Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Hi, only have a moment now but WELCOME! I have a son, 18, who is going thru a bad time with thoughts. I find those hard to deal with too. Years ago his OCD was more " physical " with rituals, compulsions.... That seemed easier looking back but it didn't seem easy at all while going through it! Has your son read (or you read to him) any of the books for children about OCD? Bedtime seems to be hard for a lot of kids, less distraction, more time to " think. " Do you stay in his room with him any? Some parents have found melatonin to help at bedtime (well, take it before bedtime, I think an hour or so) with getting their kids to be able to go to sleep easier. Gotta go, but glad you found us! single mom, 3 sons , 18, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers/mild > > hi new to group ...my 11 yr old son just diagnosed with ocd - he has > the kind where his thoughts upset him ... he is afraid he is going to > hurt people, steal things, he also worries about his health. he is > asks me every night what if i have something bad and no one knows > about it ? he worries his heart is going to stop beating at a > moments notice and that his throat is going to close up --- his > thoughts are mainly at night right before bedtime. he is afraid to go > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Hi, only have a moment now but WELCOME! I have a son, 18, who is going thru a bad time with thoughts. I find those hard to deal with too. Years ago his OCD was more " physical " with rituals, compulsions.... That seemed easier looking back but it didn't seem easy at all while going through it! Has your son read (or you read to him) any of the books for children about OCD? Bedtime seems to be hard for a lot of kids, less distraction, more time to " think. " Do you stay in his room with him any? Some parents have found melatonin to help at bedtime (well, take it before bedtime, I think an hour or so) with getting their kids to be able to go to sleep easier. Gotta go, but glad you found us! single mom, 3 sons , 18, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers/mild > > hi new to group ...my 11 yr old son just diagnosed with ocd - he has > the kind where his thoughts upset him ... he is afraid he is going to > hurt people, steal things, he also worries about his health. he is > asks me every night what if i have something bad and no one knows > about it ? he worries his heart is going to stop beating at a > moments notice and that his throat is going to close up --- his > thoughts are mainly at night right before bedtime. he is afraid to go > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Boy do I wish I had the answer! Both my daughter (12) and i have this type of OCD. Is your son on any meds? My daughter is at the point where I think we can start using ERP. She's been pretty resistant. I'm doing it myself, but I wish it would get better faster! Laurie sunjammer55 <sunjammer55@...> wrote: hi new to group ...my 11 yr old son just diagnosed with ocd - he has the kind where his thoughts upset him ... he is afraid he is going to hurt people, steal things, he also worries about his health. he is asks me every night what if i have something bad and no one knows about it ? he worries his heart is going to stop beating at a moments notice and that his throat is going to close up --- his thoughts are mainly at night right before bedtime. he is afraid to go to sleep and panics at the thought of it and usually bursts into tears i myself have ocd and the therapist seems to think its genetic. i know how to talk to myself about my issues but i am finding it hard to comfort my 11 year old. what is the best way to comfort an 11 year old? Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: / . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D.(http://www.ocdawareness.com ), Tamar Chansky, Ph.D.( http://www.worrywisekids.org ), Dan Geller, M.D. (http://massgeneral.org/pediatricpsych/staff/geller.html ),Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., ( http://www.lighthouse-press.com ). Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Boy do I wish I had the answer! Both my daughter (12) and i have this type of OCD. Is your son on any meds? My daughter is at the point where I think we can start using ERP. She's been pretty resistant. I'm doing it myself, but I wish it would get better faster! Laurie sunjammer55 <sunjammer55@...> wrote: hi new to group ...my 11 yr old son just diagnosed with ocd - he has the kind where his thoughts upset him ... he is afraid he is going to hurt people, steal things, he also worries about his health. he is asks me every night what if i have something bad and no one knows about it ? he worries his heart is going to stop beating at a moments notice and that his throat is going to close up --- his thoughts are mainly at night right before bedtime. he is afraid to go to sleep and panics at the thought of it and usually bursts into tears i myself have ocd and the therapist seems to think its genetic. i know how to talk to myself about my issues but i am finding it hard to comfort my 11 year old. what is the best way to comfort an 11 year old? Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: / . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D.(http://www.ocdawareness.com ), Tamar Chansky, Ph.D.( http://www.worrywisekids.org ), Dan Geller, M.D. (http://massgeneral.org/pediatricpsych/staff/geller.html ),Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., ( http://www.lighthouse-press.com ). Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2007 Report Share Posted June 20, 2007 Welcome to the group! My son is also 11. Right now about the only thing I can do to comfort him is to listen when he needs to talk about his OCD. I've tried explaining that it's a brain glitch, or reassuring him that it's not REALLY part of him, but nothing I've said has helped much. So for me, listening is the most I can offer. And I believe that is very valuable to him. Looking forward to hearing more from you. F. --- sunjammer55 <sunjammer55@...> wrote: > hi new to group ...my 11 yr old son just diagnosed > with ocd - he has > the kind where his thoughts upset him ... he is > afraid he is going to > hurt people, steal things, he also worries about his > health. he is > asks me every night what if i have something bad > and no one knows > about it ? he worries his heart is going to stop > beating at a > moments notice and that his throat is going to close > up --- his > thoughts are mainly at night right before bedtime. > he is afraid to go > to sleep and panics at the thought of it and usually > bursts into tears > i myself have ocd and the therapist seems to think > its genetic. i know > how to talk to myself about my issues but i am > finding it hard to > comfort my 11 year old. what is the best way to > comfort an 11 year > old? > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____Ready for the edge of your seat? Check out tonight's top picks on TV. http://tv./ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 Hi : You asked about comforting techniques. Well, I disobeyed the docs o this point, but I am glad I did. My son is also 11, and as long as he felt no one understood him, he was fairly secretive about his problem and appeared to be disobedient and inattentive much of the time. It truly was not until we took him to the OCD clinic at Duke that he felt understood. When they were doing the Childrens Ybocs questionaire -- which asks in depth questions about ocd that it would be hard to squirm out of answering - he realized that they truly did understand. He had had so much therapy that was ineffective in the past, because I did not understand his diagnosis, that he was skeptical. Anyway, the kids books that I bought for him helped a little while we were waiting for an opening at the treatment program. I also bought " talking back to ocd " and while he was too impaired to read it, I would read a paragraph here and there out loud to him, and ask him some questions. Once he knew that I " got it " , and that real help was on the way, he was more easily comforted. While waiting for the program, I have to admit that my " comforting " strategies amounted to the same comforting strategies that I had used when he was much younger: hugs, kisses, special treats and times with me, and not making him sleep alone in his room, not commenting or complaining when I had to wash the bed linens - again, helping him be discreet with pull ups, meds, etc., keeping him home from school until we had a handle on this thing, working with him to keep up on his schoolwork even though we were home, and releiving him from many chores so that he could manage the schoolwork. He was so tormented that I could not find it in my heart to do anything else. Thank God, he is so much better since the treatment, that I feel confident that I did the right thing to baby him a little for a short while. And yes, the docs were opposed to my way of handling things. But I felt that until he got the erp therapy or successful medication regime, or something, it was unreasonable to expect any more of him and that reacting with KINDNESS was the best policy. Now he is grateful for my kindness, and is trying hard to resume his old responsibilities while keeping OCD at bay. Hope this helps. I know this was counter to what the " experts " advised, but I want to maintain a good relationship with my child for his whole life...he is not a case to me! mm > > > hi new to group ...my 11 yr old son just diagnosed > > with ocd - he has > > the kind where his thoughts upset him ... he is > > afraid he is going to > > hurt people, steal things, he also worries about his > > health. he is > > asks me every night what if i have something bad > > and no one knows > > about it ? he worries his heart is going to stop > > beating at a > > moments notice and that his throat is going to close > > up --- his > > thoughts are mainly at night right before bedtime. > > he is afraid to go > > to sleep and panics at the thought of it and usually > > bursts into tears > > i myself have ocd and the therapist seems to think > > its genetic. i know > > how to talk to myself about my issues but i am > > finding it hard to > > comfort my 11 year old. what is the best way to > > comfort an 11 year > > old? > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________Ready for the edge of your seat? > Check out tonight's top picks on TV. > http://tv./ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2010 Report Share Posted December 31, 2010 in regaurds to my 11 yr old son, thank you everyone for your answers and suggetions. It is greatly appreciated Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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