Re: Re: 2 fights and 1 inhouse suspension

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You should read the thread a different point of view sounds like a similar issue, a lot of Aspie kids put up with things that are irritating them for a long time, until it becomes too much for them to bottle up anymore, then bang it all comes out at once and they go berserk. Try to find out if there is something or someone irritating your daughter, if you tackle the source early on it might prevent violent out bursts.

With my son it turned out to be the same boy hiding his rubber everyday, he took it and took it then one day bang, smacked the boy in the face, it seemed disproportional when he told the teacher that the boy hid his rubber, but after a while we found out this had gone on for weeks. On the up side the boy hasn't taken his rubber since!

From: Pamela <susanonderko@...>Subject: ( ) Re: 2 fights and 1 inhouse suspension Date: Saturday, 13 March, 2010, 22:04

The main thing you want to advocate for is getting her the services she needs. She needs an IEP. Start out by writing a letter saying that her AS is affecting her education andshe needs an IEP evaluation. Regarding the fighting, request that a BIP behavior intervention plan be developed for your daughterto address issues in school, as part of the IEP.Kids with As can be very ridgid. If the school does nothave a behaviorist recommend that they can contactYale Univeristy Parent and Child Conduct Clinic and theywill help devise a BIP for your child (over the phone).Yale is expert in kids with behavioral issues. I guarenteeyou will love Yale's plan or I will eat my hat http://www.yale. edu/childconduct clinic/Call Yale regardless. They are reasonably priced. They willeducate you on how these

behaviors should be handledto extinguish them and you will be a better advocatefor it. I have been working with Yale since Aug. All the prior therapistin my own state were way to harsh with advice and their advice did not work and made me feel horrible.I work with Bernadette Lecza a Yale. Pam >> Hi all!> I joined this group several months ago and just been observing up till now. My daughter(7) was diagnosed back in September and we have been actively getting her the help that she needs.> Anyway, she had a really rough week this week. On Thursday she got into a physical fight with another little girl and had to spend the

afternoon in in-house suspension. Today she got into another fight this time with a little boy and she ended up choking him. She says that he punched her a few times and was also kicking her so she started choking him. This happened right before school was let out so we are not aware of what her consequences will be yet.> I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do about her behavior since she seems to get into these scrapes every month or so(this week was a double whammy). I know the other kids had a part in this too but she gets so heated and doesn't know how to calm herself down or back away from bad situations.> If you have experience, I'd love to hear it...today is one of those tearful days with my hands in the air.> Thanks,> Tami>

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I'm guessing "his rubber".. is not the typical jargon for a condom, that we use in the U.S. ? I know my Dad called his golashes.. rubbers, but then it would be plural, so I'm still not sure what rubber goodie a child would bring to school and that he would/could so easily confess the property missing to his teacher. LOL

From: Pamela <susanonderko@...>Subject: ( ) Re: 2 fights and 1 inhouse suspension Date: Saturday, 13 March, 2010, 22:04

The main thing you want to advocate for is getting her the services she needs. She needs an IEP. Start out by writing a letter saying that her AS is affecting her education andshe needs an IEP evaluation. Regarding the fighting, request that a BIP behavior intervention plan be developed for your daughterto address issues in school, as part of the IEP.Kids with As can be very ridgid. If the school does nothave a behaviorist recommend that they can contactYale Univeristy Parent and Child Conduct Clinic and theywill help devise a BIP for your child (over the phone).Yale is expert in kids with behavioral issues. I guarenteeyou will love Yale's plan or I will eat my hat http://www.yale. edu/childconduct clinic/Call Yale regardless. They are reasonably priced. They willeducate you on how these

behaviors should be handledto extinguish them and you will be a better advocatefor it. I have been working with Yale since Aug. All the prior therapistin my own state were way to harsh with advice and their advice did not work and made me feel horrible.I work with Bernadette Lecza a Yale. Pam >> Hi all!> I joined this group several months ago and just been observing up till now. My daughter(7) was diagnosed back in September and we have been actively getting her the help that she needs.> Anyway, she had a really rough week this week. On Thursday she got into a physical fight with another little girl and had to spend the afternoon in in-house suspension. Today she got into another

fight this time with a little boy and she ended up choking him. She says that he punched her a few times and was also kicking her so she started choking him. This happened right before school was let out so we are not aware of what her consequences will be yet.> I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do about her behavior since she seems to get into these scrapes every month or so(this week was a double whammy). I know the other kids had a part in this too but she gets so heated and doesn't know how to calm herself down or back away from bad situations.> If you have experience, I'd love to hear it...today is one of those tearful days with my hands in the air.> Thanks,> Tami>