RE: [SPAM] Re: Re: Does your child do well in school, but not in the Community?

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We started middle school this year and we went into with a private diagnosis,,,seemed to push them forward on putting things in place for our 6th grader. We had a couple of small issues the first quarter,but other then that this has been the best school year so far,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I am soooooooooooooooooooooooo afraid to breath. I feel guilty for thinking this way and I am also thinking the teachers are thinking "what is that mom talking about????" Conferences are coming up next week so we shall see.

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[sPAM] Re: ( ) Re: Does your child do well in school, but not in the Community?

I think the intimidation of the school thinking i was crazy and it wasjust me seeing things etc is what ended up delaying my dd getting thehelp she needed when she was 3 (and we first started dealing withschool evaluations) to instead when she was 9. So my advice now toppl is usually if your worried get a private evaluation, dont letsomeone make you feel its you and not a problem until an expert canreassure youOn 10/22/10, bridget <beanniferj@...> wrote:> My son just went through the process of trying to qualify for preschool> services at our school district, which were denied. While nobody was blaming> me for anything, I did sense a certain skepticism from the school district> psychologist. The implication was that there were a lot more concerns> revealed in my parent questionnaires than she saw firsthand (gee, that> couldn't be because she has spent a grand total of 2 hours with him and I> live with my son!). My son's developmental therapist forwarded me an email> conversation they had in which the school psych asked if she had witnessed> any of the social problems or if it was all based on "the mother's report".> Fortunately, the developmental therapist has worked with my son in peer> situations, so she was able to affirm that the concerns in report were based> on her firsthand observations, not my accounts - which apparently don't> count for much. It's definitely frustrating to have people doubt you when> you are trying so hard to help your child in any way you can. Sorry to hear> you have been dealing with that at your son's school.>> Bridget>> >>>> Seems that many parents are being blamed for their child's issues when>> they>> do "well" in school, but not in the community. Just because the proper>> environment, with the right supports are in place and positive results are>> achieved - does NOT mean the illness, issues etc do not exist for the>> child.>>>>>> In my case, the school has blamed me (personally at meetings, documented>> it>> in FBA reports, and in front of my advocates at IEP meetings) They have>> even>> gone so far as filing 2 complaints 51A's with DCF (Dept of Children and>> Fanilies, formely DSS) accusing me "being the one with the mental illness,>> fabricating my son's issues and causing his hospitalization". All of>> which>> is untrue. We have tons, and always have had wraoparound supports,>> services, therapies etc and I am the parent who advocates for everything.>>>> Is anyone else dealing with this parent blame?>>>> Denel>> Blessed Mom to 5.10 year old Zachary>> Mood Disorder - NOS, Sensory Integration, PDD-NOS, (awaiting confirmation>> on>> Aspergers due to age)>> (R/O Bipolar, ODD, ADHD)>>>>>-- Sent from my mobile device-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,, , and Leah

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Conference coming up for me too Nov 1 so I will let you know too. He is in Therapeutic School right not having a 45 day assessment.

Do not feel guilty and do not doubt yourself! Keep us updated after the Conference? Even if you start a new string for it, can you post it to this discussion too so I don't miss it?

Denel

From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Lynne BanksSent: Sunday, October 24, 2010 3:47 PM Subject: Re: [sPAM] Re: ( ) Re: Does your child do well in school, but not in the Community?

We started middle school this year and we went into with a private diagnosis,,,seemed to push them forward on putting things in place for our 6th grader. We had a couple of small issues the first quarter,but other then that this has been the best school year so far,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I am soooooooooooooooooooooooo afraid to breath. I feel guilty for thinking this way and I am also thinking the teachers are thinking "what is that mom talking about????" Conferences are coming up next week so we shall see.

Lynne Bankswww.americanadoptioncongress.orgSouth Dakota State Representative

www.adoptionscams.netAsk me how to protect yourself from being scammed in adoption!

[sPAM] Re: ( ) Re: Does your child do well in school, but not in the Community?

I think the intimidation of the school thinking i was crazy and it wasjust me seeing things etc is what ended up delaying my dd getting thehelp she needed when she was 3 (and we first started dealing withschool evaluations) to instead when she was 9. So my advice now toppl is usually if your worried get a private evaluation, dont letsomeone make you feel its you and not a problem until an expert canreassure youOn 10/22/10, bridget <beanniferj@...> wrote:> My son just went through the process of trying to qualify for preschool> services at our school district, which were denied. While nobody was blaming> me for anything, I did sense a certain skepticism from the school district> psychologist. The implication was that there were a lot more concerns> revealed in my parent questionnaires than she saw firsthand (gee, that> couldn't be because she has spent a grand total of 2 hours with him and I> live with my son!). My son's developmental therapist forwarded me an email> conversation they had in which the school psych asked if she had witnessed> any of the social problems or if it was all based on "the mother's report".> Fortunately, the developmental therapist has worked with my son in peer> situations, so she was able to affirm that the concerns in report were based> on her firsthand observations, not my accounts - which apparently don't> count for much. It's definitely frustrating to have people doubt you when> you are trying so hard to help your child in any way you can. Sorry to hear> you have been dealing with that at your son's school.>> Bridget>> >>>> Seems that many parents are being blamed for their child's issues when>> they>> do "well" in school, but not in the community. Just because the proper>> environment, with the right supports are in place and positive results are>> achieved - does NOT mean the illness, issues etc do not exist for the>> child.>>>>>> In my case, the school has blamed me (personally at meetings, documented>> it>> in FBA reports, and in front of my advocates at IEP meetings) They have>> even>> gone so far as filing 2 complaints 51A's with DCF (Dept of Children and>> Fanilies, formely DSS) accusing me "being the one with the mental illness,>> fabricating my son's issues and causing his hospitalization". All of>> which>> is untrue. We have tons, and always have had wraoparound supports,>> services, therapies etc and I am the parent who advocates for everything.>>>> Is anyone else dealing with this parent blame?>>>> Denel>> Blessed Mom to 5.10 year old Zachary>> Mood Disorder - NOS, Sensory Integration, PDD-NOS, (awaiting confirmation>> on>> Aspergers due to age)>> (R/O Bipolar, ODD, ADHD)>>>>>-- Sent from my mobile device-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,, , and Leah