Re: 10 year old tantrums

[Guest guest]

Hi Tammy,

I fully understand what you are dealing with

With my daughter (10yrs) I have started rewarding the times she is able to 'hold it together' and also I have been telling her to find a different location and try to compose herself. She typically is choosing to go into her room where I have set it up to be a calming area.

I hope this helps.

From: Tammy <phelpstammy@...>Subject: ( ) 10 year old tantrums Date: Monday, November 1, 2010, 4:43 PM

Hi Everyone,I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the assessments done barr the dx.I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment. Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.We have routines and routine boards in place.Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully accepted!!!!Tammy

[Guest guest]

What are the triggers?

With outbursts do not give attention to them, do not reason,

if possible leave the room if it is safe to do so for the child to

see if over time not giving attention reduces the duration.

Often distraction is a method taught to control emotional

dysregulation. When my daughter was young (under 10) if I turned

on the TV often it would it turned off the meltdown just that quick.

I often see a pattern of meltdown after a exciting or challenging

activity.

Does your child have any issues with slow processing speed,

learning issues? Are these problems better in the summer when there is not

school?

Pam

>

> Hi Everyone,

>

> I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been

officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the

assessments done barr the dx.

> I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.

Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.

> We have routines and routine boards in place.

> Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully accepted!!!!

>

> Tammy

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Pam,

To be honest the triggers change all the time, can be difference of preference (i.e., I

like pink not blue) is often if doing something she knows is not ok and is found out (i.e.,

eating icecream for breakfast). If caught out not telling the truth this is a BIG trigger.

Routine is a big one to - and our plans change a lot!!!

No major issues happen at school - handwriting frustrates her at school and causes a

melt down at home - so we reward an effort and then do something 'fun'. She loves

reading. Less pressure in holidays does tend to help though.

[Guest guest]

You could try something called a "social autopsy" if she isn't too young to think through what is going on. http://www.txautism.net/docs/Guide/Interventions/SocialAutopsies.pdf

Roxanna

"I

predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) 10 year old tantrums

Hi Everyone,

I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the assessments done barr the dx.

I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment. Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.

We have routines and routine boards in place.

Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully accepted!!!!

Tammy

[Guest guest]

I wish I knew more than to try and keep my cool as to not escalate it.

But otherr than that it was the tantrums and fear of her or a sibling

being hurt during one that made us decide to try meds. That's the

only thing that helped.

On 11/1/10, Tammy <phelpstammy@...> wrote:

> Hi Everyone,

>

> I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been

> officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the

> assessments done barr the dx.

> I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.

> Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.

> We have routines and routine boards in place.

> Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully

> accepted!!!!

>

> Tammy

>

>

--

Sent from my mobile device

-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

, , and Leah

[Guest guest]

I really think that after this week ( one day 5 hrs tantrums, 3 hours the next

and smaller ones on the other 5 days!) we need to consider some sort of

meds..

Off to see the Paediatrican tomorrow - I am really hoping for some common sense

and help!!!

> Hi Everyone,>> I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been> officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the> assessments done barr the dx.> I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.> Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.> We have routines and routine boards in place.> Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully>

accepted!!!!>> Tammy>>-- Sent from my mobile device-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,, , and Leah

[Guest guest]

My breaking point was when she was so bad in the car I was afraid she'd hurt her sister so I had to call my dad as I was turning around to see if I could leave her with him so I could take my oldest to the orthodontist

On Sun, Nov 14, 2010 at 8:14 PM, Tammy Phelps <phelpstammy@...> wrote:

 

I really think that after this week ( one day 5 hrs tantrums, 3 hours the next

and smaller ones on the other 5 days!) we need to consider some sort of

meds..

 

Off to see the Paediatrican tomorrow - I am really hoping for some common sense

and help!!!

 

> Hi Everyone,

>> I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been> officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the> assessments done barr the dx.> I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.

> Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.> We have routines and routine boards in place.> Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully> accepted!!!!>> Tammy

>>-- Sent from my mobile device-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,, , and Leah 

-- -mommy to Emma, Becca, , , , and Leah

[Guest guest]

You ought to consider behavioral therapy before you resort to drugs. Drugs do not stop behaviors and there are side effects that for some kids are pretty severe. 

Please read, " The Explosive Child " by Ross Greene. You will get many answers in that book on how to help your son.

On Sun, Nov 14, 2010 at 8:14 PM, Tammy Phelps <phelpstammy@...> wrote:

 

I really think that after this week ( one day 5 hrs tantrums, 3 hours the next

and smaller ones on the other 5 days!) we need to consider some sort of

meds..

 

Off to see the Paediatrican tomorrow - I am really hoping for some common sense

and help!!!

 

> Hi Everyone,

>> I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been> officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the> assessments done barr the dx.> I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.

> Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.> We have routines and routine boards in place.> Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully>

accepted!!!!>> Tammy>>-- Sent from my mobile device-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,, , and Leah

 

[Guest guest]

We eliminated red food dye. It made a huge differance. We only had 5 minute

melt downs though, not five hour ones.

> > > Hi Everyone,

> > >

> > > I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been

> > > officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all

> > the

> > > assessments done barr the dx.

> > > I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.

> > > Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.

> > > We have routines and routine boards in place.

> > > Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully

> > > accepted!!!!

> > >

> > > Tammy

> > >

> > >

> >

> > --

> > Sent from my mobile device

> >

> > -mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

> > , , and Leah

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yes we've tried a lot of stuff, we've read the explosive child (and

the corresponding video). A lot didn't do anything for her so we

stopped doing. The things that gave even minimal difference so we

kept were removing food coloring and avoiding preservatives like msg

and calcium propionate (sp). And taking fish oil supplements.

But the testing we had done didn't offer us anything helpful, we

tested for celiacs, gluten sensitivivity and celiac gene. We also

tested blood sugar and thyroid. As well as prick and blood tests for

allergies and sensitivities. Next test will be heavy metals and

vitamin/mineral levels but have to find out how to do those first

On 11/15/10, carrie1mccarthy <carrie1mccarthy@...> wrote:

> We eliminated red food dye. It made a huge differance. We only had 5

> minute melt downs though, not five hour ones.

>

>

>> > > Hi Everyone,

>> > >

>> > > I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been

>> > > officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had

>> > > all

>> > the

>> > > assessments done barr the dx.

>> > > I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.

>> > > Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.

>> > > We have routines and routine boards in place.

>> > > Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully

>> > > accepted!!!!

>> > >

>> > > Tammy

>> > >

>> > >

>> >

>> > --

>> > Sent from my mobile device

>> >

>> > -mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

>> > , , and Leah

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

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>

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--

Sent from my mobile device

-mommy to Emma, Becca, ,

, , and Leah

[Guest guest]

Tammy, there is a really great workbook you should pick up called The Incredible

5 Point Scale by Kari Dunn Buron and Mitzi Curtis. It helps children on the

autism spectrum control their emotions.

The common problem that comes up is that our kids go from being calm to out of

control. There is no in between. This book helps your child rate their feelings

from a 1 (calm) to 5 (when they're completely out of control). Once you've

identified how you feel at each level, the goal is to get your child to stop

herself at a 3 or 4 and use calming strategies.

When my son was in 4th grade, he began to have frustration issues and have

tantrums in class. This was embarrassing to him. The teacher and social worker

were great in using the book and recognizing when he was getting to a breaking

point. They would say, " It looks like you're becoming a 4. Do you need a

break? " I could use this at home too, really you can use it for just about

anything. It's such a simple concept. My son has really benefited from using

this book. He's 12 now and does a great job of self-regulating his emotions.

>

> Hi Everyone,

>

> I'm a new group member. I have a 10yo step daughter who has not been

officially diagnosed as yet, waiting lists!! I am a SLP so have had all the

assessments done barr the dx.

> I'm stuggling with the daily (or more) 45+ min tantrums at the moment.

Surrounding any form of perceived confrontation.

> We have routines and routine boards in place.

> Any suggestions for how to cope with tantrums would be gratefully accepted!!!!

>

> Tammy

>