Kinda of a rant and a plea for help:(

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My 7 year old son has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers on top of the ADHD he was diagnosed with in January after him nearly failing 1st grade and years of being told I was just high strung and he was fine or that he wasn't old enough to be evaluated and he was displaying 'typical' boy behavior.In August we moved from land to Arkansas in a pathetic attempt to make our lives better. Not knowing this would trigger some major behavioral issues, not knowing the child we'd been living with would change so drastically. On top off this on October 10th our fourth child was born still which understandably caused a lot of changes in our home as well. It was within a week of 's death we learned Will has AS. The therapist said my sadness was stifling Will as I got very upset

with him when he wandered off and we couldn't find him. She said he needed freedom. That I shouldn't tell him bad things can happen to children who wander off. Ok fine. We've been told we shouldn't punish him. Only positive consequences for him ie if he walks dog in yard he can have 10 minutes on the computer, no if you hit your sister your going to your room cause that's not acceptable. Today my husband sat forever in the waiting room and all therapist offered was Will has sharing issues and my daughter doesn't listen. I feel like my daughter, who is 4 is acting out because she's not getting attention as all our energy aside from meals,baths etc is dedicated in dealing with him. That said we have also been told we need to devote more one on one time with Will. He doesn't like to eat so she's told him its ok to eat whatever he wants whenever he wants. Eating at night is perfectly fine. But I'm confused with that because what I've read AS kids need

structure and routine. This is where my plea comes in. What should I be doing? We're trying to move back to land as we need family support so we can spend more time with my younger children and perhaps find other services for my son as he's doing poorly in school. Am I over reacting and the tantrums and throwing things and other unacceptable behaviors are just par for the course? What is 'normal' in an AS child's life? I've tried reading articles and no two really agree with the causes or treatments. Thanks for reading this rambling nonsense but honestly all input is welcomeJenn LawtonMom of Will,7,allergic to peanuts tree nuts, asthmatic, environmental allergies, ADHD and ASWillow,4, allergic to peanuts,tree nuts,eggs,seafood and shellfish,asthmatic,environmental allergies and eczemaEddie,1,allergic to peanuts,tree nuts and dairy,asthmatic,environmental allergies and eczemaSweet 10-10-10 gone but not

forgotten