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I have a grandson whom is 5 years old. He was just diagnosed wit Asp. 6 weeks

ago. I have notice his talking to adults and rage is getting worse. He is

saying very hateful things to his parents and to me when asked to do simple

things like brush your teeth.... wash your hands....

Can anyone shed some light on how to handle this sitsuation? I am lost in the

new diagnosis and do not know what to do when he is screaming at me " get out of

my house " " I don't like you " " Don't ever come back "

Its the rage and running from me, that scares me.

Any suggestions on what tools I can use on him would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

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First and foremost...DO NOT and I mean DO NOT take it personally. Something is setting him off...some issue...

First, have you tried backing off and seeing if he will remember to do some of these things himself???? I know my son gets like that...and i realized I was not letting him be responsible...I was contantly reminding him...did you you brush you teeth, did you take your meds...don't forget to do this or that ...blah blah blah...and i was annoying LOL! If he makes a mistake...that is okay...let him learn from it. I was and still am too overprotective. I need to make him responsible and self-reliant and he is not going to be if I keep reminding him constantly and holding his hand ...etc.

Now, this may not be the issue....does your grandson get "down time"....time to recharge? I know my son has a lot of sensory issues...and he comes home from school like a raging bull. He has held it together all day in school and if I ask him...So, how was your day? Or tell me something good that happened today ...he explodes. He answers me in such a nasty way. I have learned the hard way...so now when he comes home...I let him come in...and I don't say anything at all...until he speaks to me first. He usually goes straight to his room and chills. Down time. He may zone out on the tv for 30-60 minutes. When he is ready...he comes and talks. He usually doesn't want to talk about school...he hates school. But sometimes he does...

Keep a log...when does your grandson get angry...when does he blow-up. See if you can see a pattern. Or are there certain triggers that set him off. Keeping a log...may help you figure it out.

And, when he is in those moods or swings of angers or outbursts...don't shout back. When my son was younger and would have meltdowns...i would tell him to go to his room and stay there until he was human again. He needed that. He would be in there talking away to himself ...ranting...etc. sometimes he laid on his bed and fell asleep. But eventually he would come out and was a totally new person...all sweet and kind.

Hang in there...it is tough.

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: kmt38 <kmt38@...> Sent: Sun, July 4, 2010 11:16:01 PMSubject: ( ) grandson

I have a grandson whom is 5 years old. He was just diagnosed wit Asp. 6 weeks ago. I have notice his talking to adults and rage is getting worse. He is saying very hateful things to his parents and to me when asked to do simple things like brush your teeth.... wash your hands....Can anyone shed some light on how to handle this sitsuation? I am lost in the new diagnosis and do not know what to do when he is screaming at me " get out of my house" "I don't like you" "Don't ever come back"Its the rage and running from me, that scares me.Any suggestions on what tools I can use on him would be greatly appreciated.Thanks

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> Hi Bee,

> my grandson is going through a very difficult time. His girlfriend age 21 has

had cancer of the ovaries and now the doctors found a tumor in her brain.

>

> I asked my daughter if it would be alright to send him some of the supplements

that we use on your diet.

>

> She agreed it would be good. I cannot afford all the supplements, please let

me know what supplements would be the best to start him on to help with the

stress he is going through.

+++Hi Angie,

How heartbreaking for your dear grandson and your daughter!

The best thing you can do for your grandson and his girlfriend is to get the

information to them about getting intravenous vitamin C treatments for cancer,

since hope and help will be better for your grandson than buying him

supplements.

Find the Orthomolecular Association or an Orthomolecular Physician in their

area:

http://www.orthomolecular.org/resources/pract.shtml

Unless your grandson understands and agrees with it, it may be a waste of money

to buy any supplements.

In the past I've given family members supplements, and most of the time they

didn't take them. When they did take them they thought the supplements made

them worse because they got healing and detox reactions. So getting a person's

agreement and understanding are very important.

That's why I rarely give advice to people who do not read and learn so they

understand what to do and why.

Just taking some supplements without eliminating toxins, junk foods, sugars,

etc. won't help anyway.

You can give your grandson lots of love and support and suggest he do deep

breathing exercises to lessen his stress. Talk to him about things that are

" real " to him, like taking an Epsom salt bath, eating eggs, meats and veggies,

etc.

If he reaches out for your help get him to read and learn, if he is willing.

Bee