fixated, hitting and shame

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How is she so unaware?

My 13 year old AS daughter is fixated on shopping daily if she could.

It is not good even if we did go everyday she takes

to long looking and can't cope if I say no to something

over her budget.

When I say no to shopping after school (on days she was late

to school) she hits me repeatedly. Pulls my hair anything to

make me mad as she feels.

When I brought it up to the psychiatrist yesterday, my

daughter said I was lying (I guess she was ashamed of herself)

and she started hitting me right in front of the doctor.

She is not out for blood, it doesn't feel good to be hit,

but she is not out for blood. It really is 2 year old

behavior.

She would never hit at school or anywhere else, but with

me it as though she loses all sense of inhibition.

She won't go to any after school programs (she says she

is burned out).

How in the world do I stop this cycle of fixations

and hitting me if I interrupt them?

Pam