Re: exhale

[Guest guest]

Melisa, the coughing is normal in the beginning for alot of people.

You are just getting the bad things out of your lungs and you are

really having to train your lungs to exhale all the air out. For

now, just focus on the breathing and maybe only try the pelvic tilt

or just stand there. Until you get the breath down good, I wouldn't

worry too much on the positions. Don't get frustrated, it will come.

> Hi guys!

> Well, admittedly, I have really fallen off the wagon this

semeseter, but

> I decided I needed to get back on track. At 6am this mornin, my

lazy body

> rolled out of bed, to do my LL video, and I just can't seem to get

with it.

> I am having real problems with the exhale-I just can't seem to get

the force

> and feel like I am going to cough. Any suggestions??? Also, I was

curious as

> to whether anyone knew when Rashelle would have the latin dance

video ready?

>

> Thanks-

> Melisa

[Guest guest]

Melisa,

I have to agree with Texas Mom, your caughing, while annoying, I will

admit, is really a very good thing. You need to allow your body to

release all that bad stuff, so that you will be able to reap the

inevitable benefits of the breathing.

Why don't you try just doing a few breaths in bed, before you even

get up. That has really helped me get going, when my body just

doesn't seem to want to cooperate. Also, if you have the original

video, watch the part where the actual breath is being taught, and do

it a few times, with the video, until you you feel that you are

getting that really deep breath that fills your entire belly.

I have found that the hardest part of doing the breathing, is just

getting started. Your body seems to fight you ever step of the way

and you feel like giving in and up. But if you will just do a few at

a time, before you know it, you'll be back on track! I mean it,

that's kinda how the body works. :-)

Well, better get going, I have several Dr. appointments today, and

will hopefully be feeling like a new woman when I return home!

Keep breathing and know that it will be worth the efforts as you

become stronger and leaner. Life is truly wonderful, so breath,

laugh and enjoy your summer!

Sincerely,

Tami

[Guest guest]

CONGRATULATIONS Susie! I too do the straw thing at the end of the Puh, to be sure I have it all out :-) Hmmmmmmm, you, Tami and me do the same thing. I say" great minds think alike" LOL

{{{HUGS}}} & God bless, Bonnie

**********************************************With God, ALL things are possible.**********************************************

[Guest guest]

I appreciate that you are venting ... I don't know how many times I've had to repeat the silly words and phrases my son comes up with and I'm grateful he doesn't do it to anyone else but, yes, it can get annoying.... I am, though, quite aware of the fact that he relies heavily on me to be his understanding soundboard and I'd never want to give up that trust ... From: MacAllister <smacalli@...>Subject: ( ) exhale Date: Monday, February 1, 2010, 9:08 AM

My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS. I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry. I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed. The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just with me. He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself. I just had to get this off my chest. He just walked in here and called me "Nee." It makes no sense.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

[Guest guest]

Part of that is being 13yo. part of that is called " stimming " to help calm

himself down. i'd let it go especially if its in the house. as soon as my 9yo

walks in the house from school he is humming up a storm. its how he soothes

himself from the stresses of his day. geo

- ( ) exhale

My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up

words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS.  I

try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he

just keeps at it and it makes me so angry.  I think I get so mad b/c honestly,

I'm embarrassed.  The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just

with me.  He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c

in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be

over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself.  I just

had to get this off my chest.  He just walked in here and called me " Nee. "

It makes no sense.

 

" Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one

out. "

[Guest guest]

Well , it could be worse. I get called a lot of names by my son and they

are not that mild. He is the king of swear words. The other day I asked him

how his day was at school and he said not so good. I asked him what happened

and he said he got in trouble for cursing. So I would be perfectly fine with

him making up words if it meant that he would stop swearing at people all the

time.

Vickie

>

>

> >From: MacAllister <smacalli (DOT) com>

> >Subject: ( ) exhale

> >

> >Date: Monday, 1 February, 2010, 14:08

> >

> >

> > 

> >My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying

made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me

NUTS.  I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy,

etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry.  I think I get so mad

b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed.  The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at

school, just with me.  He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge

step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish

crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs

myself.  I just had to get this off my chest.  He just walked in here and

called me " Nee. " It makes no sense.

> > 

> >

> >

> > " Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one

out. "

>

[Guest guest]

lol , I do that too, I sometimes watch him working away at something, making weird noises, totally oblivious to the rest of the world and wonder if its always going to be like this. I think I need to get an I-pod too. At the end of the day it is just me that is getting annoyed at the noise and I don't think he even knows he is doing it, I need to cut him some slack.

From: MacAllister <smacalli (DOT) com>Subject: ( ) exhale Date: Monday, 1 February, 2010, 14:08

My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS. I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry. I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed. The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just with me. He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself. I just had to get this off my chest. He just walked in here and called me "Nee." It makes no sense.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

[Guest guest]

ugh, my 13 yo ds (hfa) makes noises. I think saying nonsense words is

an upgrade, lol. He makes a sound like a hawk might make, but he has

other noises as well. Some days I just yell, " STOP IT!! " because it

can really grate on your nerves after a while. The only thing I have

found to help is to get some extra time away from him so I can get a

break. If he uses nonsense words in an attempt to talk to you, you

probably already act like you don't know what he wants, which I would

suggest. But just keep saying, " I don't like it when you do that. "

You might check with the doc and make sure it's not a problem with any

meds or any new tic that a different med might take care of. You might

also design a reward chart for not doing it in small increments if that

is something that might work with him. Just thinking out loud. Hang

in there!

Roxanna

" The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do

nothing. " E. Burke

( ) exhale

My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying

made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's

driving me NUTS.  I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a

13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry. 

I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed.  The joyful part is

that he doesn't do this at school, just with me.  He says he keeps it

all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the past, he

wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be over

pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself.  I just

had to get this off my chest.  He just walked in here and called me

" Nee. " It makes no sense.

 

" Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent

one out. "

[Guest guest]

Oh, I know it could be worse. My son is growing up so quickly and is either THERE or on the cusp of understanding so much and fitting in w/ others at school (but not quite enough to make friends that invite him to do things, though.) I see what he is capable of so I know he can do better. My daughter was upset at the dinner table the other night and oftentimes when she gets upset, here come the silly noises or him egging her on in some way. Instead, he calmly explained to her what was going on, why he said what he said, and what he was trying to accomplish. I couldn't believe it. I almost fell out my chair. The appropriateness, maturity, etc... mind-blowing. I pulled him aside right after dinner and praised him up/down/sideways. He has these breakthroughs now and shows poise, patience, and complete accuracy for figuring out a social situation and it blows me out of the water. It feels like

he's coming out of the clouds, in some ways, and I have so much hope for him for the future.

When he does this jibberish stuff, I feel like he's regressing and I'm so sad. My best analogy is when your newborn baby finally sleeps through the night and you are SO HAPPY, thinking you've finally turned the corner, and then the next night, he's up at 2:00 AM again and you are crestfallen. That's how I feel sometimes, at least in the moment. Once I've calmed down and put everything in perspective, I still know I'm very fortunate and he's doing amazingly well, when you look at where he came from. I can't imagine my son yelling swear words at me. That would definitely be worse than "nee-cee, nee-nee, hee-cee, nee-nee..." Just typing it out annoys me though .

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: baneline1 <baneline1@...> Sent: Mon, February 1, 2010 9:23:00 AMSubject: Re: ( ) exhale

Well , it could be worse. I get called a lot of names by my son and they are not that mild. He is the king of swear words. The other day I asked him how his day was at school and he said not so good. I asked him what happened and he said he got in trouble for cursing. So I would be perfectly fine with him making up words if it meant that he would stop swearing at people all the time.Vickie > > > >From: MacAllister <smacalli (DOT) com>>

>Subject: ( ) exhale> > > >Date: Monday, 1 February, 2010, 14:08> >> >> > > >My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS.  I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry. I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed. The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just with me. He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself.  I just had to get this off my chest. He

just walked in here and called me "Nee." It makes no sense.> > > >> >> >"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out.">

[Guest guest]

My aspie husband hums when he is agitated. Which puts

me on alert and I steer clear. He also makes a quiet moaning sound from

his throat while he eats but I don’t know why. I have asked him why

but he does not realize he is doing it. I wonder if other aspies do

this.

Regards, melody

[Guest guest]

Sorry, but I am SO glad to hear of others!! I've been wanting to vent for days, but just haven't gotten to it. Connor makes all kinds of annoying noises, some singing, some just noise...and it drives us nuts! He's also SOOOOO argumentative and negative, it about kills me! No matter what I say, he's going to argue with me. I like something, he doesn't. I think something's fun, he doesn't. He gripes and complains about doing schoolwork, going to speech, going anywhere but where he wants to go. He's 12! I get so frustrated b/c in my mind I feel like he should be able to have some self control, but then I feel bad b/c I know he just can't some times. He is VERY smart and does great at school

work and speech. She's doing some language therapy with him and says he does AWESOME when he's there. Everytime I try to add something fun or interesting to our schoolwork, it's met with sighing and ughing and it depresses me b/c I work so hard to make our homeschool pleasant.He also comes up with these scenarios and won't let up. Ex. We don't like the fact that city is coming to country. Too many stores and buildings moving close to our country house. He takes it to the extreme. He's goes on about how we should just cut the power lines or knock down the pole on our property so they can't have any electricity. We tell him it's illegal b/c it's not ours and it's not a bright idea. He continues to argue that it's on our property and we'll just block them from coming fix it, etc, etc, etc. No matter what I say, he will try to come up with a way around it. He did the

same thing when the pirates took over the tanker a year or so ago. Argued me to death (even though I had stopped "debating" him!!) about what they shoulda, coulda, woulda done to stop it. No reasoning with him.Sorry, didn't mean to take over your vent! LOL Whew, feels better just to tell other's who know what it's like. Friends try to listen, but they just say it's normal or that their kids do it...but they don't understand a mother's instinct and the extent to which he does it. BTW, do any of you find yourself looking at other kids and thinking "man, he/she's got AS!"? Blessings,Charlenedh Troydss Connor (12) and (9)dd Shaohannah (4, a. 11/20/06 Kunming)dd Grace (3, a. 12/30/08. Jiaozou via PHF)Check out the special children at Shepherd's Field Children's Village who need sponsors! www.ChinaOrphans.orgwww.themiracleofthemoment.blogspot.com

[Guest guest]

My son does this too. He absolutely has no control over this, but he can learn

to channel that energy into something more socially acceptable. Before my son

was diagnosed with AS, the doctors thought he had Tourrettes because of the

sounds and words he would blurt out.

[Guest guest]

First time for me to post although I read as often as I can. My AS son at 16

also makes a soft motor-like sound when he eats. He is totally unaware of it

and doesn't like to be reminded either. I have wondered if kids at school have

pointed this out and perhaps added to reasons he leaves the cafeteria to eat

elsewhere with his food. So perhaps it is AS related since your husband does

this and not a quirk of my sons. D

>

> My aspie husband ...makes a quiet moaning sound from his throat while he

> eats but I don't know why. I have asked him why but he does not realize he

> is doing it. I wonder if other aspies do this.

>

> Regards, melody

>

[Guest guest]

I've got to say my 12yods does noises. The first time after I moved into an

apartment and his dad came and got him I realized I could actually hear people

in the other apartments! His transitions. Right now it is gun/missle noises.

Next week it will be something different.

Becky

--- Original Message ---

From: " andie " <andie6294@...>

Sent:Mon 2/1/10 5:17 pm

Subj:( ) Re: exhale

Dear Lord, I can relate! I call my daughter " liese: The Musical " . And now

she's singing in made up languages. She just came in the room to ask for

homework help (of course after over 2 hours of sitting and looking at it and

using avoidance techniques)and now she's in here with me (I was in my room to

get away from the noise in the first place)humming Brahms Lullaby. I'm sure the

nonsensical lyrics are coming soon. Now she's singing the word 'carrots' in

different accents. I'll spare you all and sign off now.

[Guest guest]

Both my kids do this. My Aspie son and my spd daughter make up words

constantly. They will even explain to me a definition if I ask them but it is

usually long and drawn out. They are only 6 and 3 so I hadn't thought too much

about it. I just thought they were being creative. It is a little aggravating

when I am trying to ask a question and my son starts using made up words I think

to avoid the topic, but I am not sure.

>

> My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up

words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS.  I

try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he

just keeps at it and it makes me so angry.  I think I get so mad b/c honestly,

I'm embarrassed.  The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just

with me.  He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c

in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be

over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself.  I just had

to get this off my chest.  He just walked in here and called me " Nee. " It makes

no sense.

>  

>

>

> " Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one

out. "

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Lord, I can relate! I call my daughter " liese: The Musical " . And now

she's singing in made up languages. She just came in the room to ask for

homework help (of course after over 2 hours of sitting and looking at it and

using avoidance techniques)and now she's in here with me (I was in my room to

get away from the noise in the first place)humming Brahms Lullaby. I'm sure the

nonsensical lyrics are coming soon. Now she's singing the word 'carrots' in

different accents. I'll spare you all and sign off now.

[Guest guest]

Soooo glad to know I'm not alone! My 8 year old son has a bad noise-making

habit at the moment too, and he's making his " sound effects " (shooting noises)

between bites of snack as he sits across the room from me right now. I can tune

him out pretty well, but it's really getting on big sister's nerves since she

sits next to him in the car. She has a really short fuse so she ends up yelling

at him. The fart noises are by far the worst, but yes, better than being cursed

at. His version of cursing at this age is calling me a meany-beany head. It's

really hard not to laugh when he blurts that out.

>

>

> From: MacAllister <smacalli (DOT) com>

> Subject: ( ) exhale

>

> Date: Monday, 1 February, 2010, 14:08

>

>

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>

>

>

>

> My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying

made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me

NUTS.  I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy,

etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry.  I think I get so mad

b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed.  The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at

school, just with me.  He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge

step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish

crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs

myself.  I just had to get this off my chest.  He just walked in here and

called me " Nee. " It makes no sense.

>  

>

>

>

> " Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one

out. "

>

[Guest guest]

My son doesn't make any noises....except when he is eating...even with ice cream...and soda he slurps...ugh...My husband makes noises when he eats and tend to talk with his mouth full...even though I have told him a million times about it...

At school there is student with AS. This student is a senior and skips in the lunch room, makes cat noises and other noises...hums when doing work. This student is oblivious to everyone around. This student has melt downs and yells at the computer. Some days I feel terrible for this student and other days it is so so so annoying.

jan

Well , it could be worse. I get called a lot of names by my son and they are not that mild. He is the king of swear words. The other day I asked him how his day was at school and he said not so good. I asked him what happened and he said he got in trouble for cursing. So I would be perfectly fine with him making up words if it meant that he would stop swearing at people all the time.Vickie > > > >From: MacAllister <smacalli (DOT) com>>

>Subject: ( ) exhale> > > >Date: Monday, 1 February, 2010, 14:08> >> >> > > >My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS.  I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry. I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed. The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just with me. He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself.  I just had to get this off my chest. He

just walked in here and called me "Nee." It makes no sense.> > > >> >> >"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out.">

[Guest guest]

I feel so close to you right now, Andie =)

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: andie <andie6294@...> Sent: Mon, February 1, 2010 5:15:31 PMSubject: ( ) Re: exhale

Dear Lord, I can relate! I call my daughter "liese: The Musical". And now she's singing in made up languages. She just came in the room to ask for homework help (of course after over 2 hours of sitting and looking at it and using avoidance techniques)and now she's in here with me (I was in my room to get away from the noise in the first place)humming Brahms Lullaby. I'm sure the nonsensical lyrics are coming soon. Now she's singing the word 'carrots' in different accents. I'll spare you all and sign off now.

[Guest guest]

My now 19yo son used to like to say the word “mooâ€.  He would

say it as a greeting or as an answer to any question he was asked.  It drove me

crazy!!  At this time, he was also having “boundary†issues – he would get way

too close to people even when walking, frequently running over people.  This

was probably 4-5 years ago so I don’t remember all the details.  I know we

would say to him “We will talk to you when you can talk to us like a person.â€Â 

I also told him he could not get any closer to me than an arm’s length away

without permission.  It took forever for him to stop this so not sure if

anything we did/said helped or he just got thru this stage.

Hang in there.  It will get better.

From:

[mailto: ] On

Behalf Of MacAllister

Sent: Monday, February 01, 2010 10:38 AM

Subject: Re: ( ) exhale

I

know he trusts me so much and I want to be his sounding board/safe place, but

somedays, I just can't tolerate as much as I can on other days. I

can write the whole book though. On the days I don't have as much patience,

he starts his jibberish, I ignore it, he keeps going, I lose it, we

separate, come back together later, have a great talk about it, I apologize

for yelling, he apologizes for being annoying, and we move

on. It is 99% of the time resolved with a pretty ribbon around it,

which is great, but I don't like it ever escalating to the point of me losing

my cool at all.

Unfortunately,

when things usually get are the worst, we're in the car and I can't get

away from it. When we're at home, I can leave the room. In the car,

I'm a captive audience and it complicates things. He doesn't like to

listen to the radio but I love listening to music. I'll leave it off for his sake,

he starts his noises, I turn the radio on to drown it out, then he gets louder

and louder and I usually lose it. It's like the movie Groundhog Day where

it's the same thing over and over, but I haven't perfected the art of changing

what I do maybe to change what happens? I feel like I'm kidding myself

sometimes to think I have the ability to change anything, but I know what I

do/don't do can make things better or worse.

From:

<rachelfran@...>

Sent: Mon, February 1, 2010 8:11:42 AM

Subject: Re: ( ) exhale

I appreciate that you are venting ... I don't know how

many times I've had to repeat the silly words and phrases my son comes up

with and I'm grateful he doesn't do it to anyone else but, yes, it can get

annoying.... I am, though, quite aware of the fact that he relies

heavily on me to be his understanding soundboard and I'd never want to give

up that trust ...

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From: MacAllister <smacalli (DOT) com>

Subject: ( ) exhale

Date: Monday, February 1, 2010, 9:08 AM

My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has

been saying made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and

it's driving me NUTS. I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound

like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so

angry. I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed. The

joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just with me. He

says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the

past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be

over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs

myself. I just had to get this off my chest. He

just walked in here and called me " Nee. " It makes no

sense.

" Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when

you haven't sent one out. "

[Guest guest]

I've found that they tend to bounce off each other since most have a low

threshold for over stimulation and other aspies do aspie things. It may be a

matter of personality as well.

Becky

--- Original Message ---

From: " andie " <andie6294@...>

Sent:Tue 2/2/10 11:20 am

Subj:( ) Re: exhale

I wonder what it would be like to get all these kids in one room. It would

probably sound like a musical barn. I've got the cat.

Do you think these kids would fare well to meet others like them, or do you

think their individual obsessions would make matters worse - since they ONLY

want to talk about what THEY know.

I wonder if introducing liese to another Aspie girl interested in nature and

bugs and cats would create an unbreakable bond. Anyone have any experience

putting a couple of similar Aspies together?

[Guest guest]

Maybe a verbal tic in response to stress? My sons' tics come and go moreso with stress.

It really is simple. Just treat others kindly and with respect.

Robin

From: MacAllister <smacalli@...>Subject: ( ) exhale Date: Monday, February 1, 2010, 8:08 AM

My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS. I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry. I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed. The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just with me. He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself. I just had to get this off my chest. He just walked in here and called me "Nee." It makes no sense.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

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Ahhh....the songs.

When my son met his teachers a couple of months ago when we started this school, (he's in 8th grade), he "explained" himself them all,,,,,,and added that he likes to "break into song".....but can't give a specific reason why. he he.

I think it's a lot better than the old days when he's howl out, "HOO HOO", really loud all day long.

It really is simple. Just treat others kindly and with respect.

Robin

From: Debra Balke <dlbalke@...>Subject: Re: ( ) exhale Date: Monday, February 1, 2010, 8:26 AM

My son does this too. It seems to be a variation of some ADHD/OCD/Anxiety kind of stuff. It does drive me nuts too but we have so many bigger problems that I just ignore this one and it tends to wax and wane over the years. As he gets older it is a bit less. My son will also sing the words in irritating songs. Now THAT I can't stand!

( ) exhale

My 13-yr-old son, who just started shaving 2 days ago, has been saying made-up words over the past few months when he's anxious and it's driving me NUTS. I try to redirect, tell him he doesn't sound like a 13-yr-old boy, etc.. but he just keeps at it and it makes me so angry. I think I get so mad b/c honestly, I'm embarrassed. The joyful part is that he doesn't do this at school, just with me. He says he keeps it all in at school, which is a huge step for us b/c in the past, he wasn't able to, but this baby-talk, gibberish crap has got to be over pretty soon or I'm going to be sporting some ear plugs myself. I just had to get this off my chest. He just walked in here and called me "Nee." It makes no sense.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

[Guest guest]

Oh my gosh.....the moaning when he eats....>YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! Like it's soooo good........but it's usually Ramen Noodles...he he.

Ah.......what fun.

Ian will also make a sound by flapping his tongue back and forth from side to side of his lips really fast while making a high-pitched noise. Gotta love that one. Most of the time, he gets the other kids going and doing it, too. Sometimes, he just gets told, "For the love of God, pleeeease stop". he he.

It really is simple. Just treat others kindly and with respect.

Robin

From: Melody Kalomiris <mkalomiris@...>Subject: Re: ( ) exhale Date: Monday, February 1, 2010, 11:06 AM

My aspie husband hums when he is agitated. Which puts me on alert and I steer clear. He also makes a quiet moaning sound from his throat while he eats but I don’t know why. I have asked him why but he does not realize he is doing it. I wonder if other aspies do this.

Regards, melody

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He he. Love it.

I soooo hear you.

And, yes,,,,,I can spot em. There's "radar", "gaydar" and "as-da-dar", as I like to call it. I think all of us dealing with AS have this "ability" to spot!!!!

It really is simple. Just treat others kindly and with respect.

Robin

From: Charlene and Troy <troyandcharlene93@...>Subject: ( ) Re: exhale Date: Monday, February 1, 2010, 2:47 PM

Sorry, but I am SO glad to hear of others!! I've been wanting to vent for days, but just haven't gotten to it. Connor makes all kinds of annoying noises, some singing, some just noise...and it drives us nuts!

He's also SOOOOO argumentative and negative, it about kills me! No matter what I say, he's going to argue with me. I like something, he doesn't. I think something's fun, he doesn't. He gripes and complains about doing schoolwork, going to speech, going anywhere but where he wants to go. He's 12! I get so frustrated b/c in my mind I feel like he should be able to have some self control, but then I feel bad b/c I know he just can't some times. He is VERY smart and does great at school work and speech. She's doing some language therapy with him and says he does AWESOME when he's there. Everytime I try to add something fun or interesting to our schoolwork, it's met with sighing and ughing and it depresses me b/c I work so hard to make our homeschool pleasant.

He also comes up with these scenarios and won't let up. Ex. We don't like the fact that city is coming to country. Too many stores and buildings moving close to our country house. He takes it to the extreme. He's goes on about how we should just cut the power lines or knock down the pole on our property so they can't have any electricity. We tell him it's illegal b/c it's not ours and it's not a bright idea. He continues to argue that it's on our property and we'll just block them from coming fix it, etc, etc, etc. No matter what I say, he will try to come up with a way around it. He did the same thing when the pirates took over the tanker a year or so ago. Argued me to death (even though I had stopped "debating" him!!) about what they shoulda, coulda, woulda done to stop it. No reasoning with him.

Sorry, didn't mean to take over your vent! LOL Whew, feels better just to tell other's who know what it's like. Friends try to listen, but they just say it's normal or that their kids do it...but they don't understand a mother's instinct and the extent to which he does it.

BTW, do any of you find yourself looking at other kids and thinking "man, he/she's got AS!"?

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