Re: impulsive, meltdowns ?

June 24, 2010

Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for........... Janis Joplin.

“The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly.)

Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and Dyslexia.

Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at ,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they heard the reason and story.

But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

THANKS.

FI X

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From: susanonderko@...Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on "no" or time to leave? Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed(not anxious). Any success with a medication?Pam

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June 24, 2010

I am reading " The Explosive Child " - for parenting children that are inflexible

and easily frustrated. Often their parents are too. Might help with

understanding and to try a different approach

Miranda

>

> Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for........... Janis

Joplin.

>

> " The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do

nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly.)

>

> Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and

Dyslexia.

>

> Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The

other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at

,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they

heard the reason and story.

>

> But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

> THANKS.

> FI X

>

> Visit my Myspace page:

> http://www.myspace.com/fiarena

>

> From: susanonderko@...

> Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000

> Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

>

> What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something

> new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on " no " or time to leave?

> Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed

> (not anxious). Any success with a medication?

>

> Pam

>

> _________________________________________________________________

> http://clk.atdmt.com/UKM/go/197222280/direct/01/

> Do you have a story that started on Hotmail? Tell us now

>

June 24, 2010

Some of the AS kids that are more controlling types (vs. passive) can be really

really difficult to manage. So I wouldn't

get too down on yourself. You are probably doing all you can

with little support.

One piece of advice I will pass on is this, do not engage

in discussions trying to reason with your child

when they are upset or mad. It will reinforce this

unwanted behavior (arguing). If he won't

do as you ask you have to figure out a simple reward

system and reward all wanted behaviors. For example

he gets to school on time he gets 1 hour of TV/computer.

Summer is a good time to make behavior changes.

I have found the Yale Parent and Child Conduct Clinic

very helpful. I took a parent course and have stayed

on for parenting support. It has not really reduced

meltdowns but I don't feel so frustrated with behaviors.

They teach you how to parent very ridgid thinkers.

I did all the training on the phone ($75 a week). Or if you

have medical insurance, it may be possible to find a

neuropyschologist (I did find one in Aetna) that can give you

parenting advice for the price of your co-pay.

A neuropsychologist will probably understand the cognitive

issues. That has been my experience.

Some kids need some medication, that is why I have asked the

question myself.

take care,

Pam

>

> Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for........... Janis

Joplin.

>

> " The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do

nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly.)

>

> Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and

Dyslexia.

>

> Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The

other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at

,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they

heard the reason and story.

>

> But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

> THANKS.

> FI X

>

> Visit my Myspace page:

> http://www.myspace.com/fiarena

>

> From: susanonderko@...

> Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000

> Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

>

> What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something

> new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on " no " or time to leave?

> Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed

> (not anxious). Any success with a medication?

>

> Pam

>

> _________________________________________________________________

> http://clk.atdmt.com/UKM/go/197222280/direct/01/

> Do you have a story that started on Hotmail? Tell us now

>

June 24, 2010

Thanks for all the information! You have been very helpful.

I hope your daughter stays well.

Pam

>

> >

> > What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something

> > new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on " no " or time to leave?

> > Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed

> > (not anxious). Any success with a medication?

> >

> > Pam

> >

>

> --

> -mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

> , , and baby girl no name (yeah I know, nothing new, does ever

> pick a name in a timely manner?) July 2010

>

June 24, 2010

I have been in the position of loosing it many times with my 4 and 10 year old

(both high functioning). My husband tells me I yell too much but it gets SO

frustrating when the meltdowns happen about everything. We don't have bad days

like that all the time but A LOT! My 10 year old gets mad anytime he's asked to

do anything he doesn't want to do and my 4 year old is so hyper that its hard to

get him to follow any direction like when I tell him to get in the car. Trust

me, you are definitly not alone.

My 4 year old seems to have more meltdown and screaming fits in the car, does

anyone have any advise on how to deal with that? I'm wondering if there's

something about being in the car that's causing him to go into sensory

overload?? My sister watches him during the day and has seen/heard some of the

behavors and states that he doesn't act that way at her house. I'm starting to

feel like maybe its something about me that causes the sensory overload with him

and the meltdowns to occur!!! I really hope that's not the case but its so

overwhelming at times I just don't know what else to think.

On Thu Jun 24th, 2010 9:53 PM CDT Pamela wrote:

>Some of the AS kids that are more controlling types (vs. passive) can be really

really difficult to manage. So I wouldn't

>get too down on yourself. You are probably doing all you can

>with little support.

>

>One piece of advice I will pass on is this, do not engage

>in discussions trying to reason with your child

>when they are upset or mad. It will reinforce this

>unwanted behavior (arguing). If he won't

>do as you ask you have to figure out a simple reward

>system and reward all wanted behaviors. For example

>he gets to school on time he gets 1 hour of TV/computer.

>Summer is a good time to make behavior changes.

>

>I have found the Yale Parent and Child Conduct Clinic

>very helpful. I took a parent course and have stayed

>on for parenting support. It has not really reduced

>meltdowns but I don't feel so frustrated with behaviors.

>They teach you how to parent very ridgid thinkers.

>

>I did all the training on the phone ($75 a week). Or if you

>have medical insurance, it may be possible to find a

>neuropyschologist (I did find one in Aetna) that can give you

>parenting advice for the price of your co-pay.

>A neuropsychologist will probably understand the cognitive

>issues. That has been my experience.

>

>Some kids need some medication, that is why I have asked the

>question myself.

>

>take care,

>Pam

>

>>

>> Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for........... Janis

Joplin.

>>

>> " The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do

nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly.)

>>

>> Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and

Dyslexia.

>>

>> Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The

other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at

,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they

heard the reason and story.

>>

>> But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

>> THANKS.

>> FI X

>>

>> Visit my Myspace page:

>> http://www.myspace.com/fiarena

>>

>> From: susanonderko@...

>> Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000

>> Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

>>

>> What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something

>> new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on " no " or time to leave?

>> Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed

>> (not anxious). Any success with a medication?

>>

>> Pam

>>

>> _________________________________________________________________

>> http://clk.atdmt.com/UKM/go/197222280/direct/01/

>> Do you have a story that started on Hotmail? Tell us now

>>

>

June 25, 2010

Have you tried playing a DVD while in the car? This has

really really helped us. We have tried having pillows to hold,

playing calming music, having something to munch on, having a

few toys in the car, but for us having our daughter watch DVDs

has been an excellent distraction.

Pam

> >>

> >> Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for...........

Janis Joplin.

> >>

> >> " The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do

nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly.)

> >>

> >> Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and

Dyslexia.

> >>

> >> Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The

other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at

,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they

heard the reason and story.

> >>

> >> But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

> >> THANKS.

> >> FI X

> >>

> >> Visit my Myspace page:

> >> http://www.myspace.com/fiarena

> >>

> >> From: susanonderko@

> >> Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000

> >> Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

> >>

> >> What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something

> >> new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on " no " or time to leave?

> >> Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed

> >> (not anxious). Any success with a medication?

> >>

> >> Pam

> >>

> >> _________________________________________________________________

> >> http://clk.atdmt.com/UKM/go/197222280/direct/01/

> >> Do you have a story that started on Hotmail? Tell us now

> >>

> >

>

June 25, 2010

yes distraction is great, my dd brings her mp3 player, its a must, the radio just doesnt cut it

On Fri, Jun 25, 2010 at 9:33 AM, Pamela <susanonderko@...> wrote:

Have you tried playing a DVD while in the car? This hasreally really helped us. We have tried having pillows to hold,playing calming music, having something to munch on, having a few toys in the car, but for us having our daughter watch DVDs

has been an excellent distraction. Pam

> >>> >> > >>

> >> > >> > >> > >> Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for........... Janis Joplin.> >> > >> " The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly.)

> >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and Dyslexia.

> >> > >> Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at ,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they heard the reason and story.

> >> > >> But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?> >> THANKS.> >> FI X> >> > >> > >> > >>

> >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >>

> >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> Visit my Myspace page:

> >> http://www.myspace.com/fiarena> >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >>

> >> > >> > >> > >> From: susanonderko@> >> Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000

> >> Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?> >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something

> >> new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on " no " or time to leave? > >> Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed> >> (not anxious). Any success with a medication?

> >> > >> Pam > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> __________________________________________________________> >> http://clk.atdmt.com/UKM/go/197222280/direct/01/

> >> Do you have a story that started on Hotmail? Tell us now> >>> >> >>

-- -mommy to Emma, Becca, , , , and baby girl no name (yeah I know, nothing new, does ever pick a name in a timely manner?) July 2010

June 25, 2010

Is there any kind of medication for aspergers?

From: Fiona Daly <fiona659@...>Aspergers Treatment Sent: Thu, June 24, 2010 4:57:28 PMSubject: RE: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for......... .. Janis Joplin.

â€œThe only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly. )

Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and Dyslexia.

Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at ,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they heard the reason and story.

But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

THANKS.

FI X

Visit my Myspace page:

http://www.myspace. com/fiarena

From: susanonderkoDate: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on "no" or time to leave? Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed(not anxious). Any success with a medication?Pam

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June 26, 2010

Pam, Lots of parents take something for anxiety and stress. I never use to go near any medications, but sometimes the stress is so great I NEED SOMETHING to help me stay a bit calmer with this constant nerve wracking situation. Just a suggestion,WilmaPS Being in the car and stores is horrible here. It's sensory overload, in addition to constant car sickness. Getting a car with a TV helped a lot. They have some at Target that you can hang over the back of the driver or passenger seat. Hope this helps. Hang in there sweetie!!!WilmaOn Jun 25, 2010, at 8:33 AM, Pamela wrote:

Have you tried playing a DVD while in the car? This has

really really helped us. We have tried having pillows to hold,

playing calming music, having something to munch on, having a

few toys in the car, but for us having our daughter watch DVDs

has been an excellent distraction.

Pam

> >>

> >> Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for........... Janis Joplin.

> >>

> >> "The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly.)

> >>

> >> Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and Dyslexia.

> >>

> >> Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at ,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they heard the reason and story.

> >>

> >> But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

> >> THANKS.

> >> FI X

> >>

> >> Visit my Myspace page:

> >> http://www.myspace.com/fiarena

> >>

> >> From: susanonderko@

> >> Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000

> >> Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

> >>

> >> What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something

> >> new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on "no" or time to leave?

> >> Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed

> >> (not anxious). Any success with a medication?

> >>

> >> Pam

> >>

> >> __________________________________________________________

> >> http://clk.atdmt.com/UKM/go/197222280/direct/01/

> >> Do you have a story that started on Hotmail? Tell us now

> >>

> >

>

June 26, 2010

not for " aspergers " for symptoms, so if your child has symptoms that are very bothersome and they are adhd like they may try adhd meds, if they are meltdowns/mood related they may try a mood stabilizer, depression type they would try anti depressants, etc. My dd is on non stimulant adhd meds and a mood stabilizer.

There are a lot of studies on supplements for aspergers though

On Fri, Jun 25, 2010 at 9:30 PM, Rita Barber <ritabrbr@...> wrote:

Is there any kind of medication for aspergers?

From: Fiona Daly <fiona659@...>Aspergers Treatment

Sent: Thu, June 24, 2010 4:57:28 PMSubject: RE: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

Be true to yourself, it's the only person worth doing it for......... .. Janis Joplin.

“The only thing necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do nothing'' Edmund Burke (supposedly. )

Does anyone else sometimes just LOSE it?My son is nine and has AS, ADHD and Dyslexia.

Telling him things over and over again,just wont help,he NEVER listens! The other night someone was walking past outside my home and on hearing me shout at ,...called the Police!!! The Police arrived and where apologetic when they heard the reason and story.

But does anyone else's tether just come to an end and you lose it?

THANKS.

FI X

Visit my Myspace page:

http://www.myspace. com/fiarena

From: susanonderkoDate: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 12:23:18 +0000Subject: ( ) impulsive, meltdowns ?

What helps with impulsive behaviors? Like seeing something new, novel wanting it and having a meltdown on " no " or time to leave? Or seeing something changed and getting upset that it was changed

(not anxious). Any success with a medication?Pam

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