how serious this is...and > >it is. We may end up going in

front of a juveniel judge. > >> > > > The principal did say that if he didn't behave at school, all I had to do was > >call him and he would set up for him to go to the Academy for 3 of the days. > >> > > > I am sick over this and at a losss....help.> > > > jan> >>

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"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: susanne hansen <s_hansen34@...> Sent: Wed, February 9, 2011 11:25:20 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School

That is what we are here for Jan. I pray it all works out for you and your son. <<hugs>>ne>> Oh that is so sad for your son. They use to do things like that to my son too. > I guess this

is part of where his ANGER comes from.  It all becomes confusing > and fustrating. Our children copy other kids ....kids who can get away with > things but our kids always get caught. I am not condoning my son's > actions....just trying to understand where all this is coming from. I think > having a girlfriend, the teen scene is hard for him to handle. He is angry at > his x-best friend and they are no longer talking and I know that must bother him > too.  Plus he says his ex-b.f. knew his password on face book and posted stuff > that he didn't say. But, can I truly believe my son...I told my son it is hard > for me to believe him because he has lied to us about his computer. He threw it > in anger and it broke...he said he dropped it. My son lies but the truth > always comes

out. And, he tells us stuff and then when we don't believe him he > gets totally fustrated. I have told him the story about the boy who cried wolf > too many times but it doesn't sink in.> > Who is the author of that book. I think I may want to get a copy for myself. > Thanks for your support.> > Jan>  > "In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity"   Albert Einstein>  > Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome > to obtain that position> > > > > ________________________________> From: Catcelia <c2cats@...>> > Sent: Tue, February 8, 2011 8:26:54

PM> Subject: ( ) Re: Son Suspended from School> > Â > I've been in your shoes. It can be scary and depressing. We got the book "A 5 is > Against the Law. Social Boundaries Straight Up!" The book along with a lot of > counseling on acceptable social behavior has helped my son improve his behavior.> > My son was suspended from school last year for grabbing a girl by her arm to get > her attention. He can no longer have any contact with the girl or her friends. > The girl's friends encouraged my son by telling him what he could do to get the > one girl to be his girlfriend. The girl already had a boyfriend so the girl's > friends were just teasing my son. Of course the girls did not get into trouble. > **SIGH**> > I live near where that one Aspie boy randomly killed a school mate in the school > bathroom. The Aspie boy had

been making threats for a long time but no one took > them seriously. So after the murder all the schools in this area take any type > of threat by an Aspie very seriously. > > > Caroline> > > >> > Well, I guess I spoke to soon...I counted my eggs before they hatched. My son > >was suspended today from school. Originally it was going to be 10 days but they > >said...as long as he did his work at home, didn't give us a hard time and went > >to therapy ...they would change it to 5 days.> > > > Why was he suspended....well, it seems that this kid said hello to his > >girlfriend and she made a comment that he won't leave her alone. So, my son

> >takes things into his own hands and on facebook he told this kid he would "kill > >him" , that he was a fxxking gay and he was going to beat him up...and so forth. > >He said his was going to get his father's AK .....and we don't own guns and > >never would. > >> > > > The boy reported my son to the principal. Then they got the postings on > >facebook. My son sounded horrible. This is not who I raised. > >> > > > The school said the police maybe calling. They said it was terroristic threats > >and he may have to go in front of a judge. OMG. And, my son is now in his bed > >with the covers over his head. When I try to talk he yells at me. He says we > >keep repeating the same thing over and over. But he jsut doesn't get it. > >> > > > WE did tell his he lost his computer and will

never be allowed to use it > >unsupervised. No more facebook. We told him that he had to delete his account > >and he said NO. > >> > > > I don't know how to deal with all this. I did call his therapsit who he hasn't > >seen in a while and made 2 appts. for him..now he has no choice. > >> > > > The school said it is not part of his AS...although I think it is in a way...he > >doesn't have the social skills or self controls. This is his first real > >girlfriend...and she is cute and goodlooking. Plus, I truly know my son would > >not beat anyone up...it was all talk. He doesn't get how serious this is...and > >it is. We may end up going in front of a juveniel judge. > >> > > > The principal did say that if he didn't behave at school, all I had to do was > >call him and he would set up

for him to go to the Academy for 3 of the days. > >> > > > I am sick over this and at a losss....help.> > > > jan> >>