Guest guest Posted February 2, 2010 Report Share Posted February 2, 2010 Here's a good one...I can find the humor in it now, but I was about to jump out of our SUV when it happened about an hour ago. I handed Dylan a form and $3 to turn in today for a band fundraiser they are having later this month. In a black marker (not pen, marker) I checked the space that said "Check here if you can donate $3 to help purchase pancake mix, sausage, etc..." I clearly put a big, black checkmark in the space next to it. After I handed him the form, he said "what's this for?" I calmly told him "read the form." I could've just told him the details, but I thought he should figure this out on his own. He says "what's the money for?" and I tell him again "read the form!" Then he says, "this is a form for the pancake fundraiser, but what's the money for?" and I say "read the WHOLE form!!!" He ends up getting frustrated with me because I won't tell him and crumbles up part of the form. I'm incredulous at this point. Are you kidding me? About 10 minutes later, we started laughing about it, but at the time, I was just so peturbed and angry. Once we were able to laugh about it, I told him "I really thought you should be able to figure out this mystery on your own, at the age of 13. Since you can read, I thought it was a no-brainer." He laughed about it with me too, but this happens from time to time. I think maybe it's a processing challenge, but I'm not giving in. He has to be able to manage things like this on his own. "Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out." From: Charlene and Troy <troyandcharlene93@...> Sent: Mon, February 1, 2010 2:47:15 PMSubject: ( ) Re: exhale Sorry, but I am SO glad to hear of others!! I've been wanting to vent for days, but just haven't gotten to it. Connor makes all kinds of annoying noises, some singing, some just noise...and it drives us nuts! He's also SOOOOO argumentative and negative, it about kills me! No matter what I say, he's going to argue with me. I like something, he doesn't. I think something's fun, he doesn't. He gripes and complains about doing schoolwork, going to speech, going anywhere but where he wants to go. He's 12! I get so frustrated b/c in my mind I feel like he should be able to have some self control, but then I feel bad b/c I know he just can't some times. He is VERY smart and does great at school work and speech. She's doing some language therapy with him and says he does AWESOME when he's there. Everytime I try to add something fun or interesting to our schoolwork, it's met with sighing and ughing and it depresses me b/c I work so hard to make our homeschool pleasant. He also comes up with these scenarios and won't let up. Ex. We don't like the fact that city is coming to country. Too many stores and buildings moving close to our country house. He takes it to the extreme. He's goes on about how we should just cut the power lines or knock down the pole on our property so they can't have any electricity. We tell him it's illegal b/c it's not ours and it's not a bright idea. He continues to argue that it's on our property and we'll just block them from coming fix it, etc, etc, etc. No matter what I say, he will try to come up with a way around it. He did the same thing when the pirates took over the tanker a year or so ago. Argued me to death (even though I had stopped "debating" him!!) about what they shoulda, coulda, woulda done to stop it. No reasoning with him. Sorry, didn't mean to take over your vent! LOL Whew, feels better just to tell other's who know what it's like. Friends try to listen, but they just say it's normal or that their kids do it...but they don't understand a mother's instinct and the extent to which he does it. BTW, do any of you find yourself looking at other kids and thinking "man, he/she's got AS!"? Blessings,Charlenedh Troydss Connor (12) and (9)dd Shaohannah (4, a. 11/20/06 Kunming)dd Grace (3, a. 12/30/08. Jiaozou via PHF)Check out the special children at Shepherd's Field Children's Village who need sponsors! www.ChinaOrphans. org www.themiracleofthe moment.blogspot. com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2010 Report Share Posted February 2, 2010 I wonder what it would be like to get all these kids in one room. It would probably sound like a musical barn. I've got the cat. Do you think these kids would fare well to meet others like them, or do you think their individual obsessions would make matters worse - since they ONLY want to talk about what THEY know. I wonder if introducing liese to another Aspie girl interested in nature and bugs and cats would create an unbreakable bond. Anyone have any experience putting a couple of similar Aspies together? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2010 Report Share Posted February 2, 2010 we've met with 2 other aspie boys who i thought my son would have something in common with and in both cases it backfired .. for obvious reasons. In one case, it was successful for limited amounts of time and fortunately, both boys understood that they needed constant breaks from one another for it to work at all -- we were staying overnight.These kids are too self involved and their social skills are just too poor to make it work with any real effect... at least that's been our experience... limited though it is. From: andie <andie6294@...>Subject: ( ) Re: exhaleTo: Date: Tuesday, February 2, 2010, 12:19 PM I wonder what it would be like to get all these kids in one room. It would probably sound like a musical barn. I've got the cat. Do you think these kids would fare well to meet others like them, or do you think their individual obsessions would make matters worse - since they ONLY want to talk about what THEY know. I wonder if introducing liese to another Aspie girl interested in nature and bugs and cats would create an unbreakable bond. Anyone have any experience putting a couple of similar Aspies together? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2010 Report Share Posted February 2, 2010 My 5 year old ds, is some kind of bird. Maybe a goshawk. He has this high pitched shrieking " tooooo " sound. Drives me MAD! Especially when it's all peaceful and he suddenly utters this very loud noise - my heart nearly stops everytime! He also has aliasses for all of us. I am Honey, dad Rudi is Ken, granny Marieta is Edin, grandpa is Mr. Welcome, aunty Karin Mrs Clever, sister Annika Frekeledi or Dr. Juno, uncle Adriaan Mr. Fixit. He refers to himself as Mr. Policeman. He also loves making up words that make no sense to us. Mirinda > > I wonder what it would be like to get all these kids in one room. It would probably sound like a musical barn. I've got the cat. > > Do you think these kids would fare well to meet others like them, or do you think their individual obsessions would make matters worse - since they ONLY want to talk about what THEY know. > > I wonder if introducing liese to another Aspie girl interested in nature and bugs and cats would create an unbreakable bond. Anyone have any experience putting a couple of similar Aspies together? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2010 Report Share Posted February 3, 2010 That's a good one....but I gotta say that I am the "summarizer" for my husband. Always have been. If one of us knows something,,,,,like, hey - the local news or world events...hehe..................he figures there's no need for him to waste time on that when I can just let him know what's going on. hehe. Nice. It really is simple. Just treat others kindly and with respect. Robin From: MacAllister <smacalli@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Re: exhale Date: Tuesday, February 2, 2010, 8:24 AM Here's a good one...I can find the humor in it now, but I was about to jump out of our SUV when it happened about an hour ago. I handed Dylan a form and $3 to turn in today for a band fundraiser they are having later this month. In a black marker (not pen, marker) I checked the space that said "Check here if you can donate $3 to help purchase pancake mix, sausage, etc..." I clearly put a big, black checkmark in the space next to it. After I handed him the form, he said "what's this for?" I calmly told him "read the form." I could've just told him the details, but I thought he should figure this out on his own. He says "what's the money for?" and I tell him again "read the form!" Then he says, "this is a form for the pancake fundraiser, but what's the money for?" and I say "read the WHOLE form!!!" He ends up getting frustrated with me because I won't tell him and crumbles up part of the form. I'm incredulous at this point. Are you kidding me? About 10 minutes later, we started laughing about it, but at the time, I was just so peturbed and angry. Once we were able to laugh about it, I told him "I really thought you should be able to figure out this mystery on your own, at the age of 13. Since you can read, I thought it was a no-brainer." He laughed about it with me too, but this happens from time to time. I think maybe it's a processing challenge, but I'm not giving in. He has to be able to manage things like this on his own. "Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out." From: Charlene and Troy <troyandcharlene93> Sent: Mon, February 1, 2010 2:47:15 PMSubject: ( ) Re: exhale Sorry, but I am SO glad to hear of others!! I've been wanting to vent for days, but just haven't gotten to it. Connor makes all kinds of annoying noises, some singing, some just noise...and it drives us nuts! He's also SOOOOO argumentative and negative, it about kills me! No matter what I say, he's going to argue with me. I like something, he doesn't. I think something's fun, he doesn't. He gripes and complains about doing schoolwork, going to speech, going anywhere but where he wants to go. He's 12! I get so frustrated b/c in my mind I feel like he should be able to have some self control, but then I feel bad b/c I know he just can't some times. He is VERY smart and does great at school work and speech. She's doing some language therapy with him and says he does AWESOME when he's there. Everytime I try to add something fun or interesting to our schoolwork, it's met with sighing and ughing and it depresses me b/c I work so hard to make our homeschool pleasant. He also comes up with these scenarios and won't let up. Ex. We don't like the fact that city is coming to country. Too many stores and buildings moving close to our country house. He takes it to the extreme. He's goes on about how we should just cut the power lines or knock down the pole on our property so they can't have any electricity. We tell him it's illegal b/c it's not ours and it's not a bright idea. He continues to argue that it's on our property and we'll just block them from coming fix it, etc, etc, etc. No matter what I say, he will try to come up with a way around it. He did the same thing when the pirates took over the tanker a year or so ago. Argued me to death (even though I had stopped "debating" him!!) about what they shoulda, coulda, woulda done to stop it. No reasoning with him. Sorry, didn't mean to take over your vent! LOL Whew, feels better just to tell other's who know what it's like. Friends try to listen, but they just say it's normal or that their kids do it...but they don't understand a mother's instinct and the extent to which he does it. BTW, do any of you find yourself looking at other kids and thinking "man, he/she's got AS!"? Blessings,Charlenedh Troydss Connor (12) and (9)dd Shaohannah (4, a. 11/20/06 Kunming)dd Grace (3, a. 12/30/08. Jiaozou via PHF)Check out the special children at Shepherd's Field Children's Village who need sponsors! www.ChinaOrphans. org www.themiracleofthe moment.blogspot. com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2010 Report Share Posted February 3, 2010 We are lucking to have the moaning with all manner of eating—sometimes drinking too. I have been trying to visualize the tongue swishing and that sounds very interesting. Regards, melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2010 Report Share Posted February 3, 2010 It might be. The sound reminds me of an infant drinking a bottle. Sometimes they make this sound. I have a 21 year old nephew (undiagnosed aspie) that also makes the sound. And just like my husband and your son doesn’t notice it. Regards, melody From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of in2tea4me Sent: Monday, February 01, 2010 1:42 PM Subject: Re: ( ) exhale First time for me to post although I read as often as I can. My AS son at 16 also makes a soft motor-like sound when he eats. He is totally unaware of it and doesn't like to be reminded either. I have wondered if kids at school have pointed this out and perhaps added to reasons he leaves the cafeteria to eat elsewhere with his food. So perhaps it is AS related since your husband does this and not a quirk of my sons. D > > My aspie husband ...makes a quiet moaning sound from his throat while he > eats but I don't know why. I have asked him why but he does not realize he > is doing it. I wonder if other aspies do this. > > Regards, melody > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2010 Report Share Posted February 5, 2010 I LOVE it!! Aspies make our lives SO colorful ! I dont have a goosehawk... I have a PEACOCK... "OOooo WHAAAAAAAAAAA... OOOooooWHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA !" Talk about jumping OUT of your skin! Cracks me up every time! From: alexvanschoor <mirinda.nel@...>Subject: ( ) Re: exhale Date: Wednesday, February 3, 2010, 12:34 AM My 5 year old ds, is some kind of bird. Maybe a goshawk. He has this high pitched shrieking "tooooo" sound. Drives me MAD! Especially when it's all peaceful and he suddenly utters this very loud noise - my heart nearly stops everytime!He also has aliasses for all of us. I am Honey, dad Rudi is Ken, granny Marieta is Edin, grandpa is Mr. Welcome, aunty Karin Mrs Clever, sister Annika Frekeledi or Dr. Juno, uncle Adriaan Mr. Fixit. He refers to himself as Mr. Policeman.He also loves making up words that make no sense to us.Mirinda >> I wonder what it would be like to get all these kids in one room. It would probably sound like a musical barn. I've got the cat.> > Do you think these kids would fare well to meet others like them, or do you think their individual obsessions would make matters worse - since they ONLY want to talk about what THEY know. > > I wonder if introducing liese to another Aspie girl interested in nature and bugs and cats would create an unbreakable bond. Anyone have any experience putting a couple of similar Aspies together?>------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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