Can I modify visitation based on aspergers?

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Here's a short-short version:

My ex is an abusive alcoholic who is still an alcoholic and abusive. He lives in

his parents' basement, infrequently working minimum wage jobs until he's fired,

has no drivers license (was first suspended on DUI but now has lost it from

owing child support), pays no child support despite only owing a lowly $50/week

for two kids. His parents (the enablers) have deep pockets. They've paid for his

expensive attorney to do one heck of a job on the kids and me. I barely have

room to breathe. He violates the court order left and right but if I can't do

one thing, it's motions and court dates and attorneys fees applied to me. This

is all 1300 miles away, mind you. I've tried to domesticate the court order to

MY state where the kids have lived the majority of their lives (the current

jurisdiction is only where we were married and has no other relevancy) but, Lord

only knows why, it was denied.

He doesn't call the kids, he doesn't visit them down here, he tells them that

he's not interested in their lives here and doesn't want them to talk about it.

He spends no one-on-one time with them to learn who they are. He denied for

years that my aspie son had a level 4 allergy to cats (despite medical records)

and insists that if my oldest really has ADHD he'd bring his meds (he's on

Adderall XR, a controlled substance, so there's no way my son's pediatrician is

going to let that travel 1300 miles into the hands of an addict).

Anyway, when I was steamrolled over by my ex's attorney on visitation, he

receives a huge amount of visitation, more than GOOD dads with Joint Custody

get. (I do still have sole custody of both kids.) His visitation includes:

- every Spring break

- every other Thanksgiving

- 2/3rds of Summer break (this typically gives the kids only 2 weeks at home

every summer)

- alternating full Winter break

- alternating half Winter break, starting Dec 26 - end (sometimes that's only 4

days at home)

I know he has too much visitation and I know someone who's still drinking,

using, and being abusive should not have unsupervised visitation in any amount.

The entire reasonable world knows this. Telling my legal story has always ended

in me reciting the Serenity Prayer. So... now for my point (I knew I had one!):

My son has been recently diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. Since his

environment there is so much different from his life here and it's very likely

there'll be denial of his condition, his medications will be interrupted, his

behavior will receive none of the proper support, and he'll be well beyond my

ability to monitor him or get him to his doctors, would it be reasonable for me

to enter another Motion to Domesticate with a Petition to Modify Visitation on

these grounds?

I know this is a proper question for an attorney, but I'm hoping to benefit from

the experiences of other parents who might've faced similar situations

(hopefully, not the exact same but something close enough to lend some advice).