Re: My two boys are having trouble!!! Please help!

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Hi Meaghan,

Happy Holidays to you and welcome to the group. Sounds like you're doing the right things for your boys. Getting them properly and thoroughly evaluated is the first big step. As for their sensory issues, you should have them evaluated by an OT. They can help desifer what their sensory issues are and make recommendations on how to help your boys deal with them. Also, read the book, "The out of syn child" it will help a lot of things make sense. If your boys see a developmental pediatrician maybe they can make diet recommendations for their limited diet. My son lived off of chicken nuggets and mac and cheese practically for a couple of years but I supplimented with vitamins and eventually get expanded his diet. He still picky but eats a lot more variety of foods now.

Just keep taking it one step at a time and you're already doing the most important thing and that is being a great Mom. Good luck and keep us posted on your doctor's visits.

ne

From: Meaghan <meaghanlarson@...>Subject: ( ) My two boys are having trouble!!! Please help! Date: Friday, December 24, 2010, 2:57 PM

Well Hi everyone , my name is Meaghan and i have three beautiful little boys , Connor who is 4 , who is 2 1/2 , and Liam who is 1! Yeah i know what your thinking... and yes having three boys that young is exhausting! But they are always keeping me laughing and happy with how silly they are everyday! So my two oldest sons Connor( 4 yrs.) and (2 1/2 yrs. ) are having some problems , has autism and at age two was almost completely none verbal , but because he was having issues with severe constipation i took him off of dairy, to my surprise in a matter of 1 week he went from having maybe 10 words to well over 70 , and 3 months later i cant even keep tack of how many words he is saying! Still has alot of work to do with his speech but im so happy with how much he is progressing! While his speech has gotten a lot better , his sensory issues having spiraled out of control! HIs meltdowns have become very hard to deal with , as it more so

just makes me sad because he gets so upset! His diet is horrible i can not get him to eat ANYTHING! So im struggling with how to manage and help him with all his issues! Now my 4 year old son Connor , is having a lot of the same issues , his sensory issues are starting to really bother him, he recently had to be removed from the 4k program at his school because he wasnt adjusting well! He also has a very poor diet and will gag when i try and get him to eat certain foods! So i dont know what i should be doing about that? Connor does fine is one on one interaction with other children and adults , but when more then 2 people around him start , talking, laughing, running, singing, dancing he becomes very upset and will yell at everyone to stop! I happened to be driving by his school when he was out for recess and at no point in the 30 minute recess did i see Connor playing with or even near another child, at one point he did go on a piece of

equipment that other kids were on , but as soon as connor came on every single other child that was on the equipment got off and ran away from Connor! He has become very insecure and he wants to have friends and play with friends , but when it comes down to actually interacting he gets very confused and upset, and i just need help in what i can do to help him through this! He has not been diagnosed with anything yet , i have made a doctors appointment for him next week to get a referral for him to be evaluated. My other son will be getting evaluated by a clinical a few hours away from us in 2 weeks! So its been alot to handle having 2 children that are struggling , and i just dont want to fail them , and i hate seeing my four year be soooo insecure , before he started school he loved doing learning activities with him and coloring , and just learning any way he could! He is very smart for his age, he can add and subtract and loooooooves

science , talks about the solar system all the time , and to be honest knows things i dont even know , which doesnt make me look to good , but i was always so excited about his love for learning!! So i dont know if i really have a specific question for anyone to answer , more so as i just would love to hear anyone's thoughts or suggestions on things to help my sons! I am sure i forgot to mention a few more details about things that my sons do , but this is just i guess the gist of it! Thanks for taking the time to read my story , i appreciate it! Happy Holidays :)Meaghan Larson

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Meaghan,

For your younger son I'd get him to a Dan doctor if you haven't already. Lots of people have reported what you have about lots of behavior improvements upon cutting out the dairy and/or gluten. Leaky gut syndrome is a theory that might fit your child.

For your older son I'd be willing to bet money that he has some auditory processing issues. He probably has trouble processing all the voices correctly. In fact he may actually hear all the words without being able to discern who is saying them. Imagine the decoding he would have to do to figure out which words belong to which sentence. Less severe, he might just be over sensitive to noise period making it hard for him to concentrate. My son has some of this. It leads to a form of sensory defensiveness where in certain settings he won't interact. A year ago for example at the fall festival at my son's school he completely shut down and the only booth he participated in was the bounce house. This year he did 7-8 things and did much better. He didn't freeze up. So you can get help for this. Between OT, music therapy, and maturing he can improve on this.

With regard to what happened to conner on the merrygoround I'm afraid that even kids this young get into groups and then exclude. Same thing happened to my son who has borderline Aspergers. He's somewhere in the PDD cloud but I nevermind that... Because he's not socialized much in the school setting it will be harder to break into a group. I would recommend play dates with a few kids out of the class. It might help later when he is ready and capable to insert himself into a group. We are just now going through this process. My son who is now more likely to want to play sometimes isn't even noticed cause no one is expecting him to play.

Anyway the advice I give everyone is to learn about all the various sensory, autism, aspergers, adhd symptoms. Then figure out which ones you are dealing with. Than prioritize the problems. Pick one or two to really focus on and as they improve move to the next issue. It has worked for us. Its kind of like pealing an onion. You'll find that once you strip away an issue a more capable child will reveal himself and sometimes also another symptom previously missed. Everytime you help your child master an issue he will be more empowered to tackle the next deficit.

I think this is why Autism is so hard. Because there sensory issues are more severe its harder and slower to make progress. Just be diligent.

Merry Christmas and hoping for a better New Year!

From: Meaghan <meaghanlarson@...>Subject: ( ) My two boys are having trouble!!! Please help! Date: Friday, December 24, 2010, 2:57 PM

Well Hi everyone , my name is Meaghan and i have three beautiful little boys , Connor who is 4 , who is 2 1/2 , and Liam who is 1! Yeah i know what your thinking... and yes having three boys that young is exhausting! But they are always keeping me laughing and happy with how silly they are everyday! So my two oldest sons Connor( 4 yrs.) and (2 1/2 yrs. ) are having some problems , has autism and at age two was almost completely none verbal , but because he was having issues with severe constipation i took him off of dairy, to my surprise in a matter of 1 week he went from having maybe 10 words to well over 70 , and 3 months later i cant even keep tack of how many words he is saying! Still has alot of work to do with his speech but im so happy with how much he is progressing! While his speech has gotten a lot better , his sensory issues having spiraled out of control! HIs meltdowns have become very hard to deal with , as it more so

just makes me sad because he gets so upset! His diet is horrible i can not get him to eat ANYTHING! So im struggling with how to manage and help him with all his issues! Now my 4 year old son Connor , is having a lot of the same issues , his sensory issues are starting to really bother him, he recently had to be removed from the 4k program at his school because he wasnt adjusting well! He also has a very poor diet and will gag when i try and get him to eat certain foods! So i dont know what i should be doing about that? Connor does fine is one on one interaction with other children and adults , but when more then 2 people around him start , talking, laughing, running, singing, dancing he becomes very upset and will yell at everyone to stop! I happened to be driving by his school when he was out for recess and at no point in the 30 minute recess did i see Connor playing with or even near another child, at one point he did go on a piece of

equipment that other kids were on , but as soon as connor came on every single other child that was on the equipment got off and ran away from Connor! He has become very insecure and he wants to have friends and play with friends , but when it comes down to actually interacting he gets very confused and upset, and i just need help in what i can do to help him through this! He has not been diagnosed with anything yet , i have made a doctors appointment for him next week to get a referral for him to be evaluated. My other son will be getting evaluated by a clinical a few hours away from us in 2 weeks! So its been alot to handle having 2 children that are struggling , and i just dont want to fail them , and i hate seeing my four year be soooo insecure , before he started school he loved doing learning activities with him and coloring , and just learning any way he could! He is very smart for his age, he can add and subtract and loooooooves

science , talks about the solar system all the time , and to be honest knows things i dont even know , which doesnt make me look to good , but i was always so excited about his love for learning!! So i dont know if i really have a specific question for anyone to answer , more so as i just would love to hear anyone's thoughts or suggestions on things to help my sons! I am sure i forgot to mention a few more details about things that my sons do , but this is just i guess the gist of it! Thanks for taking the time to read my story , i appreciate it! Happy Holidays :)Meaghan Larson