Another one of those bang your head against the wall weekends!

[Guest guest]

A little recap of one of my problems with my son:

A few years ago we started to notice the smell of urine in my kids playroom. Afte some investigation we figured out that my then 8 or 9 year old aspie was urinating in one of the corners (onto my hardwood floors which then turned black). Well we cleaned that up and talked at great length to DS about not doing this again and why and all that. A few months later we notice that he has started to pee in his bedroom in the corner. Again we got angry and did more talking and punishments. A while later and we find that he has unrinated in a drawer under his bed (particle board works like a spunge for urine in case you wanted to know). More talking, more yelling and punishments. Next it was a drawer in his beside table (again with the particle board). Lots of talking, yelling, punishments and dire threats. DS appears very sorry every time and apologizes and bemoans how terrible he is and promises not to do it again.

Well we thought that we had finally stopped all of this about a year ago. But, alas, we discovered that he is still up to his old tricks. We have some dormer attic closets in his bedroom that have locks on them to keep the kids out. Well somehow or other he picked the locks or took the hinges off the door to get into the closet and urinated in some boxes in there. Obviously this is not easier for him to do than walking down the stairs and into the bathroom so what is the motivation? We cannot get him to explain and apparently cannot get him to stop. What to do now?

I am frustrated and disgusted with this. He is almost twelve years old! All our efforts to stop this have only caused him to hide it better which in the long run causes more damage to my house and property. He has virtually no furniture left because it has all been destroyed. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Vickie