Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 Good for you Angelique, if we don't take care of ourselves first and foremost we can't take good care of our loved ones. I'm not on meds but I am seeking therapy to help deal with all the stress. Blessings to you and your family!! YG From: "ajloeffler@..." <ajloeffler@...>aspergerparentsupport ; Sent: Thu, December 9, 2010 11:15:03 AMSubject: ( ) Moms on meds? I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. Angelique Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 I'll raise my hand. I'm on Effexor for depression and anxiety. I've suffered from depression as long as I can remember, but the post-partum depression (nearly psychosis) put me right over the edge. In the last several years my stress levels hit all new highs and I saw a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with General Anxiety Disorder and Clinical Depression. I had been on Zoloft since the post-partum, but the Effexor has anti-anxiety in it, so that's why I switched. My anxiety is much better, very few panic attacks now. I also have Lorezepam for those times I do feel a panic attack coming on. My thinking was if I had myself under control, it would be easier to focus on the other issues I was dealing with, including my Aspie DD, rather than being part of the problem. Cheryl -- ( ) Moms on meds? I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. Angelique Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > Angelique > I am not on meds, but think I should consider it. I too feel like I am a big part of the chaos at home. I lose my temper with my Asperger child very easily these days over little, insignificant things. This morning I literally LOST IT because he was trying to leave the house for school without his shoes on. I know that I should take a step back, count to 10, take a deep breath, but sometimes I do not. I feel like a horrible person afterward....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 It helped me not feel so burned out after my daughter had a meltdown. I can less panic stricken and recover more quickly from the crisis before me. Years and years take a toll. I notice a difference mostly at night. I don't feel so burned out at the end of a hard day. I hope to helps you too. I have always been a sensitive person, so seeing my daughter feel so anxious and depressed is hard on anyone and really impacted my health. I hope it helps you too, Pam > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > Angelique > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 I will offer up that I realize I would be a better parent if I were on medication. My husband agrees. Just something to help me work through my anxiety & depression. It is on my to-do list. The last time I approached my Dr., she opened our conversation by talking about what a wonderful parent I am....I lost my nerve to say, " I need medical help. " Oh well. Thanks for posting, it is reminding me to pursue this again. -- > > I'll raise my hand. I'm on Effexor for depression and anxiety. I've > suffered from depression as long as I can remember, but the post-partum > depression (nearly psychosis) put me right over the edge. In the last > several years my stress levels hit all new highs and I saw a psychiatrist > who diagnosed me with General Anxiety Disorder and Clinical Depression. > > I had been on Zoloft since the post-partum, but the Effexor has anti-anxiety > in it, so that's why I switched. My anxiety is much better, very few panic > attacks now. I also have Lorezepam for those times I do feel a panic attack > coming on. > > My thinking was if I had myself under control, it would be easier to focus > on the other issues I was dealing with, including my Aspie DD, rather than > being part of the problem. > > Cheryl > > -- ( ) Moms on meds? > > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > Angelique > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 Another one on meds here. I've had depression off and on my whole life. After having Aiden, my depression / anxiety sky rocketed to full panic attacks. I've tried several different depression meds, they seem to lose their effectiveness on me after a couple years, so I change them out. I also have an ongoing prescrip for xanax. I don't take those too often, just when my stress and anxiety is particularly high. It's been a Godsend for me. I know meds aren't for everyone, but for those of us that NEED them (Not want to take them, but truly need to), it's the difference between living and existing. From: Cheryl <grvychic@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Moms on meds? Date: Thursday, December 9, 2010, 3:31 PM I'll raise my hand. I'm on Effexor for depression and anxiety. I've suffered from depression as long as I can remember, but the post-partum depression (nearly psychosis) put me right over the edge. In the last several years my stress levels hit all new highs and I saw a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with General Anxiety Disorder and Clinical Depression. I had been on Zoloft since the post-partum, but the Effexor has anti-anxiety in it, so that's why I switched. My anxiety is much better, very few panic attacks now. I also have Lorezepam for those times I do feel a panic attack coming on. My thinking was if I had myself under control, it would be easier to focus on the other issues I was dealing with, including my Aspie DD, rather than being part of the problem. Cheryl -- ( ) Moms on meds? I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. Angelique Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 I never thought of trying anxiety meds, but I feel like I could sure use them. My son has terrible explosions and sometimes my husband doesn’t help matters any. What kind of anxiety meds do you use? Kay From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of PamelaSent: Thursday, December 09, 2010 6:21 PM Subject: ( ) Re: Moms on meds? It helped me not feel so burned out after my daughter hada meltdown. I can less panic stricken and recover more quickly from the crisis before me. Years and years takea toll. I notice a difference mostly at night. I don'tfeel so burned out at the end of a hard day. I hope to helpsyou too. I have always been a sensitive person, so seeingmy daughter feel so anxious and depressed is hard on anyoneand really impacted my health. I hope it helps you too,Pam >> I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from.> > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent.> > Angelique> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 Been on Zoloft for years for anxiety (generalized plus panic attacks, little bit of depression upon occasion). I was on it before I had kids so my Aspie isn't particularly what causes the anxiety, but it certainly doesn't help! I take Klonopin when the anxiety gets really bad. I'm also trying to get plenty of sleep and exercise, but that's easier said than done.E.V. Downey, Mom to Aspie 8-y-o boy and 6-y-o girlOn Thu, Dec 9, 2010 at 9:21 PM, Pamela <susanonderko@...> wrote:  It helped me not feel so burned out after my daughter had a meltdown. I can less panic stricken and recover more quickly from the crisis before me. Years and years take a toll. I notice a difference mostly at night. I don't feel so burned out at the end of a hard day. I hope to helps you too. I have always been a sensitive person, so seeing my daughter feel so anxious and depressed is hard on anyone and really impacted my health. I hope it helps you too, Pam > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > Angelique > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2010 Report Share Posted December 10, 2010 I am on cymbaltra and it really has helped me. Loretta ( ) Re: Moms on meds? > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > Angelique > I am not on meds, but think I should consider it. I too feel like I am a big part of the chaos at home. I lose my temper with my Asperger child very easily these days over little, insignificant things. This morning I literally LOST IT because he was trying to leave the house for school without his shoes on. I know that I should take a step back, count to 10, take a deep breath, but sometimes I do not. I feel like a horrible person afterward....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2010 Report Share Posted December 10, 2010 I have bipolar and take a " cocktail " of meds. My life changed 100% for the better after being diagnosed and treated at age 32 (when my Aspie son was 7). I have read in several places, including research studies, that moms with kids with autism/asperger's have an extremely high stress level as compared to other moms, and that meds are often warranted. You can probably google something like " mom stress Asperger's " or switch out autism for Asperger's and find such info. Even if you don't have a long lasting pervasive mental health issue, your body likely needs them now. Make sure to stay on them as long as the dr. orders and certainly don't try to go off cold turkey. You are a strong woman for making this decision. Do you have family/friend support? I'd also highly recommend weekly or bi-weekly therapy from a trained counselor. It helps me immensely, as we often talking about parenting child(ren) with mental health issues (I have three such children - one has Bipolar, one has Anxiety Disorder, and one Aspie, of course). I have also read that if you look back in the family line of a person with Asperger's, you often find depression, anxiety, or bipolar. Interesting. They're all on a spectrum, I guess. Blessings, Leah > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > Angelique > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2010 Report Share Posted December 10, 2010 Long live Zoloft...... Without it, I would have to shoot one of the hostages..... ( ) Moms on meds? I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. Angelique No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 9.0.872 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3285 - Release Date: 11/27/10 23:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2010 Report Share Posted December 10, 2010 I'm laughing so hard my stomach hurts! You should submit that as a slogan suggestion ;-) In a message dated 12/10/2010 9:42:36 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, dlbalke@... writes: Long live Zoloft...... Without it, I would have to shoot one of the hostages..... ( ) Moms on meds? I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. Angelique No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 9.0.872 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3285 - Release Date: 11/27/10 23:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2010 Report Share Posted December 10, 2010 Wow, I thought me losing my mind over this stuff was just me being a bad mother that didn’t have the patience enough to cope. Glad I’m not the only one feeling they’re losing their mind! From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Debra Balke Sent: Friday, December 10, 2010 9:42 AM To: Subject: Re: ( ) Moms on meds? Long live Zoloft...... Without it, I would have to shoot one of the hostages..... ( ) Moms on meds? I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. Angelique size=2 width="100%" align=center> No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 9.0.872 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3285 - Release Date: 11/27/10 23:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2010 Report Share Posted December 10, 2010 I am bipolar & in the last 3 years have developed high blood pressure, fibromyalgia, & irritable bowel syndrome - all related to & made worse by stress - 3 kids (now 29, 19, & 18) with a variety of special needs. Adults now - but it never ends!Sent from my iPhoneOn Dec 9, 2010, at 8:52 PM, "Kay Hansen" <ebony.ivory@...> wrote: I never thought of trying anxiety meds, but I feel like I could sure use them. My son has terrible explosions and sometimes my husband doesn’t help matters any. What kind of anxiety meds do you use? Kay From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of PamelaSent: Thursday, December 09, 2010 6:21 PM Subject: ( ) Re: Moms on meds? It helped me not feel so burned out after my daughter hada meltdown. I can less panic stricken and recover more quickly from the crisis before me. Years and years takea toll. I notice a difference mostly at night. I don'tfeel so burned out at the end of a hard day. I hope to helpsyou too. I have always been a sensitive person, so seeingmy daughter feel so anxious and depressed is hard on anyoneand really impacted my health. I hope it helps you too,Pam >> I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from.> > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent.> > Angelique> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2010 Report Share Posted December 11, 2010 I too have been on mrds and it helps soooooo much! I have weaned off of them within the last 6 months as I hate being on them constantly. I deal with things so much better with a little help. I find Lexaporo to be the best as it helps with anxiety and depression. In fact, this last time I was only talking a half a 10 mg pill and could notice a difference. I think it was better on 10, but couldn't stand the personal side effects...if you know what I mean! If anyone knows of any without that side effect, or better yet, something natural, please let me know! > > I'm laughing so hard my stomach hurts! You should submit that as a slogan > suggestion ;-) > > > > In a message dated 12/10/2010 9:42:36 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, > dlbalke@... writes: > > > > > Long live Zoloft...... Without it, I would have to shoot one of the > hostages..... > > ( ) Moms on meds? > > > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > Angelique > > > > > > > > ____________________________________ > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG - www.avg.com > Version: 9.0.872 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3285 - Release Date: 11/27/10 > 23:34:00 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2010 Report Share Posted December 11, 2010 Yeah, I know there is no way I could cope without meds myself. I've suffered from depression since a hysterectomy and I have ADD myself. I've been on both zoloft and effexor, but now take welbutrin and prefer it much more. It's the only way I can keep my sanity.ne From: on, Marina M SSG MIL USA USMEPCOM <marina.harrison@...>Subject: RE: ( ) Moms on meds? Date: Friday, December 10, 2010, 10:41 AM Wow, I thought me losing my mind over this stuff was just me being a bad mother that didn’t have the patience enough to cope. Glad I’m not the only one feeling they’re losing their mind! From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Debra BalkeSent: Friday, December 10, 2010 9:42 AM Subject: Re: ( ) Moms on meds? Long live Zoloft...... Without it, I would have to shoot one of the hostages..... ( ) Moms on meds? I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. Angelique size=2 width="100%" align=center> No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 9.0.872 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3285 - Release Date: 11/27/10 23:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2010 Report Share Posted December 11, 2010 Welbutrin doesn't have that side effect, if the side effect you're talking about is what I think it is. You could also try St s wart which is very mild but natural.ne From: cmt263 <gina9431@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Moms on meds? Date: Saturday, December 11, 2010, 12:11 PM I too have been on mrds and it helps soooooo much! I have weaned off of them within the last 6 months as I hate being on them constantly. I deal with things so much better with a little help. I find Lexaporo to be the best as it helps with anxiety and depression. In fact, this last time I was only talking a half a 10 mg pill and could notice a difference. I think it was better on 10, but couldn't stand the personal side effects...if you know what I mean! If anyone knows of any without that side effect, or better yet, something natural, please let me know!>> I'm laughing so hard my stomach hurts! You should submit that as a slogan > suggestion ;-)> > > > In a message dated 12/10/2010 9:42:36 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, > dlbalke@... writes:> > > > > Long live Zoloft...... Without it, I would have to shoot one of the > hostages.....> > ( ) Moms on meds?> > > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from.> > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent.> > Angelique> > > > > > > > ____________________________________> > No virus found in this incoming message.> Checked by AVG - www.avg.com > Version: 9.0.872 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3285 - Release Date: 11/27/10 > 23:34:00> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2010 Report Share Posted December 11, 2010 I seriously want a bumper sticker with this slogan! I have fibromyalgia in addition to having two sons, one of whom is an Aspie. The fibromyalgia means I run low on serotonin anyway, so anti-depressants are a big help. My diagnosis is the primary reason for my medications, but they have helped me cope with the challenges we face at home. I'm also on something that helps with anxiety, though it's meant to treat another diagnosis and the anti-anxiety part is just a nice bonus. I'm very grateful that those of us who need help via medication have options for it. Of course, when we need therapy, drugs cannot replace therapy. I've done that too and it's been a big help. Bronwyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2010 Report Share Posted December 12, 2010 I would try cymbaltra. i fell great and hav lost 27 pounds...what agreat side effect. loretta in va Re: ( ) Moms on meds? I was relieved when I saw this post! aaaaahhhh I am not alone! Thumbs up for us Moms realizing we needed help too! I tried Zoloft 8 mos after my 2nd was born- wasn't for me. the zombie-like feeling and weight-gain were too much. Went off it for awhile and tried birth-control pills to 'balance my hormones' and mood swings ( i would get really really bad at PMS time). Went off these after awhile too- I just didn't want to put synthetic hormones into my body anymore. Finally- this past summer- and we had been through a difficult year- my dr asked me how i was feeling emotionally during my annual physical. I lost it and cried my heart out. She was kind & understanding and non-judgemental & asked if I would consider trying another med. We tried Effexor XR. I like it- except for the 'personal' side effect thing (i.e. private me & hubby time!). After the holidays are over- I am going to ask her if I can try Wellbutrin. I heard it doesn't have the same side effects. Anyway- I would probably be locke Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2010 Report Share Posted December 12, 2010 I was relieved when I saw this post! aaaaahhhh I am not alone! Thumbs up for us Moms realizing we needed help too! I tried Zoloft 8 mos after my 2nd was born- wasn't for me. the zombie-like feeling and weight-gain were too much. Went off it for awhile and tried birth-control pills to 'balance my hormones' and mood swings ( i would get really really bad at PMS time). Went off these after awhile too- I just didn't want to put synthetic hormones into my body anymore. Finally- this past summer- and we had been through a difficult year- my dr asked me how i was feeling emotionally during my annual physical. I lost it and cried my heart out. She was kind & understanding and non-judgemental & asked if I would consider trying another med. We tried Effexor XR. I like it- except for the 'personal' side effect thing (i.e. private me & hubby time!). After the holidays are over- I am going to ask her if I can try Wellbutrin. I heard it doesn't have the same side effects. Anyway- I would probably be locked up somewhere if it weren't for the Effexor. It has been a tremendous help to me. I also personally have a love affair with coffee! I am a better Mommy with lots of caffeine in me! lol > > > > I'm laughing so hard my stomach hurts! You should submit that as a slogan > > suggestion ;-) > > > > > > > > In a message dated 12/10/2010 9:42:36 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, > > dlbalke@ writes: > > > > > > > > > > Long live Zoloft...... Without it, I would have to shoot one of the > > hostages..... > > > > ( ) Moms on meds? > > > > > > > > I am curious and hoping I'm not overstepping any boundaries. I am finally > > starting anxiety meds to cope with the day to day chaos. I see this as > > taking the first step to evaluate where the chaos stems from. > > > > Even if no one answers, thanks for letting me vent. > > > > Angelique > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ____________________________________ > > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > > Checked by AVG - www.avg.com > > Version: 9.0.872 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3285 - Release Date: 11/27/10 > > 23:34:00 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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