Re: Curing Asperger's/Autism? WAS: Parenthood

[Guest guest]

You said it perfectly! I agree with you completely.Sent from my iPhoneBlessings, DonnaOn Mar 16, 2010, at 1:40 PM, O'Brien <nicole.obrien@...> wrote:

I have been very quiet on this “heated debateâ€

But I feel the need to chime in…

Honestly, I completely understand and respect the differences

between both sides of this argument. We are all coming from different

perspectives, and are ,in a group where we should be MORE able to be more understanding

in our differences of opinion and approach – forgetting to put ourselves

in others shoes. Some of our members struggle with this, because of HAVING

Asperger’s Syndrome – and while that doesn’t offer an excuse,

it should offer compassion for explaining an alternative thought. BLACK AND

WHITE is the only way I see this argument, for those with AS and those without…

ironically

I am here to remind you all that there *IS* a grey area

!!! We can agree to disagree, based on VERY differences of our perspectives.

comes as this as someone who’s lived his entire life with AS, has

grown up learning, knowing, accepting and understanding that this is a part of

him. This has been and continues to be a major determining factor in his growth

and development, and while none of us ever desires to have a disability define

who we are, in part, it does… it’s unavoidable.

That being said, has never been the NT parent of a child

with AS… and doesn’t know how much a heart can ache when you feel

so helpless to remove the suffering… when you try, hard as you might, to

help your child succeed and thrive BEYOND their disability, to uncover their

true potential.

It is hard to put ourselves in each other’s shoes…

and it is hard to understand each other’s perspectives and positions on

the subject.

For the sanctity of the group, and because I love having varying

perspectives, and varying ways of looking at things… different opinions

allows us to step out of our world, and into that of someone else… and

THIS is how we all learn and grow.

So please – be respectful of each other’s opinions.

You don’t have to agree… you don’t even have to like what the

other person thinks, feels or believes – but you DO have to accept it as

their opinion, their choice and their belief. And with that, that means that we

have to keep comments that would sound like one way is superior, or “RIGHTâ€.

Life just cannot be that black and white.

Embrace the grey, please? So we can all get back to sharing

thoughts, ideas, opinions, perspectives and stories, without feeling like we

aren’t welcome to speak an opinion different from someone else’s.

Thanks for the GREAT group, everyone. You’re all a valued

member, with VALUABLE opinions to me !!

=)

[Guest guest]

Very well written! I feel exactly the same way about this topic!!

>

> I have been very quiet on this " heated debate " But I feel the need to

> chime in.

>

>

>

> Honestly, I completely understand and respect the differences between both

> sides of this argument. We are all coming from different perspectives, and

> are ,in a group where we should be MORE able to be more understanding in our

> differences of opinion and approach - forgetting to put ourselves in others

> shoes. Some of our members struggle with this, because of HAVING Asperger's

> Syndrome - and while that doesn't offer an excuse, it should offer

> compassion for explaining an alternative thought. BLACK AND WHITE is the

> only way I see this argument, for those with AS and those without.

> ironically

>

>

>

> I am here to remind you all that there *IS* a grey area !!! We can agree to

> disagree, based on VERY differences of our perspectives. comes as this

> as someone who's lived his entire life with AS, has grown up learning,

> knowing, accepting and understanding that this is a part of him. This has

> been and continues to be a major determining factor in his growth and

> development, and while none of us ever desires to have a disability define

> who we are, in part, it does. it's unavoidable.

>

>

>

> That being said, has never been the NT parent of a child with AS. and

> doesn't know how much a heart can ache when you feel so helpless to remove

> the suffering. when you try, hard as you might, to help your child succeed

> and thrive BEYOND their disability, to uncover their true potential.

>

>

>

> It is hard to put ourselves in each other's shoes. and it is hard to

> understand each other's perspectives and positions on the subject.

>

>

>

> For the sanctity of the group, and because I love having varying

> perspectives, and varying ways of looking at things. different opinions

> allows us to step out of our world, and into that of someone else. and THIS

> is how we all learn and grow.

>

>

>

> So please - be respectful of each other's opinions. You don't have to agree.

> you don't even have to like what the other person thinks, feels or believes

> - but you DO have to accept it as their opinion, their choice and their

> belief. And with that, that means that we have to keep comments that would

> sound like one way is superior, or " RIGHT " . Life just cannot be that black

> and white.

>

>

>

> Embrace the grey, please? So we can all get back to sharing thoughts, ideas,

> opinions, perspectives and stories, without feeling like we aren't welcome

> to speak an opinion different from someone else's.

>

>

>

> Thanks for the GREAT group, everyone. You're all a valued member, with

> VALUABLE opinions to me !!

>

>

>

> =)

>