I am New Here

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Happy Holiday to All. My daughter le age 19 has aspergers. I am moving

from Massachusetts to San Texas the end of this month to rent a home

with my husband Neil(le's Stepdad); and though she does not really want to

come (she has a boyfriend here). Neil (ex-military) and le do not get

along so I have to get her an apartment nearby. I tried getting one here in

Westborough MA but the prices are ridiculous. Since she does not drive, her

choices are limited.

I tried getting her services here but it is next to impossible to get the right

department as there are so many, and each, when they do return your call, it

seems le was not eligible for some reason. She just graduated high

school, with several A's to be proud of. So her IQ is too high!

I am going to look for a support group in San when I get there. My

husband, Neil says I let her walk all over me; as with aspergers, she is selfish

and her world revolves around her. I want to save my marriage so the only thing

I can do is to take her with me to Texas and get her a place nearby. I am

hoping I can act as her case manager and get her doing her own things. The

thing is, when I am not looking she is different with other people, especially

her boyfriend. She is friendly, smart and seems more mature.

As you can see I have so much confusion, frustration, and also anger as I feel

it is time for me to be a little selfish as she does not seem to care about my

happiness.

By the way, the reason we are moving to Texas is my husband had to retire on

disability from an auto accident, I became unemployed, as did my son, the

mortgage was going up again so we said enough MA, and off to Texas we go.

I guess we can start with this. Any comments are welcome. Thanks!