Re: Update on Abused Son

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His father needs to be drop kicked into the East River.

On 6/24/10 1:11 AM, " Baer " <amandabaer76@...> wrote:

I dont know if I keep you updated, but my ds's father is finally being investigated by Department of Children and Families as well as Children Protection Services for physical and emotional abuse. He spanks my 12.5 yr old son with a belt as punishment, and threw him up against a wall when my son had started a fire. He and his 18 yr old from a previous relationship gang up on my ds and call him , sissy, faggot, and other demeaning things that emotionally bring him down.

So I have retained an attorney which I can not afford. Representing my son just in case, and myself to pursue my ex in family court to get visitation modified asap. My son will not be going back there anytime soon. I may even need a temporary restraining order as well just as an added protective measure.

I am tired, exhausted, and just plain numb. With all of his diagnoses, my ex (his father) thinks my son has no issues. My son has Aspergers, ADHD, Depression, Tic Disorder, learning disabilities, and many others that should be classified as Aspergers instead of regular diagnoses... but we all know how doctors think about labeling. I think my ds has 10 labels! BUT his father thinks that boys will be boys and we need to toughen up the boy. Push him out into the world. Yeah, doesnt work like that. Neanderthal

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Oh God!!! Thanks heavens you are around for this child. Lots of prayers coming your way....On Jun 24, 2010, at 12:11 AM, Baer wrote:

I dont know if I keep you updated, but my ds's father is finally being investigated by Department of Children and Families as well as Children Protection Services for physical and emotional abuse. He spanks my 12.5 yr old son with a belt as punishment, and threw him up against a wall when my son had started a fire. He and his 18 yr old from a previous relationship gang up on my ds and call him , sissy, faggot, and other demeaning things that emotionally bring him down.So I have retained an attorney which I can not afford. Representing my son just in case, and myself to pursue my ex in family court to get visitation modified asap. My son will not be going back there anytime soon. I may even need a temporary restraining order as well just as

an added protective measure.I am tired, exhausted, and just plain numb. With all of his diagnoses, my ex (his father) thinks my son has no issues. My son has Aspergers, ADHD, Depression, Tic Disorder, learning disabilities, and many others that should be classified as Aspergers instead of regular diagnoses... but we all know how doctors think about labeling. I think my ds has 10 labels! BUT his father thinks that boys will be boys and we need to toughen up the boy. Push him out into the world. Yeah, doesnt work like that. Neanderthal.Had to vent on that last paragraph!

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I keep having nightmares about this, and they wont stop. My son gets kidnapped by his father, etc, those kinds of nightmares. Everything will come to head on Monday when the father 'thinks' he is getting my son for a week, and then realizes I am withholding visitation from him.From: "wilma1866@..." <wilma1866@...>To:

Sent: Thu, June 24, 2010 1:23:48 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Update on Abused Son

Oh God!!! Thanks heavens you are around for this child. Lots of prayers coming your way....On Jun 24, 2010, at 12:11 AM, Baer wrote:

I dont know if I keep you updated, but my ds's father is finally being investigated by Department of Children and Families as well as Children Protection Services for physical and emotional abuse. He spanks my 12.5 yr old son with a belt as punishment, and threw him up against a wall when my son had started a fire. He and his 18 yr old from a previous relationship gang up on my ds and call him , sissy, faggot, and other demeaning things that emotionally bring him down.So I have retained an attorney which I can not afford. Representing my son just in case, and myself to pursue my ex in family court to get visitation modified asap. My son will not be going back there anytime soon. I may even need a temporary restraining order as well just as

an added protective measure.I am tired, exhausted, and just plain numb. With all of his diagnoses, my ex (his father) thinks my son has no issues. My son has Aspergers, ADHD, Depression, Tic Disorder, learning disabilities, and many others that should be classified as Aspergers instead of regular diagnoses... but we all know how doctors think about labeling. I think my ds has 10 labels! BUT his father thinks that boys will be boys and we need to toughen up the boy. Push him out into the world. Yeah, doesnt work like that. Neanderthal.Had to vent on that last paragraph!

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Call up your Child Protective Services case worker and request their presence at the pick up time and location. They should also be able to have your son in a safe location when he finds out visitation is being withheld. You can also contact your local police department and ask them to be there.

I hope this helps.

I dont know if I keep you updated, but my ds's father is finally being investigated by Department of Children and Families as well as Children Protection Services for physical and emotional abuse. He spanks my 12.5 yr old son with a belt as punishment, and threw him up against a wall when my son had started a fire. He and his 18 yr old from a previous relationship gang up on my ds and call him , sissy, faggot, and other demeaning things that emotionally bring him down.

So I have retained an attorney which I can not afford. Representing my son just in case, and myself to pursue my ex in family court to get visitation modified asap. My son will not be going back there anytime soon. I may even need a temporary restraining order as well just as an added protective measure.

I am tired, exhausted, and just plain numb. With all of his diagnoses, my ex (his father) thinks my son has no issues. My son has Aspergers, ADHD, Depression, Tic Disorder, learning disabilities, and many others that should be classified as Aspergers instead of regular diagnoses... but we all know how doctors think about labeling. I think my ds has 10 labels! BUT his father thinks that boys will be boys and we need to toughen up the boy. Push him out into the world. Yeah, doesnt work like that. Neanderthal

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Not to be intrusive, but if you are so inclined, a prayer or two might help to ease your mind and give you strength...I will most certainly pray for you and your son. Hang tough!!Jen H

On Thu, Jun 24, 2010 at 7:52 PM, Baer <amandabaer76@...> wrote:

 

I keep having nightmares about this, and they wont stop. My son gets kidnapped by his father, etc, those kinds of nightmares. Everything will come to head on Monday when the father 'thinks' he is getting my son for a week, and then realizes I am withholding visitation from him.

From: " wilma1866@... " <wilma1866@...>

To:

Sent: Thu, June 24, 2010 1:23:48 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Update on Abused Son

 

Oh God!!! Thanks heavens you are around for this child. Lots of prayers coming your way....On Jun 24, 2010, at 12:11 AM, Baer wrote:

 

I dont know if I keep you updated, but my ds's father is finally being investigated by Department of Children and Families as well as Children Protection Services for physical and emotional abuse. He spanks my 12.5 yr old son with a belt as punishment, and threw him up against a wall when my son had started a fire. He and his 18 yr old from a previous relationship gang up on my ds and call him , sissy, faggot, and other demeaning things that emotionally bring him down.

So I have retained an attorney which I can not afford. Representing my son just in case, and myself to pursue my ex in family court to get visitation modified asap. My son will not be going back there anytime soon. I may even need a temporary restraining order as well just as

an added protective measure.I am tired, exhausted, and just plain numb. With all of his diagnoses, my ex (his father) thinks my son has no issues. My son has Aspergers, ADHD, Depression, Tic Disorder, learning disabilities, and many others that should be classified as Aspergers instead of regular diagnoses... but we all know how doctors think about labeling. I think my ds has 10 labels! BUT his father thinks that boys will be boys and we need to toughen up the boy. Push him out into the world. Yeah, doesnt work like that. Neanderthal.

Had to vent on that last paragraph!

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Oh my goodness, . You go right ahead and vent. This is a good place for

venting since we all vent about things and I strongly believe that if we can

bring the stress here we can be better parents to our kids who need us SO BADLY.

I hate what your ex has been doing to your poor kid. I expect the depression

might not be an issue as much without the abuse. High stress can bring on all

kinds of " comorbid " issues and sometimes will even go away when the stress is

reduced. My son actually had what seemed to be psychotic episodes when he was

moved from a centralized classroom to a regular classroom for math before he was

really ready for it. As soon as he was moved back to the centralized room he

was fine! We saw a doctor who used to work with Dr. Volkmer at YALE a leading

expert on asperger syndrome, who told me that this psychotic episode is a

perfect example of a comorbid condition brought on by stress and also eliminated

by reducing stress. Do anything you can to build your son up and make him feel

good. I know you do. I'm surprised by some things that make my son happy.

Today I put a towel in the dryer for a few minutes and gave it to him warm and

he enjoyed that so much. I do that for my daughter before school in the morning

and it helps her, too. Sometimes something very small can seem so huge to them.

French fries, a uv protective shirt so no sunscreen is needed, a linder truffle

(just one), overhearing me brag about a success, these have all been a big deal

to . The UV shirt came after was recovering from terrible sunburn. He

hates the feeling of sunscreen and refused to wear any to camp one day. Then he

was in the pool all day and ended up with quarter sized blisters on his

shoulders. Every single day after I got the shirt wore it and thanked me

whenever he put it on. The thing cost me about $10 and was worth every penny

because it means so much to him. I buy him a new one whenever he gets too big

for an old one and he always wears it even for swimming indoors because it makes

him happy. Sometimes we go to Walmart or Target and just let try out game

demos for games he doesn't have. He can do that even if we can't afford the

game.

Anyway, please keep us posted. I hope you can get whatever you need to keep

your son safe. You are a great mom and we'll do what we can to support you

here.

HUGS,

Miriam

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> I dont know if I keep you updated, but my ds's father is finally being

investigated by Department of Children and Families as well as Children

Protection Services for physical and emotional abuse. He spanks my 12.5 yr old

son with a belt as punishment, and threw him up against a wall when my son had

started a fire. He and his 18 yr old from a previous relationship gang up on my

ds and call him , sissy, faggot, and other demeaning things that

emotionally bring him down.

>

> So I have retained an attorney which I can not afford. Representing my son

just in case, and myself to pursue my ex in family court to get visitation

modified asap. My son will not be going back there anytime soon. I may even need

a temporary restraining order as well just as an added protective measure.

>

> I am tired, exhausted, and just plain numb. With all of his diagnoses, my ex

(his father) thinks my son has no issues. My son has Aspergers, ADHD,

Depression, Tic Disorder, learning disabilities, and many others that should be

classified as Aspergers instead of regular diagnoses... but we all know how

doctors think about labeling. I think my ds has 10 labels! BUT his father thinks

that boys will be boys and we need to toughen up the boy. Push him out into the

world. Yeah, doesnt work like that. Neanderthal.

>

> Had to vent on that last paragraph!

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