Re: 8 YEAR OLD ASPIE DAUGHTER SHOPLIFTING

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This just happened to me last week! My husband saw her do it himself. We gave her a lecture, made her go to the store employee, apology, made her buy the thing with her money, and then give the item to me to give to charity through the church. As punishment I told her that she had to also give up the $20 tee-shirt I had JUST bought her 10 minutes before she stole the bracelet and said she wasn't allowed to shop anywhere without me and without me by her side for a while. I also told her counselor. Although, her counselor said "this has nothing to do with Asperger's, it's just a teenager, doing wrong." Hummmm..... it's a tough thing.

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We had this problem about six mths ago.... We had many discussions about it, made her come up with the money to pay for it and then took her to the store to apologize and then pay for it. We lucked out and there was a police officer there and he talked to her. She hasn't stolen anything since....CarolynPs, she was a repeat offender as well.....Sent from my iPadOn Mar 23, 2011, at 10:56 AM, "wondergirl4619" <wondergirl4619@...> wrote:

Hi out there,

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this.

My 8 year old ASPIE/ADHD daughter has had 3 episodes over the last 6 months with shoplifting. It has happened when she was with me shopping and wandered away (she has always been a wanderer). The first time I made her bring the candies back to the store to the customer service desk and made her apologize. I gave her the standard speech about how stealing was wrong. She promised to never do it again.

The second episode was she was actually caught by a store employee before we left the store and the person took me aside and told me what she saw. I again had her return the item, with promises to never do it again.

Yesterday she lifted two items and I didn't realize it until she undressed for her bath. I got a lot stronger with her and tried "scared straight" tactics (if anyone rememmbers that documetary).

I asked her what she was thinking when she did it and she kept saying "I don't know". As usual I am trying to get inside her wonderful brain to figure out what is going on, but she's not letting me. Anyone have any comments/suggestions?