new member needs advice on schoolwork

Posted March 29, 2011 · March 29, 2011

My kiddo is now 11.5. he is doing overall well, except he does take concerta he

has ADHD also. my main issue at this juncture is his homework, organization, and

motivation. He has no organization. we have tried multiple tricks none seem to

stick with him. His backpack is terrible, his room is messy to say the least,

he doesn't turn in work, EVEN WHEN HE COMPLETES IT...i am seeing that these are

traits common to most aspies, but anything that has worked to improve any of

these? he is going to middle school next year and I am terrified that with more

than one teacher he will flounder since he can't keep on top of stuff now. I am

toying with idea to hold him back but apprehently schools look at the social

element as main predictor of kids need to be held back. i am not sure if it

would make things worse except his little brother and he would be in the same

grade then. that would be worse. at his last conference his teacher was in tears

BEFORE ME! i don't want to keep pounding him and make his self esteem lower but

i don't want him to think he has no accountability in life either just because

he has AS...ideas? advice?

thx

Posted March 29, 2011 · March 29, 2011

Hi,,,,

As far as motivation. It's a wierd call, cause my daughters have it but my sons don't. he he. So.......don't know if it's an AS thing or not.

As far as school work, (I assume he has an IEP)....you can get it put in that there HAS to be someone checking his backpack with him to make sure completed work gets to the teacher and that work that needs to be done, gets home.2 of my kids have an IEP and even with it, I have to call or email from time to time REMINDING them that certain homework wasn't sent home with him or written in his "homework log" so,,,,,they cannot take my younger ones recess for it not being done!!!

I get an apology, then, and am told that "it was a busy day"....yada yada.

But,,,,,,,organization is a HUGE thing. They have to accept it.My older son is in 9th grade and the SPED guy goes through his binder with him weekly. They decide together what he needs to keep in it. It's always a mess.

He has a Spanish Binder and NOTHING is in the 3 rings.......everything is always ripped out. It makes me crazy. But it honestly doesn't phase Ian.

So......long story short - tell them what he needs. Bottom line. Don't let them poo poo you. My 9th grader had a teacher in a small parochial school (lasted 2 months) tell him that he had to learn...that was why they didn't help him or remind him to grab a pencil before him came into class. He was constantly getting "preparedness checks" which were basically saying that he wasn't doing what everyone else was doing. DUH.

But.....you being in a public school....they have to honor his dx and his IEP. How well they do that....welll.........he he.

Good luck.

Robin

From: wuvmyaspie <wuvmyaspie@...>Subject: ( ) new member needs advice on schoolwork Date: Tuesday, March 29, 2011, 2:10 AM

My kiddo is now 11.5. he is doing overall well, except he does take concerta he has ADHD also. my main issue at this juncture is his homework, organization, and motivation. He has no organization. we have tried multiple tricks none seem to stick with him. His backpack is terrible, his room is messy to say the least, he doesn't turn in work, EVEN WHEN HE COMPLETES IT...i am seeing that these are traits common to most aspies, but anything that has worked to improve any of these? he is going to middle school next year and I am terrified that with more than one teacher he will flounder since he can't keep on top of stuff now. I am toying with idea to hold him back but apprehently schools look at the social element as main predictor of kids need to be held back. i am not sure if it would make things worse except his little brother and he would be in the same grade then. that would be worse. at his last conference his teacher was in tears BEFORE ME! i

don't want to keep pounding him and make his self esteem lower but i don't want him to think he has no accountability in life either just because he has AS...ideas? advice?thx

Posted March 29, 2011 · March 29, 2011

Don't fall for the " holding back " thing. My son started middle school this year

(6th gr), has an IEP and in fact I was in school AGAIN today to try and find

ways to help Riley get his stuff turned in. With Aspergers it's a CONSTANT

battle. The boy is SMART (has ADD too)but each day can be soooo different. Some

days he's willing to jump on board and the next day it's pulling teeth.

The holding back part for school is something we battled with too. But like my

ex husband said, even though our son is in SP Ed, he doesn't have a " learning "

disability, he has a " social " disablility. He's more immature than his peers but

hes very capable of doing his work and if you get him on a topic that he's

interested in-look out! It amazes me what comes out of his mouth!!! WOW!

So these kids are so very capable to doing the stuff, it's just we all need to

find what " interests " each kid and plug into them. This year all of Riley's

teachers sat down with me so we were all on the same page. We utilize email,

which has been a huge help! IEP's are great! So don't be afraid to constantly

talk to your child's teachers and make it mandatory that once he starts middle

school, have a meeting with all the teachers/counselors they'll be in contact

with so you get them off on the right foot! Good luck to you and I understnad

your struggles!!! Heidi

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> My kiddo is now 11.5. he is doing overall well, except he does take concerta

he has ADHD also. my main issue at this juncture is his homework, organization,

and motivation. He has no organization. we have tried multiple tricks none seem

to stick with him. His backpack is terrible, his room is messy to say the least,