Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 In a message dated 9/16/03 11:29:30 PM Eastern Daylight Time, VSava67@... writes: > > Im having a terrible time with our school district. We have 2 new issues. > 1)My 2 oldest boys ride the ESE bus as a courtesy. My oldest son (Caleb > 10yr) > was pinched by the bus driver because he wasnt moving quick enough > Im not sure what to do about this. Hes an older fella and very impatient, > dont no why hes busing special ed kids. Complain to the transportaion dept of your school AND the transportation company that employs him. Inappropriate touching issue. > 2)We live on a blind corner. The transportation person has decided they > cant > pick the kids up in front of the house (legal issues I guess). But they want > > me to walk the kids down the street (4kids. 10, 8, 6 DS & 4), a VERY busy > street to a corner to catch the bus. Im not comfortable doing this on a busy > blind > corner. So anyone know what I can do about this? > Thanks > Vicki > > Complain to the special ed director AND the Superintendant of the school system in WRITING. Huge safety issue. - Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 yes you can get to the district transportation person about the bus not stopping infront of yur house and call the police about the pinching that is battery on a child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 The pinching needs to be reported to the bus company. That is assault. He shouldn't be bussing kids with special needs. Second, you need to have an IEP meeting to discuss transportation issues. You can have pick up AT your house no matter what kind of corner on which you live. What is a blind corner anyway? Elaine Bus issue Im having a terrible time with our school district. We have 2 new issues. 1)My 2 oldest boys ride the ESE bus as a courtesy. My oldest son (Caleb 10yr) was pinched by the bus driver because he wasnt moving quick enough Im not sure what to do about this. Hes an older fella and very impatient, dont no why hes busing special ed kids. 2)We live on a blind corner. The transportation person has decided they cant pick the kids up in front of the house (legal issues I guess). But they want me to walk the kids down the street (4kids. 10, 8, 6 DS & 4), a VERY busy street to a corner to catch the bus. Im not comfortable doing this on a busy blind corner. So anyone know what I can do about this? Thanks Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 The pinching needs to be reported to the bus company. That is assault. He shouldn't be bussing kids with special needs. Second, you need to have an IEP meeting to discuss transportation issues. You can have pick up AT your house no matter what kind of corner on which you live. What is a blind corner anyway? Elaine Bus issue Im having a terrible time with our school district. We have 2 new issues. 1)My 2 oldest boys ride the ESE bus as a courtesy. My oldest son (Caleb 10yr) was pinched by the bus driver because he wasnt moving quick enough Im not sure what to do about this. Hes an older fella and very impatient, dont no why hes busing special ed kids. 2)We live on a blind corner. The transportation person has decided they cant pick the kids up in front of the house (legal issues I guess). But they want me to walk the kids down the street (4kids. 10, 8, 6 DS & 4), a VERY busy street to a corner to catch the bus. Im not comfortable doing this on a busy blind corner. So anyone know what I can do about this? Thanks Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 Question: Was the pinch so bad that you saw a mark on the child's arm later in the day or did the child say he was pinched (no mark) and everyone is assuming that it is bad? The reason I ask is that the driver could have meant it as a prod to move the child along similar to a pat on the back. Perhaps the driver is nice and everyone is assuming the worse. Perhaps I am wrong? Please explain further so that I can understand. Thanks! Re: Bus issue yes you can get to the district transportation person about the bus not stopping infront of yur house and call the police about the pinching that is battery on a child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 You cannot touch a child even to move them along- if a child needs to be put into a car seat, the matron must do it. The bus drivers cannot touch the children at all, not even in nice, friendly ways. And pinching is not friendly, it hurts. ~ Mom to 13 DS and Diabetes Type 1 and 9 NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 > The reason I ask is that the > driver could have meant it as a prod to move the child along similar to > a pat on the back. Even if the driver is using pat on the back, if the child feels threatened by it or feels that the driver is too physical, than it's wrong! I look at my son with SI issues. It's very tempting for people to pat him on the head or ruffle his hair, but to him it HURTS! I always let them know that it is painful to him. I would prefer that the bus driver give the kids a thumbs up or a high five when they move quickly and appropriately than a prod when they are moving to slowly for his liking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 In a message dated 9/17/03 6:59:51 PM Eastern Daylight Time, writes: > Complain to the transportaion dept of your school AND the transportation > company that employs him. Inappropriate touching issue. Put the complaint in writing and send copies to the district superintendent, the building principal and sped director. nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 Well, in our district, there are no bus matrons, so the driver is the one to help the children into their seats. So, we don't have a " no touch " policy I guess. In the morning, I would always wait to make sure cooperated with the driver and got into her seat. On the return, I think that the teacher/aides/whomever took the children to thier bus kept an eye out for cooperation. In any case, I don't think that a pinch is an appropriate way to move a child along.... cooperating or not! , mom to (7), (5 DS), and (4) > > From: linman42@... > Date: 2003/09/17 Wed PM 10:56:32 EDT > kldoll@..., Jeanna3598@..., dbonorato4@..., > > Subject: Re: Bus issue > > You cannot touch a child even to move them along- if a child needs to be put > into a car seat, the matron must do it. The bus drivers cannot touch the > children at all, not even in nice, friendly ways. And pinching is not friendly, > it hurts. > > ~ Mom to 13 DS and Diabetes Type 1 and 9 NY > > > Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 You should call the bus company and request a matron on the bus. Its in the best interest of the kids and the bus driver for him not to be alone with the kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 That depends on the state . I touch kids all the time. I hug them quite a lot. I always wait for them to initiate the hug and it's always in public but I do hug them:) Sometimes I'm the only one who ever hugs them. There are also still some states in which corporal punishment is legal. Georgia is one of them but it is very rare. It is not used where I work. Elaine Re: Bus issue > You cannot touch a child even to move them along- if a child needs to be put > into a car seat, the matron must do it. The bus drivers cannot touch the > children at all, not even in nice, friendly ways. And pinching is not friendly, > it hurts. > > ~ Mom to 13 DS and Diabetes Type 1 and 9 NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 I would push for the 1 on 1 assistance, if they are recommending it. Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless deviceFrom: "jannalynn6" Date: Fri, 11 Sep 2009 10:10:26 -0000< >Subject: ( ) Bus issue So I completely lost my mind with the school yesterday. My 6 yr. old 1st grader apparently told a kindergartner on the bus the other day that he was going to " hold her down " or " push her down " or something like that. She told her mom who called the school and the bus company, and she also told her teacher who told my son's teacher. So when dismissal came along yesterday, his teacher put him on the bus and assigned a seat to him. He has never had an assigned seat and flipped out and had a total meltdown. The teacher called me and told me that she discussed it with the principal and she told her that if the assigned seat doesn't work out, I would have to pick him up from school. THAT was when I lost my mind. Here's the background, he has an older sister that was on the bus with him last year and always helped him if he had issues - she helped him avoid all problems on the bus. I TOLD the school during our PPT about a month before school - this WILL be a problem, and I would like for you to put something in place for him NOW (end of the year last year) that will be his plan for the bus when school starts - I suggested either a bus buddy or an assigned seat. I knew he probably wouldn't like it, but I could discuss it with him and prepare him for it. The school agreed. So day 1, no plan in place - not sure what the school was thinking or planning, but I figured, well, they must have something in mind. Nope, wrong, nothing - so when my child DOES have an issue on the bus, I'm the one to suffer. I went nuts on the teacher, then calmed down - it's not her fault. But 3 minutes after I hung up with her, the school psychologist called - THAT's the one I went crazy on - she was the one that said we would have a plan in place. So she said " we have not put something in place, but he is not happy " Of course he's not happy, he was in the middle of a melt down and you imposed your will on him - wrong move. I reminded her that IF they had put this in place like they were supposed to, we would not have had an issue and this is just one step forward, two steps back and it will likely take some recovery time before we get back to a good point. Of course I played this up a bit with how this will probably disrupt his learning for a few days and how 1st grade is so important as that's when the learn to read, etc. and it would be in the school's best interest to provide him with all the supports he needs so that he can succeed. If he succeeds, he moves on, if he doesn't it's another year that the school system has to have him in their charge. O.K. - so I overreacted a bit, but I made my point and he's not getting picked up by me. And I wouldn't let them put him on the special needs but either. Then I told the school - oh yes, by the way, I have a new report from Yale Child Study center which I will forward to you and I would like to schedule a PPT for as soon as possible - it will be before the end of September. They have a few suggestions that I would like put in place. O.K. - if any of you are still reading, can I get some opinions on this piece please? Yale is recommending he have 1-1 support on a full time basis in school. So far the school has not pushed back on too much, they have not given us everything we have asked, but have always made several accommodations for him (with the exception of this bus issue). He does have 2 paraprofessionals that rotate in the classroom, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, BUT they are assigned to the classroom and not to him - they are there to help ALL of the children that need assistance in the classroom. I have always liked the idea that the help was there if he needed it, but wasn't focused JUST on him. I didn't want him singled out by the other kids. So my question is, would you push for the 1-1 full time (as suggested by Yale) or let this ride the way it is? Am I just overreacting because I'm so upset over the bus incident? He's a bright boy, but needs the assistance with focus and organization. He can have meltdowns easily, BUT can be redirected with much assistance. If the aide is right there on him, it doesn't get too bad, but if left to his own, he can't come out of these meltdowns for a while. Sorry for the long rambling post. TIA Janna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 Sounds like you did beautifully. You are lucky enough to have a report to show the school with an amazing recommendation!!! YES>>>>>>push for the 1:1 aide!!!! You can always back off. Robin Normal is just a cycle on a washing machine!! From: jannalynn6 <jannalynn6@...>Subject: ( ) Bus issue Date: Friday, September 11, 2009, 5:10 AM So I completely lost my mind with the school yesterday. My 6 yr. old 1st grader apparently told a kindergartner on the bus the other day that he was going to "hold her down" or "push her down" or something like that. She told her mom who called the school and the bus company, and she also told her teacher who told my son's teacher.So when dismissal came along yesterday, his teacher put him on the bus and assigned a seat to him. He has never had an assigned seat and flipped out and had a total meltdown. The teacher called me and told me that she discussed it with the principal and she told her that if the assigned seat doesn't work out, I would have to pick him up from school. THAT was when I lost my mind.Here's the background, he has an older sister that was on the bus with him last year and always helped him if he had issues - she helped him avoid all problems on the bus. I TOLD the school during our PPT about a month before school - this WILL be a problem, and I would like for you to put something in place for him NOW (end of the year last year) that will be his plan for the bus when school starts - I suggested either a bus buddy or an assigned seat. I knew he probably wouldn't like it, but I could discuss it with him and prepare him for it. The school agreed.So day 1, no plan in place - not sure what the school was thinking or planning, but I figured, well, they must have something in mind. Nope, wrong, nothing - so when my child DOES have an issue on the bus, I'm the one to suffer. I went nuts on the teacher, then calmed down - it's not her fault. But 3 minutes after I hung up with her, the school psychologist called - THAT's the one I went crazy on - she was the one that said we would have a plan in place. So she said "we have not put something in place, but he is not happy" Of course he's not happy, he was in the middle of a melt down and you imposed your will on him - wrong move.I reminded her that IF they had put this in place like they were supposed to, we would not have had an issue and this is just one step forward, two steps back and it will likely take some recovery time before we get back to a good point.Of course I played this up a bit with how this will probably disrupt his learning for a few days and how 1st grade is so important as that's when the learn to read, etc. and it would be in the school's best interest to provide him with all the supports he needs so that he can succeed. If he succeeds, he moves on, if he doesn't it's another year that the school system has to have him in their charge.O.K. - so I overreacted a bit, but I made my point and he's not getting picked up by me. And I wouldn't let them put him on the special needs but either. Then I told the school - oh yes, by the way, I have a new report from Yale Child Study center which I will forward to you and I would like to schedule a PPT for as soon as possible - it will be before the end of September. They have a few suggestions that I would like put in place.O.K. - if any of you are still reading, can I get some opinions on this piece please? Yale is recommending he have 1-1 support on a full time basis in school. So far the school has not pushed back on too much, they have not given us everything we have asked, but have always made several accommodations for him (with the exception of this bus issue). He does have 2 paraprofessionals that rotate in the classroom, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, BUT they are assigned to the classroom and not to him - they are there to help ALL of the children that need assistance in the classroom. I have always liked the idea that the help was there if he needed it, but wasn't focused JUST on him. I didn't want him singled out by the other kids.So my question is, would you push for the 1-1 full time (as suggested by Yale) or let this ride the way it is? Am I just overreacting because I'm so upset over the bus incident? He's a bright boy, but needs the assistance with focus and organization. He can have meltdowns easily, BUT can be redirected with much assistance. If the aide is right there on him, it doesn't get too bad, but if left to his own, he can't come out of these meltdowns for a while.Sorry for the long rambling post.TIAJanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2009 Report Share Posted September 11, 2009 If as you said your son is smart and there are two para's in the room already...I think he will be okay. Just ask the teacher to keep an eye on him. Will your son tell you how it is going? Will he tell you if kids are picking on him, etc. How many kids are in the class...that is important too. jan Janice Rushen "I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope" From: jannalynn6 <jannalynn6 (DOT) com>Subject: ( ) Bus issue Date: Friday, September 11, 2009, 5:10 AM So I completely lost my mind with the school yesterday. My 6 yr. old 1st grader apparently told a kindergartner on the bus the other day that he was going to "hold her down" or "push her down" or something like that. She told her mom who called the school and the bus company, and she also told her teacher who told my son's teacher.So when dismissal came along yesterday, his teacher put him on the bus and assigned a seat to him. He has never had an assigned seat and flipped out and had a total meltdown. The teacher called me and told me that she discussed it with the principal and she told her that if the assigned seat doesn't work out, I would have to pick him up from school. THAT was when I lost my mind.Here's the background, he has an older sister that was on the bus with him last year and always helped him if he had issues - she helped him avoid all problems on the bus. I TOLD the school during our PPT about a month before school - this WILL be a problem, and I would like for you to put something in place for him NOW (end of the year last year) that will be his plan for the bus when school starts - I suggested either a bus buddy or an assigned seat. I knew he probably wouldn't like it, but I could discuss it with him and prepare him for it. The school agreed.So day 1, no plan in place - not sure what the school was thinking or planning, but I figured, well, they must have something in mind. Nope, wrong, nothing - so when my child DOES have an issue on the bus, I'm the one to suffer. I went nuts on the teacher, then calmed down - it's not her fault. But 3 minutes after I hung up with her, the school psychologist called - THAT's the one I went crazy on - she was the one that said we would have a plan in place. So she said "we have not put something in place, but he is not happy" Of course he's not happy, he was in the middle of a melt down and you imposed your will on him - wrong move.I reminded her that IF they had put this in place like they were supposed to, we would not have had an issue and this is just one step forward, two steps back and it will likely take some recovery time before we get back to a good point.Of course I played this up a bit with how this will probably disrupt his learning for a few days and how 1st grade is so important as that's when the learn to read, etc. and it would be in the school's best interest to provide him with all the supports he needs so that he can succeed. If he succeeds, he moves on, if he doesn't it's another year that the school system has to have him in their charge.O.K. - so I overreacted a bit, but I made my point and he's not getting picked up by me. And I wouldn't let them put him on the special needs but either. Then I told the school - oh yes, by the way, I have a new report from Yale Child Study center which I will forward to you and I would like to schedule a PPT for as soon as possible - it will be before the end of September. They have a few suggestions that I would like put in place.O.K. - if any of you are still reading, can I get some opinions on this piece please? Yale is recommending he have 1-1 support on a full time basis in school. So far the school has not pushed back on too much, they have not given us everything we have asked, but have always made several accommodations for him (with the exception of this bus issue). He does have 2 paraprofessionals that rotate in the classroom, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, BUT they are assigned to the classroom and not to him - they are there to help ALL of the children that need assistance in the classroom. I have always liked the idea that the help was there if he needed it, but wasn't focused JUST on him. I didn't want him singled out by the other kids.So my question is, would you push for the 1-1 full time (as suggested by Yale) or let this ride the way it is? Am I just overreacting because I'm so upset over the bus incident? He's a bright boy, but needs the assistance with focus and organization. He can have meltdowns easily, BUT can be redirected with much assistance. If the aide is right there on him, it doesn't get too bad, but if left to his own, he can't come out of these meltdowns for a while.Sorry for the long rambling post.TIAJanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2009 Report Share Posted September 14, 2009 Janna, I am very sorry to hear about your experience. I am not shocked though. In case you are wondering no you are not crazy, no you are not overreacting. This is your child - you are telling the people intrusted with your child physical and emotional care, critical informatin and in their great wisdom they are not taking you seriously. Then when it doesn't work out well they are unfairly penalizing your child, you, and your family for their own lack of professionalism. In other words I would say that sadly you sound just like a typical Aspergers parent. I hate to say this but document what you tell them and then if neccesary use it to back yourself up if they ignore you again. Also point out that saying something and doing something are different things. Adults may need to be reminded of this. Most of our kids have almost no abiltiy to filter what comes out of their mouths. It can be amusing at times and yet can be used against us and them if we allow it. About the one on one thing. I think that it is worth trying. In our area though the people that they hire typically have no training whatsoever. People here sometimes pay out of their own pocket to send aids to be trained. In general I would suggest that you try to utilize any help that is available. Our son just turned eight and your story and your emotions sound very familiar. Good luck. Know that you are not alone. Oh yeah and the right to ramble goes with the territory as far as I am concerned. From: jannalynn6 <jannalynn6@...> Sent: Friday, September 11, 2009 3:10:26 AMSubject: ( ) Bus issue So I completely lost my mind with the school yesterday. My 6 yr. old 1st grader apparently told a kindergartner on the bus the other day that he was going to "hold her down" or "push her down" or something like that. She told her mom who called the school and the bus company, and she also told her teacher who told my son's teacher.So when dismissal came along yesterday, his teacher put him on the bus and assigned a seat to him. He has never had an assigned seat and flipped out and had a total meltdown. The teacher called me and told me that she discussed it with the principal and she told her that if the assigned seat doesn't work out, I would have to pick him up from school. THAT was when I lost my mind.Here's the background, he has an older sister that was on the bus with him last year and always helped him if he had issues - she helped him avoid all problems on the bus. I TOLD the school during our PPT about a month before school - this WILL be a problem, and I would like for you to put something in place for him NOW (end of the year last year) that will be his plan for the bus when school starts - I suggested either a bus buddy or an assigned seat. I knew he probably wouldn't like it, but I could discuss it with him and prepare him for it. The school agreed.So day 1, no plan in place - not sure what the school was thinking or planning, but I figured, well, they must have something in mind. Nope, wrong, nothing - so when my child DOES have an issue on the bus, I'm the one to suffer. I went nuts on the teacher, then calmed down - it's not her fault. But 3 minutes after I hung up with her, the school psychologist called - THAT's the one I went crazy on - she was the one that said we would have a plan in place. So she said "we have not put something in place, but he is not happy" Of course he's not happy, he was in the middle of a melt down and you imposed your will on him - wrong move.I reminded her that IF they had put this in place like they were supposed to, we would not have had an issue and this is just one step forward, two steps back and it will likely take some recovery time before we get back to a good point.Of course I played this up a bit with how this will probably disrupt his learning for a few days and how 1st grade is so important as that's when the learn to read, etc. and it would be in the school's best interest to provide him with all the supports he needs so that he can succeed. If he succeeds, he moves on, if he doesn't it's another year that the school system has to have him in their charge.O.K. - so I overreacted a bit, but I made my point and he's not getting picked up by me. And I wouldn't let them put him on the special needs but either. Then I told the school - oh yes, by the way, I have a new report from Yale Child Study center which I will forward to you and I would like to schedule a PPT for as soon as possible - it will be before the end of September. They have a few suggestions that I would like put in place.O.K. - if any of you are still reading, can I get some opinions on this piece please? Yale is recommending he have 1-1 support on a full time basis in school. So far the school has not pushed back on too much, they have not given us everything we have asked, but have always made several accommodations for him (with the exception of this bus issue). He does have 2 paraprofessionals that rotate in the classroom, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, BUT they are assigned to the classroom and not to him - they are there to help ALL of the children that need assistance in the classroom. I have always liked the idea that the help was there if he needed it, but wasn't focused JUST on him. I didn't want him singled out by the other kids.So my question is, would you push for the 1-1 full time (as suggested by Yale) or let this ride the way it is? Am I just overreacting because I'm so upset over the bus incident? He's a bright boy, but needs the assistance with focus and organization. He can have meltdowns easily, BUT can be redirected with much assistance. If the aide is right there on him, it doesn't get too bad, but if left to his own, he can't come out of these meltdowns for a while.Sorry for the long rambling post.TIAJanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2009 Report Share Posted September 18, 2009 Well, hopefully you have a bus plan in place. Next time, have this plan put in the IEP. The bus is part of the school day. As for whether he needs an aide or not - there is not enough information to be able to answer that. What kinds of needs does he have? How is he doing in class now with the aides that are there? How much time do they have to devote to his needs? Are his goals being met? Does he need goals that would require aide support? In my own experience, we did not have choice of whether to get our ds an aide or not. It was obviously needed. We were well past the " will it make his look different " phase. I personally would want to try ways to implement the IEP without a 1-1 aide if possible. But if not possible, then you have to get him the help that he needs. Need isn't a choice. I don't know why yale decided he needed an aide in school or what they based this recommendation on exactly. You need to figure all that out and it will guide your decision. What need does he have that they feel he needs a 1-1 to meet? Can this need be met in other ways? Did they come and do in school observations to provide the data showing this need? Most schools will want to have data/proof that this is a need before assigning a 1-1 aide.  Roxanna " The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men=2 0to do nothing. " E. Burke ( ) Bus issue So I completely lost my mind with the school yesterday. My 6 yr. old 1st grader apparently told a kindergartner on the bus the other day that he was going to " hold her down " or " push her down " or something like that. She told her mom who called the school and the bus company, and she also told her teacher who told my son's teacher. So when dismissal came along yesterday, his teacher put him on the bus and assigned a seat to him. He has never had an assigned seat and flipped out and had a total meltdown. The teacher called me and told me that she discussed it with the principal and she told her that if the assigned seat doesn't work out, I would have to pick him up from school. THAT was when I lost my mind. Here's the background, he has an older sister that was on the bus with him last year and always helped him if he had issues - she helped him avoid all problems on the bus. I TOLD the school during our PPT about a month before school - this WILL be a problem, and I would like for you to put something in place for him NOW (end of the year last year) that will be his plan for the bus when school starts - I suggested either a20bus buddy or an assigned seat. I knew he probably wouldn't like it, but I could discuss it with him and prepare him for it. The school agreed. So day 1, no plan in place - not sure what the school was thinking or planning, but I figured, well, they must have something in mind. Nope, wrong, nothing - so when my child DOES have an issue on the bus, I'm the one to suffer. I went nuts on the teacher, then calmed down - it's not her fault. But 3 minutes after I hung up with her, the school psychologist called - THAT's the one I went crazy on - she was the one that said we would have a plan in place. So she said " we have not put something in place, but he is not happy " Of course he's not happy, he was in the middle of a melt down and you imposed your will on him - wrong move. I reminded her that IF they had put this in place like they were supposed to, we would not have had an issue and this is just one step forward, two steps back and it will likely take some recovery time before we get back to a good point. Of course I played this up a bit with how this will probably disrupt his learning for a few days and how 1st grade is so important as that's when the learn to read, etc. and it would be in the school's best interest to provide him with all the supports he needs so that he can succeed. If he succeeds, he moves on, if he doesn't it's another year that the school system has to have him in their charge. O.K. - so I overreacted a bit, but I made my point and he's not getting picked up by me. And I wouldn't let them put him on the special needs but either. Then I told the school - oh yes, by the way, I have a new report from Yale Child Study center which I will forward to you and I would like to schedule a PPT for as soon as possible - it will be before the end of September. They have a few suggestions that I would like put in place. O.K. - if any of you are still reading, can I get some opinions on this piece please? Yale is recommending he have 1-1 support on a full time basis in school. So far the school has not pushed back on too much, they have not given us everything we have asked, but have always made several accommodations for him (with the exception of this bus issue). He does have 2 paraprofessionals that rotate in the classroom, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, BUT they are assigned to the classroom and not to him - they are there to help ALL of the children that need assistance in the classroom. I have always liked the idea that the help was there if he needed it, but wasn't focused JUST on him. I didn't want him singled out by the other kids. So my question is, would you push for the 1-1 full time (as suggested by Yale) or let this ride the way it is? Am I just overreacting because I'm so upset over the bus incident? He's a bright boy, but needs the assistance with focus and organization. He can have meltdowns easily, BUT can be redirected with much assistance. If the aide is right there on him, it doesn't get too bad, but if left to his own, he can't come out of these meltdowns for a while. Sorry for the long rambling post. TIA Janna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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