Re: hand flapping...he gave someone a bloody nose

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Teach him to do something else besides flapping. I once saw a video where they taught a little boy to pat his tummy instead of hand flap. It was really interesting.

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( ) hand flapping...he gave someone a bloody nose

Hi, I'm new here. My son is scheduled to see a developmental pediatrician and we are thinking he will get a dx of aspergers. He is 5 years old and still in preschool. I know he has SPD and he flaps his hands quite a bit. He does has some social issues..he's very slow to warm up to new situations has some anxiety and separation anxiety. I finally found something that he loves...lego class. I drop him off and he is happy to go with very little separation anxiety, he looks forward to it. Well today when I went to pick him up from lego class it was reported that he hit another kid in the face and gave him a bloody nose...yes actual blood coming from the poor kids nose. Hitting is totally out of character for my son and after talking to him he told me it was when he was flapping and accidently hit the other boy. The other boy was sitting there crying. I went back in to talk to the teacher and he was very nice and understanding about the whole thing and he said t

hat made sense since it happened so fast and the kids were getting along fine. I'm sure the other mother isn't quite so happy. I'm just so frustrated that this happened and I know my son feels really bad about it. Has anybody had any success with reducing hand flapping...he has had some OT and I try to do quite of a bit of proprioceptive and heavy work type of activiities with him, i also brush him twice a day. Someone recently suggested I gently tell him that the flapping is something he should try to do when he's alone since other people might not understand it...I have told him to try to not do it so much around other people, I think me telling him that has actually made him do it more...and I feel bad that it is probably affecting his self-esteem..and now this happened. thanks for letting me vent..

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My son is 14 and he still does it from time to time. It's a way in which he (and 100% your son too) expresses his excitement and enthusiasm towards something. In my son, it went away, slowly by slowly, but, like I said, he still does it from time to time. I read somewhere that hand flapping is one of the most clear signals that a kid may be on the spectrum.It's regretable that another kid got a bloody nose, but as long as you know your son didn't do it on purpose, you will have to ask him to pay attention next time he feels excited about the lego class.

From: osmom1147 <osmom1147@...>Subject: ( ) hand flapping...he gave someone a bloody nose Received: Wednesday, March 2, 2011, 6:35 PM

Hi, I'm new here. My son is scheduled to see a developmental pediatrician and we are thinking he will get a dx of aspergers. He is 5 years old and still in preschool. I know he has SPD and he flaps his hands quite a bit. He does has some social issues..he's very slow to warm up to new situations has some anxiety and separation anxiety. I finally found something that he loves...lego class. I drop him off and he is happy to go with very little separation anxiety, he looks forward to it. Well today when I went to pick him up from lego class it was reported that he hit another kid in the face and gave him a bloody nose...yes actual blood coming from the poor kids nose. Hitting is totally out of character for my son and after talking to him he told me it was when he was flapping and accidently hit the other boy. The other boy was sitting there crying. I went back in to talk to the teacher and he was very nice and understanding about the whole thing and

he said that made sense since it happened so fast and the kids were getting along fine. I'm sure the other mother isn't quite so happy. I'm just so frustrated that this happened and I know my son feels really bad about it. Has anybody had any success with reducing hand flapping...he has had some OT and I try to do quite of a bit of proprioceptive and heavy work type of activiities with him, i also brush him twice a day. Someone recently suggested I gently tell him that the flapping is something he should try to do when he's alone since other people might not understand it...I have told him to try to not do it so much around other people, I think me telling him that has actually made him do it more...and I feel bad that it is probably affecting his self-esteem..and now this happened. thanks for letting me vent..

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You can try working on respecting personal space (his bubble) because if he maintains space when he is feeling excited, the other person should be safe too.  My son had a tendency to come up closer when excited so we worked on the space issue with him.  It's also something we work on with the at risk kids in our teen center.

Kathy J.On Thu, Mar 3, 2011 at 12:41 PM, Eddie Lascu <mensana_88@...> wrote:

 

My son is 14 and he still does it from time to time. It's a way in which he (and 100% your son too) expresses his excitement and enthusiasm towards something. In my son, it went away, slowly by slowly, but, like I said, he still does it from time to time. I read somewhere that hand flapping is one of the most clear signals that a kid may be on the spectrum.It's regretable that another kid got a bloody nose, but as long as you know your son didn't do it on purpose, you will have to ask him to pay attention next time he feels excited about the lego class.

From: osmom1147 <osmom1147@...>Subject: ( ) hand flapping...he gave someone a bloody nose

Received: Wednesday, March 2, 2011, 6:35 PM

 

Hi, I'm new here. My son is scheduled to see a developmental pediatrician and we are thinking he will get a dx of aspergers. He is 5 years old and still in preschool. I know he has SPD and he flaps his hands quite a bit. He does has some social issues..he's very slow to warm up to new situations has some anxiety and separation anxiety. I finally found something that he loves...lego class. I drop him off and he is happy to go with very little separation anxiety, he looks forward to it. Well today when I went to pick him up from lego class it was reported that he hit another kid in the face and gave him a bloody nose...yes actual blood coming from the poor kids nose. Hitting is totally out of character for my son and after talking to him he told me it was when he was flapping and accidently hit the other boy. The other boy was sitting there crying. I went back in to talk to the teacher and he was very nice and understanding about the whole thing and

he said that made sense since it happened so fast and the kids were getting along fine. I'm sure the other mother isn't quite so happy. I'm just so frustrated that this happened and I know my son feels really bad about it. Has anybody had any success with reducing hand flapping...he has had some OT and I try to do quite of a bit of proprioceptive and heavy work type of activiities with him, i also brush him twice a day. Someone recently suggested I gently tell him that the flapping is something he should try to do when he's alone since other people might not understand it...I have told him to try to not do it so much around other people, I think me telling him that has actually made him do it more...and I feel bad that it is probably affecting his self-esteem..and now this happened. thanks for letting me vent..

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Thank you for the good ideas!

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> > From: osmom1147 <osmom1147@...>

> > Subject: ( ) hand flapping...he gave someone a bloody nose

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> > Received: Wednesday, March 2, 2011, 6:35 PM

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> > Hi, I'm new here. My son is scheduled to see a developmental pediatrician

> > and we are thinking he will get a dx of aspergers. He is 5 years old and

> > still in preschool. I know he has SPD and he flaps his hands quite a bit. He

> > does has some social issues..he's very slow to warm up to new situations has

> > some anxiety and separation anxiety. I finally found something that he

> > loves...lego class. I drop him off and he is happy to go with very little

> > separation anxiety, he looks forward to it. Well today when I went to pick

> > him up from lego class it was reported that he hit another kid in the face

> > and gave him a bloody nose...yes actual blood coming from the poor kids

> > nose. Hitting is totally out of character for my son and after talking to

> > him he told me it was when he was flapping and accidently hit the other boy.

> > The other boy was sitting there crying. I went back in to talk to the

> > teacher and he was very nice and understanding about the whole thing and he

> > said that made sense since it happened so fast and the kids were getting

> > along fine. I'm sure the other mother isn't quite so happy. I'm just so

> > frustrated that this happened and I know my son feels really bad about it.

> > Has anybody had any success with reducing hand flapping...he has had some OT

> > and I try to do quite of a bit of proprioceptive and heavy work type of

> > activiities with him, i also brush him twice a day. Someone recently

> > suggested I gently tell him that the flapping is something he should try to

> > do when he's alone since other people might not understand it...I have told

> > him to try to not do it so much around other people, I think me telling him

> > that has actually made him do it more...and I feel bad that it is probably

> > affecting his self-esteem..and now this happened. thanks for letting me

> > vent..

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