Re: Re: Wedding meal

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Lol miriam,

Could have been in the same building! 1700 hunting lodge, lots of STEEP staircases and uneven floors, also the same kind of thing from in laws alway dropping hints that as kids they had to sit at the table for hours until they finished what they had been given to eat. And when Gregor was a baby I was aways being told by my MIL I can do it, after all I've had 3 of my own. Whilst she would talking about certain toy shops being so good she could leave her other 2 grand kids there go to the WCs( that were elsewhere in the shopping centre) and come back and they were still playing happily. She doesn't understand why this scares me!

I think she is of the generation that children are seen and not heard at best, when my husband visits they stick Gregor in a different room with a TV, and she seems annoyed when I arrive I switch the TV off and bring him into the same room. I must be from the generation that children are a joy and we should enjoy being in their company whenever we can.

And yes I've got that independant streak too, for some reason I am determined I can cope with anything and don't need anyones help, I am pregnant at the mo and really, really have an issue when I am being told off for going to the gym, lifting Gregor, just generally getting on with normal life. AAArrrggghhh.

From: mimasdprofile <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Wedding meal Date: Friday, 27 November, 2009, 17:12

woo hoo, you go girl! Doesn't it feel great when these things work out so well?We had a nightmare of a wedding experience before was diagnosed. was supposed to participate in the wedding by helping to give out programs. So we did that with him a bit but he was only 2 so it was not really expected that he would be able to do much. The worst was the reception. was invited and we wanted to bring him. I was pregnant and a bit ill. This place was NOT good for kids at all. It was too small and it was an old colonial building with uneven steps leading to the room where the reception was being held. I was chasing all around and he was biting bits of food and putting them back on trays and I was having to chase him and then there wasn't a high chair e3ven though I was told there WOULD be. People were LAUGHING at me chasing around. Oh yeah, god forbid anyone should make any attempt to HELP me. I started to get really angry and

we ended up leaving. My MIL was SO angry and nasty.Then my husband did a totally asperger thing. We went to his moms house and he ordered pizza and gave a bath and let him play with a metal tipped turkey baster in my MIL's brand new bath tub and all the crap came down on MY head. I kept saying, "Are you sure this will be okay with your mom?" Uh, yeah. He thought it was fine but she was having people come back to the house in a more formal way afterwards. He didn't get it. I got screamed at and I was asked of , "Why can't you MAKE him mind?" Come ON, that's a ridiculous question to anyone with a 2 year old.Once had a diagnosis I think my MIL regretted some of the things she said to me. Right before my daughter was born and about 8 month before 's diagnosis she said, "I don't know how you will handle another kid after having so much trouble with ." She was so awful. I told her, "You know NOTHING about raising kids."

LOL. Which really is kind of true if you know about my husband. She would leave him to care for himself at age 6. He'd have to get himself ready for school. He was getting dizzy at school from not eating and had to be sent home one day. So uh, yeah, she's a realy authority.Anyway, my MIL has NEVER said anything like that again. When Rayleigh was born I was so possessive I wouldn't let my MIL hold her for more than about 3 minutes at a time. I was so damn independent and there was no question about me handling anything. She does GET now, but before the DX it was just so difficult with my MIL. Not sure I'll ever completely get over all that but I've mostly put it in the past and get along with her quite well. She defers to me in issues of parenting so I've obviously shown her she can't push me around.Anyway, I'm glad you were able to get your son included in menu choices. These kids need to be included in real life as much as possible

because the more exposure they get the more they'll learn how to handle it.Great job!Hugs,Miriam>> Thanks to all for you that posted and gave me confidence that I wasn't getting things out of proportion. I contacted then venue and they e-mailed me the whole 12 page menu, including childrens, last night I took it round to my sister in laws and said look there are childrens options, I would rather Gregor ate when everybody else is eating. And left it with her.> > I received a txt this morning to say Gregor has been added for a meal, so yipee, and thanks again everybody, without your reassurance I would have been dashing

home to cook G's lunch and make a packed lunch.> > Lor B> x>