Re: Re: Disappointed with family

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When my sil remarried, my youngest son was 6 years old. He was the youngest grandson, but there were great-grandchildren who were his age & younger! My sil had a special menu for the young children- chicken nuggets & fries. She wanted all of her family included & so she made it easier for the children & the parents. Everyone had a wondeful time. She also had "goodie" bags for the kids with crayons & coloring books to keep them entertained. She made sure to save a dance for each of her young nieces, nephews, grandnieces & grabs nephews to be welcome!!Sent from my iPhoneBlessings, DonnaOn Nov 26, 2009, at 8:16 PM, "" <video228@...> wrote:

I hardly feel you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

i cant see why the "bride" wouldnt be able to ask the restaurant or recepetion hall to have something more acceptable for him to eat. i have yet to see the place that refused something for a special dietary request.

it just sounds more like your family doesnt understand and/or accept the needs you require.

sorry, but i come from a very close italian family and they would "never" leave someone out like that.

but then again, i cant say i was never in your shoes (not with family, but with so called freinds).

stick to your guns. your son should not be left out at all.

what if he feels slighted as others are being taken care of and he is not ?

at what point do people stop "punishing" you for needing some help ?

im sure if someonr had a allergy to a specific type of food, the place will make a consession if asked.

Good luck on this one. i know its very touchy but your hubby has to stick by your side and voice his oppinion.

im sure if asked nicely, there should be an arrangement made. if not, i wouldnt go.

if that starts an issue in the family, it doesnt sound like much of one.

family may be family. but your son isdirect from you and yur husbands blood and that is thicker.

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> I couldn't get to sleep last night as I was very upset, my husband thinks I am making a mountain out fo a molehill, I need some other opinions.

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> Long story short my mother in law NEVER gets my son a meal if we are all out for Christmas, I have always taken a packed lunch for him, last year there were other kids, they all got a meal. I started to get a little annoyed.

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> On Saturday my sister in law is getting married, she and the MIL have decided there is nothing Gregor would eat, without asking either of us, so he is not getting a meal, they want me to feed him before we go, then just sit there with nothing for the two hours it takes everyone else to eat their meal and I can take a sandwich for him for later.

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> Now, the three of us go out for dinner at least once a week, gregor is never any trouble, he loves ordering his food and chatting to the waitress/waiter. I just think he is going to feel very left out.

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> Do I

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> a) take a three course meal for him and just feed him when the rest of us are being fed. or

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> tell the sister in law I will pay for his meal because I would rather he shovel food around his plate for half an hour than be left out.

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> Any advice greatly appreciated, before I feign sickness and don't go at all.

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