Good news or bad news? Hard to tell....

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I've been riding my dd's 1st grade teacher since school started to really keep

an eye on her for her Aspie traits and learning difficulties. I wrote an intro

letter,explaining her diagnosis along with other issues I believe she struggles

with. She has a very hard time with handwriting, and when I try to do any type

of learning activity with her, she seems very confused and becomes very

distracted; always making excuses for not being able to do it - she's either too

tired, or hungry, or has something on her mind.

The teacher has been wonderful with positive reinforcement, and assured me she

was keeping a record of liese's behaviors and any problems she notices.

Well, we had a meeting yesterday, and the teacher said that my daughter is doing

quite well actually. They have some type of standardized testing, and liese

scored average on everything - not above or below - just where she is expected

to be. Outsiders come in to give the tests, and she's not exactly one for

putting on a show for anyone, so I figure if there really was a problem, it

would have shown up. So am I just making all this up?????? I swear, I'm losing

my mind!

This is all fabulous news, and I am so thrilled to hear that she's blending

right in - BUT.... why in the world does she give me such a hard time??? I must

have been a real turd in a past life to deserve this. I feel like an ass for

making such a fuss to the school district and this new teacher claiming that

last year's teacher must have been covering up my daughter's deficiencies

because the schoolwork that came home and her problems with homework didn't

reflect that she was doing satisfactorily.

One difference...... I started giving liese the Adderall that was prescribed

over the summer by a psychiatrist the first Friday of school because she had a

bad day that Thursday. I was so against giving it to her just to 'make my life

easier' (which it didn't make enough of a difference for me to justify

medicating her) so I had the bottle sitting in my cabinet for months.

So here's the issue now: Should I play the wait and see game and hope that my

daughter is so mild that she may actually learn to take initiative and handle

the responsibilities of her education, or should I push on in the fight to get

the school district to do an assessment, although things seem to be okay for the

moment? It's like I'm relieved, but not sure I should be!