Re: Not remembering what was said or did

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~ You are not alone. This can be so frustrating. It kinda goes along

with another email that just came through about not being in reality and the

other email of arguing, arguing, arguing!! We go through all of this with our

14 year old. I really believe that these problems are due to how my son

processes information. I think that with my son he gets these thoughts in his

head that become reality to him even if they didn't happen or it wasn't said.

Then we end up, in the name of trying to " teach " him or " help " him with him

arguing with us. He then will turn around and snap at his brother's! I have

begun to say something or point something out to him only once. After that I

confirm that he understands what I am saying (many times he says he doesn't or

is confused and I just restate it another way.). Then I tell him we are done

talking about this other wise it will go around and around with nothing being

accomplished. If he can't accept it I tell him to go to his room until he has

calmed down. He usually can calm himself and come back with a little more

reality based mind. I was told that part of his " confusion " of what has been

said or done is based in anxiety.

Because of this very issue (not remembering what was said or done, not in

reality), we are going to request that when ever a counselor or administrator

wants to meet with our son that one of us be there to advocate for him as he

gets confused very easily. We just had a situation at school where my son has

been bullied by the same student on and off for a year, the school wanted to get

involved, a week later an administrator called my son in and asked what was

going on. So my son preceded to talk about the things that weren't really a big

part of the issue. This type of thing I believe will cause the school not to

take seriously the issues that are brought up. He is very black and white and

we have seen that sometimes they don't ask questions the right way with him to

get the accurate information. OK, kind of a tangent but I think all connected

to the initial topic in some way. Anyway, hope this was somewhat helpful, if

nothing else to know that you are not alone in dealing with this frustrating

aspect of asperger's!

---- <mohmit66@...> wrote:

> My 6yo dd who has apies will say or do something (usually wrong), when I try

and correct her she will argue that " No I didn't " . We will go back and forth

like this a couple of times, I try to explain what she did and all I get is " No

I Didn't " . It's almost like she doesn't remember saying or doing the whatever

transpired. Ugh she can be so frustrating, that I will just drop it. Are others

having the same problem, does anyone have any ideas, or just by my dropping the

best. As they say pick your battles.

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My son, 12, has the same problem. He gets in trouble at school and he doesn't remember what happened or how it happened. It is very frustrating.

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From: <mohmit66@...> Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 6:07:58 AMSubject: ( ) Not remembering what was said or did

My 6yo dd who has apies will say or do something (usually wrong), when I try and correct her she will argue that "No I didn't". We will go back and forth like this a couple of times, I try to explain what she did and all I get is "No I Didn't". It's almost like she doesn't remember saying or doing the whatever transpired. Ugh she can be so frustrating, that I will just drop it. Are others having the same problem, does anyone have any ideas, or just by my dropping the best. As they say pick your battles.-